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Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by Martinez39(m): 12:15pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
aviato:So because he didn't sue for defamation then he is guilty? Did Neymar sue for defamation? Did Ronaldo sue for defamation? I can sue you for being human and charge you to court but that doesn't mean being human is a crime. I can and I have the right to sue you for anything I deem offensive, criminal or even though I know I am lying. Haven't you seen where a man sued god? I watched the video and it was clear that the actor did nothing. The woman is an opportunist. 1 Like |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by aviato(m): 12:34pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
Martinez39:Cristiano Ronaldo has not been exonerated and is still being investigated, if he did nothing wrong why did he pay the woman who accused him 375,000 dollars to sign a non disclosure argument? Neymar brought evidence to exonerate himself and the police did not charge him due to lack of evidence on the woman's part, in Cuba gooding's case he has been charged and there is evidence so I don't get all this fallacious comparisons you are making trying to convince your misogynistic self that you are right. |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by Nobody: 12:35pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
aviato:Funny how you read in whole and argue in part. If she hadn't remained in that church for too long, she wouldn't marry there and even be in the choir after the incident at age 17. I never wrote about not believing her story. I only meant it's easier to nail a man forever by a rape allegation. As it stands today, COZA is a dead beat rapist and that can never be washed off him forever, even if eventually found innocent. That's how terrible rape allegations can be, whether the truth is known or not. 1 Like |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by Nobody: 12:41pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
Look, to avoid issues like this , get a Sexual consent form and make sure she signs and Thumb prints on it. Also, dont shake or hold women uncessesarily. Learn how to say hi to a woman without body contact. Stop calling any woman( cept a relative) @night. Dont cohabitate with a Woman ur NOT related to or legally married to. SIMPLE STURVZ 5 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by Martinez39(m): 12:58pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
aviato:Stop diverting. You typed "if there was no evidence against him I wonder why he has not sued her for defamation... making it to be like if a man doesn't sue for defamation then there is evidence against him and if he hasn't been acquitted then he is guilty or has evidence against him. By your logic, Neymar is guilty and has evidence against him because he didn't file for defamation. Do you see how silly you sound when you try to imply that Pastor Fatoyinbo is guilty and has evidence against him because he hasn't sue for defamation? Note this and note very well, because somebody has been charged to court doesn't mean that they are guilty of a damn thing. People can and have the right to sue any Tom, Dick and Harry for literally anything and that doesn't mean the accused is guilty of a damn thing. Also, people settling their accuser is not a admission of guilt. People, especially celebrities and stars, settle their accusers so as not to have their reputation destroyed thanks to unstable and foolish majority who rally blindly behind any accuser. People have lost their jobs, gone to jail, ostracized, shamed and harassed for a rape crime they never committed. So, why won't they consider settlement? Wasn't innocent Neymar's image removed from a master card advertisement because of the false accusation? Pastor Fatoyinbo shall be presumed guilty until proven innocent. Good day. 2 Likes |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by aviato(m): 1:27pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
Martinez39:Nice way to take one part of my argument and try and misconstrue it, what I wrote was "if there was no evidence against him I wonder why he has not sued her for defamation or has not been acquitted" stop arguing like a dummy and concentrate on the entire argument not quoting the sentence which suits you. And if it is not an admission of guilt, why did he pay her? He should have just allowed her to go to court since he is innocent, like you said he is innocent until proven guilty. Why not wait for the Law to do it's work like you have been touting. And I fail to see where I have mentioned the accused pastor, I am merely discussing about Cuba gooding Jr because that is what you quoted me on. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by CAPSLOCKED: 2:04pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
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Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by Martinez39(m): 2:05pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
aviato:I carefully explained why people settle their accusers but you feigned oblivion of that. And I fail to see where I have mentioned the accused pastor, I am merely discussing about Cuba gooding Jr because that is what you quoted me on.Okay, you can interchange the pastor and actor and still get the message. Let's end this. Believe what you may. |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by CAPSLOCKED: 2:09pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
Karleb: I DON'T THINK SEX FOR PEANUTS AND MARKS COME WITH BEATINGS, MULTIPLE INJURIES AND ROUGH PAINFUL FORCED PENETRATION. ALL OF YOU MEN ARE VERY MAD. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by ubunja(m): 3:37pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
aviato:I'm going by your own words. You're the one who said he Assaulted. |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by budaatum: 4:35pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
ubunja:Time healed you! People do differ. |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by ubunja(m): 4:36pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
budaatum:dude a court case is not a hospital 1 Like |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by Martinez39(m): 4:46pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
budaatum:Budaatum is here! *spreads the royal carpet* 2 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by ubunja(m): 4:50pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
CAPSLOCKED:remember even your wife can now report you for rape. No man sexes his wife with BEATINGS, MULTIPLE INJURIES AND ROUGH PAINFUL FORCED PENETRATION. Yet she can cry rape |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by budaatum: 5:06pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
Originalsly:This thread requires rationality which I cannot possibly have for this topic so I'm limiting my participation to 'men are pigs', and Nigerians seem not to understand the trauma of rape with even women saying "get over it" as if it was their coffee that was spilt. It's the sense of entitlement that gets me. You men might understand how it feels though. Imagine a big burly man holding you down and forcefully shoving a prick up your ass and let me know how easy it would be to "get over it"! If I wrongly accuse you of raping me, the law, which is heavily biased against me unless I provide video recording of you in the act or verified dna of your sperm on my pants, hopefully, would protect you. Otherwise, the penalty for rape should be sharialike. We should chop off at least half of your prick! I will irrationally respond to quotes, do note. I'm so delighted Me Too has arrived in Nigeria. 2 Likes
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Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by ubunja(m): 5:45pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
budaatum:Rape is like any other crime committed against a person. Like stabbing. Let's not elavate it to something it's not. Every crime alleged must be followed by evidence. The justice system that requires evidence must be upheld. or else society won't survive. No one can live in a society where you're guilty until proven innocent. No ways. I'm out. 3 Likes |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by budaatum: 6:03pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
ubunja:Except its a "crime" that the person its perpetuated against has to convince the authorities actually happened in the first place, in a society that has traditionally kept such crimes silent! Do you not know that some parents would tell their children to not report it because they, the parent, is ashamed? When you treat it like "any other crime committed against a person", and when your police understand how to properly follow and gather the evidence, both of which they don't do, then perhaps people like me will be less irrational about raping pigs. Until then, I get to decide guilt. You, be happy I'm just an opinion on the WWW. 1 Like |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by ubunja(m): 6:11pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
budaatum:Then the issue here is teaching law enforcement how to handle rape accusations And teaching parents that rape is nothing to be ashamed of. Which,as I'm saying, can only happen if rape is viewed like every other crime. It's actually the different way that rape is viewed that brings stigma. So let's not rush to the opposite extreme and deify it. I don't know what "be happy I'm just an opinion on the WWW" means... |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by budaatum: 6:11pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
Dear Men, It’s Time for #YouToo to Take a Stand You already knew what was happening, didn’t you? You — the men — you knew. There are too many stories, too many women, too many facts for you to possibly believe that this is all made up. Every year, you are the ones that require us — the victims — to resurface all these deeply buried stories and lay them out in the sunshine so that you can dismiss them, or find fault in them, or, worst of all, pretend not to see them at all. You didn’t need 500,000 tweets or 12 million Facebook posts shouting “me too” because you already knew. This post has links that should be read is why I'm signposting to the rest of it or I'd have copied it all here.
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Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by ubunja(m): 6:16pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
budaatum:Now all men know someone who's a rapist.. Lmfao. No wonder #MeToo is dying. Even Sheryl Sandberg of Facebook admits men are no longer keen on helping women out at work. What man will with such blanket accusations 1 Like |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by joeeee240(m): 6:20pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
ubunja: Lol. Why are men no longer helping women out at work? |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by budaatum: 6:21pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
ubunja:That "teaching" is what we are doing in the imperfect best way we know how to with our individual voices on the world wide web (internet). Rape is stigmatic. It's not like someone stealing my phone or my money that I can replace and just get over. And if wishes came true, mine would be that pigs are able to learn, which they seem unable to currently do. But they will. By hook or by crook, pigs will learn!
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Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by ubunja(m): 6:23pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
joeeee240:tomorrow it's a rape accusation. Now in meetings with women CEOs leave doors open. So people see. So tomorrow there will be witnesses in case. And male managers no longer do business one on one alone with women. They wanna stay safe. 1 Like |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by budaatum: 6:24pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
ubunja:I bet you have not considered that might be because the women around some men can't tell them. |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by ubunja(m): 6:24pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
budaatum:well good luck then.let's watch the world and see. |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by ubunja(m): 6:26pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
budaatum:it's funny cause when Harvey Weinstein was outed as a perv MORE women than men seemed to know what he was doing over the years. |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by joeeee240(m): 6:33pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
ubunja: Lol #metoo movement is dying 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by budaatum: 6:33pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
ubunja:I'd settle for, 'more people knew'. You should wonder why the women who did know said nothing for so long though. Imagine a young girl or boy unable to tell their parent too and the trauma the silence alone would cause, not to talk of the trauma of being raped itself.
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Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by budaatum: 6:35pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
joeeee240:It will only die after it has served it's purpose.
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Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by Korllami007: 6:38pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
budaatum: Fixed |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by ubunja(m): 6:39pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
joeeee240:yes Sandberg wrote "men it's not enough that you don't Abuse us, you have to help us also" ,something along those lines... No man in his right mind will take chances with these women. Some men already record whatever they do with women. Just in case. Imagine in Australia a guy stopped to help a young woman with her car problems on the road and she later accused him of sexual harassment. The guy went to jail, lost his job and his wife divorced him. Only for the woman to later confess she made everything up. What kind of evil is that? Just women seeking attention and sympathy. Many men have vowed to never assist women again. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Rape Allegations : Appropriate Approach And Caution For Men. by EmperorHarry: 6:40pm On Jun 30, 2019 |
Budex40:ROTFL it is slowly coming to that. |
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