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Calgaryfriend and his babe don abandon the thread!

calgaryFriend:
I can relate with you OP. For me I am outside of the country and I already made up my mind not to marry from outside the country. I have been meeting people online but after relating with them for sometime I realise the extent of how ignorant, materialistic and focus-less most ladies are.

I was following up with a lady last week, then I saw her whatsap status - ENU GBE, E FUN MI LOWO ENU GBG (i am broke, please give me money I am broke). What kind of human being comes on social media to write such trash ? People dont even have respect for themselves or their families.

WheN i WAS in school I was placed on minimum wage and I tried to live within my means how can people just begin to behave like peasants, so that pissed me off and I just cancelled that babe.

The next one was even a little promising but on 2 occasions I was speaking to her and she was speaking to other people, imagine chatting someone and they admit they are also chatting up to 7 people at the same time.

Then I rebuked the person and the next few days we are talking on phone and the person is typing and after I asked what was going on she said she was chatting with people while speaking with me on whatsap call, I did not even react, but I just cancelled her in my mind.

It is quite tough really, the quality of women out there is really very low, we just have a few who are young and have proper sense.

Goodluck as we continue to search...

Mehn, the search aint EASY. Las Las pesin go need go contest for GUS (Gulder Ultimate Search) to find ya missing RIB.

bluskyee:
lols if this works out franchasng you will have to pay "thread fee"

what works out please I don't understand what u guys are talking about

BLUEJAYY:
I enjoy the enterpreneurial discourse going on in this thread.

I can see a couple of contributors on here are men of culture like myself. Keep on brainstorming brothers. We can build luxury chains and empires of incredibly successful businesses. I strongly believe that.

bluejayy i've been thinking...do you know programming and coding

TissuePaper:
bluejayy i've been thinking...do you know programming and coding

I started taking Python tutorials online last November or so.

I haven't given it full attention and dedication though, due to my work schedule.

What about you?

BLUEJAYY:
I started taking Python tutorials online last November or so.

I haven't given it full attention and dedication though, due to my work schedule.

What about you?

i'm loving the aesthetics of being a programmer, watched some beginner videos on it and damn its very tasking and i don't really think the Nigerian system favors webmasters that much

So i'm contemplating if its worth my time or not

TissuePaper:
i'm loving the aesthetics of being a programmer, watched some beginner videos on it and damn its very tasking and i don't really think the Nigerian system favors webmasters that much

So i'm contemplating if its worth my time or not

You've got to be really passionate and determined to be successful at it.

Cranking codes is really hectic mentally and physically. Anybody can be a programmer though. The juice lies in being a full blown software engineer. That way you get to write the pseudo-codes and algorithms for programmers to code.

Our environment? If anything, one should be looking to get jobs outside the country as a programmer. It's more profitable than staying here designing websites for 10k.

I'm not really interested in coding though, what I am looking to learn is networking architecture and ethical hacking.

BLUEJAYY:
You've got to be really passionate and determined to be successful at it.

Cranking codes is really hectic mentally and physically. Anybody can be a programmer though. The juice lies in being a full blown software engineer. That way you get to write the pseudo-codes and algorithms for programmers to code.

Our environment? If anything, one should be looking to get jobs outside the country as a programmer. It's more profitable than staying here designing websites for 10k.

I'm not really interested in coding though, what I am looking to learn is networking architecture and ethical hacking.

well i guess i'll just follow up on it for a while and see where how things turn out...i love challenges

TissuePaper:
well i guess i'll just follow up on it for a while and see where how things turn out...i love challenges

Yeah right?

No harm in trying.

bluskyee:
At the inception of 2018 I thought my pre wedding photos will be on the front page of NL (with a new moniker )but it seems I am a bit mistaken. Looking forward to meeting a partner is turning to a full time job ( or maybe is not, perhaps I am over thinking or ... ) I am thinking perhaps my transfer is the main cause but I am 2years here already. I know say I done cast well but is just funny, really funny. I am not looking for advice pls, I am only thinking out loud with the aid of Budweiser, hoping to read this when I start thinking again. At least I won't have to think again.

If you happen to be in this category you can share your thought ( guys only)

Finding a partner, if you have it as a priority, you won't find anyone...

Iogobenz:
And the women in their thirties now,didn't they pass through twenties as well what stops them from hiding their wolfy skin under beef hide?
look,let me tell you something.
Most women that aren't married till they hit 30 have some flaws too,reason why they hit that age and are still single.
Some of the Flaws include:
- no direction in life(I won't touch these)
-bad attitude and bossy nature.
-sleep arounds(wide wide aunties) a.k.a borehole!
-Impatience...etc.
So it is when they hit 30+(extra time),they now correct themselves and start looking desperately for who will carry the excess baggage.
I know what I am saying too well.

Personally, I'm also insulted by this guys preference for thinking having a very young wife is better. But that's his choice! I'm mostly insulted by the fact that this guy thinks menopausal women are sexually useless. Hell, I didn't even start enjoying sex until I went through menopause. Also, older women that keep themselves up in the west are constantly being bombarded by younger men as much as 20 years younger than them. Most of these younger men are seeking uncomplicated sex you claim menopausal women don't have. Many are also seeking a rounded out emotional relationship; albeit most all of these situations will always be temporary, that older women offer. But whatever their motives are, the main complaint that these men have is that the younger women are too disrespectful. So, I understand his preference for a young thang. Older women, just be wise to the fact that the boy toy you're dating; be him your age or younger probably has this exact same attitude. Don't allow yourselves to be "victimized".

calgaryFriend:
Age is a big factor for me. By the time a woman hits menopause some at 40 - 45 years old, a man is just starting. Imagine at 50years you cannot have satisfying se.x life. I am not saying it is the same for everybody but by design a man is still good to go at 65 years, if your wife is 65 years you would have to give up on se.x totally .
And because women age quite faster compared to men so marrying a woman over 30 years is a no no for me.

The thing that is really frustrating for a 55 to 65 yo women is when here 55 to 65 yo husband can't keep it up!!

MarjieJ98354:
The thing that is really frustrating for a 55 to 65 yo women is when here 55 to 65 yo husband can't keep it up!!

Come down to Nigeria let’s start a relationship.

MarjieJ98354:
Personally, I'm also insulted by this guys preference for thinking having a very young wife is better. But that's his choice! I'm mostly insulted by the fact that this guy thinks menopausal women are sexually useless. Hell, I didn't even start enjoying sex until I went through menopause. Also, older women that keep themselves up in the west are constantly being bombarded by younger men as much as 20 years younger than them. Most of these younger men are seeking uncomplicated sex you claim menopausal women don't have. Many are also seeking a rounded out emotional relationship; albeit most all of these situations will always be temporary, that older women offer. But whatever their motives are, the main complaint that these men have is that the younger women are too disrespectful. So, I understand his preference for a young thang. Older women, just be wise to the fact that the boy toy you're dating; be him your age or younger probably has this exact same attitude. Don't allow yourselves to be "victimized".

we all want to Bleep older women for sure,at least have that ticked in our bucket list.
But do we want to marry them?hell No!
Marriage and one night stands are different.
And Yes,menopausal women can be sexually frustrating.

AntiBrutus:
Lol, just keep kwayet.

Yours will be harder because...

talk to me baby

calgaryFriend:
I can relate with you OP. For me I am outside of the country and I already made up my mind not to marry from outside the country. I have been meeting people online but after relating with them for sometime I realise the extent of how ignorant, materialistic and focus-less most ladies are.

I was following up with a lady last week, then I saw her whatsap status - ENU GBE, E FUN MI LOWO ENU GBG (i am broke, please give me money I am broke). What kind of human being comes on social media to write such trash ? People dont even have respect for themselves or their families.

WheN i WAS in school I was placed on minimum wage and I tried to live within my means how can people just begin to behave like peasants, so that pissed me off and I just cancelled that babe.

The next one was even a little promising but on 2 occasions I was speaking to her and she was speaking to other people, imagine chatting someone and they admit they are also chatting up to 7 people at the same time.

Then I rebuked the person and the next few days we are talking on phone and the person is typing and after I asked what was going on she said she was chatting with people while speaking with me on whatsap call, I did not even react, but I just cancelled her in my mind.

It is quite tough really, the quality of women out there is really very low, we just have a few who are young and have proper sense.

Goodluck as we continue to search...

The quality of women out there is extremely low my brother

Lol.

calgaryFriend:
I did not cancel her out immidiately, I spoke to her gently and let her know it is disrespectful to the other person. I have asked her out and I have even gone as far as letting her know I really would love to start a serious relationship with her, the fact she still continued after I let her know I dont like that shows 2 things.

1. She does not understand the word respect. My time is also precious and I have many people to chat but I show respect to her by not chattin g multiple people at the same time. HOW can you be discussing with someone about how you guys want your future to look like and she is typing away while still on the call ? You may justify of trivialise that but it is a red flag. Mutual respect is important in any relationship.

2. She may have another relationship or several other relationships.

Your weak points was exploited

calgaryFriend:
Age is a big factor for me. By the time a woman hits menopause some at 40 - 45 years old, a man is just starting. Imagine at 50years you cannot have satisfying se.x life. I am not saying it is the same for everybody but by design a man is still good to go at 65 years, if your wife is 65 years you would have to give up on se.x totally .
And because women age quite faster compared to men so marrying a woman over 30 years is a no no for me.

Menopause doesn't start at 40 per she, menopause stretches well beyond 45. Menopause doesn't diminish sexual pleasure. Stop confusing things

calgaryFriend:
Hey brotherly , thank you for your response. I have attended a few cultural events but I stopped attending cos most ladies I see are over 30 years old.
I can tell you I am yet to see a <30year old single Nigerian lady , not that they dont exist but I have yet to meet them.
I am sure even you may not know too many, so I just got tired and decided to give up on the option of finding my category of people here, cos truly before a lady will be able to be set for express entry and stuff they will either me more than 30 years or very close.

So it is quite complicated....

This is life simply saying lift off then restrictions. I recently found my amazing woman. Guess what sheds 34. But I rather be with her than a 24

Zielle:
I've said there is nothing wrong with marrying whoever you want to marry. Just don't come disturbing Nairaland later. I know you're an open book in that way. Continue being the huge liar n hypocrite that you are, Yemi. It's ur life, ur choice.

Babe

Zielle:
False. It's uber stupid to make these sorta assumptions. I don't look my age in real life, plus trust me some 20-somethings have been around . I practically have no experience compared to a 20-something. Some women in their early 30s have kept themselves very well or are still virgins. Never judge a woman by her age

I agree. Most ladies in 30s kept themselves well and are better behaved and nurtured.

calgaryFriend:
You are right, I have seen many 30+ ladies here that look very 20 something.
But menopause does not care, a lady has a decreased sexual appetite at menopause and they become very irritable to things like sex.

So for a man who is still extremely aroused at 55+ years and a woman who is already tiring of sex, it becomes a huge problem.

Nature is on the side of men marrying younger girls..... Even our culture supports that approach.

Do your research a woman's sexual appetite hits a renewed stage at 30

Safitu:
Your obsession with early 20 something year olds is why you’re r single and I’m telling you this as a 24 year old. You can’t find a 22/23year old that is ready for marriage mentally and physically in this generation, it is hard. This is not the 19th century, most women under 25 are still finding themselves and living their life, dating multiple guys. I understand you want a young lady who is still fertile. Fertility doesn’t decline rapid until 35 plus. If you are looking for a serious, mature minded lady who is ready to settle down, go for 26-30. These set of ladies are still young and fertile and are also ready for something serious. But hey, that’s just my opinion.

You're spot on

franchasng:
lol, I get your point perfectly well, very correct.


But you know in my case, before I decided not to work again and ventured into personal business, I had goals, I had vision beyond the normal Nigerian trading business setting you see all around.

My mentors own popular brands u do see and hear about which I won't mention here, so u can imagine.

I sleep and wake up planning and thinking and brainstorming how to grow my company (not just a business) to be like these my mentors' companies.

I have an organizational structure, it is not exactly how I want it to be now, but I am still working on it so that the business will function smoothly even if I am not around for months.

And the sector my company is happens to be one of most sustainable and viable sectors all over the world with potential to go global if well planned, funded and with God's favor too.

I tell my staffs to see their job as a corporate work, at least some earn as much as most civil servants in Nigeria today. And I am praying to God, once my company monthly turnover hits 10million mark, I will start paying my staff 100k + and least staff 70k with full health insurance (HMO) and pension package so they will know they have a career future.

My future plans is to hire few staff and pay them well but they will work from the time they clock in till close of work, than hiring too many staffs that earn peanut which is the model many Nigerian companies operate to deceive government and secure government grants and subsidies, reason many Nigerian graduates are working but can't take care of their needs

Well done. I always believe you and look out for you. Any smart lady should chase you strongly now before too late.

kunleweb:
Well done. I always believe you and look out for you. Any smart lady should chase you strongly now before too late.

thanks so much my brother, may God bless your daily endeavor. As you wish others well, may your ways be prosperous too, happy sunday

franchasng:
thanks so much my brother, may God bless your daily endeavor. As you wish others well, may your ways be prosperous too, happy sunday

Same to you. As one of the few noble men, I celebrate you once again

calgaryFriend:
I can relate with you OP. For me I am outside of the country and I already made up my mind not to marry from outside the country. I have been meeting people online but after relating with them for sometime I realise the extent of how ignorant, materialistic and focus-less most ladies are.

I was following up with a lady last week, then I saw her whatsap status - ENU GBE, E FUN MI LOWO ENU GBG (i am broke, please give me money I am broke). What kind of human being comes on social media to write such trash ? People dont even have respect for themselves or their families.

WheN i WAS in school I was placed on minimum wage and I tried to live within my means how can people just begin to behave like peasants, so that pissed me off and I just cancelled that babe.

The next one was even a little promising but on 2 occasions I was speaking to her and she was speaking to other people, imagine chatting someone and they admit they are also chatting up to 7 people at the same time.

Then I rebuked the person and the next few days we are talking on phone and the person is typing and after I asked what was going on she said she was chatting with people while speaking with me on whatsap call, I did not even react, but I just cancelled her in my mind.

It is quite tough really, the quality of women out there is really very low, we just have a few who are young and have proper sense.

Goodluck as we continue to search...

Soooo, she sinned by chatting other people while speaking with you? You expect her to chat only you at all times?
Common!! That petty fah!!

calgaryFriend:
Your head dey there, the problem is that most people these days were not properly raised and they do not know how to behave. The only thing I owe you is a correction once, and I corrected her and she still continued, imagine discussing future plans with someone and they continue chatting with others.

That kind of red flag is a no no... I have not told her I am not interested again sha, I already toasted her before this happened and she said she will give me a feedback, she is expecting me to ask her how far now I just lock up I am not even chatting her again . When she chats me I just respond and move on and say thank you.

I am sure she is ready to tell me yes, but as far as she has not said yes to me she cannot claim I broke her heart

I'm happy for her ooo. She made a narrow escape.

bluskyee:
At the inception of 2018 I thought my pre wedding photos will be on the front page of NL (with a new moniker )but it seems I am a bit mistaken. Looking forward to meeting a partner is turning to a full time job ( or maybe is not, perhaps I am over thinking or ... ) I am thinking perhaps my transfer is the main cause but I am 2years here already. I know say I done cast well but is just funny, really funny. I am not looking for advice pls, I am only thinking out loud with the aid of Budweiser, hoping to read this when I start thinking again. At least I won't have to think again.

If you happen to be in this category you can share your thought ( guys only)

You're overthinking it for sure, but I know that feeling. After my last relationship ended I felt lost and wanted to fill the void immediately just like you. But with time I realized that this the perfect opportunity to invest in myself and raise my self-esteem instead of wasting my resources into questionable relationships. Now I prefer using services like this one and get what I want, I mean to meet gorgeous girls and have fun with them. You said you're not looking for advice but you still made this thread. Just pull yourself together because life's too short to doubt anything.

Eleganza33:
as in eh so funny

Cute you. So cute

You were discarding them for no good enough reasons in my own Opinion except maybe the one calling for money publicly without decorum.

calgaryFriend:
I can relate with you OP. For me I am outside of the country and I already made up my mind not to marry from outside the country. I have been meeting people online but after relating with them for sometime I realise the extent of how ignorant, materialistic and focus-less most ladies are.

I was following up with a lady last week, then I saw her whatsap status - ENU GBE, E FUN MI LOWO ENU GBG (i am broke, please give me money I am broke). What kind of human being comes on social media to write such trash ? People dont even have respect for themselves or their families.

WheN i WAS in school I was placed on minimum wage and I tried to live within my means how can people just begin to behave like peasants, so that pissed me off and I just cancelled that babe.

The next one was even a little promising but on 2 occasions I was speaking to her and she was speaking to other people, imagine chatting someone and they admit they are also chatting up to 7 people at the same time.

Then I rebuked the person and the next few days we are talking on phone and the person is typing and after I asked what was going on she said she was chatting with people while speaking with me on whatsap call, I did not even react, but I just cancelled her in my mind.

It is quite tough really, the quality of women out there is really very low, we just have a few who are young and have proper sense.

Goodluck as we continue to search...