She plays the role of mummy and daddy while you are away. Do you think that is easy for anyone?

She is even a full time house wife which is even worse. No versatility, no hobby...nothing.

Do you take care of her? Are you a loving husband?

Ask yourself if you would be excited about anything if you were in her shoes.

kennydotkom:
My wife has always denied me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me, but this has become frequent with her. Note that I work in another state but I come home every weekend in which I have all the privileges to have girls because I live alone.

I can decide not to come home on a weekend just to attend to other girls but I didn't. Many people often call me a pastor because my neighbor where I work has not seen me with girlfriend with all the freedom I have.

Sometimes she jokingly says that I so much like sex that she doesn't want to grow old fast because of sex. With just 2 or 3rounds am OK till next weekend oo.

HOW TRUE IS This? as for me I get satisfy whenever we have fun togeda such that I can wait till next weekend when I will return home from work.

She is not a working class type, so she does her business at home, no stress except to take care of kids. at time she complained of headache, tiredness, or even if I wake her up at around 4am when kids have slept, she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming. And if am forcing her, she will being to make noise that can wake the kids up.

Here in my place of work in abeokuta I have all the reason to sleep with other girls, in which I have told my wife herself that my conscience cannot judge me if I do, because with little time I spend with you, u often turn me down and mostly she never initiate sex with me except she is extremely happy but very rear.

I don't know who to report her to .i just don't want to flirt around because of fear of God and love I have for my kids. We can go a month without sex, she is very OK with that, I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.

she should even be the one craving for it but since reverse is the case watch her closely or hire a private detective to investigate her but before you do try to talk to her to know what's happening what is she mad about or if you have done anything wrong if she says nothing then proceed, women emotion and love switches easily like change over especially when they are not attracted to you anymore. if found cheating run for your life brother your death is near

someone said she takes care of the kids bla bla bla true, the man is out there as well working his ass off to keep them from begging for alms on the street, he is out there trying to keep his family out of poverty, she should understand and fill in for him were he has short comings plus she has her business in where they live habah

if there is anything talk to your husband if you have to disturb him by calling his attention to it pls do but some women won't talk, they would be expecting you to do otumeme abraka dabra, mind ultimate search to know what's on their mind haba

A month straight up no sex ha are you guys still emotionally attached sha

if after investigating whatever u can do, it is a 100 percent sure she is not cheating bro? you are the architect of your problem find a way to appease her, talk to her mother or her married best friend any person who is also important to her to who could tell you what you have been doing wrong or not being doing at all

Seems u are from deeper Life.

Think b4 u answer.

SageMK:
Don't listen to thośe stupíd modafúkers telling you that your wife is cheating or those advocating you to have it from someone. They are only out to destroy homes.

The truth is your wife doesn't enjoy having sex with you.
You don't satisfy her needs so she has given up on sex.

Be dominant, sit her down and have a discussion.

Let her know you are ready to try something new and it's either she's open to fixing it up or a permanent solution.

Can people give recommendations on how to sexually satisfy a circumcised woman? It seems that is the problem that the op's wife is encountering.

As long as the op's wife is not getting sexual satisfaction from sex, she will struggle to have sex most times...... The op might have to identify her other trigger points like boobs, hair, back of knee, neck e,tc

Edit: https://www.quora.com/How-do-I-have-sex-with-a-circumcised-woman-and-make-her-orgasm

Dude your wife is cheating joor.
Report her to her parents ASAP.

Though I also think she's not comfortable with the kinda apartment you stay. Since there's no privacy from the kids.

How can you enjoy sex when the kids are there sef Nawa oo.

Find money change apartment bro. Then call me for furnishing..lol.

SageMK:
Don't listen to thośe stupíd modafúkers telling you that your wife is cheating or those advocating you to have it from someone. They are only out to destroy homes.

The truth is your wife doesn't enjoy having sex with you.
You don't satisfy her needs so she has given up on sex.

Be dominant, sit her down and have a discussion.

Let her know you are ready to try something new and it's either she's open to fixing it up or a permanent solution.

Can you swear that she's getting or not getting it elsewhere ? why not make your own point without rubbishing others points they might at the end be right or as well wrong.

SageMK:
Don't listen to thośe stupíd modafúkers telling you that your wife is cheating or those advocating you to have it from someone. They are only out to destroy homes.

The truth is your wife doesn't enjoy having sex with you.
You don't satisfy her needs so she has given up on sex.

Be dominant, sit her down and have a discussion.

Let her know you are ready to try something new and it's either she's open to fixing it up or a permanent solution.

If she is someone with a naturally very low libido, discussion will not help them. This is one of the reasons why the 'no sex during courtship' rule is impracticable. If she has been like this all along she can't now change just to please him. . . .

The marital institution usually turns out to be the worst kind of black market for people who are too credulous/trusting, and those who are scared to break one or two rules along the line

You need another LovePeddler wife sorry


Your wife is enjoying her spiritual Husband more than you.

Soapy will help

kennydotkom:

Thank bro. Just that I don't like cheating on my wife because she is not the cheating type too, maybe because she was circumcised that is why she has low sex drive.

Just come home unannounced during the week. Come back and thank me after.

She don dey love and duck another person be that.


Investigate her

donkilidon:
What are your ages?
How long have you been in the marriage?
How long have you known each other?
What changes in sex partern have you noticed from the beginning till now?
When did she start having low sex drive?
Do you suspect she's seeing someone as a result of your job type?
Do you satisfy her other needs as a woman?

Answer these questions honestly and am sure you would find answers you desire.

She might just be passing through a phase in her life, soon the drive might appear.

I encourage you to adopt new and more romantic approach to making her desire you more.
Step up your game,
By improving your general being.
It's not easy to eat same food everyday,every month, every year served in same plate prepared with same old seasoning. Try to serve the same food differently, flavored differently, served differently.
And am sure she will change.
Good luck brother

wow! You must be a psychologist!

Davash222:

The truth is glaring, she’s getting the DICCK from a better source.

She's probably getting it from their neighbours, away matches or her coworkers

ideabuilder:


Just come home unannounced during the week. Come back and thank me after.

Leave him let him be talking story his wife is fucking the neighbor


Women can betray


His wife is actually seeing somebody


One’s wife is every man’s lover

Hmmmm typical guys would have side chic(s) to take care of the sexual needs, because most husband care enough for their wives, not to bombard them with sexual demands, how thoughtful of them.

daddytime:
Hmmm

Very rigid situation.

There's nothing you can do to reignite the spark In some women when they have decided to turn off the switch trust me.

I'd advise you just cable your line and find a fuckmate around you for relief.

By the time she sees you no longer ask her for sex, her body go phone her.

End of discussion

You are trying to negotiate desire.
You cannot negotiate desire.

kennydotkom:
My wife has always denied me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me

She doesn't love you any more. Get a mistress to avoid losing your respect by begging your wife flat mate for sex. One of the many things women don't understand is that they should respect any man that still "repeatedly" has sex with them after they've had 2 or more kids.

Jo soapy !

She is probably collecting the D somewhere man..

Which kind tiredness for a housewife.. Don’t beg for sex, just find a solution man..

This is very easy OP.. When going back for work, Just get one of those Jobless neighbour around your house and tell him to trail every moment your wife makes, who comes in to your house when you're not around, if possible he should be following her codedly anywhere she goes that you will reward him abundantly when you come for the weekend.

Then when coming back for the Weekend, get a good chair for yourself because I'm sure there would be enough gist for you

don't flirt, please.
all you need to do is get a third wife. case close!

chinchum:
Can people give recommendations on how to sexually satisfy a circumcised woman? It seems that is the problem that the op's wife is encountering.

As long as the op's wife is not getting sexual satisfaction from sex, she will struggle to have sex most times...... The op might have to identify her other trigger points like boobs, hair, back of knee, neck e,tc

Edit: https://www.quora.com/How-do-I-have-sex-with-a-circumcised-woman-and-make-her-orgasm

eleyi deep o na Tb Joshua or fatoyinbo fit solve that kind shittt o

Ilekokonit:


She doesn't love you any more. Get a mistress to avoid losing your respect by begging your wife flat mate for sex. One of the many things women don't understand is that they should respect any man that still "repeatedly" has sex with them after they've had 2 or more kids.

Co-signed.

This thing has been going on for months the way Op sounds, and she keeps asking her what's her reason for denying him sex but she hasn't given him reasonable answer. I think people are expecting the Op to start developing reading minds ability.

kennydotkom:
My wife has always denied me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me, but this has become frequent with her. Note that I work in another state but I come home every weekend in which I have all the privileges to have girls because I live alone.

I can decide not to come home on a weekend just to attend to other girls but I didn't. Many people often call me a pastor because my neighbor where I work has not seen me with girlfriend with all the freedom I have.

Sometimes she jokingly says that I so much like sex that she doesn't want to grow old fast because of sex. With just 2 or 3rounds am OK till next weekend oo.

HOW TRUE IS This? as for me I get satisfy whenever we have fun togeda such that I can wait till next weekend when I will return home from work.

She is not a working class type, so she does her business at home, no stress except to take care of kids. at time she complained of headache, tiredness, or even if I wake her up at around 4am when kids have slept, she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming. And if am forcing her, she will being to make noise that can wake the kids up.

Here in my place of work in abeokuta I have all the reason to sleep with other girls, in which I have told my wife herself that my conscience cannot judge me if I do, because with little time I spend with you, u often turn me down and mostly she never initiate sex with me except she is extremely happy but very rear.

I don't know who to report her to .i just don't want to flirt around because of fear of God and love I have for my kids. We can go a month without sex, she is very OK with that, I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.

u are acting like a child. this is a simple matter. I can tell she is not getting it from somewhere else. u are the cause of the problem. because
1. u are focusing more on sex than on her wellbeing. if u truly want her to change, focus on "SHOWING HER LOVE". Just because u are meeting the family needs doesn't mean u are meeting her needs. When u return back from work, focus on helping her at home. like doing the children's home work, helping with house chores and cooking for the family. it will lighten up her burden and prepare her for what u need (sex)
2. love never fails. it is not enough to refuse other girls, u must continue to woo your wife as if she is your girl. buy her little like suya,pepper soup, clothes- always surprise her with the little u have.
3. Take her out. Use the little that u have to take her out. u must not buy the world for her but buy the little u can.
4 lastly watch the movie fireproof. that movie will educate u on marriage.

Nairaland is replete with a whole lot of terrible people and to think that a whole bunch of these guys advising Op to seek sexual comfort with another woman are unmarried makes it even more funny..

Op all you need do is upgrade and spice up your relationship.. .the surest way to a woman's heart is gift, gift and more gifts..do something outside your regular routine...take her out on a date, prepare dinner with her, help her out with the house chores the short time you spend with them, eulogies her more, .improve on your love making technics....She's most probably bored sick of your M.O

Is she a COZA member?

I guess the circumcision is the cause of the poor libido but then taking care of kids can dampen one's Libido as well.

You both such talk about it and try sorting it out. Perhaps you should try giving her some aphrodisiac.

kennydotkom:
Thank you bro. I am 42yrs old and she is just 32years old, in a marriage of 6years. I do tell her that, now u are still young like this and you no longer find sex fun, what of when you are 40 years , that means you will push me out to start looking for girl friend. She doesn't cheat at all I can vouch for her . I will take ur advice

You can get sex outside and still be responsible to your family ... You only need a Bleep mate ... Stop been a dunce why are you shouting fear of God .. why did you even married her knowing fully well she is circumsized as you said .... well I can't live in a sexless marriage .deal with it sorry

GidiWoodsMan:


If she is someone with a naturally very low libido, discussion will not help them. This is one of the reasons why the 'no sex during courtship' rule is impracticable. If she has been like this all along she can't now change just to please him. . . .

The marital institution usually turns out to be the worst kind of black market for people who are too credulous/trusting, and those who are scared to break one or two rules along the line

Probably the op knew that she was circumcised before marrying her. But people are wicked! What's d essence of sex if u can't enjoy it? Jeeeez

Tell us how you met her and the age difference between both of you