fireback:
This is not only done in river state. It's also done in igbo land. If you impregnant a girl without paying her bride price, that child automatically belong to the girl's family and his to bear the girl's sur name.

fireback:
This is not only done in river state. It's also done in igbo land. If you impregnant a girl without paying her bride price, that child automatically belong to the girl's family and his to bear the girl's sur name.

otobasin2323:
To my greatest suprise they all decline to my request but gave her full support that she should go ahead quoting me that in their tradition "any man that marries a lady that is with a child the child automatically answers the man's name"

sacx:


You're trying to be clever by half. Our society is run by laws and not traditions. This is why the decrees of the state can override any traditional injunction. Going by the laws, he has a right to be present in his son's life and participate in his development. The attempt to alienate him in the name of traditions will not stand.

Now shift closer let me warn you. Never you litter the public space with verbose arguments and unsubstantiated claims! That's all

morpheus24:


This is not truth it is a warped sense of what you actually believe to be truth, plus you are not sorry for him, why would you be.

Your write up is really from the perspective of someone who is really illiterate in law or the practice of it. This is why Nigerians will claim intelligence yet haven't turned on all the faculties in their brains yet.

This is the reason we have courts that can carry out DNA tests to determine paternity, even if he is not given sole custody he should never allow another parent usurp his rights away as given by man/law and by nature.


@ poster, fight for what you want no matter the cost, you will be able to look yourself in the mirror as an old man with no regrets. Trust me on this, people often tell you to take the route with the least resistance.

otobasin2323:
Good day nairalanders, ( pls ignore my errors, I am not good in typing ) I had a baby with one lady from rivers state(ex girlfriend) and I am from imo state, the baby turns out to be a boy he is 2 years old now. The lady lived with me during her pregnancy and also Gave birth under my roof.. 9months after giving birth, we started having issue. Based on am not well to do.. Cause my hustle ain't paying off. She left the house with my son. Later on she and her family found a man who has been married for so long but no child.. But the man is very wealthy and well to do in the society, the man is also from their town in rivers state ,she agreed to be the second wife so he can claim the child.

on hearing this I rejected it and met with her family so they can release my son to me and she can go ahead and marry whom ever she likes.. To my greatest suprise they all decline to my request but gave her full support that she should go ahead quoting me that in their tradition "any man that marries a lady that is with a child the child automatically answers the man's name"

With this statement it got me sad, angry cause I love my son with all my heart I don't want another man to father him.. Every month I Normally send her 15k for keep up my son... She ain't satisfied.. That am too poor for her liking... How do I take her to court the only documents I have here.. Is my sons birth certificate, his pictures with me. And all the receipt of the money I normally sent to her monthly... Pls I seriously need advice or suggestions. Thank you

morpheus24:


This is not truth it is a warped sense of what you actually believe to be truth, plus you are not sorry for him, why would you be.

Your write up is really from the perspective of someone who is really illiterate in law or the practice of it. This is why Nigerians will claim intelligence yet haven't turned on all the faculties in their brains yet.

This is the reason we have courts that can carry out DNA tests to determine paternity, even if he is not given sole custody he should never allow another parent usurp his rights away as given by man/law and by nature.


@ poster, fight for what you want no matter the cost, you will be able to look yourself in the mirror as an old man with no regrets. Trust me on this, people often tell you to take the route with the least resistance.

VillagePipu:




The same Igbo tradition that doesn't allow women inherit property is the one you're referring to.

Nigeria's laws supercede Customary laws.

Nigeria: Supreme Court Invalidates Igbo Customary Law Denying Female Descendants the Right to Inherit

(May 6, 2014) On April 14, 2014, the Nigerian Supreme Court, in a unanimous decision, confirmed decisions of two lower courts, which had found unconstitutional an Igbo customary law of succession excluding female offspring from eligibility to inherit the property of their fathers. (Lemmy Ughegbe, S’Court Upholds Female Child’s Right to Inheritance in Igboland, THE GUARDIAN (Apr. 15, 2014).)

otobasin2323:
Good day nairalanders, ( pls ignore my errors, I am not good in typing ) ... Pls I seriously need advice or suggestions. Thank you

khadii1:

If you live in Lagos and she lives in Lagos, go to your nearest local government, meet the media lawyers (media Centre).
You need her current address. They will send her invitation letter. Tip the delivery man (usually police)


Good luck!

otobasin2323:
Good day nairalanders, ( pls ignore my errors, I am not good in typing ) I had a baby with one lady from rivers state(ex girlfriend) and I am from imo state, the baby turns out to be a boy he is 2 years old now. The lady lived with me during her pregnancy and also Gave birth under my roof.. 9months after giving birth, we started having issue. Based on am not well to do.. Cause my hustle ain't paying off. She left the house with my son. Later on she and her family found a man who has been married for so long but no child.. But the man is very wealthy and well to do in the society, the man is also from their town in rivers state ,she agreed to be the second wife so he can claim the child.

on hearing this I rejected it and met with her family so they can release my son to me and she can go ahead and marry whom ever she likes.. To my greatest suprise they all decline to my request but gave her full support that she should go ahead quoting me that in their tradition "any man that marries a lady that is with a child the child automatically answers the man's name"

With this statement it got me sad, angry cause I love my son with all my heart I don't want another man to father him.. Every month I Normally send her 15k for keep up my son... She ain't satisfied.. That am too poor for her liking... How do I take her to court the only documents I have here.. Is my sons birth certificate, his pictures with me. And all the receipt of the money I normally sent to her monthly... Pls I seriously need advice or suggestions. Thank you

MANGAM:


U can't claim a child from a woman that traditionally, legally religiously u didn't pay a dine on the mother. U want a child from her and never bothered to do something on her head.

JIDECAC:
contact me, then we can discuss on how to get a competent lawyer. Check my profile for my number.

MANGAM:


U can't claim a child from a woman that traditionally, legally religiously u didn't pay a dine on the mother. U want a child from her and never bothered to do something on her head.

spongeisback:
You're not even clever at all. Are you normal? Did you see this part of the OP?



I never said he shouldn't fight for his place in his son's life. The OP wants to take the child from his mom and I am trying to let him know that no court will give him 100% custody of a two year old. You and you liked are just so stupid. You just come on here to insult without even understanding.

kushme:


Fvck your mentality and the fickle dog of a female you're supporting, low dirty shameless cock... By your reasoning and support for the female gash, what makes her worthy of the child all alone, traditionally, legally and religiously?

Answer me real man..
Men(pussy niggaz) like you made these laws and beliefs.. Don't be surprised that bonehead like you would still come out to fight for gender equality after writing this sh***t. Cos, all most of you males live for is how to please a pussy, either consciously or unconsciously..

Ybaby:

Where did I mention the court? I am not talking about the law. I am talking about this 15k man's ability to feed and clothe his own son.

The matter on ground is not that they are stealing his son. It is that he cannot provide for his son. Don't let him hoodwink you. If you want to help him - get hima skill, a job, a hustle etc

Let him send 200k worth of baby formula and clothing to the mother and see of he will not be allowed to see his son.

It is not by sperm - without the right nutrition that child can become retarded. To put it bluntly this man is too boy to raise a child. He keeps saying she left him because he is a pauper then why cann't he fix his poverty. Go and get some money biko then fight for your son and impress the mother.

I feel sorry for his ego but he can fix it by getting money rather than this pity party he asked us to organise for him.

Again find below some costings for a child. Please be guided before you insert your peepee and litter the earth with kids to struggle. The human race does not need more hungry kids..... biko.

To whom it may concern.

Graduateacher:
You don't have enough money even though you're trying your best, you should have impregnated a girl with level head instead, why didn't you marry her first? my advice is for you to go and hustle, your child will look for you later

Ybaby:


Muscle does not solve any problem now. Puffing up and down doesnot solve any problem, a man who cannot provide for his family is an infidel says the holy book.

morpheus24:


It is essential to provide for your offspring however if you believe this is the only thing necessary for the well being of a child's psychology then the society you live in in regressing faster than you even realize.

morpheus24:


Do you think the girl is happy to go and look for a provider for her child while the child's father is alive. Use this anger to make money. The only supremancy is money - he who pays the piper ? dictates the tune. He does not have money to pay piper so the tune is for the step dad. it hurts but the only solution is to understand that as a young man you have a financial clock and get to work making that money - even your mother will not respect you if you cannot provide for your child. curse all you want or provide or keep your peepee away from women.

Nigerian values are no more. We are a doomed people for real. See what an improverished society has led people to ponder.


SMH in shame!


Improverished ke! See if men are providing we will not have an improverished society- how can he say he sends 15k ah!!! for what garri and sugar

wirinet:

So you are advising him to abandon his child and not to participate in the upbringing of his son.
Raising and loving a child is not only about money.

sacx:


I wouldn't have had issues with anything you've typed so far if you were drawing your hinge from the law. But it's the same 'traditionally' all over. Again, our society is run by laws, not traditions.

His desire to get full custody of his child is based on the threat to transfer ownership of his child to another man by way of traditions. This is unacceptable in the eyes of the law and could help his case. Remember, he never made this move until he started getting the threats.

Though securing full custody of the child would be extremely difficult if not impossible since he is a toddler, but he would get rights of claim to him and reasonable access, which is something his baby mama and her family are trying to deny him citing their tradition.

Now if this doesn't make sense to you, oya take am

kushme:


Fvck your mentality and the fickle dog of a female you're supporting, low dirty shameless cock... By your reasoning and support for the female gash, what makes her worthy of the child all alone, traditionally, legally and religiously?

Answer me real man..
Men(pussy niggaz) like you made these laws and beliefs.. Don't be surprised that bonehead like you would still come out to fight for gender equality after writing this sh***t. Cos, all most of you males live for is how to please a pussy, either consciously or unconsciously..