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Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by pat077: 4:30am On Jul 13, 2019 |
axglide:that's for a legitimate child, but in this case, the child isn't because he was born out of wedlock 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by Nobody: 4:34am On Jul 13, 2019 |
VillagePipu:Be guided. Customary laws are part of Nigerian laws. Insofar as he didn't marry the lady, the child is not his. The customary law also supports this. Customary laws are made up of the traditions of people. Male inheritance is not backed up by customary law, but a case such as this one, is backed up by customary laws. In fact, male inheritance is wickedness, and is against natural justice. Also, impregnating a girl without marrying her is still not good, and no parents will agree to give you the child. Even the law supports that a marriage, either customary (traditional) or court (statutory) has to be contracted, otherwise the child is illegitimate. The customary law also gives a backing to the traditions of 'peoples'. You'll see that he'll lose if he goes to court. I've seen such a case in my village. Even when the man hired a good lawyer, he still lost the case. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by gnykelly(m): 4:37am On Jul 13, 2019 |
linearity: Does he have the money to prove he is the father medically (DNA) 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by NkemChukwudi: 4:37am On Jul 13, 2019 |
Ybaby: You are an idi*t, but you got a point here! |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by gnykelly(m): 4:40am On Jul 13, 2019 |
jeyselassie: Guy not in all cases... If the baby grows up to become a touts that might want to take revenge on the father... You wouldn't want to associate with him. The impression of a mother on the narration of who one's father is is very strong 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by lielbree: 4:43am On Jul 13, 2019 |
I'm a lawyer, so take my advice. Don't waste your money on a lawyer, you can't win. Open an account and pay your child support. Your son will see this thread someday... 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by favour32(m): 4:46am On Jul 13, 2019 |
Young man get a lawyer and go to court. You have got to right the paternity issue but custody wiil be granted to the mother except she cannot take care of the child. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by tomdon(m): 4:50am On Jul 13, 2019 |
Florblu: Abeg forget that thing. It is stupidity that will make anyone choose poverty over wealth. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by tomdon(m): 4:54am On Jul 13, 2019 |
otobasin2323: Op forget about the child. You too like trouble. Shey someone is taking excellent care of him. And the person is childless. Go and marry another person and born as much as you like, or you have cause to think that that's all the good sperm you've got? Na by force? Leave her alone Oga. You're just a bloody sperm donor. Is that your only wasted sperm?? You want the child yet you have only 15k to offer. Better go and feed yourself. If it was you won't you deny that kind of father? So useless and you still want to drag the innocent soul down with you. Oga stop unnecessary wahala. if small sense de your head, go and find way to better your life, no time. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by pat077: 5:07am On Jul 13, 2019 |
Sophiemama:I am even surprised the op is asking this question and he said he is from Imo state. This custom is not alien to the Igbo's. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by garyaustin(m): 5:19am On Jul 13, 2019 |
SageMK:NOT TRUE PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!! |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by Nobody: 5:26am On Jul 13, 2019 |
Ybaby:And the mother? Is she so stupid that she allowed herself to become pregnant when she can't fend for herself? I really don't understand why women will just depend fully on men. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by galantjoe(m): 5:31am On Jul 13, 2019 |
With these evidence you can claim your child with 99% chances. Meet a good lawyer Your mistakes was that you supposed to pay her bride price during your cohabitation. nonetheless, you will win the case with this evidence you have |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by Nobody: 5:32am On Jul 13, 2019 |
sureteeboy:Thought I'm the only observer here. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by Ryan03(f): 5:34am On Jul 13, 2019 |
biacan:hey, don't do the Brokness thing right now, the dude is trying, at least he can send something to his son shows he's a caring father. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by WORLDPEACE(m): 5:35am On Jul 13, 2019 |
SirVintageCock: We are talking about a two year old kid here, my brother. They have long stopped breastfeeding him or her. They can walk and even communicate to some extent. The father is evidently not afraid of all the "nanny work and babysitting and childrearing stuffs attached" that's why he is asking for custody. It appears as if we think men just dropped from heaven without parents and siblings who can support them in babysitting when they can't do so. And the lady herself has not received any help from people in taking care of this child up till this point. It's great the lady is not an evening newspaper, but does the man have to become childless? It appears you are the one who is not happy about the man's happiness. Does he have to suffer for the lady to enjoy her own success? You sound like this is about the lady taking a pound of flesh. Remember the issue here is not her marrying someone else but another man assuming legal ownership rights over his child without his consent, while he is still alive. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by schumastic(m): 5:36am On Jul 13, 2019 |
biacan: You never seize to amaze me with your hate for men . Signed. Vice President, Bachelors Club Ikeja, Lagos Branch. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by Ryan03(f): 5:37am On Jul 13, 2019 |
sedutrice:thank God for your reasoning. I don't understand why some girls think it's a man's job to cater for everything, well make they nor worry, marriage go open their eyes |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by Ryan03(f): 5:38am On Jul 13, 2019 |
schumastic:i don't think she hates men, she's just trolling |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by Ryan03(f): 5:43am On Jul 13, 2019 |
tomdon:you make sense in a harsh way, but it's not easy leaving ones child, you won't understand the affection for one's child until you are at the brink of loosing yours. I'm typing this cause I'm there right now, only being calm cause my ex and her family are good people and will never deny me seeing my son. we separated because of genotype and nothing could be done about it. a fathers love cannot be explained 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by Nobody: 5:43am On Jul 13, 2019 |
wirinet:She is telling exactly how she thinks. That she thinks a woman should depend fully on a man. She just explaining to you what she see in the environment where she grows up, of women cheating when their husband can't foot the bill. And she would probably do the same if she is in their shoes or she is just really young. With thoughts like that no wonder some men think women are stupid. You as a woman, own your body don't bring a child to the world if you can't take care of her. If you want to train a healthy child you can't just assume someone would just foot all the bills. Me, I don't care about the men. E just dey pain me when women no arrange their lives. The woman can marry whoever she likes but the real father, the woman and the rich man should come to a good arrangement on what's vest for the child 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by akp202(m): 5:53am On Jul 13, 2019 |
otobasin2323:join this group on Facebook as it comprises of several legal team...I have read were they have treated several issues like urs...get in touch with one of the admin if the group and they would advise u on what to do.....https://m./133527986816712?group_view_referrer=profile_browser |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by Analysiscorner: 5:56am On Jul 13, 2019 |
MANGAM:I believe that by now lawyers would have answered your question. If not, get a good lawyer to argue your case in the court. It is your right to stay with your son, irrespective of whether you paid bride price or not. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by Analysiscorner: 5:59am On Jul 13, 2019 |
akp202:Don't join any group please. Go to a lawyer in your city of residence and hire him. Facebook is full of shit and scammers. Beware of fraudsters. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by akp202(m): 6:10am On Jul 13, 2019 |
Analysiscorner:it's quite unfortunate people don't find out the truth before terming every act to be scam |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by Prettychichi21(f): 6:14am On Jul 13, 2019 |
Iogobenz: Gbamsolutely correct Jee chuba ego 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by engrelvis(m): 6:19am On Jul 13, 2019 |
biacan:how much v u worked all yr life? He doesn't v now dnt mean he won't v tommoro. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by templeinyou(m): 6:21am On Jul 13, 2019 |
[The only way to be happy wjil e waiting for the out come is to have cordial with the mother quote author=otobasin2323 post=80207378]Good day nairalanders, ( pls ignore my errors, I am not good in typing ) I had a baby with one lady from rivers state(ex girlfriend) and I am from imo state, the baby turns out to be a boy he is 2 years old now. The lady lived with me during her pregnancy and also Gave birth under my roof.. 9months after giving birth, we started having issue. Based on am not well to do.. Cause my hustle ain't paying off. She left the house with my son. Later on she and her family found a man who has been married for so long but no child.. But the man is very wealthy and well to do in the society, the man is also from their town in rivers state ,she agreed to be the second wife so he can claim the child. on hearing this I rejected it and met with her family so they can release my son to me and she can go ahead and marry whom ever she likes.. To my greatest suprise they all decline to my request but gave her full support that she should go ahead quoting me that in their tradition "any man that marries a lady that is with a child the child automatically answers the man's name" With this statement it got me sad, angry cause I love my son with all my heart I don't want another man to father him.. Every month I Normally send her 15k for keep up my son... She ain't satisfied.. That am too poor for her liking... How do I take her to court the only documents I have here.. Is my sons birth certificate, his pictures with me. And all the receipt of the money I normally sent to her monthly... Pls I seriously need advice or suggestions. Thank you[/quote] |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by barristerbiodun(m): 6:22am On Jul 13, 2019 |
The tradition that once a woman remarries, the child she brings into the marriage bears the new husband's name is strange to law. The position of the law will never change when it comes to custody and access to child(ren) when parents have issues. The child(ren) cannot and must not be use as a pawn between parents. Both parents have equal access and custody. Your best bet is to approach the court for custody and access to your child. All you need is to get an Order from the Magistrate court within your jurisdiction. Provide your lawyer with the evidence and documents you mentioned. Once an order is sought and gotten, the law will provide you the means by way of Court Sheriffs to ensure that the court order is adhered to. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by Sophiemama: 6:25am On Jul 13, 2019 |
pat077:The child right now is even addressed as a bastard in that community and the mother will be shamed. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by KingMicky3286: 6:30am On Jul 13, 2019 |
How can you drag over a living person? Allow anyone who wants to care for your son to care for him . Since his your biological son, you are not losing anything as he will grow up and still answer you as his father. |
Re: How Do I Take Custody Of My Beloved Son? by jubangha(m): 6:37am On Jul 13, 2019 |
gud morning bro,to me weather tradition or no tradition,that child belongs to you,so to me since you have accepted the responsibility of that child from wen he is in the womb,even uptill nown ogar go to social werfare with all the evidence you have got,even if the child shud not grow up with you bt let that child not bear another idiots name that dose'nt know the stress it takes a man to produce a baby,because if that baby's name is change that is were it will be difficult for you to get him back.if he wants a child of his own let him go and adopt one not your own |
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