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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Acidosis(m): 8:26am On Jul 13, 2019
Court, and marry her if you find her good enough for you. While you're at it, remember to learn the rudiments of family business so your business doesn't suffer losses. It would no longer be an employer-employee relationship, but partnership. Start by giving her at least 20% equity or sack her completely. Emotions can't manage business oo.

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by VillageHead: 8:27am On Jul 13, 2019
Baba God has approved the union and we at the village have given a nod to it.

Carry go!

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by placeofallure(f): 8:27am On Jul 13, 2019
ellalina:
My male bestie confided this in me too. He is also a Nairalander.



I run a sharwama and agent bank outlet for over 3 years and it’s been a good business experience for me expect trust issues with my sales Girl. I have sacked over 6 girls in space of 2 years for attitude and fraud related cases.

One of the days when I have to stay at the shop because my sales girl did not come to work, a young lady walked in with her CV. She said she saw my vacancy outside, I collected her CV and went through it. She is a 22 years old ND holder who studies communication.

I asked her why she would not return to get her HND. She replied that she wants to continue at the National open university where she can work and learn.
I have her 1 week trial and that is the beginning of good things in my business.

She is so consistent, All customers I mean all of them always leave a good remark about her and why they keep coming back. When ever I return from my office to the shop, I notice how people keep giving her tips and she declares it everyday but I don’t collect it from her. Sometimes she makes up to 5K daily in tips.

Fast forward 1 year, I have taken another shop and expanded my business. I cannot remember the last time we recorded shortage in the shop. My business has become so profitable that Am thinking of quiting my job to expand the business as my salary is like 20% of what the shop now makes for me.

To reward her, I picked interest in her education, I bought her the direct entry form at the open university and she has started.

These days I noticed she has suddenly changed towards me. She doesn't ask how my day was, she avoids me and don’t look into my face when we talk. I was really worried because I have grown fond of her. I have admired her as a lady but I maintained a professional relationship.

There are times I want to ask her to follow me to events and outings but I keep controlling my urge. She called that her mum was sick so she would not be available. I decided to surprise her by paying her a visit, she could not believe her eyes when she saw me at her door step with a bag of provisions in my hand. I greeted the mum. The woman prayed for me a lot before I took my leave.

On getting home, I could not understand myself anymore. My experience at her home further boost her interest in my heart. I could not sleep that night so I picked my phone to chat with a random friend online. I saw Lucy was online too. So I called her at about 12:30 am. I asked her why she is not asleep. She said she has an emotional support that has been bothering her for days. I tried to convince her to tell me but she declined, I figured it’s about a guy although I never saw her with a guy or call one at work.

I told her I was worried too and she is the cause. I told her how she has been of immense blessing to my life and how I wish she would play a bigger role in my life. She went silent. She later hung up and turned her phone off.

She called in the morning to apologize for cutting the call. By evening, I was back at the shop. I opted to drive her home but she refused. This was very unlike her so I insisted. As we approached her neighborhood,I parked under a roadside tree. I asked her to open up to me what the issue with her was.

To my greatest shock, Lucy confesses that I was the cause of her issues. I went quiet for a while trying to figure out what she meant. I asked again how am I the cause, at this moment her eyes were laden with tears Lucy told me she could not stop thinking about me and can’t control herself around me. She said she is confused because the feeling she is having for me get her scared.

While I sat and steer at her, I knew I felt exactly THE same way for her. This time I was the quiet one. I just drove her home and back.

I am 29 and she is now 23 going to 24. I have a job and a good business. Why can’t I marry her.

She has helped me grow my business. She is adorable and well trained. I want to ask her to marry me any moment. I am strongly convinced that we can grow together and build a good business network.

What do you guys thing. Is this a wise move?


Please, Hurry! Run as fast as your legs can carry you and go propose to her. She is an angel sent from heaven. Please let me know when you're getting married. I wanna attend!

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by AllenSpencer: 8:27am On Jul 13, 2019
Consult Ifa Olokun a soro d' ayo

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Mutemenot(m): 8:27am On Jul 13, 2019
bdchange:
She appears good but you have to know that being in relationship with someone is a different ball game to just being a friend or knowing the person from afar. I will advise that you start dating her for at least a year to know if she will change in her attitude because now you will not be her boss anymore but her partner at least that is what she will see you as. Then you can now decide if she is worth settling down with or not. Marriage is not a child's play oo nor should it be entangled by emotions.

Op, read this comment ....u should screenshot it for future reference ...
Marriage is far from business, do you know how life away from business ?? From your writing I'm convinced you know very little about her... expand your searchlight b4 you talk of marriage ok..

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by VirginSearcher(m): 8:27am On Jul 13, 2019
softwerk:
grin

In the voice of Julia Roberts;

Don't marry her! Marry me let me make you happy cry
hmm! so u want to marry another person's hubby? angry
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Engrjj: 8:28am On Jul 13, 2019
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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Nobody: 8:28am On Jul 13, 2019
ellalina:
My male bestie confided this in me too. He is also a Nairalander.



I run a sharwama and agent bank outlet for over 3 years and it’s been a good business experience for me expect trust issues with my sales Girl. I have sacked over 6 girls in space of 2 years for attitude and fraud related cases.

One of the days when I have to stay at the shop because my sales girl did not come to work, a young lady walked in with her CV. She said she saw my vacancy outside, I collected her CV and went through it. She is a 22 years old ND holder who studies communication.

I asked her why she would not return to get her HND. She replied that she wants to continue at the National open university where she can work and learn.
I have her 1 week trial and that is the beginning of good things in my business.

She is so consistent, All customers I mean all of them always leave a good remark about her and why they keep coming back. When ever I return from my office to the shop, I notice how people keep giving her tips and she declares it everyday but I don’t collect it from her. Sometimes she makes up to 5K daily in tips.

Fast forward 1 year, I have taken another shop and expanded my business. I cannot remember the last time we recorded shortage in the shop. My business has become so profitable that Am thinking of quiting my job to expand the business as my salary is like 20% of what the shop now makes for me.

To reward her, I picked interest in her education, I bought her the direct entry form at the open university and she has started.

These days I noticed she has suddenly changed towards me. She doesn't ask how my day was, she avoids me and don’t look into my face when we talk. I was really worried because I have grown fond of her. I have admired her as a lady but I maintained a professional relationship.

There are times I want to ask her to follow me to events and outings but I keep controlling my urge. She called that her mum was sick so she would not be available. I decided to surprise her by paying her a visit, she could not believe her eyes when she saw me at her door step with a bag of provisions in my hand. I greeted the mum. The woman prayed for me a lot before I took my leave.

On getting home, I could not understand myself anymore. My experience at her home further boost her interest in my heart. I could not sleep that night so I picked my phone to chat with a random friend online. I saw Lucy was online too. So I called her at about 12:30 am. I asked her why she is not asleep. She said she has an emotional support that has been bothering her for days. I tried to convince her to tell me but she declined, I figured it’s about a guy although I never saw her with a guy or call one at work.

I told her I was worried too and she is the cause. I told her how she has been of immense blessing to my life and how I wish she would play a bigger role in my life. She went silent. She later hung up and turned her phone off.

She called in the morning to apologize for cutting the call. By evening, I was back at the shop. I opted to drive her home but she refused. This was very unlike her so I insisted. As we approached her neighborhood,I parked under a roadside tree. I asked her to open up to me what the issue with her was.

To my greatest shock, Lucy confesses that I was the cause of her issues. I went quiet for a while trying to figure out what she meant. I asked again how am I the cause, at this moment her eyes were laden with tears Lucy told me she could not stop thinking about me and can’t control herself around me. She said she is confused because the feeling she is having for me get her scared.

While I sat and steer at her, I knew I felt exactly THE same way for her. This time I was the quiet one. I just drove her home and back.

I am 29 and she is now 23 going to 24. I have a job and a good business. Why can’t I marry her.

She has helped me grow my business. She is adorable and well trained. I want to ask her to marry me any moment. I am strongly convinced that we can grow together and build a good business network.

What do you guys thing. Is this a wise move?


Oh all this made me remember how Fatai ruined by business with women of easy virtue
Look at you...instead of you to start planning on introduction you they there tgey ask yeye
Question.
But in all Please dont make her feel too important biko
Women with chicken brain
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Nobody: 8:28am On Jul 13, 2019
ellalina:
My male bestie confided this in me too. He is also a Nairalander.



I run a sharwama and agent bank outlet for over 3 years and it’s been a good business experience for me expect trust issues with my sales Girl. I have sacked over 6 girls in space of 2 years for attitude and fraud related cases.

One of the days when I have to stay at the shop because my sales girl did not come to work, a young lady walked in with her CV. She said she saw my vacancy outside, I collected her CV and went through it. She is a 22 years old ND holder who studies communication.

I asked her why she would not return to get her HND. She replied that she wants to continue at the National open university where she can work and learn.
I have her 1 week trial and that is the beginning of good things in my business.

She is so consistent, All customers I mean all of them always leave a good remark about her and why they keep coming back. When ever I return from my office to the shop, I notice how people keep giving her tips and she declares it everyday but I don’t collect it from her. Sometimes she makes up to 5K daily in tips.

Fast forward 1 year, I have taken another shop and expanded my business. I cannot remember the last time we recorded shortage in the shop. My business has become so profitable that Am thinking of quiting my job to expand the business as my salary is like 20% of what the shop now makes for me.

To reward her, I picked interest in her education, I bought her the direct entry form at the open university and she has started.

These days I noticed she has suddenly changed towards me. She doesn't ask how my day was, she avoids me and don’t look into my face when we talk. I was really worried because I have grown fond of her. I have admired her as a lady but I maintained a professional relationship.

There are times I want to ask her to follow me to events and outings but I keep controlling my urge. She called that her mum was sick so she would not be available. I decided to surprise her by paying her a visit, she could not believe her eyes when she saw me at her door step with a bag of provisions in my hand. I greeted the mum. The woman prayed for me a lot before I took my leave.

On getting home, I could not understand myself anymore. My experience at her home further boost her interest in my heart. I could not sleep that night so I picked my phone to chat with a random friend online. I saw Lucy was online too. So I called her at about 12:30 am. I asked her why she is not asleep. She said she has an emotional support that has been bothering her for days. I tried to convince her to tell me but she declined, I figured it’s about a guy although I never saw her with a guy or call one at work.

I told her I was worried too and she is the cause. I told her how she has been of immense blessing to my life and how I wish she would play a bigger role in my life. She went silent. She later hung up and turned her phone off.

She called in the morning to apologize for cutting the call. By evening, I was back at the shop. I opted to drive her home but she refused. This was very unlike her so I insisted. As we approached her neighborhood,I parked under a roadside tree. I asked her to open up to me what the issue with her was.

To my greatest shock, Lucy confesses that I was the cause of her issues. I went quiet for a while trying to figure out what she meant. I asked again how am I the cause, at this moment her eyes were laden with tears Lucy told me she could not stop thinking about me and can’t control herself around me. She said she is confused because the feeling she is having for me get her scared.

While I sat and steer at her, I knew I felt exactly THE same way for her. This time I was the quiet one. I just drove her home and back.

I am 29 and she is now 23 going to 24. I have a job and a good business. Why can’t I marry her.

She has helped me grow my business. She is adorable and well trained. I want to ask her to marry me any moment. I am strongly convinced that we can grow together and build a good business network.

What do you guys thing. Is this a wise move?
You are only elated because of your business growth.
Take more time, open your eyes and you'll see

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Nobody: 8:28am On Jul 13, 2019
Still study her a bit more before you finally decide to shoot your shot and propose to her... go on dates and spend time to get to know her personally, her likes, dislikes, etc..
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by laughitall(m): 8:28am On Jul 13, 2019
bdchange:
She appears good but you have to know that being in relationship with someone is a different ball game to just being a friend or knowing the person from afar. I will advise that you start dating her for at least a year to know if she will change in her attitude because now you will not be her boss anymore but her partner at least that is what she will see you as. Then you can now decide if she is worth settling down with or not. Marriage is not a child's play oo nor should it be entangled by emotions.
seconded
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by srclark: 8:28am On Jul 13, 2019
ellalina:
My male bestie confided this in me too. He is also a Nairalander.



I run a sharwama and agent bank outlet for over 3 years and it’s been a good business experience for me expect trust issues with my sales Girl. I have sacked over 6 girls in space of 2 years for attitude and fraud related cases.

One of the days when I have to stay at the shop because my sales girl did not come to work, a young lady walked in with her CV. She said she saw my vacancy outside, I collected her CV and went through it. She is a 22 years old ND holder who studies communication.

I asked her why she would not return to get her HND. She replied that she wants to continue at the National open university where she can work and learn.
I have her 1 week trial and that is the beginning of good things in my business.

She is so consistent, All customers I mean all of them always leave a good remark about her and why they keep coming back. When ever I return from my office to the shop, I notice how people keep giving her tips and she declares it everyday but I don’t collect it from her. Sometimes she makes up to 5K daily in tips.

Fast forward 1 year, I have taken another shop and expanded my business. I cannot remember the last time we recorded shortage in the shop. My business has become so profitable that Am thinking of quiting my job to expand the business as my salary is like 20% of what the shop now makes for me.

To reward her, I picked interest in her education, I bought her the direct entry form at the open university and she has started.

These days I noticed she has suddenly changed towards me. She doesn't ask how my day was, she avoids me and don’t look into my face when we talk. I was really worried because I have grown fond of her. I have admired her as a lady but I maintained a professional relationship.

There are times I want to ask her to follow me to events and outings but I keep controlling my urge. She called that her mum was sick so she would not be available. I decided to surprise her by paying her a visit, she could not believe her eyes when she saw me at her door step with a bag of provisions in my hand. I greeted the mum. The woman prayed for me a lot before I took my leave.

On getting home, I could not understand myself anymore. My experience at her home further boost her interest in my heart. I could not sleep that night so I picked my phone to chat with a random friend online. I saw Lucy was online too. So I called her at about 12:30 am. I asked her why she is not asleep. She said she has an emotional support that has been bothering her for days. I tried to convince her to tell me but she declined, I figured it’s about a guy although I never saw her with a guy or call one at work.

I told her I was worried too and she is the cause. I told her how she has been of immense blessing to my life and how I wish she would play a bigger role in my life. She went silent. She later hung up and turned her phone off.

She called in the morning to apologize for cutting the call. By evening, I was back at the shop. I opted to drive her home but she refused. This was very unlike her so I insisted. As we approached her neighborhood,I parked under a roadside tree. I asked her to open up to me what the issue with her was.

To my greatest shock, Lucy confesses that I was the cause of her issues. I went quiet for a while trying to figure out what she meant. I asked again how am I the cause, at this moment her eyes were laden with tears Lucy told me she could not stop thinking about me and can’t control herself around me. She said she is confused because the feeling she is having for me get her scared.

While I sat and steer at her, I knew I felt exactly THE same way for her. This time I was the quiet one. I just drove her home and back.

I am 29 and she is now 23 going to 24. I have a job and a good business. Why can’t I marry her.

She has helped me grow my business. She is adorable and well trained. I want to ask her to marry me any moment. I am strongly convinced that we can grow together and build a good business network.

What do you guys thing. Is this a wise move?
not a bad idea ,but i would advice you to let her grow a bit older and really be sure she wants to be with you .It is good you are helping her with her studies and dont stop but left too me i would advice you to let her stop working for you make her a kind of supervisor that checks on the weekly activities so she can focus on her education still give her tips then study her ,also it is for the sake of your business giving her a rapid promotion from sales girl to fiancee can be disastrous for your business

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Nobody: 8:29am On Jul 13, 2019
Congrats
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by konkonbilo(m): 8:29am On Jul 13, 2019
Ojuri20:


Are you in Lagos?
yes
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Rextizz(m): 8:29am On Jul 13, 2019
ellalina:
My male bestie confided this in me too. He is also a Nairalander.



I run a sharwama and agent bank outlet for over 3 years and it’s been a good business experience for me expect trust issues with my sales Girl. I have sacked over 6 girls in space of 2 years for attitude and fraud related cases.

One of the days when I have to stay at the shop because my sales girl did not come to work, a young lady walked in with her CV. She said she saw my vacancy outside, I collected her CV and went through it. She is a 22 years old ND holder who studies communication.

I asked her why she would not return to get her HND. She replied that she wants to continue at the National open university where she can work and learn.
I have her 1 week trial and that is the beginning of good things in my business.

She is so consistent, All customers I mean all of them always leave a good remark about her and why they keep coming back. When ever I return from my office to the shop, I notice how people keep giving her tips and she declares it everyday but I don’t collect it from her. Sometimes she makes up to 5K daily in tips.

Fast forward 1 year, I have taken another shop and expanded my business. I cannot remember the last time we recorded shortage in the shop. My business has become so profitable that Am thinking of quiting my job to expand the business as my salary is like 20% of what the shop now makes for me.

To reward her, I picked interest in her education, I bought her the direct entry form at the open university and she has started.

These days I noticed she has suddenly changed towards me. She doesn't ask how my day was, she avoids me and don’t look into my face when we talk. I was really worried because I have grown fond of her. I have admired her as a lady but I maintained a professional relationship.

There are times I want to ask her to follow me to events and outings but I keep controlling my urge. She called that her mum was sick so she would not be available. I decided to surprise her by paying her a visit, she could not believe her eyes when she saw me at her door step with a bag of provisions in my hand. I greeted the mum. The woman prayed for me a lot before I took my leave.

On getting home, I could not understand myself anymore. My experience at her home further boost her interest in my heart. I could not sleep that night so I picked my phone to chat with a random friend online. I saw Lucy was online too. So I called her at about 12:30 am. I asked her why she is not asleep. She said she has an emotional support that has been bothering her for days. I tried to convince her to tell me but she declined, I figured it’s about a guy although I never saw her with a guy or call one at work.

I told her I was worried too and she is the cause. I told her how she has been of immense blessing to my life and how I wish she would play a bigger role in my life. She went silent. She later hung up and turned her phone off.

She called in the morning to apologize for cutting the call. By evening, I was back at the shop. I opted to drive her home but she refused. This was very unlike her so I insisted. As we approached her neighborhood,I parked under a roadside tree. I asked her to open up to me what the issue with her was.

To my greatest shock, Lucy confesses that I was the cause of her issues. I went quiet for a while trying to figure out what she meant. I asked again how am I the cause, at this moment her eyes were laden with tears Lucy told me she could not stop thinking about me and can’t control herself around me. She said she is confused because the feeling she is having for me get her scared.

While I sat and steer at her, I knew I felt exactly THE same way for her. This time I was the quiet one. I just drove her home and back.

I am 29 and she is now 23 going to 24. I have a job and a good business. Why can’t I marry her.

She has helped me grow my business. She is adorable and well trained. I want to ask her to marry me any moment. I am strongly convinced that we can grow together and build a good business network.

What do you guys thing. Is this a wise move?
Dude go and marry her, don't waste any time.
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by castrokins(m): 8:30am On Jul 13, 2019
When Are You Posting The Later Parts Of Your Poem?
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by fujirice: 8:30am On Jul 13, 2019
OP why are you dulling?
God has given you a helper, at least what I gathered from your story, and you are here asking us if you should make it official.
Since the feeling is mutual, I think it’s only the right thing to do.
Wishing you a happy married life in advance

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Shimran(m): 8:31am On Jul 13, 2019
Love may be defined as an intense feeling of affection and care towards another person. If such goes the case, love exist between the two of you, therefore the rewards for love is definitely marriage

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Catchfirez: 8:31am On Jul 13, 2019
Kneephy:
See question oo..

Don't marry her oo, find one beautiful olosho to marry.shebi u are still asking us ni ooo...


Na true you talk.










P:s u can gimme her number maybe me I should marry her,
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Nobody: 8:32am On Jul 13, 2019
Your bestie should understand that marriage and business is different,she's good in business doesn't mean she'd be a good wife,perphaps she will be good in both.I know a guy who helped her gf run her business,gave her ideas,goes to market to supply goods for her,the guy is really good when it comes to business, those traits made the lady accept his proposal,after marriage,guy brought out other attitudes,even beating the woman up when he is angry,his support for her business never changed though bt he was terrible in other aspects


What I'm saying is he should date her first,study her as a partner,not getting married to her straight up because she's running his business well...

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by VirginSearcher(m): 8:32am On Jul 13, 2019
Jacqueline22:
No o don’t marry her...Come and marry me instead naw
Are u okay, aren't u married already?
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by patorial(m): 8:32am On Jul 13, 2019
Baba,Whether you have feelings for her or not my advice is never marry a girl u haven't dated, to avoid coming back here for another advice

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by nurex01(m): 8:33am On Jul 13, 2019
ellalina:
My male bestie confided this in me too. He is also a Nairalander.



I run a sharwama and agent bank outlet for over 3 years and it’s been a good business experience for me expect trust issues with my sales Girl. I have sacked over 6 girls in space of 2 years for attitude and fraud related cases.

One of the days when I have to stay at the shop because my sales girl did not come to work, a young lady walked in with her CV. She said she saw my vacancy outside, I collected her CV and went through it. She is a 22 years old ND holder who studies communication.

I asked her why she would not return to get her HND. She replied that she wants to continue at the National open university where she can work and learn.
I have her 1 week trial and that is the beginning of good things in my business.

She is so consistent, All customers I mean all of them always leave a good remark about her and why they keep coming back. When ever I return from my office to the shop, I notice how people keep giving her tips and she declares it everyday but I don’t collect it from her. Sometimes she makes up to 5K daily in tips.

Fast forward 1 year, I have taken another shop and expanded my business. I cannot remember the last time we recorded shortage in the shop. My business has become so profitable that Am thinking of quiting my job to expand the business as my salary is like 20% of what the shop now makes for me.

To reward her, I picked interest in her education, I bought her the direct entry form at the open university and she has started.

These days I noticed she has suddenly changed towards me. She doesn't ask how my day was, she avoids me and don’t look into my face when we talk. I was really worried because I have grown fond of her. I have admired her as a lady but I maintained a professional relationship.

There are times I want to ask her to follow me to events and outings but I keep controlling my urge. She called that her mum was sick so she would not be available. I decided to surprise her by paying her a visit, she could not believe her eyes when she saw me at her door step with a bag of provisions in my hand. I greeted the mum. The woman prayed for me a lot before I took my leave.

On getting home, I could not understand myself anymore. My experience at her home further boost her interest in my heart. I could not sleep that night so I picked my phone to chat with a random friend online. I saw Lucy was online too. So I called her at about 12:30 am. I asked her why she is not asleep. She said she has an emotional support that has been bothering her for days. I tried to convince her to tell me but she declined, I figured it’s about a guy although I never saw her with a guy or call one at work.

I told her I was worried too and she is the cause. I told her how she has been of immense blessing to my life and how I wish she would play a bigger role in my life. She went silent. She later hung up and turned her phone off.

She called in the morning to apologize for cutting the call. By evening, I was back at the shop. I opted to drive her home but she refused. This was very unlike her so I insisted. As we approached her neighborhood,I parked under a roadside tree. I asked her to open up to me what the issue with her was.

To my greatest shock, Lucy confesses that I was the cause of her issues. I went quiet for a while trying to figure out what she meant. I asked again how am I the cause, at this moment her eyes were laden with tears Lucy told me she could not stop thinking about me and can’t control herself around me. She said she is confused because the feeling she is having for me get her scared.

While I sat and steer at her, I knew I felt exactly THE same way for her. This time I was the quiet one. I just drove her home and back.

I am 29 and she is now 23 going to 24. I have a job and a good business. Why can’t I marry her.

She has helped me grow my business. She is adorable and well trained. I want to ask her to marry me any moment. I am strongly convinced that we can grow together and build a good business network.

What do you guys thing. Is this a wise move?
Baba! If you like the qualities in her. Marry her! If you trust her, Marry her! With all these you have said, it's okay but try and ask people around to know who truly she is too, you grab? Then that's all
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Ojuri20: 8:34am On Jul 13, 2019
konkonbilo:
yes

You are not on WhatsApp. I've checked your Instagram page.
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by fujirice: 8:34am On Jul 13, 2019
srclark:
not a bad idea ,but i would advice you to let her grow a bit older and really be sure she wants to be with you .It is good you are helping her with her studies and dont stop but left too me i would advice you to let her stop working for you make her a kind of supervisor that checks on the weekly activities so she can focus on her education still give her tips then study her ,also it is for the sake of your business giving her a rapid promotion from sales girl to fiancee can be disastrous for your business
I don’t agree with your last two lines.
The girl in question is already treating the business as hers. Making her the official co-owner will just be the icing on the cake.
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Monday60655(m): 8:35am On Jul 13, 2019
Summarise your story. Too much or lengthy write up doesn't make the best always.
Moreover, you have made up your mind to propose to her.
Again you have stayed with her for years and studied her, none of us has been there with you. Or do you need a conglomerate advice
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Nobody: 8:37am On Jul 13, 2019
there are too many short -sighted people on nl. how can you just stick to saying he should marry her cos of all he has said or he shouldn't marry her cos of one thing or the other?
this is how people give terrible advice. so if 200 men come with this same scenario you think you will be totally right by saying marry her or don't marry her? There is no hard and fast rule to matters of the heart except in extreme and obvious cases. @op discuss your fears with her. things like how it will affect the business, her ability to remain faithful if things go really well or terribly, cos she's still quite young, as well as any thing bothering u. also ask about her fears. but don't get carried away with what she says cos it will all be positive as you both are probably blinded by that feeling u have inside. so with a clear head anticipate hat things can go wrong and have a plan B. plan B doesn't necessarily mean another woman.

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by arantess: 8:39am On Jul 13, 2019
ellalina:
My male bestie confided this in me too. He is also a Nairalander.



I run a sharwama and agent bank outlet for over 3 years and it’s been a good business experience for me expect trust issues with my sales Girl. I have sacked over 6 girls in space of 2 years for attitude and fraud related cases.

One of the days when I have to stay at the shop because my sales girl did not come to work, a young lady walked in with her CV. She said she saw my vacancy outside, I collected her CV and went through it. She is a 22 years old ND holder who studies communication.

I asked her why she would not return to get her HND. She replied that she wants to continue at the National open university where she can work and learn.
I have her 1 week trial and that is the beginning of good things in my business.

She is so consistent, All customers I mean all of them always leave a good remark about her and why they keep coming back. When ever I return from my office to the shop, I notice how people keep giving her tips and she declares it everyday but I don’t collect it from her. Sometimes she makes up to 5K daily in tips.

Fast forward 1 year, I have taken another shop and expanded my business. I cannot remember the last time we recorded shortage in the shop. My business has become so profitable that Am thinking of quiting my job to expand the business as my salary is like 20% of what the shop now makes for me.

To reward her, I picked interest in her education, I bought her the direct entry form at the open university and she has started.

These days I noticed she has suddenly changed towards me. She doesn't ask how my day was, she avoids me and don’t look into my face when we talk. I was really worried because I have grown fond of her. I have admired her as a lady but I maintained a professional relationship.

There are times I want to ask her to follow me to events and outings but I keep controlling my urge. She called that her mum was sick so she would not be available. I decided to surprise her by paying her a visit, she could not believe her eyes when she saw me at her door step with a bag of provisions in my hand. I greeted the mum. The woman prayed for me a lot before I took my leave.

On getting home, I could not understand myself anymore. My experience at her home further boost her interest in my heart. I could not sleep that night so I picked my phone to chat with a random friend online. I saw Lucy was online too. So I called her at about 12:30 am. I asked her why she is not asleep. She said she has an emotional support that has been bothering her for days. I tried to convince her to tell me but she declined, I figured it’s about a guy although I never saw her with a guy or call one at work.

I told her I was worried too and she is the cause. I told her how she has been of immense blessing to my life and how I wish she would play a bigger role in my life. She went silent. She later hung up and turned her phone off.

She called in the morning to apologize for cutting the call. By evening, I was back at the shop. I opted to drive her home but she refused. This was very unlike her so I insisted. As we approached her neighborhood,I parked under a roadside tree. I asked her to open up to me what the issue with her was.

To my greatest shock, Lucy confesses that I was the cause of her issues. I went quiet for a while trying to figure out what she meant. I asked again how am I the cause, at this moment her eyes were laden with tears Lucy told me she could not stop thinking about me and can’t control herself around me. She said she is confused because the feeling she is having for me get her scared.

While I sat and steer at her, I knew I felt exactly THE same way for her. This time I was the quiet one. I just drove her home and back.

I am 29 and she is now 23 going to 24. I have a job and a good business. Why can’t I marry her.

She has helped me grow my business. She is adorable and well trained. I want to ask her to marry me any moment. I am strongly convinced that we can grow together and build a good business network.

What do you guys thing. Is this a wise move?
Wow, brother seems Yu have found your lost rib,
Pop the question already and put that ring on her
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Daviddson(m): 8:39am On Jul 13, 2019
sisisioge:
I love Love fa...I love your story. Let's start the courtship already...marriage comes afterwards grin grin grin


This will be hot!
You and the guy in question or the guy and the lady? grin
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by sheungeek(m): 8:39am On Jul 13, 2019
@op is very short-sighted mehn.
The babe you wan toast don fall for you already and you come dey ask question..
Use Google instead.
Are you sure you are 29?
agba ti de o. ojo n lo..ose to bo loma pe 30 o [in Adekunle Gold's voice]

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