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I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

marry the job, use ur head.

Refuse the job if you have an alternative.

If you don't, take the job if it's a well paying one. Save money and buy the girl a car or something valuable to compensate her family.

Cut ties with her and her family few months afterwards. Don't touch the girl throughout.

That job comes with a psychological price tag.

Bro if you accept it, you will be burdened by a sense of obligation. So the question is will you succumb or not?

Whatever you decide, don't marry out of obligation.
And If you take the job, don't be too comfortable.

Have a plan B.

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Take the job Abobi. Build your CV. Cater for yourself with salary.

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

If you are not going to marry her then reject the job. Do you think the mum will be nice to help a random person? If you break up with her, that same connection that got you in, in the first place, will be the one that will be used to disgrace you out.

No need you have already been sold to her by someone u know or most likely have met , she owns u fully if u accept that job, then u will see the venom in ur veins

Are they expressly asking for marriage as a condition for the job? If yes, turn it down. If no, take the job and be an excellent employee.

Collect the job. Play along till the job is sealed. Then break up if you have a justifiable reason to do so.
They should not use job to chain you to marriage

Don't lose yourself cuz of a job...if you take the job, you will be entitled to her for life.

SageMK:
That job comes with a psychological price tag.

Bro if you accept it, you will be burdened by a sense of obligation. So the question is will you succumb or not?

Whatever you decide, don't marry out of obligation.
And If you take the job, don't be too comfortable.

Have a plan B.

Well said.

Take the job and play cool. Try as much as possible to introduce her to other guys, you never can say

GraGra247:
Refuse the job if you have an alternative.

If you don't, take the job if it's a well paying one. Save money and buy the girl a car or something valuable to compensate her family.

Cut ties with her and her family few months afterwards. Don't touch the girl throughout.

You are so wise

Reason you don't want to marry her?

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

My brother made such mistake and till date he's still biting his fingers in silent. OP use your brain otherwise you may end up like my brother.

madridguy:
Reason you don't want to marry her?

I don't love her.

are they getting you the job because ypu want to marry their daughter,if yes,reject the job...you wont have mouth in the marriage/relationship......

Are you the op?

zeenaman:
I don't love her.

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

You don't smell what you won't eat. Why ask her out when you detest her



Drabeey was Here

madridguy:
My brother made such mistake and till date he's still biting his fingers in silent. OP use your brain otherwise you may end up like my brother.

how did ur brother end up??



Did he end up worst than u


Buharidin

Why waste her time dating her when you know you wouldn't marry her? Very wicked things.

Dillusionist:
Why waste her time dating her when you know you wouldn't marry her? Very wicked things.

some things are hard to explain, bro

Ramanto:
some things are hard to explain, bro

why don't you want to marry her!

the family loves you. it is clear

Abbeylincson:
the family loves you. it is clear

Its true...the OP thinks the family hasnt seen other guys abi

it's OK u accept it. One of my former neighbor, a strong Muslim guy from Auchi, Edo state who used to remind us of prayers even got a lady like that together with a job and also got converted .So urz isn't much my guy, just close ur eyes and marry her, u will b ok

Lalasticlala, what advice do you have for a bother?

I got to know her under an unclear circumstance. I saw her just once at an event, we exchanged contacts and that was all. There is distance involved that's why I didn't get to know she's not what I want on time

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Quit the girl and quit the mum so she doesn't have to get you the job.

Take the job, build your cv, save alot and take the next step...