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EmekusTHEgreat:
Lemme drop mine here under the cloak of anonymousity, happened back in 2017, I was in my third year, she was in her first year, she wasn't my first girlfriend and I wasn't hers either, but she was the one that really got to me, like my first real love, the first one I ever opened my soul to.

NOTE THAT I'm a very suspicious person, I tend to expect the worst from people and most times they don't fall short of expectations.

So the story goes like this; I and this dark skinned beauty had been dating for a some months then, if you've dated in university you would know that going on vacation is the real test of strength for any university relationship (except where the couple lives together), so there we were, we would be apart for the first time since we started dating, I had to leave my school in the East to go home in kaduna while she had to go to Lagos where her family lives. she had calmed my suspicious with her soft, convincing words and her beautiful smile, she had often told me that she could never cheat in a relationship, and of course like a fool in love I believed her, I called everyday and tried to know everything that went down in her day, not for the sake of suspicious but just to show her that I cared, one random evening around 7:30 I called her and I noticed that she seemed off, a bit unsettled and on alert, I asked her where she was and she started stammering - something she never did, she's soft-spoken but never stammered - she's said that she had gone to see a friend in a hotel near her house, I asked which friend and her response seemed like she was lying, as usual my mind started raising red flags but I wiped it off, I seemed a bit angry and it seemed like the way I spoke really got to her that evening (calm but aggressive, not a regular trait of mine), when school was back on session and we met after the long vacation, my mind just ran back to that day and told me that I should ask about it, as usual she seemed to be a bit edgy, this really triggered me, but I didn't make it obvious, however from that moment I made it a point to know what went down that day..

Now this side note is for the gents out there, when a lady starts playing the "so you don't trust me" then guy know just know that you have reason to not trust her...

One day I managed to get into her Facebook account, she had logged into it with my phone and forgot to log out (rooky mistake right!) so I took the platter-given opportunity to do some investigating, after a really long night and really weird chats, I ran into her dm with her THEN bestfriend, where she had told her that she suspects that I know what she did that summer, the friend encouraged her to continue lying and telling me that nothing happened, I scrolled abit further up and saw what she had been hiding from me, happens that her ex boyfriend had invited her to his hotel room and she decided to go pay him a little visit, deep down I know she was Hot and just wanted to feel something intimate, well, she got what she wanted, they had sex, she let him have sex with her, for "closure". It happens that immediately she was leaving the hotel, my called had come through, that was what made her edgy. It really pained me, I felt betrayed.
I had prior made it a rule to never cry because of a woman who isn't my mom or sister but damn!, that day was my exception, you're truly cried.
I confronted her and at first she played the "so you don't trust me" card, so I brought up the evidence and she came clean, I realized that she still loved the guy, she apologized and explained the whole thing to me, I told her to resolve whatever she had with him, and I guess she did.

ehhnn, fast forward to today, we got back together some months later, we moved past the cheating incident and she dropped the friend, I realized that nobody is perfect, fidelity isn't easy, words are easy, actions aren't as much, I can say "I love you to the moon and back" with a big ol'smile on my crooked lips but really would that love ACT when it's called upon?. I love her, she loves me too, and I know that if she were given the chance to cheat again she wouldn't.

Moral of the story is this; we are not perfect, as humans we are made to lie, to fear the impact of the truth, we say over estimate our abilities, we try to convince others that a lie isn't a lie when actually we're trying to convince ourselves that the truth isn't as it is, cheating doesn't have to be the end of a love story. Thanks for reading this short story from my life.

AstroG:
Thought I was about to talk sense into a well groomed lady,it now clearly seems otherwise
THANK YOU

kneehighbootz:
Look at this one. so the guy is allowed to be an animal but pocohantas is not supposed to defend herself?
Did you read where he said he would pay guys to rape her? Why didn't you caution your fellow guy?

Would you allow a guy to talk to your sister like that? if its not good enough for your sister, then its definitely not good for pocohantas. she's someone's sister and future mother too.

Talk to your men. Respect begets respect.

ekene101:
Been in and out of many relationships,last one was a coded runs babe so I called it off,she begged and begged and still denied it even when a mutual friend who is a street guy said it to her face that he has banged and paid her on 3 occasions the ode still dey deny. Me wey hate to use condom bang woman,I just quickly go do test,buy plenty antibiotics,even agbo Jedi and all,still did another series of tests just to be sure am clean. The fear of contacting disease from these farm tools is not d issue, what guys should be scared of is not go get ur destiny hacked/hijacked because many ritualist claiming yahoo boys do deposit something in these girls and any guy who crosses them will start experiencing backwardness financially and otherwise,while the ritualist excel in his trade. I know few guys who does it and many of these girls are walking corpses spreading evils among guys who can't keep their pencils in their bags but be looking for sharpener upandan. I have decided to remailed celibate and cause trouble here on nairaland when am bored or not on duty. Don't have time for those useless farm tools. Konji is a thing of the mind,anyone can learn to control d urge,believe it or not.
Note: I come from a family of boys only,so I know how to cook and do stuffs,I even hate the ideal of a girl doing my laundry because am used to doing it myself, so why do I need any stoopid girl to come tear my life apart and render me disorganized, I eat Wat i want wen I want,wear Wat I want,I don't send any body my hard earned money for hair,clothes or any stoopid tin apart from family, no unnecessary dramas. I'm just free as in totally free.

Kalixx:
hahahahahaha

TemmyT002:
Disbelieving, abi believing

carter009:
I don't believe in long term relationship at all cos this hoes ain't loyal.

BoboKush:
Hmmmmmmmn.... This is deep

Joystark:
Damn bro.

Isn't this called stalking?

MenGoingThereWay:
No matter how this ladies call men dogs it still doesn't change the fact that ladies cheat more than men.

My own experience is that most of the girls I have nice time with all have boyfriends or someone they are serious with. It's so bad that they tell me about their relationship issues and I get to advise them after we have had rounds of Sex. Some even have 3 guys they claim to be serious with, some even tell me about pastors and married men who toast them or who they had unplanned Sex with and how there bf is suspecting them.

These girls keep making it difficult for me to trust ladies with their cheating and selfish ways. They don't feel a single remorse when in the act till they are caught. One was riding me and a call from her boyfriend came in and she immediately put her hands on my neck, giving me the eye sign to stop my thrusting. These babe spoke to her boyfriend as if she wasn't doing anything and even told him she loves him and after the call she aggressively rode me while she had this evil grin. I had a lot of thoughts run through my head at that moment.

The second instance, I was with this babe and her phone rang and I helped her reach for it and the call ID read " MY love" . I handed the phone to her and she just threw it on the bed saying " abeg abeg I don't have time to be answering jamb question". You can imagine.

Another one asked me in her words "how can I say I have boy friend and it feels like am single" and I was like then let him go and in her words " he is a nice guy, he understands me and will make a good husband ". These girls can be selfish and mean.

You may think it's about money, care and time but most times its not because many have serious bf who do their best to give them all these and you wonder what these girls want. I used to make out with one whose bf was super rich and cartered for her but do you know this girl opened mouth to tell me about two other men and that she will be touring with one of the men while she tells her bf she has gone to visit her sick mum.

Aside students even the working class aren't left out...That's a talk for another day.

Men take my advice and you will be happy you did

- Men don't need love we need respect. Oncertainly a girl don't respect you dump her sorry

- Always have it in mind that no girl owes you anything till you pay her bride price

- Make yourself less available for these girls. These has worked for me well. Itso good you give these girls an impression that you are busy, focused and they come second. Do this and watch how they will always want to be around you and jump to come meet you each time you call.

- Give these girls space don't choke them

- When it comes to the bed be dominant let them see you using them to satisfy your sexual cravings. Don't pity them ooh..spank ass, pull hair etc. That does a lot to their psych. Topic for another day

- Never taking a cheating girl back. I once advised my cousin the young man refused and 2 years down the line his girlfriend who he introduced to the family got pregnant for yahoo boy ���.

Many are still screwing me, they are unrepentant whilst they confess love to their bf.

- Mengoingthereway

Nobleking2000:
OK what of Facebook?

PotatoSalad:
He needed steps, I gave him steps.

iamademola:
I

Have had the same experience as you bro same location.

I dated A runs girl for 5 years until when I went to serve somewhere in south south and I used my room mate phone to dial her number cos my phone was off. Her nick name popped out. I ended the call, she called back immediately and was surprised to know it was me.
She burst into tears I ask my guy wassup and at first he didn't wanna open up 2nd day the guy clear me. Omo that girl Na runs girl .

It Was had to blive , called her and she deny. Later some months she was under the influence of alcohol she called and tell me all the story... I was wow . I moved on asap as a strong guy.
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Now it's story . .

jiboladhino:
Bought a new phone for her and decided to take her old one , unfortunately she failed to clear her Whatsapp conversations , the rest as they say is history ..... Funny thing is I still love her to bits ....

TanyLoe:
Really funny
All am seeing here is she did that
I caught her doing this
What about "him"

Joystark:
Next we'll hear, 'Boy arrested after scalding girlfriend with hot water, following confirmation of cheating'

Goddyj:
I discovered that the Punamy has become so wide, so I needed no body to tell me that some dude with a larger cucumber is seriously pounding my baby

So I left with my tiny joystick

Wizywiz:
she is not oooo...she is still slaying...

kneehighbootz:
Look at this one. so the guy is allowed to be an animal but pocohantas is not supposed to defend herself?
Did you read where he said he would pay guys to rape her? Why didn't you caution your fellow guy?

Would you allow a guy to talk to your sister like that? if its not good enough for your sister, then its definitely not good for pocohantas. she's someone's sister and future mother too.

Talk to your men. Respect begets respect.

BrainSanitizer:
She caught you with a woman. She was furious. Nearly left you. You begged. Swore never to cheat on her again. But you weren't sure you'll stop 'cos she's far better than your wife in bed. Clean. Tight. Curvy. 1st class in BJ. Grade 1 lips. 2 days later, you found out that the woman you were 4king is the wife of the guy who's 4king your wife.
Why would somebody in their right senses cheat on a woman like the one you cheated with? You asked yourself. Someone preferred your lazy, unromantic, wide-holed wife to a classical lover? Unbelievable!

The above is to all men and women.
Do not be complacent. Even millionaires who wear gold get tired of wearing gold sometimes. They want to feel how it feels to not wear gold.
It's natural.
Men, women, be dynamic. Give your partner something new. Don't be like what you were yesterday. You'll turn out to be boring no matter how fantastically endowed you are.
Good luck to all men and women.

romenna:
I didn't ask but she packaged d fone and returned it to me.

MenGoingThereWay:
No matter how this ladies call men dogs it still doesn't change the fact that ladies cheat more than men.

My own experience is that most of the girls I have nice time with all have boyfriends or someone they are serious with. It's so bad that they tell me about their relationship issues and I get to advise them after we have had rounds of Sex. Some even have 3 guys they claim to be serious with, some even tell me about pastors and married men who toast them or who they had unplanned Sex with and how there bf is suspecting them.

These girls keep making it difficult for me to trust ladies with their cheating and selfish ways. They don't feel a single remorse when in the act till they are caught. One was riding me and a call from her boyfriend came in and she immediately put her hands on my neck, giving me the eye sign to stop my thrusting. These babe spoke to her boyfriend as if she wasn't doing anything and even told him she loves him and after the call she aggressively rode me while she had this evil grin. I had a lot of thoughts run through my head at that moment.

The second instance, I was with this babe and her phone rang and I helped her reach for it and the call ID read " MY love" . I handed the phone to her and she just threw it on the bed saying " abeg abeg I don't have time to be answering jamb question". You can imagine.

Another one asked me in her words "how can I say I have boy friend and it feels like am single" and I was like then let him go and in her words " he is a nice guy, he understands me and will make a good husband ". These girls can be selfish and mean.

You may think it's about money, care and time but most times its not because many have serious bf who do their best to give them all these and you wonder what these girls want. I used to make out with one whose bf was super rich and cartered for her but do you know this girl opened mouth to tell me about two other men and that she will be touring with one of the men while she tells her bf she has gone to visit her sick mum.

Aside students even the working class aren't left out...That's a talk for another day.

Men take my advice and you will be happy you did

- Men don't need love we need respect. Once a girl don't respect you dump her sorry bum

- Always have it in mind that no girl owes you anything till you pay her bride price

- Make yourself less available for these girls. These has worked for me well. Itso good you give these girls an impression that you are busy, focused and they come second. Do this and watch how they will always want to be around you and jump to come meet you each time you call.

- Give these girls space don't choke them

- When it comes to the bed be dominant let them see you using them to satisfy your sexual cravings. Don't pity them ooh..spank ass, pull hair etc. That does a lot to their psych. Topic for another day

- Never take a cheating girl back. I once advised my cousin the young man refused and 2 years down the line his girlfriend who he introduced to the family got pregnant for yahoo boy ���.

Many are still screwing me, they are unrepentant whilst they confess love to their bf.

- Mengoingthereway

TanyLoe:
Really funny
All am seeing here is she did that
I caught her doing this
What about "him"

ImaIma1:
Funny enough, it is mostly men sharing their stories .

PotatoSalad:
Go to the person's file manager, then go to WhatsApp, go to databases and find the chat backup of the day you want to explore. It's in .crypt12 format
Copy and send the database to your phone via Bluetooth. Don't forget to clear Bluetooth activity after sending. Then download WhatsApp Business, paste the database file in the WhatsApp folder/databases and do as if you're creating a new account, enter your second number and restore backup.
All her chats will now be displayed on your WhatsApp business app. Then read and drink sniper