Whoa,this is messed up

Timih:

No leave me like this

I'm pretty sure it will get to the homepage before the day is over. Pele dear

Ishilove:

First of all, you need to get to the root cause of his actions. Was he conditioned by what he saw on TV or was he conditioned by the housemaid? The answer will determine where to apply the beating.

The maid who has been living w| them, who has been bathing and dressing the 7-year old AND evidently, whom he was caught w| during the course of engaging in these sexual acts, is likely the one who introduced him to them. This was the first time OP caught them but this was probably not their first time doing whatever they were doing, thus she is most likely the root cause, considering she has had access to him.

If anything, she is the one who needs beating.

What? Honoestly, that girl needs beating. Please allow your wife to come and beat her jor before sending her away. These are the kind of house girl that sleep with father and son in a home.

Many of them never change. Send her away immediately if you want any positive change in your son.

So heartbroken.

Houseofglam7:
Whoa,this is messed up

And so heartbroken.

genq:
I don't mean to gloat over your son's misfortune but this is what happens when a mother leaves the raising of her children to outsiders. Let me guess your wife is too busy to take care of the kids right? Because shes a "modern working class woman".

Go and ask women abroad how they manage to work full time and still raise their own children without househelp. Unlike these ones in Nigeria who after just one child, they can't do chores again. House helps are then put in place to assume the duties of a wife and mother.

Your son is one of many children out there suffering the consequences of these lifestyle choices.

You can't even compare both. The available facilities are different and also the flexible working arrangement. Abroad, the husband and wife might be working alternative hours which gives them time to be with the kids. The ones that can afford it, get nannies. Even my inlaw in the US has a nanny

Daisy17:


I disagree with you. Beating does not solve the problem. The dad has to create a safe space for the boy to feel comfortable enough to express himself and have an honest conversation. Beating will cause the child to close up. This is the reason why a lot of parents do not have close, open relationships with their kids. What will make a child be open when they know that it will lead to beating?

no mind them 15th century fathers who thought beating solved problems

celeb4reallife:
What? Honoestly, that girl needs beating. Please allow your wife to come and beat her jor before sending her away. These are the kind of house girl that sleep with father and son in a home.

Many of them never change. Send her away immediately if you want any positive change in your son.

So heartbroken.

. Women

theButterfly:
The maid who has been living w| them, who has been bathing and dressing the 7-year old, AND evidently, whom he was caught w| during the course of engaging in these sexual acts, is likely the one who introduced him to them. This was the first time OP caught them but this was probably not their first time doing whatever they were doing, thus she is most likely the root cause, considering she has has been easily accessible to him and he, to her.

If anything, she is the one who needs beating.

The beating will be shared all round. Of course, the maid will get the lion's share. However, while dealing with her they should investigate if someone has been molesting her too, or if she is just plain rotten.

genq:
I don't mean to gloat over your son's misfortune but this is what happens when a mother leaves the raising of her children to outsiders. Let me guess your wife is too busy to take care of the kids right? Because shes a "modern working class woman".

Go and ask women abroad how they manage to work full time and still raise their own children without househelp. Unlike these ones in Nigeria who after just one child, they can't do chores again. House helps are then put in place to assume the duties of a wife and mother.

Your son is one of many children out there suffering the consequences of these lifestyle choices.

In haste to comment, let's make sense.

1. Most husband of working wives are Very Very hands on. Several peeps have commented how Nigerian husbands automatically take shape when they move abroad.

2. There are several part time jobs

3. The system is more predictable so there is better planning.

I know that wives don't leave their homes early, get home late, run the home and care for the kids alone in the 'abroad'.

Daisy17:


I disagree with you. Beating does not solve the problem. The dad has to create a safe space for the boy to feel comfortable enough to express himself and have an honest conversation. Beating will cause the child to close up. This is the reason why a lot of parents do not have close, open relationships with their kids. What will make a child be open when they know that it will lead to beating?

Close open relationship.

Sounded funny.

The only case I see here is modern slavery... Just look at the thread topic. Like you have a 14 year old slave?? Wow!

bukatyne:


Close open relationship.

Sounded funny.

This is the reason I used an Oxford comma. This is to show the fact that they are two separate things. A close relationship that encourages openness.

Daisy17:


This is the reason I used an Oxford comma. This is to show the fact that they are two separate things. A close relationship that encourages openness.

Thumbs up.

you had a 14 years old girl bath a 7 years old boy?
story smells ...

Stupid story, awon who.rre mongers. You are all going to hell

A 7 year old is already squeezing breasts
You and your wife have a 14 year old slave in this modern age.Maybe this is punishment for your wickedness.
Go and hire a proper nanny
Idiots
How are we not sure she is not doing with your son what you are doing to her.Mr peeping Tom
Perverted house of horror

Timih:

He is bro.. He's my nigga.. That's why i relate with him as if we are mates

No, he's not your nigga, don't relate with a seven year old kid as if he's your mate, if you continue like this he will learn to disrespect you. No no no. What are your values at home? are you the spiritual leader of your home? your son will learn from you and your wife. Why's he keeping secrets at that tender age? even if the girl is at fault your boy should have opened up to one of you.


At 7, he's already having intimate affairs and keeping secrets. What I think you should do is to start parenting, at his age he should be able to bath himself and wear his clothes, what's going on in your house? why's he still being given bathes if he's so smart like you say? what I see is a thoroughly spoilt kid who lacks proper parental guidance.

OK...,so first of all before I begin...I need you to rule out that fact that you are to blame or you did something wrong. This is important to note else, you will be in a guilty frame of mind and mess things up more.

Solutions
1. Don't even beat the boy.DONT TRY IT. you can punish or discipline him but don't beat. Your son appears to be among the very tiny percentage of children that have what is known as old man sense. The cane won't have the desired effect.

2. You need to talk to him one in one. Luckily , you said u two relate like guy man. Therefore you will talk sense like guy man to him.

3. Unfortunately, you must take the girl out from your house. Trust me, if you don't do this, every other advise is a waste of time.

4. You must discipline your child. This vice he did in the scale of juvenile delinquency is among the highest/baddest. Take away his TV time, Fav games or toys but you must make sure you tell him why before and after the discipline ends.

5. Another adult, a discrete one, either from church or school must also talk and counsel him.leave your wife away from it, for now because she might be emotional and blow things out of proportion. Let me explain why: you'll be funny enough to realize that your son might claim to love her , and if your wife maltreats the maid out of anger, your son might feel they threatened his future wife ( ) and reset his mum. Or start proving stubborn to show he is a man... (If you work with kids, you'll know they can be funnily jokers ).

Lastly, my advice aren't the best. You know the best way to approach him, becos you understand him, better than we do. So consider the options and take the best.

Last last, trust me , he will turn out good. Don't feel sad or disappointed.
It will end in praise

So you caught children in a compromising situation and you retreated away like its not your house or like you were afraid of them.
You should have entered and startled them. There and then they should have gotten disciplinary words and actions from you and they should have been corrected. Instead, you came away saying its already in him wetin wetin. Hmm. He is too small for this kind of petting or fear from you.
Don't spoil your son please. He is your friend... Yes but he is also your son. You owe him discipline so his life can make meaning in future. Children sometimes turn around and blame their parents for not correcting and disciplining them on time. God help everyone.
Use the carrot and stick approach.

ifex370:
For the first time in a while.




I really don't know what to say.



But since your son is smart, call him and talk to him like a man.



He's still your best friend.



The koko is.. The faster you act, the better for both you ,your son and the future of this country.

Lol... abi future of the country is at stake like this...

Timih:

He is bro.. He's my nigga.. That's why i relate with him as if we are mates

He is not your nigga or your mate. He is your 7-year old child and your son. Start being HIS PARENT.

desvi:
you had a 14 years old girl bath a 7 years old boy?
story smells ...

Idk why they allowed the maid to be bathing and dressing him. A 7/almost 8-year old boy can bathe himself. That's something the parents should've taught him how to do. Should anyone bathe him, it should be his mother or father, no one else.

First of all...
People should stop having underaged helps... Unless they are your relatives. 14 years is still a child nau.

Better start giving your son the talk... In an age appropriate way. (Select the ones he can understand). This way he'll know the gravity of what he's doing.

Nigerian parents avoid it like a plague.
No wonder some of us learnt about sex in the weirdest ways.

Maybe find a way to bring God in the mix... Somehow.

The future of your son... And the nation as it is, lie in your hands, man.

Daisy17:


This is the reason I used an Oxford comma. This is to show the fact that they are two separate things. A close relationship that encourages openness.

Still sounds funny.

What is an Oxford comma?

Thank you all for all your inputs,i truly appreciate.
I've talked to him this evening, I asked him questions. He was trying to lie and do some sorts but I found my way in.. He said its not his first time of touching the girl's breast and she too do touch his pen.is sometimes. I was seriously down when he said this. He said more than thrice. I asked him why he didn't tell me or his mum, he said did day he wanted to tell me I was on call and mom was busy also then later mom called for night prayer. I was like, you could have told me still but I guess he's was afraid or ashamed to talk because I always give him attention when he calls me.
Well, I have talked to him like a son and brother, I've told him the implications of what he did and how bad it is,I've told him that he should report anybody that touches his manhood to me. He was close to tears though but I didn't threaten him throughout our conversation.

I've changed his plans, limited TV, more time with me, siezed his ball (still have some toys with him) and I'll have to make him spend more time with his books.. Hopefully he will change.. He was kind of relaxed I didn't beat him though

I haven't informed my wife about anything cos she's also faced a lot .. I seriously don't know how she will react and I don't want her to bounce on the maid, I just looked for something to make sure the maid goes and I've called the person that brought her that she's done here. I didn't even talk to the maid. I don't want to let anger take a high toll on me.. I just left her.

When they pick her up tomorrow, I'll tell her ward about what she did. I'll also take him to school tomorrow and tell his teacher talk to him and watch him too.

I pray he change...thank you all.. May God keep us and our children safe

Modified

Thank you all once again but I want to clarify some things. The maid was brought to me by her mother not a trafficker, the mother gave birth to 6 girls and 3 boys and she can't cater for them all. No husband and no profitable income. My wife was kind of against the idea but I just felt that the maid will help her the more, with a new born baby at hand. I didn't know I have committed a child abuse by employing a teen less than 18,I didn't know until now. So sorry about that.

I told her mother what happened and with the way she replied, most of her girls have been exposed to such so it's basically from home. She apologised and I also did for cutting short our terms. I gave her some money just to help

I don't even know who to say sorry to for committing a child abuse.. Maybe the mother, the girl, the people here or my wife. I'm so sorry and I won't have anything to do with any teen. I'm deeply sorry

Get a new house help.

Chaaiii

Lol this is hilarious

Mr man Rape the house maid too. That's draw. You married a lazy wife.

Timih:

Thank you

This is my story and I'm literally laughing out loud right now.
I can't type everything so I'll give you a summary of my experience and arrange it from number 1 to 13.

1. My Dad is a legal practitioner, now a Judge, and my Mum is a medical practitioner. I'm their first son as well. I do not intend to glorify myself but I'm intelligent. I cheated other pupils during end of term awards as they barely got any of those awards. I considered my most formidable opponents in such award ceremonies as unintelligent. That's the level of my mental ability.

2. When I was five, Dad picked me to his office after school as was the daily tradition, a Law Firm I now preside over, and left me with his secretary. A woman in her mid twenties ,I presume, since she married while I was still in Nursery School. I attended an expensive private school.

3. The secretary took me to the restroom when I requested to ease myself. She took out the most important organ which was needed for the easing and after I urinated she robbed it till it became erect and told me "that's how to charge my battery". She told me it would charge naturally when I see a girl I love. I became fond of her.

4. I returned home and my Mum always had to stay in the hospital some days because of her night schedule. Those days Dad would join her there because she was a resident doctor. We had a maid , she always prepared us (me and my brothers) for school. She always bathed us and after the incidence with my father's secretary my "battery would charge" when she baths me. She was 10 years older than I am. 15-16 years should have been her age that period and she was very brilliant that my parents would later sponsor her university education.

5. She was in her penultimate class in secondary school after she earned the prize of overall best in her class, Mum and Dad praised her. She took me to my Dad's room because she wanted to make bed. That day my parents were at home. She pulled me to herself kissed me and took off her bra and panties. I really fondled her breasts but I was scared of what was revealed when she did let go her panties. She told me to put my finger inside her...... but I thought it was disgusting. I just kept handling her breasts. Till today I love a lady's breasts more than anything and get a little bit scared of the opening within two thighs.

6. This relationship continued for years as my parents sponsored her Tertiary education and gave her more freedom. She taught me how to write poems ,how to draw and how to appreciate nature.


7. She graduated and my parents didn't allow her to go for NYSC . I was in secondary school then. She got a job and now she was more of a Personal Assistant to my mother.

8. Men began giving her gifts and despite everything I still had access to her boobs. I slept in her room for siesta and my parents didn't suspect anything. She changed her clothes before me without wearing anything. We were that close. I still think about it today how she still allowed me to play intimately with her even after she graduated and suitors were after her.

9. She got married, my parents still love her and call her first daughter. A younger doctor Who is a family friend actually married her.

10. When she left, I took to pornography and had my first wet dream. I'm glad I didn't see my semen when she was still around.

11. I excelled in academics and was one of the best graduating students from the faculty of Law.

12. My parents are ministers in the church but I don't even believe in the supernatural. I think religion is a joke despite years of Bible practice from childhood.

13. I'm under 23 and I look forward to being a billionaire by 25. I talked with her this night and she is happy with her marriage and she thinks kids are difficult to raise because she has gotten two now. That's the statement a career woman makes and you know she wants a house keeper to assist her. Everything just flashed into my memory now. So many questions in my space. Will she find a maid who will repeat the cycle? Will she notice it? Will she allow her maid to love her own son the way she loves me? Will she even forgive the maid if the "evitable" happens? Did she even molest me or it was just a strong example of a teenager and kid in love?

I haven't told you guys why I want to be a billionaire. I want to be a billionaire to fulfill my sexual fantasies of having sex in a plane, in a yatch, an underwater boat. I want to be mild in my bondage and discipline escapades, tying that ribbon around the eyes of my wife and thrusting her till she yells to the mounts of Lebanon and beg the forces of the Universe for the permanence of such moments.

A beast was created in me but I have been celibate and intend to remain so till the one comes around.

Do not touch your Young Boy. He knows what adults know and he will never "unknow" it. Concentrate on building a young man who will be the head of a corporation or government and lead a good cause for the benefit of our human race.

Sincerely speaking abi nah typing I'm scared of having kids, I literally panic at the thought of it cos everything is just wrong in the world