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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by FarahAideed: 12:11am On Jul 16
Timih:
I'm very disturbed now cry

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me cry cry cry

Pardon my English pls.. Just help


I hope you know you are also commiting child labour

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by MobilityExpress: 12:12am On Jul 16
Are you sure your son has not been watching Big Brother Nigeria?

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by enemyofprogress: 12:12am On Jul 16
See what Buhari has caused for this family now. If only penis is detachable, I would have asked you to detach it and give it back to him on his wedding night.

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by enemyofprogress: 12:13am On Jul 16
Ishilove:

I'm pretty sure it will get to the homepage before the day is over. Pele dear
why are you peleing him? Do you know him?

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by MobilityExpress: 12:13am On Jul 16
And from your own story OP, the maid wasn't sexually assaulting your son. It was your son sexually assaulting the maid.

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by Seahawk: 12:14am On Jul 16
He’s 8 she’s 14. She definitely got him into it. They might both be minors by the law but she’s very much older than him in the kid spectrum and should be the one correcting him.

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by bleskid(m): 12:15am On Jul 16
i have seen a vision .mmmmmmm u will b grandfather at young age grin

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by Darlor55: 12:17am On Jul 16
how old ar they?
Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by enemyofprogress: 12:19am On Jul 16
Before anything take your son to the hospital for proper medical check ups. Those small house helps na Donatus o, them they fok any available prick, from oga, to gardener, to driver, to houseboy, to mai suya, to meat seller in the market, even you if you wan do she dey ready to give you. The middle name na ask and you shall be given.

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by micflo28(m): 12:19am On Jul 16
You answered the question. Take charge. Take charge as a man. Bath him, dress him, talk with him, play with him when you have the time and be bold enough to talk to the girl about corrupting you son in any way. Be vigillant. She is a househelp not a slave. Do not leave d welfare of your kids completely to a stranger and an equally impressionable juvenile. Most of all, buy you kid toys, animated books, bible for kids and cartoons and if atall the church is close to your house, register him in a kid bible study class he can walk into and attend at close of school. This is all to keep ur child to be the kid he still is.

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by enemyofprogress: 12:19am On Jul 16
Darlor55:
how old ar they?
you no fit read?

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by EmzyT(m): 12:19am On Jul 16
7 years old boy don sabi to Squeeze breasts? shocked

when i was his age, i still dey wear pant, no Shirt dey drive tyre for heavy rain

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by xynerise(m): 12:23am On Jul 16
We should be careful what we watch around kids and who we leave our kids with.

I think you should educate your son on the risks involved having Sex. Yes, I said so. Duh! He is obviously not too young to know about it
Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by Chukalemon(m): 12:24am On Jul 16
You have to cushion your dude very well.judging by perspective angle.the dude might been accused of raping a girl even if the girl is much older than him.so that is why you should guilde your son very well.let not anything happens to the girl.
Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by Eromzi(m): 12:24am On Jul 16
A 14yrs old girl bathing a boy of 8yrs is like putting goat and yam together and expect your yam to be the same. Oga that's where it all started.

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by 2mch(m): 12:24am On Jul 16
Take that girl for test first. Then talk to your son and tell him about touching people inappropriately and when they touch him too. Teach him how to react to these advances.
Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by darkelf: 12:25am On Jul 16
theButterfly:
You don't beat a little boy who has been molested.

You weren't there to just conclude the girl initiated the molestation.

Even if she is way older than him. A accessory she is, but we can't rule out the fact that the boy could've initiated it all

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by EmzyT(m): 12:25am On Jul 16
MobilityExpress:
And from your own story OP, the maid wasn't sexually assaulting your son. It was your son sexually assaulting the maid.




Leave am make him dey mumugrin

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by Sniper101(m): 12:26am On Jul 16
Similar s.hit happened to me back when I was 9 cry

But now when I think about it, damn, I know I use to love those s.hit back then; even as a kid grin

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by nabegibeg: 12:26am On Jul 16
Timih:
I'm very disturbed now cry

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me cry cry cry

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by condemn: 12:31am On Jul 16
Even me man when be 34 years going to 35, our housemaid that year, yansh me when I small. Na one secret when I keep till today. I should be around 12 years then

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by Zeewirld: 12:31am On Jul 16
Timih:
Thank you all for all your inputs,i truly appreciate.
I've talked to him this evening, I asked him questions. He was trying to lie and do some sorts but I found my way in.. He said its not his first time of touching the girl's breast and she too do touch his pen.is sometimes. I was seriously down when he said this. He said more than thrice. I asked him why he didn't tell me or his mum, he said did day he wanted to tell me I was on call and mom was busy also then later mom called for night prayer. I was like, you could have told me still but I guess he's was afraid or ashamed to talk because I always give him attention when he calls me.
Well, I have talked to him like a son and brother, I've told him the implications of what he did and how bad it is,I've told him that he should report anybody that touches his manhood to me. He was close to tears though but I didn't threaten him throughout our conversation.

I've changed his plans, limited TV, [b]more time with me, siezed his ball (still have some toys [/b]with him) and I'll have to make him spend more time with his books.. Hopefully he will change.. He was kind of relaxed I didn't beat him though

I haven't informed my wife about anything cos she's also faced a lot .. I seriously don't know how she will react and I don't want her to bounce on the maid, I just looked for something to make sure the maid goes and I've called the person that brought her that she's done here. I didn't even talk to the maid. I don't want to let anger take a high toll on me.. I just left her.

When they pick her up tomorrow, I'll tell her ward about what she did. I'll also take him to school tomorrow and tell his teacher talk to him and watch him too.

I pray he change...thank you all.. May God keep us and our children safe
.

>Would you have sent that girl away If she was to have to be your daughter?

>How can a 14-year-old child be bathing a "smart" 7 going to 8 years old Nigga??

>When did your son become your Nigga?

>What kind of a parent are you?

>How long would you continue to spoil your child by bathing him?

>What exactly is your role in this boy's life when you still need a teacher to talk to him

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by Stillthebest: 12:31am On Jul 16
Alot happen these days. Mistake you made thag you should not repeat again;
Don't allow your son be bathed by any female and vice versa. You need to know that the maid introduced him to it.

In my aunt's house at Bida, I learnt that male children or visitors don't enter female rooms or bathrooms and vice versa.. at certain ages there are movies or music videos they don't allow them watch.

I knew the meaning when I grew up. In fact all the children today are what any parents would be proud of(doing very well home n abroad) with good manners.

Be close to him and no matter how close pls scold him always when necessary and always act fast about kids. Don't say let me watch for a while. When they get to that stage that u don't act too quick you would know.

As to the case, you haven't failed. Kids these days are smart. But kindly scold him about these and create some fears as regards what he's doing in his minds.

Create that impression that will tremble him.. shalom!☺️

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by Larryndelaw: 12:32am On Jul 16
U people should just stop bring issues that supposed to be handled by your fu......ing self on these FORUM. If u are not mature enough to have a family, u better quit now. Rubbish

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by Nwakannaya1: 12:33am On Jul 16
Timih:
Thank you all for all your inputs,i truly appreciate.
I've talked to him this evening, I asked him questions. He was trying to lie and do some sorts but I found my way in.. He said its not his first time of touching the girl's breast and she too do touch his pen.is sometimes. I was seriously down when he said this. He said more than thrice. I asked him why he didn't tell me or his mum, he said did day he wanted to tell me I was on call and mom was busy also then later mom called for night prayer. I was like, you could have told me still but I guess he's was afraid or ashamed to talk because I always give him attention when he calls me.
Well, I have talked to him like a son and brother, I've told him the implications of what he did and how bad it is,I've told him that he should report anybody that touches his manhood to me. He was close to tears though but I didn't threaten him throughout our conversation.

I've changed his plans, limited TV, more time with me, siezed his ball (still have some toys with him) and I'll have to make him spend more time with his books.. Hopefully he will change.. He was kind of relaxed I didn't beat him though

I haven't informed my wife about anything cos she's also faced a lot .. I seriously don't know how she will react and I don't want her to bounce on the maid, I just looked for something to make sure the maid goes and I've called the person that brought her that she's done here. I didn't even talk to the maid. I don't want to let anger take a high toll on me.. I just left her.

When they pick her up tomorrow, I'll tell her ward about what she did. I'll also take him to school tomorrow and tell his teacher talk to him and watch him too.

I pray he change...thank you all.. May God keep us and our children safe

I have gone through the comments here, if you had not called the person that brought her, I would have preferred otherwise. Both of them are still kids, but you only talked to your son and believed him, I think you should as well talk to her, the revelations could be surprising.

Although sending her away will go a long way to correct the situation but your maid deserves a fair hearing unless there are other reasons for sending her parking.

You may not tell girl why she is leaving, but believe me, your son had told her your discussion with him, so, she would figure it out.

Again, don't reveal the secrets of your son to his teacher in school in plain terms, your son will lose confidence in you, you can tell the teacher to just watch him closely, that you don't understand him a again.

In all, my point is, hear from the girl too. It may be someone close to you that first touched her and she learnt the touching game.

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by meobizy(m): 12:33am On Jul 16
Oh, hey, it’s the everyone-awake-must-participate thread of the night.
I am present.
Who else is?
Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by MaNyEsq(m): 12:34am On Jul 16
I think you should have a talk with your maid. It goes without saying, "Monkey see, monkey do." Your little man [son] must have seen such sexual behavior exhibited somewhere or by someone that she must have been in close contact with on a regular basis. If according to you, he did not get that promiscuity from you, then the only other plausible person must be your maid and besides she bathes him. So, I think you should have a very serious talk with her to find out what she has been doing to or with your son. Good luck.
Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by perforetti(m): 12:35am On Jul 16
Daisy17:


The reason why many women abroad don't get house helps is due to the prohibitive cost. Secondly, many employers are more flexible and allow parents to choose their hours. There is also the option of working from home. Lastly, the transportation system in most major cities is more reliable and effective. It is not fair to compare women in Africa to their counterparts in the Western world. Trust me, many women would have help if they could afford it. Aren't there daycare centres?

Couldn't have been better said. Do yo live abroad? Cos you hit the nail on the head. People don't have helps here because it is expensive, and the ones who can afford it do get it. I have a 1 and half year old and I know how difficult it was to cope, I had my mum come to help for 8months and my mother inlaw currently helping, and will keep recycling our mothers visits to assist I and my mrs. also add daycare 2days in a week. It's not easy las las and people find it easy to jump to conclusions about why others make the decisions they do without knowin fully well people have different circumstances they are dealing with, and nobody knows it all or there's no particular way of doing one thing.

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by Deepthoughts: 12:38am On Jul 16
Timih:
I'm very disturbed now cry

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me cry cry cry

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

talk true from your heart of heart,the boy no resemble you?

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Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by Fvckmoderators: 12:39am On Jul 16
It's like they had access to explicit material.
Re: I Caught My Housemaid Sexually Assaulting My Son by Blabbermouth: 12:40am On Jul 16
Timih:
I'm very disturbed now cry

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me cry cry cry

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

"train your child in the way of the lord, so when he grows he won't depart from it" is far better than, "Don't do this, do this " kind of parenting.
Young ones are still malleable, make them understand why certain things are wrong , let it come as filth in their eyes just as it is in yours. Rather than "this is wrong because daddy says it is wrong. Let them reason " This is wrong because it feels wrong, it is wrong because I know it is wrong, and wrong things should be avoided "

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