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Timih:
I'm very disturbed now

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

at 14 she cannot be sexually assaulting your son . they are both minors.

The first step is that that maid leaves your house. He needs counselling and not beating. He already knows things - adult stuffs, so, don't hesitate to teach him sex education. The counsellors must include sex education as part of his healing.

Another thing, has he ever woken up to you and your wife having sex together?
Again, this might sound unpleasant, but, maybe you might have peeped longer to know the extent they have gone. Interview your son where and when he is relaxed, and he will open up to you.

genq:
Good.

But just so you know, that 14 year old girl you employed is a CHILD just as your son is. It could very much be a mutual affair between them.

I know your madam will beat that girl once she hears of it but I must warn you that if she lays a hand on that girl child, she will never know joy over her own children. Mark my words.

I'm just warning you ahead of time. Protect and guide that girl like she is your own. If your wife cannot correct her in love, then send her back peacefully.

Too much sense will not kill you.

Well said

No much cause for alarm if only you change certain thing.For I was probably worst than him.In my own case it was a guy that was luring me and we were playing and doing all sort of adult rubbish naked.We were hoping to do such with one lady that was older and bigger but it didn't work out.
The good news was that before I finished primary school I have began to know about Jesus(Even )And luckily till I got married in my 30's I never slept with any lady.

So,train him in the ways of the lord that he may not depart from it when he grows.

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Nigerians are absolutely nuts. The maid is '14" years old! You are dealing with teenager, a baby turned into "maid" due to poverty. If at 14 she is molesting your 7 year old, she qas probably molested herself.

Think about it. A child in their early teen years has no business being your maid. Yourself and wife should collaborate to help each other out. You could have learned to bathe your son instead of hiring a child to do your duties.

I feel bad for your child because he is 7. You or his mother hitting him means nothing. The child needs care, vigilance so that he does not repeat that behaviour outside your home. Show that child love and caution him gently. Hitting him will only add to damaging his self concept. You have the power to mioud your child Now!

My man sorry for that actions

Thank God you detected on time as a sharp father like me too.

How on earth am I gonna blame you,to be honest you have done nothing wrong raising your son.

You are doing your best as a father.if you seat at home how will you be able to cater for the family it’s never done.

You have no single fault

My advice goes thus,for all mothers always listen to what the husband want.

Am sure your wife will be the one who brought the ideas of house help.

We should not let our wife controls the house all for the sake of love.

Be hard on him this days a bit,never welcome him with junior how you Dey anymore.

When ever he sees you always mandate it for him to prostrate and greet you.

Cut the Dstv off for now and face his future.


Your house help has been the cause of this whole problems,she has been spoilt from day one hence wanna start practicing her way-ward life with your son when ever you aren’t at home.

Stop playing love games with your wife in front of your son and house help.

Finally before sending the house parking try to know what led her into that shit of hers.


Lastly always make sure That your wife dedicate time for your son.

If her work will never let her have time for your son let her quit that job with immediate effect.

You need to be strict as a father and stop living the life of USA in Nigeria.

In my own house my yes is my yes no body can change it even my mother she dare not.as a naval personnel it’s never an easy task.

Follows all my instructions and thank me later

Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court.

Stay blessed brother.

I am sure he inherited that from his father

Please dont beat him, but counsel him. He is a victim, the housemaid is the sexual predator because she is older than your son. Send her packing immediately.

bros, it is finished! just take him to rehabilitation center for therapy.
u cannot do it alone.

You are truly a beast mate�����........... And in your story you've got a motivation for life

Freehuman:
This is my story and I'm literally laughing out loud right now.
I can't type everything so I'll give you a summary of my experience and arrange it from number 1 to 13.

1. My Dad is a legal practitioner, now a Judge, and my Mum is a medical practitioner. I'm their first son as well. I do not intend to glorify myself but I'm intelligent. I cheated other pupils during end of term awards as they barely got any of those awards. I considered my most formidable opponents in such award ceremonies as unintelligent. That's the level of my mental ability.

2. When I was five, Dad picked me to his office after school as was the daily tradition, a Law Firm I now preside over, and left me with his secretary. A woman in her mid twenties ,I presume, since she married while I was still in Nursery School. I attended an expensive private school.

3. The secretary took me to the restroom when I requested to ease myself. She took out the most important organ which was needed for the easing and after I urinated she robbed it till it became erect and told me "that's how to charge my battery". She told me it would charge naturally when I see a girl I love. I became fond of her.

4. I returned home and my Mum always had to stay in the hospital some days because of her night schedule. Those days Dad would join her there because she was a resident doctor. We had a maid , she always prepared us (me and my brothers) for school. She always bathed us and after the incidence with my father's secretary my "battery would charge" when she baths me. She was 10 years older than I am. 15-16 years should have been her age that period and she was very brilliant that my parents would later sponsor her university education.

5. She was in her penultimate class in secondary school after she earned the prize of overall best in her class, Mum and Dad praised her. She took me to my Dad's room because she wanted to make bed. That day my parents were at home. She pulled me to herself kissed me and took off her bra and panties. I really fondled her breasts but I was scared of what was revealed when she did let go her panties. She told me to put my finger inside her...... but I thought it was disgusting. I just kept handling her breasts. Till today I love a lady's breasts more than anything and get a little bit scared of the opening within two thighs.

6. This relationship continued for years as my parents sponsored her Tertiary education and gave her more freedom. She taught me how to write poems ,how to draw and how to appreciate nature.


7. She graduated and my parents didn't allow her to go for NYSC . I was in secondary school then. She got a job and now she was more of a Personal Assistant to my mother.

8. Men began giving her gifts and despite everything I still had access to her boobs. I slept in her room for siesta and my parents didn't suspect anything. She changed her clothes before me without wearing anything. We were that close. I still think about it today how she still allowed me to play intimately with her even after she graduated and suitors were after her.

9. She got married, my parents still love her and call her first daughter. A younger doctor Who is a family friend actually married her.

10. When she left, I took to pornography and had my first wet dream. I'm glad I didn't see my semen when she was still around.

11. I excelled in academics and was one of the best graduating students from the faculty of Law.

12. My parents are ministers in the church but I don't even believe in the supernatural. I think religion is a joke despite years of Bible practice from childhood.

13. I'm under 23 and I look forward to being a billionaire by 25. I talked with her this night and she is happy with her marriage and she thinks kids are difficult to raise because she has gotten two now. That's the statement a career woman makes and you know she wants a house keeper to assist her. Everything just flashed into my memory now. So many questions in my space. Will she find a maid who will repeat the cycle? Will she notice it? Will she allow her maid to love her own son the way she loves me? Will she even forgive the maid if the "evitable" happens? Did she even molest me or it was just a strong example of a teenager and kid in love?

I haven't told you guys why I want to be a billionaire. I want to be a billionaire to fulfill my sexual fantasies of having sex in a plane, in a yatch, an underwater boat. I want to be mild in my bondage and discipline escapades, tying that ribbon around the eyes of my wife and thrusting her till she yells to the mounts of Lebanon and beg the forces of the Universe for the permanence of such moments.

A beast was created in me but I have been celibate and intend to remain so till the one comes around.

Do not touch your Young Boy. He knows what adults know and he will never "unknow" it. Concentrate on building a young man who will be the head of a corporation or government and lead a good cause for the benefit of our human race.

Timih:
Thank you all for all your inputs,i truly appreciate.
I've talked to him this evening, I asked him questions. He was trying to lie and do some sorts but I found my way in.. He said its not his first time of touching the girl's breast and she too do touch his pen.is sometimes. I was seriously down when he said this. He said more than thrice. I asked him why he didn't tell me or his mum, he said did day he wanted to tell me I was on call and mom was busy also then later mom called for night prayer. I was like, you could have told me still but I guess he's was afraid or ashamed to talk because I always give him attention when he calls me.
Well, I have talked to him like a son and brother, I've told him the implications of what he did and how bad it is,I've told him that he should report anybody that touches his manhood to me. He was close to tears though but I didn't threaten him throughout our conversation.

I've changed his plans, limited TV, more time with me, siezed his ball (still have some toys with him) and I'll have to make him spend more time with his books.. Hopefully he will change.. He was kind of relaxed I didn't beat him though

I haven't informed my wife about anything cos she's also faced a lot .. I seriously don't know how she will react and I don't want her to bounce on the maid, I just looked for something to make sure the maid goes and I've called the person that brought her that she's done here. I didn't even talk to the maid. I don't want to let anger take a high toll on me.. I just left her.

When they pick her up tomorrow, I'll tell her ward about what she did. I'll also take him to school tomorrow and tell his teacher talk to him and watch him too.

I pray he change...thank you all.. May God keep us and our children safe

Let nothing happen to that 14 year old kid. You are into child trafficking sir and you should really reflect on that. Please stop child slavery. That 14 year old girl has parents. It’s unfortunate that you don’t even know her parents but instead is thinking of dumping her to the middle man slave dealer who brought her to your home.

She need counselling. You are only concerned about your son but not her! Shame. Why don’t you try and find out from her what really happened instead of relying on the words of your ‘matey’ 7 year old son.

Would you give out your 14 year old child to a child trafficker to love-vendor to another family you don’t know?

Send that kid to her parents. If you don’t know them, bring that girl close to you and ask her. She needs love. Sadly no one care about her.

To all of you asking him to beat her up without counselling and finding out the root cause of all these, I bet you’ll will accept it if some unknown person out there do same to your children.

To all of you abusing underaged kids you got from middle men child traffickers, Bleep you all. May you all be treated the way you treat your slave children.

Contrary opinion, in my own prospective, it seems you guys sleep together in a room, are you sure the boy is always asleep whenever you want to "see" her mum?



either Yes or no, always make sure he's asleep before anything can happen

Thank God you discovered on time, please don't beat him sit-in down and talk to him like your best friend and let ur wife understand what happened,you know women pampered children a lot. God will help you

Don't be too hard on urself ....U have not failed I promise u it will be ok

BEHAVIOURAL THERAPIST AND PSYCHOLIGIST for your son. Early intervention works well.

Hhhhryytfcc

genq:
Good.

But just so you know, that 14 year old girl you employed is a CHILD just as your son is. It could very much be a mutual affair between them.

I know your madam will beat that girl once she hears of it but I must warn you that if she lays a hand on that girl child, she will never know joy over her own children. Mark my words.

I'm just warning you ahead of time. Protect and guide that girl like she is your own. If your wife cannot correct her in love, then send her back peacefully.

You just spoke like a fool, can't you make your point like others did without laying unnecessary curses on his wife? Holier than though indeed, hypocrite. If he must treat the girl child like his, don't u think that a little rod is needed for correction. Where goes spare the rod n spoil the child? Or has this civilization thought us not to spank our children when they do something wrong again? Please always speak with wisdom

Nwakannaya1:
I have gone through the comments here, if you had not called the person that brought her, I would have preferred otherwise. Both of them are still kids, but you only talked to your son and believed him, I think you should as well talk to her, the revelations could be surprising.

Although sending her away will go a long way to correct the situation but your maid deserves a fair hearing unless there are other reasons for sending her parking.

You may not tell girl why she is leaving, but believe me, your son had told her your discussion with him, so, she would figure it out.

Again, don't reveal the secrets of your son to his teacher in school in plain terms, your son will lose confidence in you, you can tell the teacher to just watch him closely, that you don't understand him a again.

In all, my point is, hear from the girl too. It may be someone close to you that first touched her and she learnt the touching game.

He doesn't want to find out the truth, that's why he doesn't want to ask the girl.
His son might even be the one molesting the maid let's leave age aside.
I learnt all the bad things I know from primary school.

Timih:
I'm very disturbed now

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

1.There is a stage and process of knowing and learning the difference between right and wrong. At the age he barely knows or feels anything bt just mimicking what he has either seen or been thought.

2. It is obvious ur house maid is corrupt cos if she wasn’t she wud have cautioned ur kids rather than playing along and I’m almost sure she taught him or encouraged him in the silly act.

3. These kind of issues are taken or dealt with head on no dilly dally. It’s a serious thing and act that deserves punishment and talking too(bt not soo matured talks pls)

4. I think sm parents are becoming ridiculous in their interactions with their kids. Yes u want them to be cerebral and interactive doesn’t mean teaching or discussing overly mature stuffs with them unnecessarily or not handling them like kids. Infact I think it’s wrong to talk to ur kid like his ur mate. Beings frndly is just good enough. Which one is like ur mate? It causes more harm than good from my little experience with kids.

5. Discipline must be applied appropriately. If u don’t do this u will regret it in future. Train a child how he should go and he will not depart from it. What training are u giving to ur child or it’s the house maid that’s training him for u? That seems to be the case here.

Goodluck.

Timih:
I'm very disturbed now

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

yes you can take charge of bathing him and dressing him up. U see that is why I said parents have failed leaving their wards in the care of strangers in pursuit of material things has caused more damage to the younger generation than good. God help us all.

Timih:
I'm very disturbed now

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

Its time to teach him everything about sexual education. I mean Everything. At his age, he should be able to bathe for himself or you help out.

2. At no point is he allowed to enter the maid room and vise versa. Make it a rule

3. Limit his tv programme to cartoons and educative programs.

4. Spiritual education is important too....how often do you teach him the word of God

What kind of advise is this? Threatening kids with 'locking them up ' SMHquote author=zeb04 post=80297497]

I will call both of them together and threatened to lock them up if they don’t tell me who taught the other this nonsense. I will embarrass them in the presence of her parent and my partner.

If she taught my child this nonsense, by God, I am beating her ass.

Next I will take them for counseling everyday. Either ways, my child isn’t escaping some serious punishment.[/quote]

Timih:
He is bro.. He's my nigga.. That's why i relate with him as if we are mates

get this sermon "dancers at the gate of hell" by Dr D.K Olukoya and play it loud often, he's too young I know but you said he is smart, he'll pick up one or two.. That sermon made me super scared about sexual immorality...i heard it over and over again at the age of 16 or 17, I'm 24 now and I've not touched a woman. Not that I don't get the chance o, but what that man said in that sermon still scares the shut out of me... Try it

Timih:
I'm very disturbed now

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

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Timih:
I'm very disturbed now

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

Unfortunately, he's been exposed. But do not fret, just continue to show him love and be a good role model. Do not forget to be firm when needed though

What the hell are you still waiting for? Serious beating will reset their brains

Timih:
Thank you all for all your inputs,i truly appreciate.
I've talked to him this evening, I asked him questions. He was trying to lie and do some sorts but I found my way in.. He said its not his first time of touching the girl's breast and she too do touch his pen.is sometimes. I was seriously down when he said this. He said more than thrice. I asked him why he didn't tell me or his mum, he said did day he wanted to tell me I was on call and mom was busy also then later mom called for night prayer. I was like, you could have told me still but I guess he's was afraid or ashamed to talk because I always give him attention when he calls me.
Well, I have talked to him like a son and brother, I've told him the implications of what he did and how bad it is,I've told him that he should report anybody that touches his manhood to me. He was close to tears though but I didn't threaten him throughout our conversation.

I've changed his plans, limited TV, more time with me, siezed his ball (still have some toys with him) and I'll have to make him spend more time with his books.. Hopefully he will change.. He was kind of relaxed I didn't beat him though

I haven't informed my wife about anything cos she's also faced a lot .. I seriously don't know how she will react and I don't want her to bounce on the maid, I just looked for something to make sure the maid goes and I've called the person that brought her that she's done here. I didn't even talk to the maid. I don't want to let anger take a high toll on me.. I just left her.

When they pick her up tomorrow, I'll tell her ward about what she did. I'll also take him to school tomorrow and tell his teacher talk to him and watch him too.

I pray he change...thank you all.. May God keep us and our children safe

Man the way you care for your son and threat him is crazy. He's lucky to have you though. I'm certain some parents would have caused physical harm to that boy.

Timih:
I'm very disturbed now

This might be long

I've failed as a father.

I hope you get to see this.

First things first, no one has failed anyone. If you carry the mindset that you have already failed your boy then, you may never be able to help him.

He's a child, he will learn and explore. Teach him the word of God, train him in the right way, keep talking to him, become his friend. It doesn't matter how far or lost he may seem, he will always come home.

I did worst at his age because of peer pressure and the environment I was. Got drunk at 7 or 8, thirsted my first cigar earlier from a neighbor, smoked paper once in a while as an under 10, tapped current, etc. But I came out refined. The words and prayers of my parents never left me.

As a matter of fact, I never had a girlfriend in my university days, never got drunk or tasted alcohol after that incident, never smoked. Those were my own lessons which I got early in life.

By all standards, I am a successful guy today. On the contrary, my younger brother who is about 16 is a handful who wants to explore everything.

Kids will be kids. Continue to teach him what is right and make him understand why he should take his stand early.

Try to find out if you son or the maid is watching porn


Call your son and talk to him and ask him some serious questions to find out the truth and also do the same for the maid.

Then can take action from there