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cenaman:
Bros u no dey go anywhere who una wan live this country for if everybody travel go yankee? we die here together.

Blastedholligan:
There's this sweet Akata I met on fb, we are getting along well and she's thinking we could spend our lives together. She's a single mother of one, older than me with one year and a medical assistant.

Now the problem is, she doesn't really earn too much and she has accumulated alot of loans that could amount to 50k dols and she wants to acquire another to study at the University for 4years, calculating all these could amount to like 150k dols and I've not even talked about my own cos I'll have to sponsor myself through school.

Another issue is that I don't think I'm really ready to settle down cos I really need to hustle and make money to help my family if I eventually travel before marrying and I intend on doing a course here in Nigeria for Digital Marketing to help me secure a nice job.

My problem now is, I'm scared of marrying someone who has acquired these loans cos Las Las na me go still follow pay wetin I no sabi.

Please, I need a clear guide on what I should do cos I don't wanna be selfish here with her by using her to get to the USA, I'm very willing to let go of her if I have very good reasons to.

Pardon my scattered words.

Blastedholligan:
There's this sweet Akata I met on fb, we are getting along well and she's thinking we could spend our lives together. She's a single mother of one, older than me with one year and a medical assistant.

Now the problem is, she doesn't really earn too much and she has accumulated alot of loans that could amount to 50k dols and she wants to acquire another to study at the University for 4years, calculating all these could amount to like 150k dols and I've not even talked about my own cos I'll have to sponsor myself through school.

Another issue is that I don't think I'm really ready to settle down cos I really need to hustle and make money to help my family if I eventually travel before marrying and I intend on doing a course here in Nigeria for Digital Marketing to help me secure a nice job.

My problem now is, I'm scared of marrying someone who has acquired these loans cos Las Las na me go still follow pay wetin I no sabi.

Please, I need a clear guide on what I should do cos I don't wanna be selfish here with her by using her to get to the USA, I'm very willing to let go of her if I have very good reasons to.

Pardon my scattered words.

byrron:
Lots of misinformation being peddled here as facts which are almost Incorrect.

1 Dating and professing love to an akata (black American) on Facebook is just the beginning of the journey since your coming over is still 50/50 and not an automatic entrabce to the US even if she files in for a fiance Visa for you.

Your chances increases if you are both married of which she needs to come over to Nigeria so you can both get married and when she gets back to US and then file in a petition for her spouse (you) to join her which increases the likelihood of you being issued a Visa. The process can even take up to a year that's after filing for your coming over even after getting married.

2. Almost everyone in America is in one form of debt or the other which could be in form of student debt, medical insurance debt, IRS, car notes (known as car loan in nigeria), and credit card debts and most of these debts are inevitable.

Having a student debt isn't a crime and it is her debt and she was honest about it. Getting married to her does not transfer the payment of her student debts on you as it is widely peddled in most comments here.

3. If you are not ready to settle down then don't lead her on.

4. Your concern should be this, do you really love her and are you willing to start playing the role of a step dad once you get married to her? These are questions that you will be asked when you go for your 2 year permanent resident card interview with USCIS.

5. Are you ready to accommodate the orientation of someone from a different society where the man is expected to be at his best behavior at every point in time even when you are being mistreated by the lady?

6. Are you ready to tolerate all her BS for the next 5 years after getting married to her because any misyarning or misbehavior from you may likely result to you ending up in jail and also seeing yourself in muritala Muhammad airport as a depotee.

7. You are more concerned about the financial aspect of the relationship but you haven't even giving a thought to the psychological aspect of it which solely determines what will be your fate.

8. You may be lucky to use her and get to the state's but she can end up making your life more miserable than you ever envisaged and you will end up wishing you never used her nor left Nigeria in the first place.

The US laws are not thing's you toy with especially when it involves a woman talkless of marriage that was built on false premises.

You haven't even started the journey that will take you to the bridge and you are already discussing on how to cross a bridge

dayleke:
I just saw dis n dey look d advices n responses....

Omode ko mo ogun, o n pe ni efo.

Only if it's just as easy.

They like African guys na especially Naija n d ones from Ghana but there are many over there na.
I don't know d girl o but on what level did our brother here broke thru to her?
Leaving all d ones wey dey Yankee to convince d one wey dey Naija.
Maybe bushmeat wan catch hunter.

Akata girls don wise up too.

And last thing be say dat man wan make America great again.
If you know you know.

dayleke:
I gentle o....
This heat too much baje...

Blastedholligan:
There's this sweet Akata I met on fb, we are getting along well and she's thinking we could spend our lives together. She's a single mother of one, older than me with one year and a medical assistant.

Now the problem is, she doesn't really earn too much and she has accumulated alot of loans that could amount to 50k dols and she wants to acquire another to study at the University for 4years, calculating all these could amount to like 150k dols and I've not even talked about my own cos I'll have to sponsor myself through school.

Another issue is that I don't think I'm really ready to settle down cos I really need to hustle and make money to help my family if I eventually travel before marrying and I intend on doing a course here in Nigeria for Digital Marketing to help me secure a nice job.

My problem now is, I'm scared of marrying someone who has acquired these loans cos Las Las na me go still follow pay wetin I no sabi.

Please, I need a clear guide on what I should do cos I don't wanna be selfish here with her by using her to get to the USA, I'm very willing to let go of her if I have very good reasons to.

Pardon my scattered words.

soberdrunk:
Cold beer to the rescue.....

BlacDonaldTrump:
Guy, no try am ooo.
Keep searching. You fit find one wey dey single with no kids and has a pretty decent job.
African Americans and Africans are totally different my brother. Forget what you see on TV.
Don't mortgage your life abeg. It is not worth it I tell you.

BlacDonaldTrump:
Guy, no try am ooo.
Keep searching. You fit find one wey dey single with no kids and has a pretty decent job.
African Americans and Africans are totally different my brother. Forget what you see on TV.
Don't mortgage your life abeg. It is not worth it I tell you.

Blastedholligan:
Thanks alot for your input, but I wish to ask; what are the dangers of living with an akata with a kid? Any issue involved? And how do I get these right papers with and without her help? I just wanna weigh my options to see what I can do here.

Blastedholligan:
Thanks boss. Please help push this to FP so I can get more views people.

Blastedholligan:
There's this sweet Akata I met on fb, we are getting along well and she's thinking we could spend our lives together. She's a single mother of one, older than me with one year and a medical assistant.

Now the problem is, she doesn't really earn too much and she has accumulated alot of loans that could amount to 50k dols and she wants to acquire another to study at the University for 4years, calculating all these could amount to like 150k dols and I've not even talked about my own cos I'll have to sponsor myself through school.

Another issue is that I don't think I'm really ready to settle down cos I really need to hustle and make money to help my family if I eventually travel before marrying and I intend on doing a course here in Nigeria for Digital Marketing to help me secure a nice job.

My problem now is, I'm scared of marrying someone who has acquired these loans cos Las Las na me go still follow pay wetin I no sabi.

Please, I need a clear guide on what I should do cos I don't wanna be selfish here with her by using her to get to the USA, I'm very willing to let go of her if I have very good reasons to.

Pardon my scattered words.

Pascalville:
I am in this guy shoes just that mine wants my baby first before marriage and she is a Nigerian-British.. told me if i dont make moves in 3 or 4 years time about meeting her dad who resides in France and about her proposal of impregnating her first then she will dump me if she sees i am playing around not serious with out. She is based in UK.. I have thought about it all. I am leaving once i am done with school nextyear and well i am aware of child support so i am signing in for this shît.

Blastedholligan:
There's this sweet Akata I met on fb, we are getting along well and she's thinking we could spend our lives together. She's a single mother of one, older than me with one year and a medical assistant.

Now the problem is, she doesn't really earn too much and she has accumulated alot of loans that could amount to 50k dols and she wants to acquire another to study at the University for 4years, calculating all these could amount to like 150k dols and I've not even talked about my own cos I'll have to sponsor myself through school.

Another issue is that I don't think I'm really ready to settle down cos I really need to hustle and make money to help my family if I eventually travel before marrying and I intend on doing a course here in Nigeria for Digital Marketing to help me secure a nice job.

My problem now is, I'm scared of marrying someone who has acquired these loans cos Las Las na me go still follow pay wetin I no sabi.

Please, I need a clear guide on what I should do cos I don't wanna be selfish here with her by using her to get to the USA, I'm very willing to let go of her if I have very good reasons to.

Pardon my scattered words.

peerless0012:
Hmmm....My case is similar to the Op, just that I don't think she has any debts to pay. She is a Nigerian living in America and with kids. She is a little older than me, but look so young and beautiful like a goddess. She has a job of her own.


We been getting along well. We have alots of things in common that I feel we will never have any problem living together. Initially I was excited at the thought that I will get to America through her, but right now My feeling for her is much more than that. She is so down to earth and God's fearing. I am Falling love with her already.


There have been alots of negative advice from all quarters about getting married to her. Some are worried about the kids that they may not respect me or something, other said she may just want to use me. I discussed all my fear with her and she assured me of her support. I am only worried about the way she will treat me, which she also promised to treat me right.

I know it is a big risk getting married to her, but life is a risk itself. With all the degrees I have acquired in Nigeria at age, I still don't have a job to feed me properly, not to talk of getting married.

babzo:
See this oga.
You think its Nigeria .
EVERYONE in America has or had one big debt or the other.
The Obamas had debts, Trump had and still has debts.
Debt is how that country progresses. If you dont pay, not only can't you progress, you wont even get a good job.
Infact without having credit card debt, you cant get a good job because most employers check credit score now and to have a good credit score you must have at least one debt.
Whats bad is when you dont pay.
The average American has a Credit Score of over 630 which is ok.
Fair is 650 and above.
Good is 700+
Excellent is above that.

Even the millionaires have debt, they all pay mortgage on their homes including Tiger Woods and Magic Johnson and Tom Brady.

The whole idea is that government doesn't want you to have to save all your life before buying the good things of life.

The average 23 to 30 year old already can buy a brand new car and house worth N100 million naira.

There is nothing bad in debt, whats bad is not paying or borrowing more than your capacity.

RDPMAN:
You think oyinbo women are like the black woman, she doesn't need you to pay her loan, how much do you have, after her course she will get a better paid job and the loan will be removed in her salary ... Common, leave the fucking country.

BiggyB242:
Take your shot don't even think twice. I was trying to be calculative that's how I lost an opportunity of a life time she was ready to book my play ticket soon pay for all the necessaries. Till her ex husband came back is just be like say na village people find me it was my fault I wasted time.

peerless0012:
Hmmm....My case is similar to the Op, just that I don't think she has any debts to pay. She is a Nigerian living in America and with kids. She is a little older than me, but look so young and beautiful like a goddess. She has a job of her own.


We been getting along well. We have alots of things in common that I feel we will never have any problem living together. Initially I was excited at the thought that I will get to America through her, but right now My feeling for her is much more than that. She is so down to earth and God's fearing. I am Falling love with her already.


There have been alots of negative advice from all quarters about getting married to her. Some are worried about the kids that they may not respect me or something, other said she may just want to use me. I discussed all my fear with her and she assured me of her support. I am only worried about the way she will treat me, which she also promised to treat me right.

I know it is a big risk getting married to her, but life is a risk itself. With all the degrees I have acquired in Nigeria at age, I still don't have a job to feed me properly, not to talk of getting married.

Blastedholligan:
There's this sweet Akata I met on fb, we are getting along well and she's thinking we could spend our lives together. She's a single mother of one, older than me with one year and a medical assistant.

Now the problem is, she doesn't really earn too much and she has accumulated alot of loans that could amount to 50k dols and she wants to acquire another to study at the University for 4years, calculating all these could amount to like 150k dols and I've not even talked about my own cos I'll have to sponsor myself through school.

Another issue is that I don't think I'm really ready to settle down cos I really need to hustle and make money to help my family if I eventually travel before marrying and I intend on doing a course here in Nigeria for Digital Marketing to help me secure a nice job.

My problem now is, I'm scared of marrying someone who has acquired these loans cos Las Las na me go still follow pay wetin I no sabi.

Please, I need a clear guide on what I should do cos I don't wanna be selfish here with her by using her to get to the USA, I'm very willing to let go of her if I have very good reasons to.

Pardon my scattered words.

lastempero:
No I am serious

segzyndpep:
Thank you for this information

Adukpe19:
Nothing we can do! Take am as u see am oga till 2023

BarrElChapo:
I read this with joy. you said it concisely.

byrron:
Lots of misinformation being peddled here as facts which are almost Incorrect.

1. Dating and professing love to an akata (black American) on Facebook is just the beginning of the journey since your coming over is still 50/50 and not an automatic entrabce to the US even if she files in for a fiance Visa for you.

Your chances increases if you are both married of which she needs to come over to Nigeria so you can both get married and when she gets back to US and then file in a petition for her spouse (you) to join her which increases the likelihood of you being issued a Visa. The process can even take up to a year that's after filing for your coming over even after getting married.

2. Almost everyone in America is in one form of debt or the other which could be in form of student debt, medical insurance debt, IRS, car notes (known as car loan in nigeria), and credit card debts and most of these debts are inevitable.

Having a student debt isn't a crime and it is her debt and she was honest about it. Getting married to her does not transfer the payment of her student debts on you as it is widely peddled in most comments here.

3. If you are not ready to settle down then don't lead her on.

4. Your concern should be this, do you really love her and are you willing to start playing the role of a step dad once you get married to her? These are questions that you will be asked when you go for your 2 year permanent resident card interview with USCIS.

5. Are you ready to accommodate the orientation of someone from a different society where the man is expected to be at his best behavior at every point in time even when you are being mistreated by the lady?

6. Are you ready to tolerate all her BS for the next 5 years after getting married to her because any misyarning or misbehavior from you may likely result to you ending up in jail and also seeing yourself in muritala Muhammad airport as a depotee.

7. You are more concerned about the financial aspect of the relationship but you haven't even giving a thought to the psychological aspect of it which solely determines what will be your fate.

8. You may be lucky to use her and get to the state's but she can end up making your life more miserable than you ever envisaged and you will end up wishing you never used her nor left Nigeria in the first place.

The US laws are not thing's you toy with especially when it involves a woman talkless of marriage that was built on false premises.

You haven't even started the journey that will take you to the bridge and you are already discussing on how to cross a bridge.

timesup234:
Do people still travel to America? That over hyped shitthole