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1x2x3:
This post isn't about bashing but what I saw in a bus that made me rethink trusting a married woman. Yes married men cheat but married women are smarter with their extramarital affairs or should I say married women investigate more than married men who just assume their wives won't dare cheat.

So I boarded Rivers Transport Company Bus (RTC) from my destination to Port Harcourt. I sat at the seat role just behind the driver while having a decently dressed married woman on my left and a guy on my right. At the front seat just beside the driver was another married woman whom from her look wasn't decent but I knew not to judge people from their looks.

Half way into the journey I noticed how the lady at the front kept unlocking her phone, she chats for a while then lock and laugh, I'm this mind-your-business-person but her nonstop drama caught my attention that I decided looking closely. She unlocked her phone again and headed straight to whatsapp, first thing I noticed was she belong to different indecent groups which I think should be for wild singles looking to explore(people like me ). One of the groups had a name "XXXlounge" with some crazy chats pooping in (please who is in this room should quote me as I have something to investigate there) . Then I also noticed she was chatting 3 different guys she was heading to visit in PH. I mean from the content of her conversations I don't think any of them is her husband or for the benefit of doubt I would say she's married to 3 men.

The chats continued till I got tired of the trash, I was boiling within me knowing fully well she's married . I looked at the decently dressed woman beside me and asked myself why the one right in front of me was different. I couldn't come up with any answer so I decided aborting a torturing thought that I shouldn't be concerned with in the first place (poke nosing won't kill me).

Soon we arrived the roundabout at the airport road just at the entrance of PH, there is this old fuel station all RTC bus must check into for some manifest ish or so. Immediately our bus stopped, the well dressed lady by my side rushed down to use the rest room. In about 3 mins she came out with a skimpy looking flare gown which was above her kneels, the ring in her finger wasn't visible any longer . Most people in the bus looked surprised and dumbfounded just like I was but being a mind-your-business-person I felt she could be heading to a beach, I mean she has every right to change before she gets to the river and there are chances her wedding ring may get missing in the waters so she had to remove it.

I don't know what to think about marriages these days and how smart a partner can be with their extramarital affairs.

I need to point out I am a single guy who was heading to meet up with a client (a married woman) for a project in her office. That one ended up making advances, complimentary statements and offers that made me spend a few days in PH . I got the contract anyway and as a mind-your-business-person I think we should all mind only the business that pays us.

Pattypatt:
Married men cheat, married women cheat too, speaking of gender equality...

NNEWIsuper:
baby..reply me..I have been waiting for you

Pattypatt:
How may I help you?

1x2x3:
I need to point out I am a single guy who was heading to meet up with a client (a married woman) for a project in her office. That one ended up making advances, complimentary statements and offers that made me spend a few days in PH . I got the contract anyway and as a mind-your-business-person I think we should all mind only the business that pays us.

NNEWIsuper:
hahahahahahah...I want to reach out to you and connect with you in real world..sent you a pm now

Pattypatt:
Not interested.

carter009:
No faithful girl anywhere, am really scared of relationship /marriage this days, why can't a girl stick to one guy,, STDs on they rise, married women this days are even they worst, remembered how one married woman in my street wanted us to start dating, than am cute, I have a sweet lips, bla bla bla I told her no that am not interested, I told her that I did not expect this from her, she got angry and left,, cheating is on they rise, some people don't fear GOD anymore. People committing adultery everywhere like is a normal thing.

LilMissFavvy:
So going about fathering children from different women is what makes it a man's world? , check out your list, full of negativity. So negativity is what makes a man's world? I can't help smiling here. Well, most women are too responsible to join such a foolish trend if that's what makes a man's world. I had better things in mind which I thought makes a man's world.

Adakintroy2:
Don't you half bake men ever get pass these women place.

Women are this ..women are that..tire for una.

Deepfeel:
E no concern me o its a free world do whatever you desire to do as long as you a smart enough to get away with it

ericsmith:
i am not a killjoy .. buh remember the topic was adultery (negativity) eitherways - + women don't stand a chance .... thank God you av a gud father, in advance

LilMissFavvy:
The topic was adultery of course. Women stand a chance at everything. Why not ask your self why men like you in that bus did not 'boo'' the adulterers? ? Am not encouraging such things, but get ready to hug transformer, because you men taught women how to cheat, and women have joined the trend, deal with it!

frugal:
Yes. It's either you're faithful or you're not. If you suspect the person you're with isn't, you end things with him immediately. You can't hide under the guise of suspecting him to go around cheating yourself. What does that make you?

A cheat will always be a cheat. Whether you're faithful to them or not.

carter009:
Why are you so pained dear, please take it easy.

MarjieJ98354:
I think men are careless when they cheat because ultimately, the wife will tolerate it. Not so for the man. So yes I can see why women would be smarter in the way they cheat.

bluefilm:
Still, the fact remains that based on your narrative, your experience about marriages is still pretty much limited.

It's like picking one or two students from a university and then judging the rest of the students in that university based on what you concluded/observed from those two students.

It doesn't just make any sense.

MarjieJ98354:
Without even understanding why women are this, that and the other in their eyes. "Women are born bad". Are they not molded by all the bullshit that have to endure in their society!!

aviato:
Lol, I could care less about you being a busy body, looking at someone's private chats and judging the person when you might be worse BUT it was your hypocrisy in saying he was ranting like a woman that got my attention.

LilMissFavvy:
Hmm......did you take it easy with me? Am not pained.

carter009:
But I did not say anything bad to you,, am only telling you to take things easy.

LilMissFavvy:
:okay come right here and show me how to do that

carter009:
Lol, are you advising women to be smarter when they cheat? Are you in support of it.

MarjieJ98354:
I'm not advising women to do anything. I don't think anyone should cheat. But such is the world we live in. I'm only suggesting if a women is going to cheat, she needs to be smart about it. Sometimes she has more to lose.

1x2x3:
Okay read the comment below yours and also tell me he has limited experience about marriage. I can tell you you are the one with limited knowledge about marriage. That you are yet to discover doesn't mean its not happening.

MarjieJ98354:
I think this right here is the moral of your story.

I'm not down on cheating but as a single middle-aged women. In all my attempts to do online dating. 99% of inquiries to my profile are from married men aged 30 to 70. I can go years to decades without meeting any compatible single men. It's almost as if it's a sin to have a relationship with a single man in the USA; just like it's basically a sin to be heterosexual in this country.

Mind a PM?

Pattypatt:
Married men cheat, married women cheat too, speaking of gender equality...

LilMissFavvy:
The topic was adultery of course. Women stand a chance at everything. Why not ask your self why men like you in that bus did not 'boo'' the adulterers? ? Am not encouraging such things, but get ready to hug transformer, because you men taught women how to cheat, and women have joined the trend, deal with it!

ericsmith:
we hardly av light in my area sef most times i hug the transformer to keep it warm,
women join the trend were the first edition of cheaters gay ..who gave man apple ,our eye don open we go do una in 2somes & 3somes

MarjieJ98354:
We have a TV series in the USA called "Cheaters". Maybe you can quit your day job and be a private detective for cheating spouses. I'm pretty sure it's excellent money.