| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Voy(m): 11:33pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
u want to start chopping kponyo at 22?? Guy! Guy!! Guy!!! How many times I call u?? Je chuba ego!... SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.
My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf
It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...
That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...
I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.
I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.
When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....
So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.
Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.
Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...
Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help 5 Likes 
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| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by luiscarter(m): 11:35pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
Jgoldie:
You wrote all this epistle ontop woman matter.....dude get a life,a job and make money.....love is so over rated.....matters of the heart happens when we don't expect it...shalom Ahhh!!! Who break ur hrt ni?? |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by macho44(m): 11:35pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.
My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf
It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...
That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...
I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.
I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.
When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....
So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.
Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.
Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...
Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help Ma friend, the only ADVICE you need to hear today, on this forum is "GO AND MAKE MONEY". Women are attracted to it like BEES 2 HONEY. Take my advice, and come thank me later when u start having them LINED up in QUEUES begging for your KONDO. 1 Like 2 Shares |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by kenny714433(m): 11:36pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
Op, I can bet my balls that you are an introvert. But I wouldn't bet it sha so that you won't get three balls.
We introverts and gentlemen with taste have really seen things. But I'm good at what I do, and it brings them closer to me. The main problem now na money. 3 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by macho44(m): 11:36pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
JohnCruise:
Tbh i didn't actually read through
But i realized you spoke out of pain
Just take heart bro
Dont give up
Lol, bros advice am make he go make MONEY joooor. |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by emsco(m): 11:40pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
Who still ask girls out these days? maybe my teenage days on campus. Am a grown man now, i don't ask ladies out.
If i desire or admire a girl, i get close to her like a friend for few days,we start vibing and i get them laid, it's left for them to decide if they wanna keep me or not. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by TemmyT002(m): 11:41pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
Dude, I feel your pain bro
Shebi you are 22. I am almost 30 and still a virgin.
After a breakup with my ex whom I dated for five years (I never wooed her; we just dated), I tried to 'toast' three different girls.
One said she can only be a sister to me. Another said she is in a relationship and the third told me ladies don't say yes at the first attempt.
I wanted to give up because I was very shy. I got advice from male and female friends but nothing worked.
I prayed for guidance and finally met a beautiful lady. All I had to do is tell her my intention and she agreed.
My advice is, for now, just face your studies or work, whichever one you have.
Ask yourself why you want to date. Is it just for experimenting or do you have future plans. The answers to these will help you choose the right girl.
When you find the girl you really like-that is after studying her o, tell her your intentions and make sure she is not single. That's all
However, if you no pray, na you go tire. It doesn't matter what anyone says. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Nobody: 11:41pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
Apparently no one wants to talk bout this, so here it is, bro I think you’ve watched too much romantic movies, and then you projecting those stuff to reality. You need to get your priorities straight. Nigga go and hustle, these girls aren’t going anywhere! 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by peachesandcream: 11:46pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.
My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf
It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...
That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...
I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.
I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.
When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....
So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.
Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.
Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...
Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help stop asking girls out, it's too formal and it just doesn't work.. if u like a girl don't let her know, seduce her and bang her. Make it look like a mistake then afterwards tell her how u feel, she will accept. Girls are attracted to bad boys who don't show them attention initially. After u seduce her and get into her pants.. she will most likely accept. Don't ever act like a sissy be strong and stern. She will turn to mumu for u. Also create an impression u get attention from other girls too much with incoming calls and messages... She will always be on her feet!!! Make ur room super cozy!!! Gotv, AC, generator, home theater etc, Buy Latest and good movies. Some Nigerian movies too!! Make it a room a lady will love to stay. Manipulate her into spending nights with u. Using movies series etc. Everything will flow during night time 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Respect55(m): 11:46pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
Go and make money and start rejecting them 1 Like |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by slickbak(m): 11:47pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
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| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Nobody: 11:47pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
ubunja:
If you stop approaching women and look around you'll see there are already women who have been giving you green lights all along but you've been too busy to notice.
Also, go get a prostitute and end that virginity thing. You can't master women if you've never even fvcked a woman. Get a hooker and get it over with. Your advise is the worse of all, and to think you were telling the op to ignore advise from some guys is really funny. Why would a virgin guy get his first sex from a hooker? Did you even think of the after sex psychological effects? Op, if I were you, I won't bother. Relationship is stress. Being in love is the hardest thing anyone could do as it comes with both joy and pains. Personally, I would prefer a blister on my skin to the pains that comes with love. Enjoy your peace of mind while you can and leave girls alone if you're not ready to commit. 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Ziel20: 11:48pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
MrWTF:
Don't change a thing on your socialization with girls. The only thing you need to change is your Availability.
Never show a girl you are desperate. Always make her feel she's an option.
Never laugh like a jackal where a girl is, she's gonna take you like a pet, which means Best friend.
Always learn to Say No to a girl.
Mumu. When did u see his dick?
The most of all, flirt with her friends. Let's say you meet her with her friend in a library, say hello to her, then complement her friend's beauty or her hair, trust me, girls can go crazy for this.
Trust me, you don't need a 7 figure bank statement before you could rip her pant and insert your long dick from behind, thrusting her, till she reaches her peak of pleasure. |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by efeski(m): 11:49pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
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| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by IjebuWarrior: 11:51pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
OP, abeg make you go Empire, Jolly Friends go relax... Girl friends are for losers and foolish guys.  1 Like |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Flairoqy(m): 11:53pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
First of all, this post shows that you have low self esteem.
G code is keep your self respect high, yes people call it pride, talk less, stay clean, ur English game should be clean, NEVER ASK A GIRL OUT flirt as much as u want, make them ur friends, they'll trip until u see bright green lights.
All the girls I've dated asked me out, no cap bro. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by stanliwise(m): 11:53pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.
My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf
It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...
That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...
I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.
I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.
When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....
So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.
Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.
Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...
Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help why do I have the feeling you have an antisocial character that ladies don't like. |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by ubunja(m): 11:54pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
GrabHisBalls:
Your advise is the worse of all, and to think you were telling the op to ignore advise from some guys is really funny.
Why would a virgin guy get his first sex from a hooker? Did you even think of the after sex psychological effects?
Op, if I were you, I won't bother. Relationship is stress. Being in love is the hardest thing anyone could do as it comes with both joy and pains. Personally, I would prefer a blister on my skin to the pains that comes with love. Enjoy your peace of mind while you can and leave girls alone if you're not ready to commit. better than you telling him to be a monk 1 Like |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Nobody: 11:57pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
ubunja:
better than you telling him to be a monk Just stop giving people stupid advise. Is sleeping with a hooker a good thing? |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by graccce: 11:57pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
MrWTF:
Don't change a thing on your socialization with girls. The only thing you need to change is your Availability.
Never show a girl you are desperate. Always make her feel she's an option.
Never laugh like a jackal where a girl is, she's gonna take you like a pet, which means Best friend.
Always learn to Say No to a girl.
The most of all, flirt with her friends. Let's say you meet her with her friend in a library, say hello to her, then complement her friend's beauty or her hair, trust me, girls can go crazy for this.
Trust me, you don't need a 7 figure bank statement before you could rip her pant and insert your long dick from behind, thrusting her, till she reaches her peak of pleasure. You spoit everything entirely bros... I pity your gf. Pack well Biko. 1 Like |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by kenzo25(m): 11:57pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
Bro the best is not there yet just hold on God time is the best 1 Like |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by unyted(m): 11:57pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.
My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf
It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...
That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...
I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.
I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.
When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....
So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.
Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.
Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...
Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help Bro, when you have a girl that you are interested in, don’t tell her your feelings. The problem is, all the girls you have been with didn’t feel any attraction for you. Now, the solution is easy. When you are with a new girl, don’t take too long before you go physical. Touch her hair, Kiss her. This triggers attraction. Let things develop naturally. Don’t overspend on her, don’t chat or call. You only call to meet up! Go and grab the ebook - Double your dating. It’s free on the internet. Cheers! 1 Like |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by ubunja(m): 11:58pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
GrabHisBalls:
Just stop giving people stupid advise. Is sleeping with a hooker a good thing? all women are hookers. If you don't charge for sex give him free then. 1 Like |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Nobody: 11:58pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
At 22 all I could think of was playing playstation  4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Nobody: 12:00am On Aug 07, 2019 |
ubunja:
all women are hookers.
If you don't charge for sex give him free then. Since all women are hookers. Perhaps, your mama could be of help here, not me. 1 Like |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by unyted(m): 12:00am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Flairoqy:
First of all, this post shows that you have low self esteem.
G code is keep your self respect high, yes people call it pride, talk less, stay clean, ur English game should be clean, NEVER ASK A GIRL OUT flirt as much as u want, make them ur friends, they'll trip until u see bright green lights.
All the girls I've dated asked me out, no cap bro.
Exactly bro. You understand the dating game perfectly. You DON’T tell a girl you want to date her. It leads to awkwardness! Flirting and subtle touching is the way to go!! 3 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Kingoftime50: 12:00am On Aug 07, 2019 |
SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.
My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf
It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...
That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...
I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.
I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.
When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....
So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.
Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.
Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...
Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help Bro, woman no get formula or format. just be yourself and you'll get that which u seek. |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by justli: 12:00am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Just to chip in, you might have to start paying attention to girls that like you rather than the ones you like. Most times you use the ones tripping for you to attract the ones you like.
That might sound deceitful but thats how it is. Let the ones that don't have your time be. Give more attention to the ones craving for your attention. Eventually, the your confidence would sky and you would have your game on.
Secondly, asking girls out backfires most times.
If you find a girl thats into you, jokingly ask to take her out. Have a good laugh and talk normal hearty chat. Don't fill your mind with sex, thats not the goal.
After your date, ask if she has got home, though some will call to say I've got home.
Next time will be in your house. slowly and firmly initiate your touch. If she fakes surprised at your actions, tell her all the sweet things you have been reading online.
At this point, watch her body reactions and response. You might go for it again. But if she resists, switch off completely. Let her do some chasing. Some girls like the feeling of doing the chasing too. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by toscolee(m): 12:03am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Carefully read and follow blackpanthar's advice. Na ear I dey draw for you o, sex is not an award. |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by ubunja(m): 12:04am On Aug 07, 2019 |
GrabHisBalls:
Since all women are hookers. Perhaps, your mama could be of help here, not me. what happened to grabbing balls? Now you grabbing ovaries? |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Ogaonos: 12:06am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Martinez39:
Are girls supposed to be your headache now? Focus on your studies ,self-improvement and hustle. If you leave relationship for now, do these things and start looking for a wife much later in the future, have you missed anything? Focus on yourself my friend.
Beside, stop killing yourself over girls. They cannot love you except you have money. Even if you spend $2m on that girl and donate one of kidneys to save her life, she will still loath and leave you the day you don't have money anymore. Love doesn't exist, stop fooling yourself.
Life after university is hard and challenging and you don't need gold diggers and other distractions and wastage. Start preparing for life after school and leave girl matter alone.
but he needs d experience.all Wat u advising him is Wat I did it sound good but inexperience in woman is very bad bro. am regretting I didn't reason woman wen I dey school.because wen u start having serious relationship u be so naive in some area in relatnship. ND even u dt talking u telling me u Neva had a lover wen u were in school. pls stop d hypocrisy. 6 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Jackossky(m): 12:07am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Dear op, I get where you are coming from. You are doing pretty well for yourself, even at that age. I believe you heard that if a guy is intelligent, rich and good looking, girls will troop over him and you capitalized on that.
Hehehe, about the rejection, it's all part of our life story that we wouldn't want to share with anyone however, what I think you need to do is that stop playing around.
I won't say girls like this and that because ladies heart is dynamic. When going for a girl, the moment she start vibing like evil spirit, just hold your peace. Use the broom tactics. The value of a broom is known when it's absent in a house
Don't be too available, dey your dey, read books and enjoy yourself while alone.
You can even use the two weeks dating plan. How? After having her number, call her three days after, tell her you forgot to call and was very sorry. Call her the coming night, tell her how beautiful she was to have attracted you, please, don't ask if she has a bf... That's a no no
Then, call her consistently for 9 days, be the first to call in the morning, make it a date to call maybe at 8pm every night. Do this consistently for 9 days, bro, you are already having a semi gf, she would be the one to be telling herself that she doesn't have a bf.
While calling her, make it a bit long but don't talk about your 'wanting' for her, imply it but don't be straightforward about if. By the end of the 2nd week, my brother, na to samankwe remain oo.
Invite her, take her out, she would be ecstatic about it, then, kiss her. Not a long one, she probably wouldn't say anything as she would be readjusting her opinion about you, let her go, don't talk about the kiss. On the 14th day, invite her again, make mention of the kiss and tell her you how attractive she was that you couldn't resist her. If she honours the invitation, brotherly, you've gotten yourself a brand new gf.
Apart from this two weeks tactics and the hardwork involved, love happens in a click. You just get to find out that you like her, get close to her and you would be surprised that she likes you back. Quid pro quo, take your time before asking a girl out to be your gf, the moment you do this, they start taking you for trips. That is where your money start dwindling and your confidence get tested. Adios 2 Likes 1 Share |
