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Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by creolehunt(m): 12:39pm On Apr 26
I just thought about the girls I've been with and noticed a certain trend. This isn't even about the girls themselves who are excellent human beings, but their families.

First girl I dated revealed to me that the dad died of suspected poisoning and her family were chased out of the family house. Her eldest brother is an area boy while it seems things aren't working out for her other siblings.

The next ones dad was late too, one of her sisters is separated from her husband while the first son of nearly 40 has nothing doing.

The other ones history is that her dad is late too. The eldest sister is cohabiting with a man. They have 2 kids already without being married. Her other sisters bride price was just paid after having 3 kids with a man.

For the other one, her dad is late too, died quite early. The eldest sister is in her 30s and unmarried. Her other sister has 3kids for a man who she isn't married to and now they are separated. Things aren't just working for her people.

The one I just met recently told me her parents are late. Lost both of them to suspected poisoning within the space of one year.

I keep wondering if this is some sort of coincidence.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by HisSexcellency(m): 12:41pm On Apr 26
This is simple, it is a natural law known as automaton conformity. You're drawn to that which you feel comfortable with, it is an involuntary action. Same reason intelligent students in school gets drawn to one another, while the less intelligent ones do likewise.
Same reason it's easier for a smoker to make friend with another smoker in a new environment. Why a poor man easily makes friends with a fellow poor man and the rich with the rich.
Op, it is your personality that attracts them. It will require effort and determination on your part to break this attraction.
Work on this mentality of settling with what you feel comfortable with, and watch how things will change.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Tripitaka: 12:42pm On Apr 26
Have you dated a girl who is a product of incest?
Have you dated a girl whose brother raped the mother for ritual purposes?
Have you dated a girl who grew up to find out that her actual dad is the family driver, but the pregnancy was passed on to the "willing dad"?
Have you dated a girl whose own father has been sexually abusing?
Have you dated a girl whose mother's nude pictures are all over the internet because she was caught shoplifting?

I believe your answer would be "No", as you would have included these in your narrative.

The families in your narrative can hardly be classed as "troubled" as I would like to think that your experiences are the peculiarities of your average Nigerian family. The average Nigerian family where diabolism and fetishism is real; where cohabitation is in vogue because the government outlaws abortion and your parents would insist on you living with the man who impregnated you even if he has no interest in marrying you; where young widows are still oppressed by their late husband's relatives; where poverty and unemployment is the norm hence a 40yr old unemployed man is nothing out of the ordinary.

The women you have been with are not from troubled families, at least in my opinion. They are simply from Nigerian families.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Oluromantic: 12:42pm On Apr 26
Ah! How are you meeting them sef.

PM me, lemme take you to one baba.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Nobody: 12:42pm On Apr 26
If you grew up in a family without any issues then consider yourself very lucky.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by moneyissues(m): 12:45pm On Apr 26
It is not your portion bro...just go and pray for cleansing

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Amotolongbo(f): 12:46pm On Apr 26
Every Minister of God has his own calling.
Maybe that is your own calling

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Nobody: 12:46pm On Apr 26
Coincidence I will say. In most family there’s that something or someone that won’t be ok.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Tripitaka: 12:51pm On Apr 26
Nnaabros:
If you grew up in a family without any issues then count yourself very lucky.

Exactly my point. Lots of Nigerian families have one attendant problem or the other. Its just that people don't like talking about these.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by J111333(m): 12:54pm On Apr 26
Some people are made to be lanterns everywhere they go and for a lantern to be useful, it has to be in the dark.

You may be a lantern to the family of a lady somewhere but in whatever you do, don't overburden yourself. Just do your part and only what you can.

Good luck.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by slimjohn2k5: 12:58pm On Apr 26
There is no family without issues.

Those that u think do not hv, u will find out after u r deeply involved and you will not be able to go back.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by DATMAT(m): 1:04pm On Apr 26
my dear friend their is no family that is perfect, your mindset already tailored to what your are experiencing, pray, go out of normal routine... be open God will answer your prayer....this is African Bad things occur most...change your environment and your friends

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by ayobamiJR(m): 1:05pm On Apr 26
HisSexcellency:
This is simple, it is a natural law known as automaton conformity. You're drawn to that which you feel comfortable with, it is an involuntary action. Same reason intelligent students in school gets drawn to one another, while the less intelligent ones do likewise.
Same reason it's easier for a smoker to make friend with another smoker in a new environment. Why a poor man easily makes friends with a fellow poor man and the rich with the rich.
Op, it is your personality that attracts them. It will require effort and determination on your part to break this attraction.
Work on this mentality of settling with what you feel comfortable with, and watch how things will change.

You are very intelligent. I commend your comment.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Nobody: 1:06pm On Apr 26
maybe you are meant to solve their problem

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by NockMedia: 1:06pm On Apr 26
Tripitaka:
Have you dated a girl who is a product of incest?
Have you dated a girl whose brother raped the mother for ritual purposes?
Have you dated a girl who grew up to find out that her actual dad is the family driver, but the pregnancy was passed on to the "willing dad"?
Have you dated a girl whose own father has been sexually abusing?
Have you dated a girl whose mother's nude pictures are all over the internet because she was caught shoplifting?

I believe your answer would be "No", as you would have included these in your narrative.

The families in your narrative can hardly be classed as "troubled" as I would like to think that your experiences are the peculiarities of your average Nigerian family. The average Nigerian family where diabolism and fetishism is real; where cohabitation is in vogue because the government outlaws abortion and your parents would insist on you living with the man who impregnated you even if he has no interest in marrying you; where young widows are still oppressed by their late husband's relatives; where poverty and unemployment is the norm hence a 40yr old unemployed man is nothing out of the ordinary.

The women you have been with are not from troubled families, at least in my opinion.
Tsk can I be your friend?

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Glink2018(m): 1:09pm On Apr 26
creolehunt:
I just thought about the girls I've been with and noticed a certain trend. This isn't even About the girls themselves who are excellent human beings, but their families.

First girl I dated revealed to me that the dad died of suspected poisoning and her family were chased out of the family house. Her eldest brother is an area boy while it seems things aren't working out for her other siblings.
The next ones dad was late too, one of her sisters is separated from her husband while the first son of nearly 40 has nothing doing.
The other ones history is that her dad is late too. The eldest sister is cohabiting with a man. They have 2 kids already without being married. Her other sisters bride price was just paid after having 3 kids with a man.
For the other one, her dad is late too, died quite early. The eldest sister is in her 30s and unmarried. Her other sister has 3kids for a man who she isn't married to and now they are separated. Things aren't just working for her people.
The one I just met recently told me her parents are late. Lost both of them to suspected poisoning within the space of one year.

I keep wondering if tgis is some sort of coincidence.

You better pick one of them and make lemonade out of her lemon life...but be careful. Let her know the boundary. You are a man, you are not the savior of world. So she shouldn't be expecting much from you

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by creolehunt(m): 1:11pm On Apr 26
Glink2018:


You better pick one of them and make lemonade out of her lemon life...but be careful. Let her know the boundary. You are a man, you are not the savior of world. So she shouldn't be expecting much from you

Do you think a girl's background doesn't matter?

Lalasticlala

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by creolehunt(m): 1:13pm On Apr 26
HisSexcellency:
This is simple, it is a natural law known as automaton conformity. You're drawn to that which you feel comfortable with, it is an involuntary action. Same reason intelligent students in school gets drawn to one another, while the less intelligent ones do likewise.
Same reason it's easier for a smoker to make friend with another smoker in a new environment. Why a poor man easily makes friends with a fellow poor man and the rich with the rich.
Op, it is your personality that attracts them. It will require effort and determination on your part to break this attraction.

Inasmuch as your comment is sensible, I must point out that i was not aware of their story until we got really involved. So there was no way I could have been drawn to their history.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Fidelismaria: 1:14pm On Apr 26


What can I say?

You attract what you attract

Lol




















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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Nobody: 1:20pm On Apr 26
Most people have issues, just be thankful if you don't. I grew up in a family without drama and I'm sorry to say but I run away from drama because I don't understand it.

I have had cause in the past to distance myself from girls who had family issues. It wasn't my fault, I just couldn't relate with all the drama and I felt they were always sad and radiated negative energy.

My friend, if you are uncomfortable with such girls, please leave. There will always be a man who can relate and feel their pains.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Okeytus(m): 1:25pm On Apr 26
Bro, the issues you listed above are sensitive ones, they should guide you on what to expect in your own family if you take the girl in.
for example, ladies raised by single mums or early age widows end up becoming feminists.
I will advice you change your taste and class to get your desired.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by KingWarri: 1:30pm On Apr 26
Amotolongbo:
Every Minister of God has his own calling.
Maybe that is your own calling

cheesy ... No ooh, not this kind of calling oooh...
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by KingWarri: 1:33pm On Apr 26
Fidelismaria:


What can I say?
You attract what you attract
Lol


Like pairs attract.....

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by goldenboyofpsy(m): 1:38pm On Apr 26
I admire your observations cos not everyone is this careful about trend in their lives, families or environments whether good or bad....

You said it all... Same way am attracted or most ladies I dated were virgins. I knew someone who was attracted to single moms...

The good thing is that it can be corrected if you seek help from right sources.... If you can call on your God without looking for shortcuts,it will be over in no time.


Truly, there's no family without issue but issues vary... Some are evil family pattern you are to decide either to break it or just follow like others.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Oyiboman69: 1:43pm On Apr 26
Tell us about your own family...

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by SweetCunt97(f): 1:43pm On Apr 26
Nigeria is messed up. Everyone is struggling to keep their heads above water jarey

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Mywd: 1:46pm On Apr 26
Why...... God doesnt want you to useless ur life.... His time is d best

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by infogenius(m): 1:53pm On Apr 26
Op, this is not trouble as it were, no family in Nigeria that does have "their own"

Meeting people with almost same trend is pointer to an assignment u were created for.
Discover urself and fulfil destiny.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by HisSexcellency(m): 1:53pm On Apr 26
creolehunt:


Inasmuch as your comment is sensible, I must point out that i was not aware of their story until we got really involved. So there was no way I could have been drawn to their history.
You're missing the point here, automaton conformity is a natural law, you get drawn to them by default. Your attraction to this set of girls is based on a kinda vibe you get from them, which you're kinda cool with, you don't need to know their names or were they come from, you just find yourself being drawn to them.
Let me give you an instant, take a prostitute from a brothel here in Nigeria and get her enrolled at a university somewhere in Uk, it will take conscious effort and determination on her part not to return to her trade or mingle with like minded people over there. This is because she will continue to resonate with that vibe until she does something about it.

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by bestabigaelever(f): 2:01pm On Apr 26
Toooor
Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by DaInferno(m): 2:36pm On Apr 26
HisSexcellency:
This is simple, it is a natural law known as automaton conformity. You're drawn to that which you feel comfortable with, it is an involuntary action. Same reason intelligent students in school gets drawn to one another, while the less intelligent ones do likewise.
Same reason it's easier for a smoker to make friend with another smoker in a new environment. Why a poor man easily makes friends with a fellow poor man and the rich with the rich.
Op, it is your personality that attracts them. It will require effort and determination on your part to break this attraction.
Work on this mentality of settling with what you feel comfortable with, and watch how things will change.
brilliant

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Re: Why Do I Keep Meeting Girls From Troubled Families? by Zane2point4(m): 2:53pm On Apr 26
My broda you're not alone o.
And thats why they bill too much, blc of lack of family support grin

Most of these girls dont have a proper home thats why they display nyash and booby for social media without discretion, blc no one cares.

Tasking innocent men like "task force. "

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