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OmoAlata1:
You probably have body or mouth odor. Ask someone that you trust to tell you the truth

First of all, F*** you for the long epistle, i didnt read it. Secondly, you actually have to not do something in order to do it. Get it? Getting women is easier than people think. All you have to do is giveup completely, stop trying to "ask them out", stop thinking of them, just STOP it all. You know how some people live a care free, i dont care lifestyles? You have to live your life like that, totally not giving a single fuckkkc. You wil be amazed how all of a sudden the ladies will be trying to figure you out, trying to hangout with u cuz you seem cool. You just take advantage and get what u want.

Weytin you need na money...

Since you are a broke person, please, Go for the not good looking girls cos the beautiful ones are for people like us that have the money to spend else you'll keep getting rejected.

ubunja:
OP don't take dating advice from a girl

It's good to take advice from both gender.

Maybe, you talk too much.

I'm sure some girls are looking for your attention if you can listen with your eyes.

However, girls will sap your energy if you make them your ambition, you will gain nothing.

You'll understand later.
I wish you the best in your quest to win pvssy.

Byebye

As in, Chris talker right

Lerio:
Didnt finish reading though.. This long thing wey you write might be part of the reason.

waywardpikin:
Lol my nigga. Why I like your thread is because of the honesty with which you communicated your pain. We have all been there, even guys that are more capable than James Bond also get rejected, whether they admit it or not.

From what you wrote, everything checks out and I think you're on the right path. But you're making one crucial mistake that is ruining your game and making a waste of all your effort. I don't even work as hard as you to get ladies.

Your mistake - STOP ASKING WOMEN OUT!

Yeah I put it in caps in hope it'll sink in. You say you hold them around the waist and stuff, that is very good. Your next move is to try and kiss her. Focus on being a flirt, go heavy on the jokes, but sometimes switch and let them see a mean side of you you really don't want them to see.

Be like a light switch, on and off, on and off, hot and cold.

I tell you bro, you will just find yourself in several relationships because the women have already started dating you in their minds. Na after the sex she go dey ask you, "What are we?"

Then you can smile and answer her in Michael Jackson's voice that, "We are the woooooorld, we are the childrennnnnnnn."

Also I think you're taking this dating thing a little too seriously which could be a turn off for some women. Have fun, bro. Have lots of fun. You're still young and the world is your oyster.

P.S. Ideally, I'd advise you to stay off women altogether and focus on building yourself but you need the experience. Men without any experience in Womanology get seriously burned sooner or later so go hard, learn your lessons and grow.

Xoxo.

truly this life is in stages. I remember when I was in Ops shoes. Chai... But I Don fork babes tire now, including 2 NL chics years ago.

Bobo Don dey calm down.

Bros, just take time, it will pass. I would have dropped my own hint but I guess some persons have done justice to it.

God is saving you from a lot of trouble...

Continue your Hustle... You will definitely get any girl you want when the right time comes...

Don't be desperate!!!

tintingz:
It's good to take advice from both gender.

that's for amateurs

SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help

I want to ask you a simple question and that is- Are you handsome? Very handsome? If you are, ladies will give you cues

Alternative, do you understand those cues? If you don't, that's another thing. Do you understand green-lights?

I have a friend who doesn't have a girlfriend and he's over 40. He's confident around them but very lousy and that puts them off.

You're young and had probably had a sheltered upbringing. So, there's a lot of innocence in you.

Don't rush things. Face your career and with time, the right woman will come around. You maybe behaving like an over-aged spinster throwing herself at every man and they keep rejecting her.

And you know the funny thing about that old spinster, it is those who don't give a hoot about their age and not being married have a thousand and one men at their feet begging for marriage. Perhaps, you by being desperate and all, empower them to turn you down.

Please face your career as earlier said. Things will piece itself together. You're who you are. Don't try and be someone else. Don't try and imitate someone else. Eventually when it is time, the pieces will fall into place.

MrWTF:
Don't change a thing on your socialization with girls. The only thing you need to change is your Availability.

Never show a girl you are desperate. Always make her feel she's an option.

Never laugh like a jackal where a girl is, she's gonna take you like a pet, which means Best friend.

Always learn to Say No to a girl.

The most of all, flirt with her friends. Let's say you meet her with her friend in a library, say hello to her, then complement her friend's beauty or her hair, trust me, girls can go crazy for this.

Trust me, you don't need a 7 figure bank statement before you could rip her pant and insert your long dick from behind, thrusting her, till she reaches her peak of pleasure.

I love bro. You spoke my mind

No homo.

MrBrownJay1:
Lower your standards and start to look at more accessible women. If you seek the top beauties out there while your attitude and look isn't as great, then no wonder you will never get these top babes...and should settle for less (or prepare to become a 40yr old virgin)

PS upgrade your self esteem

You are mad

FCBboy:
Trash, trash.

it's clear you're a lowlife.

it isn't your fault but you parents ; one is a goat the other is a dog.


you're just a sewage, you can as well help your father book an appointment with a dentist.

papiforreal:
You are mad

I was shocked too.

ubunja:
that's for amateurs

You balance things, you should also take advice from girls themselves.

So you think men can give every details about women? This is absurd.

Infact I prefer to hear girls talking about how to woo them than guys. Guys will only talk mostly about their own ego.

I want you to listen to this song "Financial woman" Psqure ft phyno. Just watch the video and listen to the song and after you will know exactly what to do.

SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help

tintingz:
You balance things, you should also take advice from girls themselves.

So you think men can give every details about women? This is absurd.

Infact I prefer to hear girls talking about how to woo them than guys. Guys will only talk mostly about their own ego.

do what works for you.

Jgoldie:
You wrote all this epistle ontop woman matter.....dude get a life,a job and make money.....love is so over rated.....matters of the heart happens when we don't expect it...shalom

He is a Virgin tho!

I'm exactly in OP's shoes. I'm 21 tho, but will be done with final year by next week. I came here to read the comments, maybe I can find something useful myself.

I’m currently facing the same problem op..I don’t give a Bleep about them anymore...

Don't date anyone who starts to date you because you start working or making money. They will NEVER be satisfied, will cheat on you constantly and will drop you at the first sign of trouble.

Take a break from ACTIVELY seeking a girlfriend. Let that not be the goal anymore.

You could change your strategy. You could respond to girls who FIRST show interest in you. It is more efficient that way. They may not come and say outright: "Baby let's go out". Look out for more subtle signs.

Be busy. Busy with work, your passions, sport, etc. A guy that is ALWAYS available quickly becomes a doormat. Keeping busy could also lead you to more people, give you confidence, etc.

Finally, loosen any unnecessarily stringent "criteria" you (consciously or subconsciously) have: ethnicity, age, etc.

*face palm
The amount of energy men spend on women issues in this forum sef.

So that he'll be 35, still a virgin and chicks will think something is wrong with him.

grandstar:
I want to ask you a simple question and that is- Are you handsome? Very handsome? If you are, ladies will give you cues

Alternative, do you understand those cues? If you don't, that's another thing. Do you understand green-lights?

I have a friend who doesn't have a girlfriend and he's over 40. He's confident around them but very lousy and that puts them off.

You're young and had probably had a sheltered upbringing. So, there's a lot of innocence in you.

Don't rush things. Face your career and with time, the right woman will come around. You maybe behaving like an over-aged spinster throwing herself at every man and they keep rejecting her.

And you know the funny thing about that old spinster, it is those who don't give a hoot about their age and not being married have a thousand and one men at their feet begging for marriage. Perhaps, you by being desperate and all, empower them to turn you down.

Please face your career as earlier said. Things will piece itself together. You're who you are. Don't try and be someone else. Don't try and imitate someone else. Eventually when it is time, the pieces will fall into place.

peachesandcream:
stop asking girls out, it's too formal and it just doesn't work.. if u like a girl don't let her know, seduce her and bang her. Make it look like a mistake then afterwards tell her how u feel, she will accept. Girls are attracted to bad boys who don't show them attention initially. After u seduce her and get into her pants.. she will most likely accept. Don't ever act like a sissy be strong and stern. She will turn to mumu for u. Also create an impression u get attention from other girls too much with incoming calls and messages... She will always be on her feet!!!

Make ur room super cozy!!! Gotv, AC, generator, home theater etc, Buy Latest and good movies. Some Nigerian movies too!! Make it a room a lady will love to stay. Manipulate her into spending nights with u. Using movies series etc.
Everything will flow during night time

See plans

@post,

There is nothing wrong...you may be missing the vibe or the swag most of these girls want, however, that doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you.

My advise for you:
For now, lay off and simply stay focused on completing your education...continue to better yourself in all areas, when the time is right, all these girls will start chasing you around town.

No need to lose confidence, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin and It is absolutely ok not to have a girlfriend...This is just a temporary phase that will disappear with time.


Stay focused, take a good care of your body/ mind and love yourself...All your dreams will come true.

BECOME AN INCEL BRO

SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help

Why not face front, I mean face the future. ..My bro Naija is hard ooo... Go get a good degree, get a job and settle down.. let the sleeping dog lie...

Pray for your woman. Behave responsibly and believe in God. Shikena.

Hintona:
*face palm

The amount of energy men spend on women issues in this forum sef.

Na women beauty dey cause am..

You getam for money?

XhosaNostra:
The OP doesn't seem like your kind, whose main concern is to add another notch on the bedpost. In fact, he's way above you dimwits. He seems to be looking for something genuine, not an empty shell of a relationship founded on nothingness & manipulation. Don't try to convert him to your shallow lifestyle, but I trust he's smart enough to sift through the chaff.

I hope you speak as good as you write