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Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by Sweettwenty8: 6:51am On Aug 14, 2019
realoscar84:
U know my main concern in all this, you are feeding ur 3 colleagues at the office on daily basis? Not sometimes o, but everyday. Hia, what are feeling like? Mother Theresa? Mind you, I'm not a miser but I can't allow my wife to waste my resources on strangers called office colleagues. I put it to you woman. You are wasteful, you want to look like a generous woman in the eyes of your colleagues. Who does that in this buhari govt? You can help the needy but not always feeding office colleagues who earn salary like you. I'm very sure your husband is unaware how you do mother Christmas with his food stuff. And I'm equally sure, you wouldn't be that generous with the food if you are the one buying it. Nonsense n ingredients. its not good to be aka gum but you are wasteful, woman.

My buddies just started work and they can't find tgeir feet yet, bringing them food is totally my doing.. It's no crime if i choose to feed hust 2 people in my office everyday.. Its so me

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Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by Isoduwa(m): 6:52am On Aug 14, 2019
Sweettwenty8:


Are you done talking or you still wanna spew more trash?


Is for your own good

You should be ashamed of yourself
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by Sweettwenty8: 6:53am On Aug 14, 2019
Its not murder, far as i know, he's very dumb.
1witGod:
And you want this person to remain alive after this murder....
quote or=NwaAmaikpe post=81152076] shocked



Your husband is such a polite gentleman. His kind is rare and he thinks so much about how you'd feel and that's why he won't tell you truth.
That is so wrong of him but Hanty, NwaAmaikpe is here to serve you that long hidden truth.

You are a pathetic cook and he is being too civil to say it. Dude cares so much about it not coming off the wrong way so he'd communicate indirectly and expect an intelligent you to get the subliminal message.

Sadly you don't.

Your colleagues only tolerate your meal because it is free. I don't think they'd eat past a spoon if they were paying for it.
You also don't expect them to criticize it because very few are like us.

I once had a colleague back then who always brought food for me. One day I decided to give it a try.
I tasted the beans and it was like raw carbide mixed with Cameroon pepper.
Anyways, I was courteous enough to tell her to send an assassin instead of trying to kill me with food.

Ewa should be the easiest thing for you to cook....so if he keeps requesting for Iya Basira's ewa, it is so that it can help neutralize the effect of the remaining of your edible poison in the rice and stew.

Please be a virtuous woman.
Be a wife,
And be a mother to that poor man.
It's not fair that you have to send him to Sokoto to get what is in his shokoto.
It's also not fair that you waste his resources to build office relationships.

It is from clapping that the best dances emanate.
Today, you feel obliged to feed your colleagues.
They now eat daily from your cooler. I hope very soon they won't be eating out of your honeypot as well?

"It is from help me hold my gown, help me hold my gown that Azuka found out the colour of his landlady's pant".
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by ClilT: 6:55am On Aug 14, 2019
Probably you wont get to read my mesage but if you do, please disregard Nwamaikpe and many negative comments. I myself came to lagos after long years of leaving lagos for enugu due to juicy work. It was hard for me leaving lagos in 2016 but it paid off. Now coming to lagos on leave, I ate ewa with beans every morning though their were other delicious home made foods but that ewa is too sweet, then there comes ewedu and amala with ram meat from one particular iya ........ I frequented the amala joint for lunch and ewa for breakfast. I'm pure igbo boy but I enjoy it, I plan marrying a decent yoruba girl that can make both food well and thank God i found an industrious young smart completely beautiful front and back good height yoruba girl cheesy, she agreed to marry igbo when I asked her, before I left for enugu she said she would never. Now I'm shooting my shot perfectly and kiss so dear, learn to make this ewa and understand how he wants his diet, you would be happy you did. Hood lick smiley

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Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by Centcanada: 6:57am On Aug 14, 2019
That is just an habit he just form and he is now addicted to it. You can't do any thing dear. Put him in prayer and you will see it will stop. Don't panic! Its just a temptation. It is well.
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by darmie456: 6:58am On Aug 14, 2019
Hmmn
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by davibid: 7:02am On Aug 14, 2019
Sweettwenty8:


You need likes for sure, his actions paints me as a bad cook but the truth is i cook good, so if my colleagues eat what i make because its free, he's got never ending family members that come around and I'll serve them and they'll ask for second helpings?

Plus shut the Bleep up i have Female colleagues your gf might be shagiing her male colleagues its not my problem



...

Please ignore the idiot, and I’m happy for you that you were never affected by his derogatory comment please don’t because he’s obviously not married and hence has no idea of the magnitude of his comments, people like him are the reason why most times I’d advise people to look for alternative means of solving their problems, mostly ones as critical and sensitive as yours rather than bringing them to NL.
But my advice is that you talk to him about his reasons of persisting in eating the ‘ewa’ outside when you can cook always. But mind you, most times is not because your cooking is bad, it could just be how the woman cooks the beans. Personally, I like my beans very soft and very few people cook beans to my taste, back then not even my mum, my woman but my eldest sister only, and honestly they are all great cook.

The question is

1. Is your husband doing same thing when you cook other foods, if NO! then please relax you have no problem
2. Is he asking you to buy from a particular woman and if yes then you need not to worry just find the best possible way to ask him what is special about the woman’s beans or you should try the beans yourself and compare with yours and see what recipe was missing.
I wish you all the best.

...




#KINGBID
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by Reucy(f): 7:03am On Aug 14, 2019
I thought I was the only one addicted to eating ewa.
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by Ikem11(m): 7:03am On Aug 14, 2019
thesicilian:
Who remembers this song Iya Basira by Styl Plus?

People people make una come o!

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Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by Unrated900(m): 7:04am On Aug 14, 2019
Charleys:
You are married to a Yoruba man.

They just can't eat rice alone. It's just this weird belief that eating rice alone is bad except you add EWas to make it balance diet. (Which isn't true).

Just the same way I can't eat rice alone without banana sliced in.

So what you'll do is cook EWA anytime you cook rice.






Slicing banana in rice am sure you are from the eastern part

Only them with different weird styles of food
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by Donkenny511(m): 7:05am On Aug 14, 2019
Correct guy �
psalmuelwater:
You might need to intern with that particular "mama put" for a week, so you can learn how he loves it. If after doing this, he's still hellbent on that particular woman's "EWA". It is finished niyen ooo. You better go MFM go deliver am
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by obeycian(m): 7:10am On Aug 14, 2019
thesicilian:
Who remembers this song Iya Basira by Styl Plus?
Everyone does.. That song sweet pass Iya basiri

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Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by psalmmycapo(m): 7:13am On Aug 14, 2019
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked

Wow

Your husband is such a polite gentleman. His kind is rare and he thinks so much about how you'd feel and that's why he won't tell you truth.
That is so wrong of him but Hanty, NwaAmaikpe is here to serve you that long hidden truth.

You are a pathetic cook and he is being too civil to say it. Dude cares so much about it not coming off the wrong way so he'd communicate indirectly and expect an intelligent you to get the subliminal message.

Sadly you don't.

Your colleagues only tolerate your meal because it is free. I don't think they'd eat past a spoon if they were paying for it.
You also don't expect them to criticize it because very few are like us.

I once had a colleague back then who always brought food for me. One day I decided to give it a try.
I tasted the beans and it was like raw carbide mixed with Cameroon pepper.
Anyways, I was courteous enough to tell her to send an assassin instead of trying to kill me with food.

Ewa should be the easiest thing for you to cook....so if he keeps requesting for Iya Basira's ewa, it is so that it can help neutralize the effect of the remaining of your edible poison in the rice and stew.

Please be a virtuous woman.
Be a wife,
And be a mother to that poor man.
It's not fair that you have to send him to Sokoto to get what is in his shokoto.
It's also not fair that you waste his resources to build office relationships.

It is from clapping that the best dances emanate.
Today, you feel obliged to feed your colleagues.
They now eat daily from your cooler. I hope very soon they won't be eating out of your honeypot as well?

"It is from help me hold my gown, help me hold my gown that Azuka found out the colour of his landlady's pant".
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by psalmmycapo(m): 7:14am On Aug 14, 2019
Not correct
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by otokx(m): 7:15am On Aug 14, 2019
Speechless, mamaput is supposed to be occasional, when you leave house early to the mechanic for example.
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by Nobody: 7:18am On Aug 14, 2019
Let him be. Ewa goin is divine
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by KingMicky3286: 7:21am On Aug 14, 2019
Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

Is that all? I clicked to read this just read that you caught him doing rituals at night or cheating with some tolo-tolo babes

Please this should not bother you. It’s called addiction.
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by ultimateprof: 7:24am On Aug 14, 2019
This is my view concerning this matter, neither the beans nor your cooking style is bad; none of them is bad, the only problem here is the challenges that is associated with new marriages. Let me explain; when both of you are still dating, you will observe that you are his all in all with different sweet names and so on, everything you do that time will be highly appreciated, later when you people got married some changes will begin to occur that even him or you will not understand, by so doing you will begin to see him developing some changes, and one of those changes is this ( ewa) as you rightly say.
These changes are normal or are synonymous with new marriages, this is were the maturity need to come in. To buttress this, all these challenges arises because both of you have seen each other in and out and lots of things will be like a surprise to him likewise to you. So because of that you will begin to see strange behaviours.
Don't be offended with his strange behaviours, it's natural.
Mind you, this can happen to anyone, whether born again or unbeliever.

This is my advise; repackaged your self, your styles and upgrade your activities to some level, with this, he's going to change to that man that you have been dreaming of.
The only thing that is permanent is change. As he changes you too can change for good as well.
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by Lachynos2k2(m): 7:27am On Aug 14, 2019
thesicilian:
Who remembers this song Iya Basira by Styl Plus?

Record breaking!
This is the highest number of "likes" I've ever seen on nairaland... 1094 and still counting..
Savage!

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Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by bigpicture001: 7:28am On Aug 14, 2019
All u lot saying sh can't cook..cant even comprehend a statement.....sh said her hubby does dt ONLY wen sh cooks rice!..

He eats the rice well but it must b with "EWa"
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by tomdon(m): 7:29am On Aug 14, 2019
You reside in an estate and drive a car. That's pure water these days. Nobody gives a damn
So you need people on the internet to tell you how to tell your husband that he should go and buy Ewa by himself.
Anyway when you find work, you can be taking excuse from work to go and buy Ewa after you finish cooking rice and stew. Oponu
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by ChristianEast: 7:31am On Aug 14, 2019
Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad
If you are married to a Yoruba, just let it slide or gradually work on that.

It is really painful, but they can't just do without that.

Nobody sabi cook beans pass Yorubas #FACT

If you see me disgracing myself any time i am in Lagos because of yoruba beans, you won't believe it.
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by adisabarber(m): 7:31am On Aug 14, 2019
Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

Won ti get oko yin ma
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by ChristianEast: 7:32am On Aug 14, 2019
tomdon:
You reside in an estate and drive a car. That's pure water these days. Nobody gives a damn
So you need people on the internet to tell you how to tell your husband that he should go and buy Ewa by himself.
Anyway when you find work, you can be taking excuse from work to go and buy Ewa after you finish cooking rice and stew. Oponu
Your post oozes of hate.

Go and make money and stop behaving like bihari
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by Jozay(m): 7:33am On Aug 14, 2019
OP
Your story reminds me of that song "Iya Basira". You should find out why he likes it so much and try to replicate it.
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by solepager(m): 7:34am On Aug 14, 2019
sassysure:
My Yoruba and Lagos people, over to u grin
I no fit put mouth for this.

It's not only smokers and drinkers that can be addicts.
We have ewa addicts too cheesy
But i really don't understand the love for water water beans o.
I have seen lines formed somewhere at oyinbo just for this ewa.


Ewa agowin the op mentioned is not the watered beans. It's usually prepared by the Togolese and hawked in a silver rounded pot cheesy
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by BrainSanitizer: 7:35am On Aug 14, 2019
thesicilian:
Who remembers this song Iya Basira by Styl Plus?
Police whe come arrest Iya basira come join for the jollification! Your head dey there!

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Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by sylve11: 7:35am On Aug 14, 2019
Charleys:
You are married to a Yoruba man.

They just can't eat rice alone. It's just this weird belief that eating rice alone is bad except you add EWas to make it balance diet. (Which isn't true).

Just the same way I can't eat rice alone without banana sliced in.

So what you'll do is cook EWA anytime you cook rice.


you read wetin she typed at all\? undecided cool
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by MrBONE2(m): 7:36am On Aug 14, 2019
Charleys:
You are married to a Yoruba man.

They just can't eat rice alone. It's just this weird belief that eating rice alone is bad except you add EWas to make it balance diet. (Which isn't true).

Just the same way I can't eat rice alone without banana sliced in.

So what you'll do is cook EWA anytime you cook rice.


BEst advice eva
Re: Please Help My Husband Does This Weird Stuff by tomdon(m): 7:38am On Aug 14, 2019
ChristianEast:

Your post oozes of hate.

Go and make money and stop behaving like bihari



What if money is not a problem

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