please nairalanders happy Sunday please help me

RickyE:
I'm the one thinking of leaving her. The school fees was increased when we already got inside.
What I don't understand is why everybody just depends on me. I even assist most of the guys here in my hostel when they are unable to do things. I don't know if I should shut out my conscience and focus only on my life. My mother is completely my responsibility because she is old and can't work anymore. I don't want to regret these things later in future.
I don't see the assistance I render her as investment I see it as just help

Mr man the truth is that no good you do can ever be in vain it is a universal truth irrespective of your religious beliefs.
Once you help the poor you are lending to God and God doesn't owe anyone . See your good deeds as an investment into your future
Be not weary in well doing for you will reap it in due season if you faint not

RickyE:
millions is 7 figures actually.
100k plus is the fees
I already said I went into online stuffs coz of it. I wouldn't want to go into details

If your business is legit, why not teach her how to fish.
Settle her with some money to start off. You can tell her if she can't scale then you are off.

if I were in your shoes, I will still continue with her only because she was there while I was struggling. some of us didn't have that when things became very bad for us. the women we think we share something with end up going to the available highest bidder. so I will advice you to still be with her as coming from a poor background is not her fault. it is something that come naturally. if you have a few spare cash, I will advice you help her set up something so she can take care of herself.


if you choose to leave her, I can assure you that you are not doing anything wrong. you don't owe her anything.

RickyE:
100k plus

I don’t know your beliefs but for me, I see it as blessing. How are you sure it’s not because of her that God is blessing your hustle.


There’s a reason God pushed her to your side. Forget your mates and friends going far. You’ve gone far than they can ever get for now except they also have your kind of responsibility.

Now you not only have yourself to use has point of contact to God for blessing. You also have a whole family one by one to use. You potentially have the opportunity to tap into the blessing of a whole family to enrich your own but they(your friends don’t).

Just ask God to keep blessing you so you can do more for them and if they don’t appreciate it, don’t get angry, just be happy that you’re assisting Gods creation.

RickyE:
thank you bro I really appreciate
This is clearly what I believe the case is

All that money without the right girl will still equal doom. This girl has chilled with you from zero to hero. She didn't complain when she was giving you her all and all.

Truth is, it's the money that's getting into your head. When you eventually have so much, you'd realize that life doesn't end with excess money.

My advise, dont leave her out to dry. Teach her something, or set her up one last time and let her stand on her own.

In the future, she might be in a position to support you financially. We both know there's no insurance with working online legitimately. Some periods can be dry.

When I met my wife, it was to chop and run. One very difficult day, she sent me recharge card of #200. That day I vowed to take her serious. We were broke in school but we managed. My friends had money and went far. I was static. But we managed to survive, get married, and grew together. Today we can buy anything we want. But those my rich friends? They had so much that they could not stick to a responsible lifestyle. It's now all about bìtches and hóes for them, and they're not worth 1/10th of us now because they didnt learn that discipline.

Suicide rates are high now. Do what is right for you, but do right by her too.

BTW, if you're a Yahoo boy, quit now!

ZaOzaRoom:
Let her go else you will suffer of heart attack in the future.
She lied to you that it was her uncle that was supporting her only for you to find out that it was her ex. Mind you, the ex was not just pushing money to her, he was also fvcking her. If she has the mind to lie to you p, she would do worse later. Don't be with a woman out of pity, you may regret it later in life.

Ex = the main guy

He is just a sponsor.

She must have told the so called ex that you are a cousins or brother

I've scanned through this thread and have come to the conclusion that the OP is a yahoo boy. There's no excuse for duping people under the guise of being from a poor family!

If you love her marry her now before it's too late

No Mimi there mate


With that 6 figure you can't start any buzz , with her help and their family in support

Am not saying school is not go oooh but ask those who are out without job not to talk of not having anybody ( connection )

Marry her and put a business plan together ..( as for me I need 6 figure too oooh , have many business plans ...)


Think about it mate

Mcslize:


Exactly. Federal universities are really trying in terms of school fees. Back then I paid N14500 in one of the federal universities. 1 thousand was later added making it N15400. That's for a whole session o.

not again Sha like uniben increased theirs from 14,500 to 45,000 but despite that it's still affordable

RickyE:
I created this account just for this purpose and I might have to deactivate it and follow this thread with with my main account just for privacy reasons. Thanks for your understanding.

I actually like this girl, we've been together for almost 4 years now, I'm in 400 level currently, I'm from a poor family to be honest and this girl's family is far worse than mine financially. She is in this university too, since she didn't have her own place to stay, we were staying together. Our school fees here is 6 figures, since my family is not good financially, I had to do some online stuffs that bring money so that I can pay my bills and assist my family.

I was completely broke when we met she used to give me little little support financially, if she had until I had my own money. I actually didn't know she didn't have anybody to support her because she lied her uncle was the one supporting her until I found out that it was her ex boyfriend who was helping her. She confessed everything and the situation with her family when I discovered they met (that happened last year) I cancelled everything but later reconsidered after thinking it through.

The major problem is that I'm paying my own fees which is in 6 figures as well as hers ( which is also 6 figures), support my family, any money I give her she sends straight to her mother, sometimes I also have to assist her mother.
I know this is not her fault but I don't think I can move forward like this, taking full care of her, supporting my family, and having to also assist her mother. So I told her to go.
I just don't understand why everybody just has to depend on me I'm not even 25 yet.
Somehow I feel really bad because we together when things started going well small small but most of my guys have really gone far but I just keep moving up and down. It's not that I'm doing badly but I just feel there's too much weight on my head, the worst part of it is that all these people are very good people I just don't know what to do.

I know some people might think I'm one of the mugus out there who sponsor girls with the hope of marrying her or someone who tries to buy a girl but I don't give girls money, I prefer giving it to a guy because I feel guys appreciate and understand better but her case is kind of different mainly because we both somehow struggled together until things got better
I don't know if I should just let her go or accept her like that

I don't know if it's a good idea to put this on front page but I'd like it to be more visible.

Tell us what you do online before we judge u, are u into Yahoo?

adeboi1:
icl.ef

Nice post. Tell him to keep it up.

iClef:
Nice post. Tell him to keep it up.

My mind told me this is what you would say.

My brother its better you quit now bfr you have to learn by pain, talking from experience, the girl will leave or cheats when she finds someone buoyant than u,I understand your generosity but that doesn't mean you should turn a fool,if time passed you aren't able to account for what u achieved for the past years except her burdens you solved, you could be depressed

My brother its better you quit now bfr you have to learn by pain, talking from experience, the girl will leave or cheats when she finds someone buoyant than u,I understand your generosity but that doesn't mean you should turn a fool,if time passed you aren't able to account for what u achieved for the past years except her burdens you solved, you could be depressed.

RickyE:
I honestly don't know because we were together for over a year while I was completely broke.
I already told her to leave, she has left, I mean traveled back home. She left the phone I gave her. I gave her an iPhone when I bought a new one I discovered that she left the phone and only took her old android

The girl � get head, n humble �, you'd be missing out I tell you.

RickyE:
I created this account just for this purpose and I might have to deactivate it and follow this thread with with my main account just for privacy reasons. Thanks for your understanding.

I actually like this girl, we've been together for almost 4 years now, I'm in 400 level currently, I'm from a poor family to be honest and this girl's family is far worse than mine financially. She is in this university too, since she didn't have her own place to stay, we were staying together. Our school fees here is 6 figures, since my family is not good financially, I had to do some online stuffs that bring money so that I can pay my bills and assist my family.

I was completely broke when we met she used to give me little little support financially, if she had until I had my own money. I actually didn't know she didn't have anybody to support her because she lied her uncle was the one supporting her until I found out that it was her ex boyfriend who was helping her. She confessed everything and the situation with her family when I discovered they met (that happened last year) I cancelled everything but later reconsidered after thinking it through.

The major problem is that I'm paying my own fees which is in 6 figures as well as hers ( which is also 6 figures), support my family, any money I give her she sends straight to her mother, sometimes I also have to assist her mother.
I know this is not her fault but I don't think I can move forward like this, taking full care of her, supporting my family, and having to also assist her mother. So I told her to go.
I just don't understand why everybody just has to depend on me I'm not even 25 yet.
Somehow I feel really bad because we together when things started going well small small but most of my guys have really gone far but I just keep moving up and down. It's not that I'm doing badly but I just feel there's too much weight on my head, the worst part of it is that all these people are very good people I just don't know what to do.

I know some people might think I'm one of the mugus out there who sponsor girls with the hope of marrying her or someone who tries to buy a girl but I don't give girls money, I prefer giving it to a guy because I feel guys appreciate and understand better but her case is kind of different mainly because we both somehow struggled together until things got better
I don't know if I should just let her go or accept her like that

I don't know if it's a good idea to put this on front page but I'd like it to be more visible.

All I know is I can’t forget a gal that struggled with me period! even if we aren’t together I will still support her anytime I can. Same applies to my real niggahs who are there for me. It’s not even remotely possible to forget them. Sm other guys may do it bt I’m not in that category.

There are few gals who stick with u when Ure struggling. They are like gold to me.

If the pressure is too much for u try to make her abit independent by giving her a business idea to do instead of her asking u for everything. If she knows the value of money she will be willing to try and make her own money.

How many gals will struggle with u think about it, and it’s not like u don’t like her so figure out Smtn for her to do. Gals sell alot of things like accessories and items online these days.

Your online stuff is ‘The more you look the less you see?’

I will tell EFCC for you

UnknownQueen:

Tell us what you do online before we judge u, are u into Yahoo?

Lol
And you expect him to agree to being a Yahoo?

Kingosytex:
Her ex boyfriend was still helping her?


Oh boy! Remember Okafor's Law.


It is a pity!!!! The load you are carrying is really a heavy one.


Yes, you guys love each other but i wouldn't want emotions to drown rational thinking, you are a man on your own. If the load is becoming too heavy that you can't hold it any longer then let go...i don't mean you should dump her, no not at all. She can actually defer why you continue, you are in 400 level and you are almost done. She can defer, when things get better everything will be sorted out.

You are the most wicked unreasonable person on earth. You will reap a thousand folds what you advised the OP to do. Just be watching as things start unfolding for you.

RickyE:
if I should just let her go or accept her like that

You are obviously not a good and genuine person. Dont worry disappoints are waiting for u in future just as you are about to let this girl down. I cant imagine how heartless humans can be. Is money everything in life? U have small money now and u are behaving as if u have arrived. You can't sacrifice it and help the girl and her family till she herself also graduates and gets something doing. When u had nothing, did u die? Now you have small money and can afford to assist but greediness will not allow u reason right. Just continue, ur karma is waiting for u in front. You are obviously a yahoo boy. The greed is really manifesting in you already.

RickyE:
I'm the one thinking of leaving her. The school fees was increased when we already got inside.
What I don't understand is why everybody just depends on me. I even assist most of the guys here in my hostel when they are unable to do things. I don't know if I should shut out my conscience and focus only on my life. My mother is completely my responsibility because she is old and can't work anymore. I don't want to regret these things later in future.
I don't see the assistance I render her as investment I see it as just help

never shut out people. If you can help, then do it. The rewards that come with rendering help to those in need can never be overestimated. You think you re burdened now because you are young but I tell you, it will be a thing of pride when later, people will say "it is because of this man that I am who I am today". You saw that she left the phone you gave to her without you asking for it. Doesn't that tell you that she is not after what you can give? Her being fr a poor background is not her fault and you were her helper but you chose to turn your back on her. I hope you re think your decision. People here are saying she wasn't receiving help from her ex without still sleeping with him.. Lol... I laugh bro... Don't let Nigerian mentality enter your head. I help a few of my exes when they need my assistance and that is all it is. When you loved someone and things don't work out, you don't stop caring for them. I am still friends with most of my exes and we talk well. I help them when they ask for assistance and I know I am capable because we shared a past and I still care for their well being. Don't let the devil use you young man. God blesses us so that we can in turn be blessings unto others. That you are doing well today is not by your power or intelligence but God's grace.

Cocotrendz:

1000000

six figures?? as in #1000000? guy you are not poor o, a poor cannot afford such a huge amount, abi you're mocking the poor ni?

Isn't it sweet that these guys have selective blindness? They conveniently missed the part where she used to help out before he started his hustling.

RickyE:
I created this account just for this purpose and I might have to deactivate it and follow this thread with with my main account just for privacy reasons. Thanks for your understanding.

I actually like this girl, we've been together for almost 4 years now, I'm in 400 level currently, I'm from a poor family to be honest and this girl's family is far worse than mine financially. She is in this university too, since she didn't have her own place to stay, we were staying together. Our school fees here is 6 figures, since my family is not good financially, I had to do some online stuffs that bring money so that I can pay my bills and assist my family.

I was completely broke when we met she used to give me little little support financially, if she had until I had my own money. I actually didn't know she didn't have anybody to support her because she lied her uncle was the one supporting her until I found out that it was her ex boyfriend who was helping her. She confessed everything and the situation with her family when I discovered they met (that happened last year) I cancelled everything but later reconsidered after thinking it through.

The major problem is that I'm paying my own fees which is in 6 figures as well as hers ( which is also 6 figures), support my family, any money I give her she sends straight to her mother, sometimes I also have to assist her mother.
I know this is not her fault but I don't think I can move forward like this, taking full care of her, supporting my family, and having to also assist her mother. So I told her to go.
I just don't understand why everybody just has to depend on me I'm not even 25 yet.
Somehow I feel really bad because we together when things started going well small small but most of my guys have really gone far but I just keep moving up and down. It's not that I'm doing badly but I just feel there's too much weight on my head, the worst part of it is that all these people are very good people I just don't know what to do.

I know some people might think I'm one of the mugus out there who sponsor girls with the hope of marrying her or someone who tries to buy a girl but I don't give girls money, I prefer giving it to a guy because I feel guys appreciate and understand better but her case is kind of different mainly because we both somehow struggled together until things got better
I don't know if I should just let her go or accept her like that

I don't know if it's a good idea to put this on front page but I'd like it to be more visible.

all these fables people keep creating. always claiming to be users creating anonymous account. pathetic story tellers. they cannot name these six figure school fee universities. they cannot tell you the course they or their gf is reading. of course seun's click hungry mods will post straight to FP - the battle of the sexes brings clicks, after all

U did stuffs online. Yahoo boy

abdulazeez1002:
Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day, teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.

Teach her your online stuffs

no be her alone o, pls teach me as well

I really appreciate your advice but the thing is that you don't get the full picture because I didn't go into details. The school fees was increased when we were already in school. I did not want to go to another school and start from scratch because I really don't believe in school I was begged and persuaded by my family, including her to go to university because my jamb score was insanely high that time. The thing is that all the people who stood by me then and supported me are all completely dependent on me now and I feel I'm too young for that kind of weight so I'm having a serious conflict between my conscience and common sense. I can't leave my family so that's completely out of the question.

nobody is too young to shoulder responsibilities young man. Didn't you read the news? A 27 year old is now commissioner for youth and sports in a state in Nigeria. That is a position that mostly older men handle. Now a very young man walks in those shoes shouldering such huge responsibility. You should be glad you have responsibilities and are capable to handle them. When God puts you in front of a door, he gives you the key to open it. When he gives you responsibilities it is because he knows you can handle it. Responsibilities don't stunt you... The grow you.

jovialswag:
whst type of online stuff if its legitbi will like to learn

Yahoo yahoo
The OP na yahoo boy obviously

The op should just teach the girl on how to do the "online stuff" nah so she will be self sufficient too abi woman no go fit down am ni?

Are you into scamming business or illegitimate business? You better repent bros

RickyE:
I'm the one thinking of leaving her. The school fees was increased when we already got inside.
What I don't understand is why everybody just depends on me. I even assist most of the guys here in my hostel when they are unable to do things. I don't know if I should shut out my conscience and focus only on my life. My mother is completely my responsibility because she is old and can't work anymore. I don't want to regret these things later in future.
I don't see the assistance I render her as investment I see it as just help

Support your parents if you have the means. Others are secondary. As for your girlfriend, if you can't pay everything, you can pay half or part of it. That's if you insist you must help.
Or, alternatively, why don't you teach her that online biz you're doing ?