LORDKing001:

What exactly do you do in school?

E-commerce (mini importation)

BamiTii:

E-commerce (mini importation)

Do you wish to share?

LORDKing001:

Do you wish to share?

No problem, you can send an email to everythingcheapcollections@gmail.com

BamiTii:

No problem, you can send an email to everythingcheapcollections@gmail.com

Just mail you

I created this account just for this purpose and I might have to deactivate it and follow this thread with with my main account just for privacy reasons. Thanks for your understanding.

I actually like this girl, we've been together for almost 4 years now, I'm in 400 level currently, I'm from a poor family to be honest and this girl's family is far worse than mine financially. She is in this university too, since she didn't have her own place to stay, we were staying together. Our school fees here is 6 figures, since my family is not good financially, I had to do some online stuffs that bring money so that I can pay my bills and assist my family.

I was completely broke when we met she used to give me little little support financially, if she had until I had my own money. I actually didn't know she didn't have anybody to support her because she lied her uncle was the one supporting her until I found out that it was her ex boyfriend who was helping her. She confessed everything and the situation with her family when I discovered they met (that happened last year) I cancelled everything but later reconsidered after thinking it through.

The major problem is that I'm paying my own fees which is in 6 figures as well as hers ( which is also 6 figures), support my family, any money I give her she sends straight to her mother, sometimes I also have to assist her mother.
I know this is not her fault but I don't think I can move forward like this, taking full care of her, supporting my family, and having to also assist her mother. So I told her to go.
I just don't understand why everybody just has to depend on me I'm not even 25 yet.
Somehow I feel really bad because we together when things started going well small small but most of my guys have really gone far but I just keep moving up and down. It's not that I'm doing badly but I just feel there's too much weight on my head, the worst part of it is that all these people are very good people I just don't know what to do.

I know some people might think I'm one of the mugus out there who sponsor girls with the hope of marrying her or someone who tries to buy a girl but I don't give girls money, I prefer giving it to a guy because I feel guys appreciate and understand better but her case is kind of different mainly because we both somehow struggled together until things got better
I don't know if I should just let her go or accept her like that

I don't know if it's a good idea to put this on front page but I'd like it to be more visible.

In all you have said, you didn't mention love, it's possible that you like her but don't love her very deep

Yes you can help anyone you wishes to help, it's your choice.

You are carrying her load in addition to your own load because you want to and you might be doing it out of pity

You are the one to ask yourself, do I love her or is it just out of pity ❓

If you love her be good as you have been and you will get your reward but if its out of pity, please leave her before it gets late, 4yrs is not four months

BamiTii:

No problem, you can send an email to everythingcheapcollections@gmail.com

awaiting your reply

can I send u a pm

LORDKing001:
awaiting your reply

I've replied

Originalsly:


That you are here asking means that your conscience is bothering you. Whatever you decide to do... be first sure you can sleep with a clear conscience at nights. As I see it... you are comfortable supporting her... giving from the heart. Others... you are not giving from the heart.... drop them. For the girl..... if you are thinking of making her your wife... you need to let her know but she need to cut ALL ties with her ex. You know more details... but from the little you shared... she may make a good wife. Poor or rich.... I can't think of a girl that would voluntarily give up an iPhone whatever...to go back to her old android... that says a lot. On you as a person... some people it is in their nature to share... same way some people are coveteous and selfish.... but you need to draw the line. Other people will take advantage of you... they will always come with you with sad stories knowing you will cave in. My advice... whenever they are done... tell them pele.... if you had only known yesterday.. you could've helped..but you got yourself into some serious financial problems. Have a sad story to also share with them. It works for me.
Don't drop her.... she is not your problem... stop overextending yourself....Mr Charity??

nice points there.

But what's with you and ellipses? It's way too much in your write-up. Use commas instead of those ellipses.

BamiTii:

No problem, you can send an email to everythingcheapcollections@gmail.com

Sent.

Hullabaloon:


nice points there.

But what's with you and ellipses? It's way too much in your write-up. Use commas instead of those ellipses.

Lol.... laziness and convenience.... got to do too much to get to the comma key!

Originalsly:


Lol.... laziness and convenience.... got to do too much to get to the comma key!

Hopefully, you don't become used to that.

Hullabaloon:


Hopefully, you don't become used to that.

Been used to it..... but never do in formal writings.

Ok

eni4real:
But she got the money from her "ex" na though she lied that an uncle was sponsoring her!!!

Red flag

" Red flag" does it stop d fact that she used the money to feed him when he was broke.

Choice4347:

" Red flag" does it stop d fact that she used the money to feed him when he was broke.

So, money gotten from prostitution should not be questioned right..? Afterall she was 'supporting' the guy?
Good riddance to bad rubbish!!!