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Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez39(m): 7:34pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
KevinDein:Any man in the US that gets married is a fool. Rationality forbids that any soul sympathises with him. 3 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by 1Sharon(f): 7:35pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
AreaFada2: Lool..I disagree with this. Its boys that empathise with the mums more, whereas the girls wont succumb the mothers brainwashing. Its nature. The boys protect the women/mothers and the dads protect the girls. Some men admit they do prefer female children. When men are faced with another man that's someone they can fight and antagonize but women are less of a threat 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez39(m): 7:36pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Ishilove:Ubunja is a wise man. If you love your son, pray that your son becomes like ubunja. 5 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by elektra(f): 7:39pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Martinez39: Where is the lie? Point out the lie in my post with facts. But no... you are suddenly bringing up MGTOW. And women are the emotional ones.. Okay You can choose to continue blaming women for your inability to play your role as a father or you can educate yourself on your rights. In the US you have rights as a father! And it is your responsibility to get them enforced! He didn’t even bother to ask where I live. |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by KevinDein: 7:39pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Martinez39:Just about the only thing we got right; ensuring women in this part aren't overly empowered. Women can't handle power, they will abuse it: see "madam" vs house girl/boy relationship in Nigeria for reference. Women lack empathy, they only feign it. 5 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:42pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Martinez39: You will be fine with your delusion, las las. 3 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Ishilove: 7:46pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Martinez39:Like I said, let God open your understanding so you can differentiate between the ravings of a psychologically disturbed person and godly wisdom. Anyway, the followers of Jim Jones thought he was the wisest man on Earth. Why, even Hitler's Mein Kampf was a bestseller in Germany in the 1930s so I am not surprised at your adoration of ubunja's steaming piles of horse shit. 2 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Nobody: 7:58pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Martinez39:That's it bro.. I love how you actually made her look stupid,very stupid, by ignoring her childish rants. 1 Like |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Fountainofyouth(f): 8:06pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Martinez39: Not like you? What an asślicker, ubunja a baby father, still looking for sex from virgins to turn to baby mamas, I do not wish any child his fate. 3 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez39(m): 8:07pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Ishilove:Followers of Jim Jones were pure !diots. Followers of Hitler were dull sheeples. Don't compare those two men with ubunja. What next? Are you going to compare him with Stalin? Any smart man that follows ubunja can't miss road. I will be creating more hot topics, please make sure they get to frontpage. You know I have to help many that are asleep. 4 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Ishilove: 8:10pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Martinez39:That's exactly what a deluded and corrupted follower will say. My leader is better than your leader. Smh. 3 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Ishilove: 8:14pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:It's quite shocking that people are actually taking the words of a mysoginistic, male chauvinistic ego maniac at face value. It makes me wonder about their relationship with their female relatives. Do you know the amazing thing, these people aren't married and a large percentage of them don't have children, yet they come online to proudly spew ignorant drivel. Proclaiming themselves wise, they have fallen into deep folly (they have become fools). Romans 1 vs 22. 3 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez39(m): 8:20pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Ishilove:Ubunja is not some cult leader and I am not a cult follower. Ubunja brings facts and when I analyse it, I observe that he is on point. So far, he has been factual and consistent. Any man that follows ubunja cannot miss his way. 5 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Fountainofyouth(f): 8:26pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Ishilove: And you know the funny thing, this same Martinez39 proclaimed he would never have sex and get married in his life, so why is he seriously pressed about women generally? It beats me, if you want to live the rest of your life lonely and then die, good for you, why manipulating people to be like you? Later they will say we are the most manipulative, lol, funny thing is the nuisances supporting his chauvinistic ramble, will get married, and still behave like the typical negligent African father, lol. 1 Like |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Ishilove: 8:36pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Martinez39:Lol. Okay o. Every one with mummy issues comes online to bash women. Two things will happen: you will receive wisdom later in life and discover that ubunja is a deluded, woman hating fool, or you will keep following his rubbish until it ruins your life. Either ways I wish you God's mercy. 1 Like |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Ishilove: 8:39pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:You dey mind them?? I stopped taking all these internet warriors seriously a long time ago. |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by AreaFada2: 9:09pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
1Sharon: My dear, I am talking from what I have seen korokoro many times. If the man was truly abusive and the kids witnessed it, sure boys might even fight their dad. But where no kids have any first hand experience of the alleged "evil" of their dad, boys go out more to find their dad later. I stated it in my post. Despite their mother's brainwash. In any case once the girls marry and follow their men, they hardly care. I remember one case close to home. A man sent his wife to further her education after they had several kids. It was her dream to finally get the education she missed out on due to poor economic background. Upon getting her degree she moved out to live with another man. All the daughters went with her. Only the boy refused to follow. Her relatives and in-laws were stunned. She could not explain why she was leaving. They advised her to stay but no way. A few years later the new lover kicked her out. She begged to return to first hubby but no way. All her daughters have failed marriages now too. Only the boy is happily married. 1 Like |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez39(m): 9:26pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
AreaFada2:This is poetic justice. Almost like what I see in nollywood. 2 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by ImaIma1(f): 10:16pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Ishilove: What you should know is that these guys are all bark and no bite. All they can do is insult and belittle women behind their devices...that's probably the only thing that makes their existence worthwhile...women that they cannot ordinarily approach in real life. Insulting women here fills the void in them and makes them feel important online. You'll understand how lame and shallow they are with the way they follow someone blindly without thinking for themselves because it makes them feel like a part of something. They don't actually realize that they are victims of the same brainwashing that they are talking about. Don't take them too seriously. They will get wiser with age. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by alexola20(m): 10:43pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Ishilove: 3:21am On Sep 09, 2019 |
ImaIma1:I couldn't have said it better. 1 Like |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by SweetyMarvel00(m): 5:34am On Sep 09, 2019 |
This is very good article that's helpful to the research I am doing abt kids. Please OP permit me. |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez39(m): 5:45am On Sep 09, 2019 |
SweetyMarvel00:May I help you in any way? |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by nams77: 7:06am On Sep 09, 2019 |
bukatyne:Shows you really don't understand how the minds of children work nor the devilish nature some women. The mind of a child is like a sponge, it soaks up informations, store them and act on them later. My dear if i say most women are devilish in this regards, i mean it and it is true. Immediately a man brokes up with his woman, that loving, caring husband becomes a devil that has never provided a dime for his family. I have seen, in close quarter, happen again and again. Like one of the case i mentioned above, the man requested taking the child abroad to better his lot. The lady refused, insisting that thats the only child and can't bear to be apart from him( kinda agree with her a bit at that age, 6). The boy is 14 now and lives with the mother. His school fees is like a clock work that never fails. I am not saying there are no lousy fathers. There definitely are. But we should take most of these ranting from unhappy single mum with a pinch of salt. Time will not permit me to give you several examples. In all these cases, i only know of one bum? who left his wife when she was 8 months pregnant ( lady said so, couldn't verify). Her family wants her to reconcile with the man. But the woman mouth sha na razor blade o 4 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez39(m): 7:22am On Sep 09, 2019 |
nams77:No matter how you explain things to these girls, they can't be reasonable. 1 Like |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by CeterisXVII: 9:55am On Sep 09, 2019 |
Martinez39:Please all the things written here, will NOT excuse the fact, that there truly are dead beat fathers. 1 - Fathers who would deny paternity, even when they are truly responsible, for getting the woman pregnant. Abroad, the state would compel such father's to contribute to the upkeep of the child after conclusive DNA test results are produced. In Nigeria, the mother is on her own. The man can deny paternity, abscond and get away scot free. Wetin una wan do? 2 - Dead beat fathers exist, who would rather spend their last penny philandering, boozing and partying, instead of taking out time and effort to contribute to the upbringing of their children. Any request from the mother is seen as a nuisance, and she is ignored. I know men who live in mansions in exclusive estates, but would rather allow their ex-wives and kids, or baby mamas live in decrepit, unsafe and unsanitary conditions, just because they dislike the woman with intensity. 3 -: Alcoholic and drug-addicted fathers are another group of dead beat fathers, who would rather spend what they have on the next fix or booze, instead of being concerned about the welfare of their children. The sad thing is that this class of fathers, is on the rise. Yet, we think we do not have a problem in Nigeria. Go to slums in our major cities and see how 'gbana', marijuana, cocaine, tramadol etc, have rendered many men incapable of remembering that they have children, and are supposed to be fathers. 4 - Dead beat fathers whose senses have been charmed away from their families, by other women using fetish means, also abound. In high school, I had a friend who used to get chased away by her father from his office, any time she went to request for her school fees. Her parents got separated, after her dad fell for one yellow Sisi with soyoyo skin, who was young enough to be his daughter. Anyway, the man abandoned his family of five kids and their mother, just to fulfil his fantasies with this Sisi. The children and their mum keep praying he will come to his senses, but that is not likely to happen...anytime soon. realtalk19: Good question. How many people have the answer? 2 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by CeterisXVII: 10:00am On Sep 09, 2019 |
izzou: I no fit laugh again....e don do, abeg! liberalchick:Thank you! 2 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by izzou(m): 10:08am On Sep 09, 2019 |
CeterisXVII: See what someone wrote on this thread RIP dad. And then he blames his mum for it. I think his mum's offence was that she refused his dad from carrying him to work from 5am to 11pm everyday. Let me keep enjoying the thread from a distance 3 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by CAPSLOCKED: 10:23am On Sep 09, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: WOMEN AND CHILDISH LIES. IN THE NORTH, NORTHERN MEN DO NOT NEED FREE THINGS TO VOTE. THEY DON'T GET ANY DIME TO VOTE. THEY JUST VOTE BASED ON RELIGION AND GROUP AGREEMENT. IN THE EAST AND SOUTH, WOMEN WILL VOTE FOR YOU IF YOU DISTRIBUTE WRAPPERS AND ONIONS. LOL. YOU FAILED IT AGAIN. 3 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by CAPSLOCKED: 10:27am On Sep 09, 2019 |
Martinez39: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by CAPSLOCKED: 10:28am On Sep 09, 2019 |
Martinez39: HAHA..WHY? |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by CeterisXVII: 10:31am On Sep 09, 2019 |
TheEminentLaity:Did the man have an affair with the woman at gun point? Or did he forget he was married, and deliberately chose to ignore his "fully committed" status, when he decided to have the affair? Or did the woman get pregnant all by herself, without the man's input? I am scratching my head trying to understand this part, o! 1 Like |
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