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Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by IamPlato(m): 4:26pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
Martinez39:Stop Watching Nollywood Film what You Wrote Was A Typical Nollywood Film Script; which Of Cause Is Usually Over Exaggerated 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by izzou(m): 4:27pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
Martinez39: You talked about women hiding the contacts of their kids from their fathers. How do you observe such without being inside? You talked about women poisoning the minds of their kids.. You talked...... Let me just stop here. It's possible you've forgotten all what you typed Have a nice life. This thread would have made sense if it actually happened to you. But then, your mum is a real woman. Isn't she? 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez39(m): 4:31pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
izzou:I know where you are going with this your this but I don't have your time. It's hard to accept that someone can be smart, exposed and very observant... Anyway, good day. No more replies from me to you. 1 Like |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by IamPlato(m): 4:40pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
Martinez39:observant Enter Person Mama Phone. 15 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by CAPSLOCKED: 5:14pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
IamPlato: AT LEAST, I KNOW SO MANY ADULTS THAT THEIR PARENTS STILL MAKE DECISIONS FOR. WHO TO MARRY. WHAT TO DO. WHERE TO GO. AND MANY OTHER DECISIONS ADULTS ARE SUPPOSED TO TAKE BY THEMSELVES. SOME PEOPLE ARE TOO BRAINWASHED AND DECEIVED TO REALIZE THAT SOME PARENTS CAN BE UNSMART, SELFISH AND FOOLISH. THAT'S WHY IN THIS AGE, IT IS YOUNG PEOPLE LIKE YOU THAT STILL PEDDLES THE SAYING "WHAT AN ELDER (OR MOTHER) CAN SEE SEE WHILE SITTING, A FULL AGILE MATURED MAN OF 40 CANNOT SEE EVEN IF HE CLIMBS THE PLANET". MANY ADULTS CANNOT REASON BY THEMSELVES, FOR THEMSELVES. 27 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez39(m): 5:18pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
CAPSLOCKED:Are you minding him? The other one was try to insist that, for me to write this topic, I must have been a victim of the kind of mothers I described in my op. People dey dis world. 8 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by CAPSLOCKED: 5:22pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
IamPlato: IS IT SUCH A BAD THING FOR MOTHERS TO BE SEEN WRONGLY? DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY FATHERS HAVE BEEN SEEN WRONGLY ALL OVER THE WORLD SINCE THE BEGINNING OF TIME? THIS THREAD CALLS IN CHILDREN OF DEADBEATS.... BUT HERE YOU ALL ARE, ACTING AS IF MARTINEZ39 PERSONALLY INSULTS YOUR MOTHERS. WHY NOT READ AND WALK AWAY AND LET CONCERNED PEOPLE REASON TOGETHER. YOUR MUM IS NOT LIKE THAT, YOUR MUM IS THIS AND THAT.... OGA, EXIT THE THREAD FOR PEOPLE THAT THEIR MUMS ARE LIKE THAT. THIS THREAD IS FOR THEM. TO HELP THEM THINK AND POSSIBLY RECONCILE WITH THEIR DADS IF SUCH SITUATIONS HAVE CAUSED DISPUTES. YOU SAY YOU'RE WISE AND REASONABLE, BUT EVEN THE SIMPLEST THINGS MISSES YOUR COMPREHENSION. NA WA. 35 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by IamPlato(m): 5:26pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
CAPSLOCKED:HAHAHAHAHA SMH |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by CAPSLOCKED: 5:28pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
Martinez39: OH, LORD! 5 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by CAPSLOCKED: 5:38pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
Martinez39: THEY WOULD NOT UNDERSTAND, BECAUSE THEIR MOTHERS CONDITIONED THEM PROPERLY. OR BECAUSE THEIR MOTHERS ARE ON THE GOOD SIDE. IT DOESN'T MEAN ALL MOTHERS ARE ON THE SIDE THAT THEIR MOTHERS ARE. WHY ARE THEY BUYING THIS CASE LIKE ONLY THIER MOTHERS EXIST IN THIS WORLD FULL OF MOTHERS? DO THEY EVEN KNOW HOW MANY FATHERS WENT THROUGH MATTERS LIKE THIS? IZZOU IS TAKING ABOUT EXPERIENCE, I EXPERIENCED IT. I HAVE ALSO KNOWN MANY PEOPLE WHO GREW UP LIKE ME. NOW, ONCE IN A WHILE I MEET DADS GOING THROUGH SUCH PHASES. BESIDES YOU'RE NOT MAKING SENSE. IT'S JUST LIKE SAYING BEFORE WE TALK ABOUT CANCER, XENOPHOBIA OR BOKOHARAM, WE MUST BE VICTIMS. LIKE WHAT! SO LET THE PEOPLE CONCERNED COME AND OWN THIS. THERE'S NO GENDER OR EMOTIONAL CONTEST GOING ON HERE. THE POSTER IS ONLY ASKING PEOPLE TO THINK. THAT IS ALL. 26 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by izzou(m): 5:43pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
CAPSLOCKED: Okay Caps I totally understand 2 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by pocohantas(f): 5:47pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
Hypocrite39: Sure, people really dey this world. That is why someone would think I must be a slut to write on different price tags. People can't take what they give or it is more about changing the rules as they go. I would not mind him. Never did anyway 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by izzou(m): 5:56pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
pocohantas: Some Mothers are manipulative and poison the minds of their kids against their fathers Me: Did your mum do this to you? Him: Nooo... My mum is a real woman 10 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by pocohantas(f): 6:05pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
izzou: Lol. I commented on some topic sometime ago and he rushed me, saying it is guilty conscience. I commented on another few days back and he was there again, that a slut like me would definitely not agree. If I have to be a slut to know that it is childish to collect a gift back from an ex, how come he can know of manipulative mothers when his mother IS a REAL WOMAN. These red-pillers and their subjectivity sha. 11 Likes
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Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez39(m): 6:06pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
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Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Nobody: 6:11pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
anyone old enough to read on nairaland should be old enough to read between the lines and discern. 1 Like |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by tpiander: 6:20pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
Try to work something out, not every male sets out to be a deadbeat father, you have to see how proactively you are allowed to be a father to your kids and involved with them even if you have relatively limited finances, generally speaking. It also doesn't mean there are no males who don't intentionally set out to be deadbeat fathers. Some of the bitterness of Nigerian ladies about their SO comes from the womanizing, most women don't like that even if they're not innocent. 1 Like |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez19(m): 6:40pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
tpiander:I know you are a female. This is emotional woowoorism and unrelated to the topic. It also doesn't mean there are no males who don't intentionally set out to be deadbeat fathers.Okay. Obviously. Some of the bitterness of Nigerian ladies about their SO comes from the womanizing, most women don't like that even if they're not innocent.On no condition must a mum deny her children fatherly love because of personal dispute with her husband. 2 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by ABCthings: 7:00pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
Okay let settle this once and for all If you're for op like if you're not share. Majority rules 7 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez19(m): 7:04pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
ABCthings:INEC will still declare it inconclusive. 1 Like |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by kazyhm(m): 7:50pm On Sep 03, 2019 |
Hmnmnn.......... |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by ImaIma1(f): 6:38am On Sep 04, 2019 |
IamPlato: To validate it and back him. 4 Likes |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by ImaIma1(f): 6:50am On Sep 04, 2019 |
That's why we see so many mummy's boys around even on this forum. A grown man will tell you he needs to get his mother's consent for everything. I just laugh when I see such men-boys. As for mother's turning their kids against their dad, it's a character flaw from the mum and as the child grows, he or she should be able to see through the mother's plight though some are blinded by "she carried me for 9 months" "she sacrificed her life and destiny for me" blah blah blah. Women have the gift of manipulation and a child is not above that manipulation. A child should be allowed to form his/her own opinion of the father without bias from the mum. And a mother should learn to put aside her hatred and bitterness and let the children bond with their dad too. There should be no competition. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Konkonbiloo: 7:24am On Sep 04, 2019 |
ImaIma1:gbayi! |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by tpiander: 7:43am On Sep 04, 2019 |
Martinez19: What are you on about? I responded to the topic and the poster, why exactly are you quoting me? This is not if a mum is or isn't denying fatherly love to the kids, I said in the situation where you have a quandary, the father should do what he can to be there for his kids. Within the limits of what he's allowed to do. I am not interested in assigning blame nor castigating the mother and neither am I indulging in emotional jargon and woman bashing like you are. Please do not address me again with "I know you are a female", why are you people so unrepentantly and shamelessly rude? Grow up. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Martinez19(m): 8:20am On Sep 04, 2019 |
tpiander:Still more trash and meaninglessness. You are changing your argument, not calling out what's most important and you are not clear in your words. Anyway, let's agree to disagree. |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Nobody: 9:57am On Sep 04, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:What actually in the write up don't you agree with ? He was only saying dad could actually be bad as mum paints him to be ,especially in cases of babymamas ,divorcee or cases where the both parents are not living together,but there's actually possibility that dad is not as bad or not bad as mum paints him to be to the child under her custody. Hence,the writer is advising a child in a situation as such should not take everything he/she is feed hook ,line & sinker . He/her have to go out there and observe & get information for him/her self about his/her parents,with that,he/she will be in a better position to make a better judgement. He made a very valid point with the write up if you have actually read it ,to understand & not just going emotional as you just did. You know it's a manipulative tendency ,right ? You just succeeded in attacking the writer and not the points he raised,which very much happens in our society. You see Tonto Dikeh & Churchill saga ? That kid under Tonto Dikeh 's custody will be so so manipulated that he may probably never see anything good in Churchill ,even though he have proven to be so matured in handling the issue between them. Pity the poor boy. 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by Nobody: 10:16am On Sep 04, 2019 |
izzou:Hiv/Aids outbreak so far have left many dead ! Me : Was your brother's or reletive killed by the dreaded disease to have known many were killed ? Izzou : None of my brothers or relative have been killed by the dreaded disease ! Me : Therefore nobody have been killed by the dreaded disease ! That's exactly how you sound with your opinion on the write up. 29 Likes 2 Shares |
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