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MariaLavina:
Lol, when I warned guys against absolving and practising all they read here hook line and sinker I was called a manipulative bitch, I laughed and moved on.They will learn the hard way I thought and here it is.

Emmadeot, It is good to read. Very good to be exposed but it is very dangerous to read without guard, Guard as to why you read, what you want to gain? what impact you want to it to have. When you read, learn to filter. Not everything you read is practical for one, the authors life is different from yours you can only see similarities, I.e some things are common but not all things. The truth is I follow most of ubunja's thread too, my motives? sometimes to argue, learn and widen my horizon but they don't form me.As a matter of fact when I see traces of red pill in a guy's behaviour, I dump him in the gutters, yes we may still talk, say hi but I will never hold such in high place.I hate dramas and I have no time to entertain silly games.Heaven knows what would have happen if I were to be your wife. Not divorce certainly but you would have wished you acted better.


Let's see you have two lives now, the peaceful Christian life.One that's filled with love, family,
peace and joy and you also have the Worldly one which is filled with "the worldly truth" chaos, knowledge, doubt, insecurity and loneliness.Make a choice! Which path do you want to toll?

emmaodet:
Maria, presently i need my head cleared. I really need it, a break and relax because am losing it and it seems everything in the world is not what it is.
Thanks for your advice, have always been your avid reader.
Maria, when you go marry sef? Ojo ma n lo, if you don't mind been my second wife sha and i place you on 100k pension per month, lol
Just need to break the ice and feel cool again, i think i really need it

princfred:
If that were the case then it will be that you weren't making sense.

MariaLavina:
Lol thank you for the compliment, I appreciate. Honestly ehn I can relate, when you discover new things it sometimes disorganize your being.I remember sometimes ago when I almost dived into astrology, lol no be small star reading thing alone o.Like real deep that one could check and know what could happen in a day, where to be and where not to at specific time, I dived dived go inside past life, werewolves, vampires, Ka etc. What led me? I saw an Indian movie where a lady had to go back to her past live to solve a kidnap case. Gbam! I got hooked, browse online, read anything I can find, from there I kept seeking for more that I met an online astrologer who led me through some crazy things lol meanwhile they weren't free o. It really affected me and my view of things especially people around me.It affected my Christian life then.Lol.

Funny enough I was in the Uni then, so this particular holiday I went home and my mom noticed the changes, she prayed and then confronted me. Her question? ****** What have you been reading? shocked by that direct question nah so I begin dey spill. Come see blast! like she opened my eyes and retraced my steps.Only God saved me. Ever since I've been careful of what I read, inject and allow to stay in me.Knowledge sometimes can be disastrous especially if you don't know how to control or handle it.
Dont worry, take some time off clear your head and you will be alright.



As for marriage, lol I look up to God oooo and Ehehwehehe I can't be your second wife oooo, nah pestle I go take break your jaw with this your red pills nonsense.

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC]If you ask me I wouldn't want all men to be delivered because if we all become lions who would become antelope? thus the system becomes highly unbalanced and volatile, many guys could use their newly found powers wrongly thus crashing this harmonious system simps have built.Our sisters and daughters could be caught out and exploited.. [/color]

Martinez39:
The problem here is that you want to protect your sisters. I understand but you have to look at the big picture and things in the long term. Simps are not good for men. The system and society breaks and becomes gynocentric with simps around making it hard for men. Beside, teach your sisters decency and self control if you are really worried. There are a lot of alpha men that will marry decent ladies in Nigeria but not the gynocentric West. But prepare yourself, all women, including our mothers, daughters and sisters, "are just like that". You may not believe me but you will be shocked .

COOL10:
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You just had to put that out there

emmaodet:
Eheheheheee, maria maria, always enjoy your comments.
Am an introvert and i like reading and doing research alot.
Really wished i came in the 30s/40s/50s dem when things were normal and quiet.
Now it's all about money, fast fast fast, upgrade upgrade upgrade, always running in the circle of an unending rat race, not been loved because you don't have money or properly provide, it is a crazy world out there, it is energy draining and zapping the life out of me, the pressure is enormous.
Have come to a point were am tired of running again, against fellow man by competing and against machine that wants to replace me at work.
Have come to the realization that the maximum i will loose is a wife and friends for not meeting up, Maria if only you know what it means to be a man, believe me - uneasy lies the head that wears the crown.
Am just happy to pour oit my mind and have someone to pour it too.
Not all men have the strength of pushing, pushing and pushing.
God didn't create everybody equal and there is a reason for that, it doesn't make Him crazy.
Just like playing football game on PlayStation, every player as is attributes with measurement and it will be crazy to keep pushing and playing a player in a different position. Just like trying to use Messi who is a winger/striker to defend or keep.
That is what is happening now, nobody cares maybe you are not structured for business or music but just administrative quiet job but all we hear is hustle oooo, upgrade make another man no fvck your wife.
Have gotten to a position in my life, have really been stretched that i don't even care again if you fvck my wife, na una problems no be mine again,
Maria, AM TIRED OF RUNNING

MariaLavina:
Lol if you noticed, I put the word in quotation, that means :

1) There are different types or propagation/proclamation of the word 'truth' just as The mgtow will claim to spread truth, the feminist will do the same, as a matter of fact every movement is basically on a supposed truth they tend to propagate. And is the worldly truth.

2) I don't believe in that truth.


3) The only Truth that I know exist is JESUS! He is the way, the life and the TRUTH. His teachings are just and true.
Now, I wouldn't call this truth a religion. Christianity is a way of life and the Bible is the guide to living a Christ like life.

However you will also be right if you say I posed religion truth because there are religions and they preach their truth too.

healthserve:
If you tweak your thought about your actions you could find inner race from the ever fast aced modern society.

If you think of running as more psychological and replace speed with process, not only would you stop running, you'll function at balanced speed that doesn't necessitate functioning at energy-sapping levels.


Seed is an illusion. Process is better. Break life into pieces, and take things a step at a time

emmaodet:
Thanks bro but can you expansiate on this? Because i don't really understand

healthserve:
Running is exhausting
Life is now wired to make us want things vastly as everything is fast paced. This causes restless and induce us to want to " run ", a notion I picked from your comment I'm tired of running.

I was explaining how to stop running but enjoy life one moment at a time

emmaodet:
You are right bro but whenever you want to stop running, there is the family pressure, wife, children, house to build, land to buy, car to buy and maintain, wedding, burial, naming, birthday pf child or wife, family yearly shopping to keep you on your toes else you are losing everything and people will avoid you like a plague.
Remember we are social animals and need people around us to associate with but when you are not fulfilling all those things i listed, you may die a bored and lonely man - that is were people tend to commit suicide

emmaodet:
You are right bro but whenever you want to stop running, there is the family pressure, wife, children, house to build, land to buy, car to buy and maintain, wedding, burial, naming, birthday pf child or wife, family yearly shopping to keep you on your toes else you are losing everything and people will avoid you like a plague.
Remember we are social animals and need people around us to associate with but when you are not fulfilling all those things i listed, you may die a bored and lonely man - that is were people tend to commit suicide

Martinez39:
Oga, I don't know how old you are but be prepared. When you start learning things about life and human beings and you keep swallowing more red pills, you will lose hope in humanity. You will be shocked at many things you will learn and you will not like many of the truths you will learn. You have just started and body dey shake you. The truth is hard, harsh and cold. You must learn solitude, it will help. With time, you will become tough to accommodate the truth and solitude will be very bearable. It's all a process.

healthserve:
Even in your commenting, I've picked up that fast pace too.


You should learn to master your emotions and inner core. With a stable inner core,you'll have peace


Haven't you noticed the calmness in Ubunja in how he comments on issues? Read a few of his costs and do this slowly, you'll see he has a balanced inner core. Thus is the replacement for the speedy inner core in us.


I part with you on this note. Examine the motive behind your actions and always tell yourself fast isn't always necessary. Process is key and superior to speed.

emmaodet:
Hmmmmmmmmm, Oga ooooo
I think the average lady don't know what it is to be a man because no matter what, so far you are a lady and just below okay (which means not even beautiful) but have manners, there is 80% chance you will see a poor man that is ready to be serious and faithful to you and not live a lonely boring life but as a man, boring and lonely life will likely occur even though you are doing fine today if things go south.
What a life but it is okay
I will find peace with my inner soul

LilMissFavvy:
You call yourself a married man yet still read the miseducation threads, a thread written by a sadist who goes about impregnating women, and does not believe in marriage. A sadist who feels women are objects to be trampled on, don't be surprised if your marriage begins to have issues, as the things you read has influenced the things you said in a church gathering, soon it will influence your character.

healthserve:
Where has my lil chum chum been?

Dangerousboy:
to you and others i won't make sense but the op understands and that's what matters.

emmaodet:
Thanks bro.
Atleast am relieved now, words like this takes the heat away from me and soothes my mind

Tocynone:
You are not loosing your mind bro. I believe people are too comfortable where lies are glorified. Truth is bitter and people tends to run away from it. My opinion though

ubunja:
it's okay. You're Red Pill now. It's a very lonely world because the overwhelming majority are Blue Pill.


I personally avoid talks about love and romance etc. If I'm in that environment I bite my tongue and reserve my comments.

I know most people are living a lie. I live my truth quietly.

emmaodet:
I don't know what is happening to me again because ever since i joined nairaland and started reading some threads and comments on nairaland, following people like ubunja and co, my life as never been the same again.
I thought social media is just a place for fun but it seems what we hear/watch and see as a way of shaping our lives.
Am a very quite, gentle and respected person in the church and my area but things are really happening fast that calls for concern.
Am in a church organised family whatsapp group with alot of respected families but of lately have been more or less an outcast in the group.
Last week, they raised a topic about Love and why people were commenting positively about how they love their wives and how their wives stood beside them when they were poor, i entered the forum and took the whole topic to the opposite direction. I told them about how Love is not enough to hold a relationship because most ladies will leave when no more money or they see a better option.
The forum went hay wire, cut fire and things went south.
Yesterda, they raised a topic about hiw not to condonea cheating partner and as usual i came into the forum and pointed out the fact that only if they know the high rate of infidelity, a large percentage of marriages will crash instantly.
Ever since my first issue, i noticed a lot of them are really avoiding me like a plague because i was raw, harsh and blunt unlike my previous self.
Ubunja, the manipulated man and pther topics of infidelity as really changed me alot and presently my wife is concerned about me because she said my comments were wild, different, raw etc
Am losing my mind pals, don't know what is happening to me.

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Martinez39:
When these women challenge you to a debate or ask you to defend your views, they actually desire to lure you and get your face saturated with their lies, sophistry, manipulation and stupidity which they call logical argument. They want to nullify the truth you have spoken and twist things in their own favour. They will just end up wasting your time with endless childish and emotional exchanges between you and them. They are not interested in reasoning. They will just waste your time and shove bullcrap down your throat.

Lesson : never debate a women on issues like this. Truth and evidence are not what they are after. They are all about their feelings and lies. Facts don't care about their feelings but their feelings don't care about facts.

emmaodet:
The forum went hay wire, cut fire and things went south.

princfred:
I was actually supporting you that if she saw wisdom......

emmaodet:
that is it bro.
learning from others experiences before it hits you.
thanks bro
truth is bitter and sometimes knowing people love you for what you can provide is sickening