Most times i wonder why men go a long way lying to satisfy their lust.
i went out with a guy for 2 years, and he never told me he was married, i remember asking him couple of times and he said he is not married, i cook, go to his house, and even have d keys to his apartment, all for me to wake up one morning and realise my guy i have investing in is a married man whose wife stays in enugu,
i was really in luv and till now he still claims he loves me thats why he never told me,
its difficult loving another now even when i have met different men that wants to settle down, i cant just place my heart to love any comfortably.

chiconfire:

Most times i wonder why men go a long way lying to satisfy their lust.
i went out with a guy for 2 years, and he never told me he was married, i remember asking him couple of times and he said he is not married, i cook, go to his house, and even have d keys to his apartment, all for me to wake up one morning and realise my guy i have investing in is a married man whose wife stays in enugu,
i was really in luv and till now he still claims he loves me thats why he never told me,
its difficult loving another now even when i have met different men that wants to settle down, i cant just place my heart to love any comfortably.

Time heals. . . . .
In a couple of months, you will find your soul-mate.
For now, just persevere.

~Sauron~:

Time heals. . . . .
In a couple of months, you will find your soul-mate.
For now, just persevere.

awwwww !
sauron, thats the nicest thing i have seen you post here 



@poster
so you mean you had the spare keys to his flat and for two years he never told you he was married 
yet he claims he loves you? ? tell him to go and hug a power grid with his yeye love !

jeez! its amazing what men do just to nail a toto !

funkybaby:

@poster
so you mean you had the spare keys to his flat and for two years he never told you he was married 
yet he claims he loves you? ? tell him to go and hug a power grid with his yeye love !

jeez! its amazing what men do just to nail a toto !

It's not our fault.
If we speak the truth, there won't be any toto to nail.

Sorry for this my dear. Just forget him and never fall for his smooth talk from now on. You talk about falling in love, try to get up and run from this sick love. Spend time with friends and go out often you will soon realize how easy it is to rid yourself of a wart.

~Sauron~:

It's not our fault.
If we speak the truth, there won't be any toto to nail.

haba! but lying for two freaking years? ? ? thats taking it too far !

now, if she puts 'ota pia pia' in the pot of soup she has been cooking regularly for him for two years or she goes to a babalawo and requests that the man's prick be shrunk, she will be labelled a witch .

hmn anoda shattered promise, time heals all wounds.

funkybaby:

haba! but lying for two freaking years? ? ? thats taking it too far !

The lie has to stick, otherwise it won't be a good LIE.
Experience has taught me the best place to hide a LIE is between two TRUTHS.

now, if she puts 'ota pia pia' in the pot of soup she has been cooking regularly for him for two years or she goes to a babalawo and requests that the man's prick be shrunk, she will be labelled a witch .  

For all you know, he might actually be in love with the OP.
He needed to lie to get to her and i don't think i can blame the man for that.
If he had told her the truth from the very beginning, the OP woulda run farrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr away from him.

If you walk in a man's shoes for 1 month, U go lie pass Lucifer himself. . . . . .It's very difficult being a man.

@Poster,
You've being with him for 2yrs and you didn't know he was married?
Someone should help me sound this mumu girl a dirty slap.

It must be hard to deal with,
but you just have to move on.
This Guy doesn't deserve you.You can do better.
Move on with your life,and allow God to judge him.

~Sauron~:

The lie has to stick, otherwise it won't be a good LIE.
Experience has taught me the best place to hide a LIE is between two TRUTHS.

Hmmmm

~Sauron~:

.For all you know, he might actually be in love with the OP.

True

~Sauron~:

If he had told her the truth from the very beginning, the OP woulda run farrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr away from him.

and now the truth is out, the girl is still going to leave him and even if she does not, the relationship can never be the same again.
sometimes, its better to start with the truth from the very beginning or you let out the truth as soon as possible. two years is wayyyy tooo long. the poster is obviously very bitter.

~Sauron~:

If you walk in a man's shoes for 1 month, U go lie pass Lucifer himself. . . . . .It's very difficult being a man.

yeah right !

and its sooo much fun being a woman!  
we are constantly kept amused by the lies and tales you men subject our eardrums to . . . . .

cantell:

@Poster,
You've being with him for 2yrs and you didn't know he was married?
Someone should help me sound this mumu girl a dirty slap.

 couldn't agree with you more, in all those two years, he never left you for long periods, never asked u to come visit, never told you he's visiting family, never bought his wife gifts, never left his wedding picture or better yet, never not taken a call to some woman in your presence?

in all those two years, you never asked him when are you to meet his friends and family? too unreal really,

cantell:

@Poster,
You've being with him for 2yrs and you didn't know he was married?
Someone should help me sound this mumu girl a dirty slap.

@cantell, easy now



For all you know, he might actually be in love with the OP.
He needed to lie to get to her and i don't think i can blame the man for that.
If he had told her the truth from the very beginning, the OP woulda run farrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr away from him.

If you walk in a man's shoes for 1 month, U go lie pass Lucifer himself. . . . . .It's very difficult being a man.
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And the man still doesnt know that honesty is the best policy. Lies and Love dont go together not in my books

pathetic, that is men for u, they can pretend

Sometimes when we're in love we so want to believe anything our partners say, the poster might have known all the while he was hiding something and that things were a bit fishy, but coz she was in love, she chose to believe and hang on to his every word,

No matter how much you think you're tough and all that, the minute you fall in love with someone, that rational part of you is dead and gone,

@poster, just ride the pain for now, in a while it'll all be over

indie22:


No matter how much you think you're tough and all that, the minute you fall in love with someone, that rational part of you is dead and gone,

you've said it all !

Falling in love is real and can be very easy, but there is always the need to be careful on ‘hot love. Before any single (either male or female) can make any decision of settling down with anybody as a marriage partner, there is that need to make research and investigate more about that person so that you will have firsthand information about that person you wish and intend to get hock to for the rest of your life.

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@Sauron,
I agree with you. Its difficult being a man. What with many women fantasizing about dating perfect guys.
We lie to make up for what we lack.

our daily prayer should be God help so we dont fall into wrong hands,
there were no signs of his marriage. d coast was as clear as possible,
am getting over it but still cant lov even d man i recently did introduction with,

^^^I guess you're settling for second best.
In a few years time you'll definitely come here to lament about your marriage.
I just don't understand why women rush into marriage.
It beats me.

@cantel ar u God wat do u mean by second best nd dat she wil come back lamentin? Instead of u 2 pray 4 ha dat he's goin 2 b a beta replacemnt u ar cursin ha. Dats unfair of u.

Tell me you were high on drugs when you typed this up, Pleasee?

SA Lady:

And the man still doesnt know that honesty is the best policy. Lies and Love dont go together not in my books

No one is disputing honesty is the best policy.
What i was tryna say is. . . . . . .Honesty won't get men FAR cos women always demand the perfect men.
Men that are not perfect are left out and they want to join the party. . . . . .The only way to join the party is to LIE.

Maybe if women are a bit more considerate, men wouldn't need to LIE.

wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
he did really gat you trapped, i mean for two fu-cking years  
you were on your best behaviour and he didnt even bother to return the favour
MEN = VAMPIRES

~Sauron~:

Maybe if women are a bit more considerate, men wouldn't need to LIE.

99.9 of them are considerate but most of the men species cant keep up

My dear you have to let go. I know it is not that easy but the earlier you get it into your head that he is married, that is when the healing process starts.

I happen to be a victim. My dear I am happy that I found out the truth cos I would have wasted this year just like that.  At first, It wasnt easy, but with time ,
I came over it.

y me:

99.9 of them are considerate but most of the men species cant keep up

99.9 of them want a tall, dark, handsome, rich unmarried man.
What do you expect men(who can't meet up with this requirement) to do? Sleep with their fellow men or sleep with animals?
Of course, they are going to lie they have what you require. . . . .Just to HIT your goldmine.

The poster should tell us how they met, was it his suggestion that she move in or did she offered. And I'm sure he never talked to her about marriage, Infact

I don't agree wiv u sauron

If a woman fancies you enough to want to sleep wiv you, she'll still do it regardless of ur being married.

I see a lot of openly married men who never take off their wedding bands ever, still getting chicks steadily, so why the need to tell lies and pretend to be single and available?

~Sauron~:

99.9 of them want a tall, dark, handsome, rich unmarried man.

Inner beauty lasts longer.Whatever attracts a person initially will inevitably diminish as the years roll by

~Sauron~:

What do you expect men(who can't meet up with this requirement) to do? Sleep with their fellow men or sleep with animals?
Of course, they are going to lie they have what you require. . . . .Just to HIT your goldmine.

whats the point of lying knowing fully well if the babe finds out on the long run she is definitely gonna back out
i think being honest does it best
if a real woman wanna fu-ck ya she is gonna do it irrespective of who you are or what ya got