ollyboy009:
This is deep bro, i will still advice that you involve someone she so much respect in helping you apologizing to her, that will show her that you are serious.
You have a rear gem, pls don't lose her to your insensitivity. God bless your home!

No no no!
Don't ever try to involve third partu , NEVER!
She's a good woman according to your story.
She's only nursing the wound you gave her, she will get over it.
Whsy you need is sincere sober and give her time, continue showing her that you regret that action every day, every time cos she needs the reassurance that u never meant those words.
With time the wound will heal and the scar left might also disappear only if u don't allow such carelessness to step in again.

A change is environment and scenary will go a long way in the healing process

usernamepass:
Bla bla bla..
Op shut da Vuck UP and hold your mount pim..
You are simply not man enough to discuss marrage talkless of getting married.
Real men dont talk too much..
I bet your mouth will leak again and you will repeat the same okpata yaRn again..
You have succeeded in keeling the woman in your wife and now that shes gone..
Bear your cross and dont you ever... I repeat dont you ever come on here to disturb our peace again.
Abi SA Xenophobia never do??
SHOOO

He has already acknowledged his mistake. And just like every other human, he's not perfect. Deep down in you, there are other flaws that show your imperfection.

That being said, he is only asking for advice. If you can't advice him, then your comment becomes irrelevant to him. Pls let's learn to stop being judgmental. One love bother

And what if she she still doesn't forgive?[Qquote author=omotola224 post=82205315]A woman loves unconditionally but when you cross boundaries she can decide to unlove you with the same energy.
Men can often be insensitive through their actions but when you say it to their face then it's a confirmation of what you have been thinking. Never get to this point with a woman who genuinely loves you. That being said
You have to keep trying...
When she leaves you alone in the sitting room go and meet her. Gist with her.
Take her out on dates
Surprise her
You have to do things like you are just asking her out all over again.
Over one of your dates tell her you are sorry and would love to be the love of her life once again. Pls let it show that you are truly remorseful.

She will forgive you only you might have to reassure her over and over again.

Note: watch what you say henceforth .

Goodluck! [/quote]

I have being reading a lot of good and bad advice concerning this issue. Bro, u went to far. What if ur wife told u that u have a little dick that can satisfy a woman? How will u feel. Even when u forgive her, will u forget anytime u are making love to her? Bro, I will advise that u will be patient with her. Take her on a date and buy her gift and write and apology letter inside the gift u bought her. If that didn't work, look for someone that she love and respect to help u beg her. You should learn how to be very reserved.

Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person.

After saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

God help you o.... And God touch the heart of your unappreciated wife to forgive you.

I don't believe in lengthy or repeated apologies, prove that you love her by your actions.
Could it be that op has tested her tolerance for too long.
Some people are extremely quick to apologise when they offended someone only for them to repeat the same thing they apologized for and the circle continues.
I hope the lady finds the strength to surrender her pain to God and give the man another chance.

Platony:


She's not ready for marriage,.... there's more to that in marriage.

If u want ur marriage to last long, such statements shouldn't hold water, grudges shouldn't be elongated. I have been married for 4 yrs now going to 5yrs. We've said worse things to each other yet, we're waxing strong. Pride & ego are things to put behind in marital issues.

Ignore d incessant apologies, she'll reset with time but I don't think this issue is vast enough to make her distant herself from you. She's ur wife. U are d head, u said it out of anger, it wasn't intentional.

Be a man bro, stop apologizing, u're d Boss of d house. When she realizes that, she'll be adjusting gradually.

Mind u, women don't like men that are too soft.

#Shalom

Saintmary:

Ohhhhhh there's something adorable and endearing about a man who apologizes over and again when he's wrong.
Trust me, and I'm giving you a secret here
apologize for a very long time, apologize effusively, tell her you almost made a mistake by almost choosing someone else, that God guided you to the right woman even though you didn't know better,
Be romantic, in fact be very jovial, crack jokes and ask an older man how to make your woman happy without telling him your problem
Believe me, your marriage will come out stronger if you can turn your sour words into praise with wisdom. Good luck to you man, a wise man builds his home.

Rubbish!

AwkaetitiBabe:
My dear, that talk will break my heart o. If na boyfriend, I go simply ghost am. But for husband, him go change my wardrobe and get me puppy for all to be well... I love peace

If na me you go wait tire

EgunMogaji2:
Please just do both of you a favor. Divorce already so you can both start fresh happily with someone new.

Hear this, once you’ve crossed a female species then forget it. They never forgive and you’ll just die a miserable human.

hahahahahaha



This is one thing people don't understand, women hardly forgive men that make jest of their physical looks, age and child bearing issue. These 3 things hurt women more than anything else.

The wife may have forgiven him oh, but she will find it hard to forget, and deep down her heart she is angry with life, with her destiny, and maybe blaming her maker for not making her fortunate enough to have married at young age.

And I am sure again why this is paining the lady is maybe because she has been finding it difficult in getting pregnant and now the man that was supposed to be there assuring her not to worry stupidly told her that she married at old age.

The op should go to the mountain now and start a special prayer that his wife should deliver in peace and not have any birth complications or miscarriage cos that woman is emotionally traumatized right now.


Don't ever tell your girlfriend or wife that she is ugly!

That she is old!

Don't ever mock her inability to conceive!

Don't ever tell her that she doesn't know how to cook! You can use diplomatic words like honey it seems you were watching that movie again today oh, because today food is not sweet oh, you need to improve things for your baby na, and she will get the message with joy.

You can use diplomatic words to convey your message to her if you must.


Words like this:

Sweetheart, you are adding weight oh, especially around your tummy, u need to watch it, maybe its this your late night eating or something. You have conveyed your message, she will start to work on it, just watch.

Don't say:

You look fat, that was why I wanted to marry very slim girl. In fact go and prepare your own burial because she fit poison you in future oh lol.

Imagine if your wife told you that she regretted marrying you, that you were too broke, she would have married one guy that had money and she just made the miskake of accepting you. How many men can forgive this Or your wife telling you that all your friends are better than you, that its because of your laziness and dullness that you are not rich like other men, lol, how would you take it


One problem with all these guys that crave for small girls is, even if they marry a mature lady that is as hot as Kim Kardashian, they will keep running after teenage girls to fulfill their stupid fantasies, its a yoke.

They can go to the extent of molesting young girls if they can't get them to date outside their marriage. Any lady married to a guy obsessed with young girls is in for a big mess cos the man will forever remain a cheat till he dies like Mugabe

I wonder what they see in all these small girls that don't know their left from right, who lack respect or understanding of what a healthy relationship or marriage entails.

Honestly I don't pity any guy married to a young girl and passing through hell. You are 35yrs old and you want to marry a girl of 22yrs as your first wife, are you not mad You are 40yrs old man and looking for girls of 24yrs below to marry as your first wife and first marriage, you get sense so

Marry within your age range and you will have peace of mind.

You can date those age for fun but don't expect more than sex, partying, money demanding and shopping requests from them.

If you want a symbiotic relationship, go for mature ladies who have developed sense, not girls still living fantasy life

GrabHisBalls:
There's nothing anyone on Nairalander could help you with. You were actually not ready for marriage before you delved into it. If you've ever attended marriage seminars/relationship talk shows, you would have known that words are very powerful. No matter the provocation, there are things you don't utter. People forgive, but those words live with them. Most times, not consciously 'cause even subconscious keeps to information. There are certain "truth" you don't say if it's going to cause emotional damages even if it's the truth. I laugh when people blab things to hurt people, then tag it "the truth". You're simply being insensitive. It' s not every truth you should say in the open. Maturity has taught me to keep quiet when provoked.

Your wife may have forgiven, but those words can never be erased even though she desires to.

You are a Man

merit4:


Don't try it. She will just draw her conclusion that u have finally seen a younger woman and he slept in her house for a whole week. This will kill her trust for u forever. Once trust is killed, love will fall sick too.

u are saying this because u are a women. That style will work very well.

Since you guys are still having sex, make good use of it. You can surely use it to turn her head if you are really good at it. That you are still fu*king means she's still yours.

Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person.

After saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then ®®meaning you probably had been saying hurtful words all ALONG, but this one broke the camel's back.


I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but som ®®® you may be a man with inferiority complex, or you likened to a candle in the wind. Oh and who told you a 25yr old lady is any different from a 35yrs old? Bro they are medically equal reproductively..


when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age©©© sorry to say , this, you've been a wicked man from the start. You need deliverance. Plz locate an MFM church and attend 7days deliverance. Call my line . I'll guide you. Your wife is a saint. But the devil in you is stronger than you

I strongly feel you should start afresh with her. Those words were deep men.. Take her on a date,movies ,club or some place different.. Just my tots though but it should help...

Stop begging!!!!!!!!


Use the reverse strategy....

Be available at all time...

When she drift ... dont go running to her.

Keep the conversation the way she want it... but always be around her face. And make sure you keep the eye to eye contact on her talking


Once you sublet all your emotions to begging... you will be greatly dealt with... you will lose your respect and she will seek to find an alpha male as Friend.


Just be the husband you should be . Dont worry she will come around.


Don not involve a third party. Because there is nothing they will do rather than to say you are sorry for you actions. Nothing will change

Just let her be she will come around... with the fear of not losing you to a younger one.

leadword:
what a good advice from a wise person, someone like you still be on this site unlike some idiot who never serious for once...I second your advice..if I become the state Governor I will like you to be my adviser on human development. thanks

franchasng:
Don't involve anyone just carry your cross. I wish she could just abandon you after she bears a child and maybe relocate abroad and go enjoy her life, I wish I could help her achieve that cos u were honestly foolish and stupid


It is foolish boys like you running after small girls that are making it seem like marriage is not sweet.

If you are a guy reading this listen up, don't ever marry any girl below 27 years if you want peace of mind.


In Nigeria, girls start having sense from the age of 27yrs, and they become very lovely from 31yrs because at this age they now understand the difference between daydreams and reality.

They will become true help mate. They will become true partner not sex mate and trouble mate.

Girls below 27yrs are just sex mate, party mate, trouble mate, money milking machine and demanding robots who are very selfish and are only after what they can get from men and not what they can give back to men.

Anybody telling you that ladies start having child bearing issues or difficulty from the age of 32yrs is a mad person don't listen to them.

If I have my way, only ladies above 27yrs can get married.

Girls below 27yrs don't know what they want from life, they just want money and material things for free. They don't know what marriage is all about, or how to be a wife to a man. To them being a wife is living with a man, having sex with him at night to get pregnant in order to have babies, cooking for him while he provide them with all their life fantasies and if he fails to provide their fantasies, they start to give him trouble and start to compare with their friends and those they watch on TV and God rescued you from that disaster and u had the gut to tell that lady this stupid thing.


Had it been I knew your wife I would have told her to start making plans to leave you once she gives birth, and possibly find a way to travel out of Nigeria and leave u to enjoy the young girls u crave for cos u will definitely be cheating on her with those small girls, I can bet on that, wicked guy

Bro, i fully agree with what you said but then ..
Don't you think marrying a lady above 27yrs is a turnoff? As in, the whole juice and been squeezed away and what we have left to manage all our life is the left over shaft.

The best age to get a lady as per body is between 18-23 yrs but for character is 27yrs above as you said.
Also, what you explained can also be said about guys. Most are not prepared for the future, only fucking like mad man up and down in university.
It is when they graduate and no family is ready to help or give upkeep again, when they have become a burden to the family, that is when reality hits them on the face.
And that mostly is also around 27yrs and above for men.
So it applys both gender.
I was just luck to be hit with the reality very early in life, i treaked apapa tire my life wan capot, no body tell me make i get sense

Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person.

After saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

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missjo:

God?
Lol,it's not that serious you guys. She will get over it, all she needs is the reassurance that she was not just an option but the foremost choice.

Why are you covering that small breast, abeg open am make we see

LilMissFavvy:
Only 31 smh...... I pray that lady heals. She married a man who does not value her.

Madam, 31 years old is not "only" for a woman.
She don old true true.

omotola224:
A woman loves unconditionally but when you cross boundaries she can decide to unlove you with the same energy.
Men can often be insensitive through their actions but when you say it to their face then it's a confirmation of what you have been thinking. Never get to this point with a woman who genuinely loves you. That being said
You have to keep trying...
When she leaves you alone in the sitting room go and meet her. Gist with her.
Take her out on dates
Surprise her
You have to do things like you are just asking her out all over again.
Over one of your dates tell her you are sorry and would love to be the love of her life once again. Pls let it show that you are truly remorseful.

She will forgive you only you might have to reassure her over and over again.

Note: watch what you say henceforth .

Goodluck!

seconded

Bro Charles, why?
You were very mean to her with those unguarded words of yours. In fact, you actually stabs her in the forehead, which though may heal over time, but whose scare WILL NEVER GO AWAY ALL HERE LIFE. I hope this teach you a life long lesson that anger is a destroyer. OK.

Now that you are sober, it's good. It's a sign that you are showing repentance. But I doubt if you would have ever become sober if she has retaliated at the time you injured her. You would have gone ahead and stab her more and more without looking back. That's exactly what I am seeing. Anyways, the deed is done.

Now, I have just a little piece of advice to give, and I pray that you will WIN YOUR WIFE BACK again.


What were the things she cherished so much before the ugly statement of yours? Try and use them again on her, she may buy into it.

Take her out. Try and take her out to eateries, zoo, amusement parks etc to change her inner mood. You may win her over again.

Then, help her in chores. Try and help her do some chores to surprise her. You never can tell what will break her down for you again.

Finally, buy her some cool gift. Not expensive gift, I mean gift that ordinarily she would never expects from her husband. It may do the magic.

Now, if you tried the above and she remained uninterested, don't give up, try it over and over again, and I tell you, YOU WILL CERTAINLY WIN HER BACK IF YOU CHARLES, DON'T GIVE UP.

Remember, she has really forgiven you, just that the scare is a position that cannot be hidden. But with time and patience, all things well again.

Cheers.

Stop begging.

Continuous begging is like pouring dettol on a wound, it kills germs but in that instance it is useless.
When she leaves the living room as soon as you get in, just pick your baggage and follow her to the room don't say anything.
Just be present wherever she is within the house, then slowly and carefully introduce gist, in a week una go begin gist like no man business.

Wish you better days in your union.
Cheers

you were sincere to open up and admit your fault which is one way to arrive at a solution and I hope you have learnt your lessons by not being careless with your words anymore.
one solution is this, take this matter on your knees to God in prayer and asked God to heal her broken heart and restore her back again(In the LORD's hand the king's heart is a stream of water that he channels toward all who please him. Proverbs 21:1).
Don't involve any third party as you will expose the home, so involve the Almighty and you shall be glad you did.
May God by His Holy Spirit restore your home and make it like Eden in Jesus' name.

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emmaodet:


Bro, i fully agree with what you said but then ..
Don't you think marrying a lady above 27yrs is a turnoff? As in, the whole juice and been squeezed away and what we have left to manage all our life is the left over shaft.

The best age to get a lady as per body is between 18-23 yrs but for character is 27yrs above as you said.
Also, what you explained can also be said about guys. Most are not prepared for the future, only fucking like mad man up and down in university.
It is when they graduate and no family is ready to help or give upkeep again, when they have become a burden to the family, that is when reality hits them on the face.
And that mostly is also around 27yrs and above for men.
So it applys both gender.
I was just luck to be hit with the reality very early in life, i treaked apapa tire my life wan capot, no body tell me make i get sense

Forget that crap, my mother is in her late 70s and she looks younger than most ladies in their 40s, honestly I wished I can post her pix here. And she had lots of kids oh.

See, looking good comes by nature, gene and what you consume, not age. Some ladies look so pretty and hot when they are below 20yrs but once they cross 20, they start to transform to ugly.

Some look ugly below 20yrs and start to transform to hot ladies from 20yrs above.

Some look hot below 25yr or 30yrs and once they cross 30yrs they start to transform to look way prettier and hotter. Some start looking even sexier from 40yrs while some ladies who used to be very beautiful and lovely start to look ugly from 35yrs above.

Some ladies will be hot like fire but once they start to give birth they will start falling apart and be looking uglier as days roll. Some start looking prettier after child bearing.

So this thing is about individual gene and nature not by age.

My father look hotter now at 80s than he was at 50s

Some people become uglier as they age, while some become better looking as the grow in age.

In terms of character, in Nigeria, ladies start to develop good sense of reasoning from 27yrs and above. Below 27yrs, majority of Nigerian ladies don't know their bearing in life.

Most of them are still living fantasy life, wanting to live their life like those they watch on TV or read on novels, not knowing that there is difference between fantasies and reality.

When ladies are below 27yrs, they are selfish towards men, they only need men to give to them and spend on them, and they accept or reject men mostly based on money and other nonsensical qualities, but when they start approaching 30yrs and above, their understanding about life changes, they start to develop sense of good reasoning, and they start to become valuable women with value to offer other than sex.

As for guys, any lady marrying a guy below 30yrs is in for troubles. There are few exceptions but guys start to become mature for marriage from the age of 30 and above.

Best age for a guy to marry in Nigeria is 32yrs - 38yrs

Some women have said worse things and are found of insulting their husbands"You are not a man for me"and heaven did not fall.My brother if you beg,plead and do everything reasonable and she still remains adamdant or same,i beg move on with your life.Yes!you made a mistake but Nobody is perfect,and someone capitalizing on your shortcomings does not worth being your wife.

Alas! Before that woman will heal from this trauma, stupid op will tell her another hurtful word. No be to buy Turkey all the time be the thing o. U must learn to protect her always. Thank your stars u married a good woman.

Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person.

After saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

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