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Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by genq(m): 7:51pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
She needs to move on already! I'm sure during the said argument, she also said hurtful things to you. At the end of the day, you were man enough to apologise severally. So, the question now is; does she expect you to beg her for the rest of your life? 42 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by galantjoe(m): 7:53pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
If What u said is true, then your wife suppose to forgive u and move on. For those that have not married, marriage is not bed of roses. There is always abusive language but what matters is asking for forgiveness and forgiveness itself. Your wife must forgive u if you ask for forgiveness. If she continues to like this, she is still immature for marriage. you have to consult elders 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 7:57pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Unmhnmmmmmmmmm....... She won't forget that word till she died. You don't need to beg! It is what you want, it is what you wished for but you got something else, you got her, something worth thanking God for every moment. Step up your love towards her and appreciate her every moment. 10 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by healthserve(m): 7:58pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
galantjoe: Respect 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by sisisioge: 7:58pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Jisos! So nairalanders/naija guys are serious about ladies in their thirties being evening news! Hian! 31yrs! Lawd! You wouldn't have invited me to you wedding as a guest niyen let alone as the bride . So the stipuuudity most of these guys portray online follows them offline! Dang. I'm sorry, you have made your bed... Nothing remains but to lay on it. She won't ever forget your hurtful outburst...hopefully, the rest of the crettins on here would learn a thing or two. By the way, marriage is a lifetime venture. Somehow, she would pass that wall raising countenance consciously or otherwise to your kids. What a long life of unfamiliar family you're about to have! Good evening. 37 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Richy4(m): 8:04pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
That was cold blooded bro.. A technical knock out jizzzz!!!.. This kinda situation deserves 'hail Mary' Bro this is from me to you.. There are people in this world that got acid mouths. Oh!! When they open it a little, it can divide the red sea.. and u are one of them unfortunately Killing someone does not necessarily mean using gun or knife.. U have destroyed her self confidence man.. Try and keep your tongue in check in future man.. As for the present situation, maybe you have done enough begging and pleading. Time for action.. U have done your courtship and u know what she likes.. start with that.. she might act like she doesn't want it but keep on doing it still..also give her a little time and space to breathe and think ... She will come around. In my opinion, taking this case to a third party will further humiliate her the more because that person will like to know what you were fighting about and what you said that made her so upset .. and u can't trust the person not to say it to another person... That will give them a weapon on what to hold against her should there be any misunderstanding between herself and whoever it was that you told.. On a lighter note bro I will suggest that you buy chewing stick in future and keep at home.. if she does or says something that upsets U, and u can't leave the house at that point, and u know that if u opened your mouth, it will shut the whole thing down, just pick up one of the chewing stick and start chewing.. That will keep you mouth in check 141 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by olabrinks(f): 8:04pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
She has forgiven but she has not forgotten hence why she’s still somewhat distance. As a married man you need to understand that women are extremely sensitive. We are like babies, you need to protect us. Wives are constantly seeking their husbands validation and it has nothing to do with immaturity it’s how nature created us. Dealing with this issue will involve patience and consideration. He has caused some serious psychological damage to his wife, as small as it may seem. It will take time to heal. As a man you may not be able to understand this, but as a woman, I really sympathise with his wife. galantjoe: 32 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by BetWinners(m): 8:08pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Nigerian men have got to stop placing so much value on women. @OP You told your wife the blunt truth.Women are waaay harsher with the truth when they direct it at men.Countless women have told their husbands the exact same thing you told your wife (their husbands not being their first choice) & the men moved on. Tell your wife if she can't act right & put that poo behind her,then both of you should split cos you can't continue stepping on eggshells in your own house. Simple stuff 55 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by izzou(m): 8:11pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
pocohantas: Maybe he read enough threads on marrying from 18 - 24 year females on nairaland....Thereby neglecting the blessing God gave him in a 31 year old I'm just saying 32 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by excanny: 8:14pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
If you have begged and begged and she still refuses to let go. Please do yourself a favour by divorcing her so you can marry someone else and live with peace of mind. Please kindly divorce her. Nonsense. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Graxie(f): 8:17pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Become born again and ask Jesus to help you. He will help her to heal from this pain. Pray for your wife, pray for her. She is totally disappointed in you. Just pray for her. 21 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Biglittlelois(f): 8:19pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Richy4: Hehehe I like this, good advice . 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 8:20pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
genq: Exactly what I am thinking. She must have said some really hurtful things for you to remind her of your decisions not to marry her in the first place. Stop begging her @op. Just give her time but show more than enough care for the sake of the baby. If you beg her too much , she might still end up using it against you if she is the type that likes to gaslight. I once told a woman to get anjob and be useful to herself, since time waits for no one. Next thing I got was that I said she is a liability and that was what torn the relationship apart. But guess what! She still works at the job I eventually got for her and she is making a fantastic living. My only sin was asking her to be useful to herself and stop wasting away. Fear women! 19 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Richy4(m): 8:26pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Biglittlelois: Hahaha.. that might help |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Aaaaarghmed(m): 8:28pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
bros why u go talk that kind of thing,even though she has forgiven u she wud not feel good about herself,she wud just feel u wanted to just manage her thats why u married her.Hmmm,its a complex issues and I think married folks shud advise based on their own experiences and perspective.pls next time try not to make statements that affects the confidence and self esteem of ur wife. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Boss13: 8:33pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Bro - just remember that many couples have said harsher words than yours and they still stick together. You have to keep trying though maybe she might turn around 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by ImaIma1(f): 9:23pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
She is hurt obviously. Those kind of words leave a deep wound that takes time to heal. Maybe at this point you have to report yourself to someone older that she listens to. Then start doing some little things to get her attention. Buy her gifts, leave love notes where she will see them. Have a cake delivered to her at work, business place(at home if she's a stay at home wife). Just do things that make her know her importance in your life. You can get ideas from Fire Proof's 40, day challenge. And next time, be careful what you say because words, when spoken, cannot be retrieved. 10 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by pocohantas(f): 9:28pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
izzou: They will find one virgin for him na. Or give him enough redpill. Last last, we would be here to discuss his matter. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by missjo(f): 9:34pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
pocohantas:What is it with you really? 10 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by missjo(f): 9:35pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
genq:Hello Mr. Insensitive,have you had your daily dose of humanity today? 34 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:38pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
pocohantas: Lol. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by izzou(m): 9:39pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
pocohantas: According to him, he married her because he needed to acquire something fast.... That's his reason for marrying her The woman actually solved the jigsaw puzzle when he said those words. And that's why she's avoiding him like a plague It will take only God to change her mind. I just don't want to sound negative, but it's the truth... 58 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 9:46pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
You wanted to wound her w| your words or what was your intention? You told her four different hurtful things! Ahhnn ahnnn! Charles1888: 11 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by pocohantas(f): 9:49pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
izzou: Lots of people feel one kinda way about their spouses though. It is only human nature to think you can get someone better. Some are only smart enough never to voice it out, so they live happily ever after. As OP done talk im own, na God hand them dey. She will forgive, but she won't forget. What she does with the the memory is up to her. 29 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by missjo(f): 9:52pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Charles1888:You are the one who needs to let this go at this point, not her. You have apologized and given her the chance to get anything she wants from you although i think you should not have done that but you were desperate so its fine. I noticed where you said you both still have sex.if this is the case, then that is your eureka moment right there. We are most vulnerable when we are bum naaked soaking in ecstasy and feeling the moment. It is at this time i would have expected u to look into her eyes and tell her exactly how you feel about her, tell her how much you love her, cry if you have to, shiver if you need to. Let her feel the love more from the temperature and vibrations from your skin on hers than just from the words coming out of your mouth. You don't have to go out of your way trying to beg..you have done that already, stop pleading, be assertive now. Please try this and give me feedback, i am touched by this and want to see it resolved. 32 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by missjo(f): 9:55pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
izzou:God? Lol,it's not that serious you guys. She will get over it, all she needs is the reassurance that she was not just an option but the foremost choice. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by izzou(m): 9:56pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
pocohantas: Well, true though But he did hurt her oh. He injured her self esteem. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by genq(m): 9:57pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
BetWinners: Amen to this! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by jesmond3945: 9:58pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Op you just told your wife you dont love her that much thats the pain. So she is hurting badly. Apologizing to her is not enough. You have to repent and be born again, when she sees you are closer to God she would turn 360 degrees. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by izzou(m): 10:01pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
missjo: But she was an option.... His first paragraph said it. He wouldn't have married her if he had the chance of getting an "under 25". He married her because he needed to acquire something fast. That's his reason, according to him I don't want to talk much about this matter. I feel for them. The Op sounds honest, and the lady is just unfortunate. I pray God touches her to forget 28 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by nicepoker101(m): 10:05pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
You asked her to tell you anything she wants and you will do. Hmmmm I hope you have heard about how a woman conspired with her daughter to demand for the head of John the Baptist. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by nicepoker101(m): 10:07pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
pocohantas:The thing is you will never tell him your real age. 8 Likes |
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