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Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by missjo(f): 10:08pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
izzou:I will borrow one of LordKO's most repeated word here and that is CONSCIENTIOUSNESS. It is not everything we feel we ought to reveal but now that he has revealed it,he ought to do all he can to reverse the situation by working her back. It seems manipulative but it is what it is. This is his wife and God will not do for humans what humans can do for themselves. 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by izzou(m): 10:15pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
missjo: Of course But then, those hurtful words were not just feelings. From his first paragraph, he meant it. She was actually an option. The marriage was already in a faulty reason.. The matter don tire me sef 8 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by iPrevail(m): 10:26pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: Listen, I've had firsthand experiences. I've said horrible things to my gf and she's said unbelievable things to me as well... All in moments of anger. My mum has said things she should never say to me before, she was very angry. But beyond all of these, I know these people love me because they've proved that.. And I love them as well. One moment of unwholesomness is not enough to wreck a relationship, not to talk of a marriage. So her husband got angry and said bad things to her, what is the best thing for her to do? Sulk over it all year? 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by drmikeadams(m): 10:27pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
Las Las u go marry evening vanguard 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by IAMBlesssed(f): 10:42pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
This is what ur arrogance has caused. You really betrayed ur wife..
Pls carry your cross, afterall she is just an option. U never valued her 16 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 10:44pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
You should be empathetic to her b/c the things he said were too much /incredibly hurtful, and shows he doesn't love her that much. These are not just bad things but things you don't say to someone you love, that is, if you truly love them! How would you feel if your own so-called spouse tells you 1. You were never who they wanted to marry 2. You weren't their specs 3. You were/are too old for them 4. If someone younger was available you wouldn't have blinked twice before marrying them She is never going to forget these words and it's going to affect their marriage henceforth. He shouldn't have married her if these were his feelings going into the marriage. Anger typically exposes hidden feelings / things you've been bottling up, so I do believe he meant them. iPrevail: 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by iPrevail(m): 10:52pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
theButterfly: Okay.. If it were you, what would you do? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by hustleranthem(m): 11:24pm On Sep 13, 2019 |
I hardly comment in this section but bros, you have killed the love she has for you. No matter how you try to pacify things, it won't be the same anymore..That word pierced the deepest part of her soul. U no try abeg, just deal with the result of your tongue. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by LadySarah: 12:07am On Sep 14, 2019 |
Only God can. You can prove to her that You are sorry.Its true your words could have killed something in her,but then nothing is impossible. Btw.31 is it too late for marriage cos i'm so sure You are also older than her? 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by sacx: 12:16am On Sep 14, 2019 |
You goofed alright. But then to err is human. How long have you been begging, one month, two months? Then stop already. You will work yourself into depression. Since she said she has forgiven, then cease from mentioning that issue further. Stop trying to 'win' her love; just love her as you would normally do. By the time she sees you've stopped making those 'extra' efforts, trust me, she would speak up. I know manipulation when I see one. Your wife is obviously an introvert. They are good at silent treatment. That's what you're being dished. You should henceforth be very circumspect with your speech. Unguided utterances have sent many to their graves. 9 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by LilMissFavvy(f): 12:47am On Sep 14, 2019 |
Some people cannot just heal. Not everyone can heal. You asked if she should sulk all year, left for the lady to answer, but many adults know that words of mouth has destroyed even the best of relationships and marriages. iPrevail: 14 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by iPrevail(m): 3:01am On Sep 14, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: She can, if she leaves the marriage and find someone else. But that is not the best option. I understand tho, she has the right to feel hurt. What she/they need right now is a marriage counselor. She needs to let out that hurt/pain. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by hpymoment(f): 3:42am On Sep 14, 2019 |
omotola224: Oh! This your description brought tears to my eyes. You knows how the heart of a woman that is in love works. Op she can never forget that hurtful statement all the days of her life, it's the most hurtful words i have a ever heard, i prefer that a man cheat on me than say those words to me. . With time she will bury it somewhere in her heart and become lovely again. Note that this her reaction will continue to reoccur in the future whenever she remembers it. You made a loving heart bleed and this is the result, deal with it. #typingwithtears 10 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by DeeMain(m): 4:20am On Sep 14, 2019 |
People tell you who they are, believe them - Maya Angelou. See mouth! This OP is a baby in a grown man's body. Unless there is a deep identity change in him, that lady will be hurt again and again if she opens up herself again to this child. 14 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by sholapot: 4:58am On Sep 14, 2019 |
You will be very lucky if she can forgive you before she puts to birth, if she does not, she will just transfer all the love to the child, and leave you hanging. You have succeeded in killing the love in your marriage. Good luck. 35 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 5:10am On Sep 14, 2019 |
Charles1888: This marriage is dead. Op, I think you guys should part ways. Divorce is always an option. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by BuyACar(f): 5:23am On Sep 14, 2019 |
Charles1888: Simple, love her! Don't forget what I just said. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by bdchange(m): 5:51am On Sep 14, 2019 |
Your words and actions must be taken into consideration when it comes to your partner. I believed you have learnt your lesson the bitter way. Just give her time to heal. She will forgive you on the long run if she consider your remorseful acts towards her. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by sean079: 6:03am On Sep 14, 2019 |
Bro, ur wife needs to be a mature woman. There is positive side of your harsh statement about her person. She suppose see u as the insecure partner in the marriage cos only insecure partner utter such statement by trying to justify their own ego n pride. So, she needs knows dat she never forced u to get married to her in the first place and u don’t have any option except her, shows her important to u like she is a very indespensable. Thats is the positive side about all this boastful ego utterances we say everytime. Its just because we are insecure about the other Person. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Ishilove: 6:37am On Sep 14, 2019 |
Charles1888:Words are like daggers. When used carelessly can cause a world of hurt. The words you said to her are broken eggs. What has been said cannot be unsaid oga. Anger lowers our inhibitions and our utterances during those times are inspired by what we nurse in our hearts and subconsciousness. You spoke what has been in your mind from the outset of your marriage. She is now wondering if you ever loved her, or if she will always be the one who was never good enough. You were quite the asshole, weren't you? An insensitive asshole who speaks before he thinks. Give her time to heal. How long that healing will take is what no one knows. Will she forget your cruelty even after healing? No one knows either. This is a lesson to folks. Never take your spouses for granted. 21 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 7:05am On Sep 14, 2019 |
What did u expect after what u said? You hv the same mentality as CalgaryFriend. "She's perfect" but you had to tear her down with ur gutter mouth, mtchew 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by UjuJoan2: 7:08am On Sep 14, 2019 |
Jeeeez, I need tips from your wife oh, to be able to put these men in check. Chai, she's an expert at passive aggressive behaviour, I Duff my hat for her . . . Much respect. That being said, you deserve all she is doing to you, and more. You are even lucky she's still allowing you touch her sef (of course she may be doing that just to get pregnant, and then shut you out completely ) THERE ARE SOME THINGS YOU JUST NEVER SAY! You me need to understand that you are not doing women a favour by marrying them. It is actually the other way round. When you consider the sacrifices a woman has to make in the name of marriage, then every man should wake up every morning and thank his wife for marrying him. And this is no joke This mumu man married a GOOD woman, and had the guys to insult her over her age, only 31. And I bet you are even even older than her, yet you think you are somehow a catch for her, because she is 31? What foolishness. Truly, I can't even wrap my head around it. If my husband ever said something like that to me, I don't even know how I will react. Truly. Spec ni, specs ko. I just pray you don't deceive her again into forgiving you and falling for you again. Because for you to have made such a statement, you don't DESERVE her love, at all. And you probably never will. This so sad! 26 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by healthserve(m): 7:14am On Sep 14, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: We must see UjuJoan here. We must |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by healthserve(m): 7:15am On Sep 14, 2019 |
Zielle: Been a while. Anyways a different moniker Na wa o. You still have the words of CalgaryFriend so fresh in your mind? Anyway , that man, na man wey sabi. He's mouthed just like you Zielle. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 7:23am On Sep 14, 2019 |
healthserve:Zielle is a tough woman. But she fine sha o, from her pictures that I have seen , she try and she get correct brain too. Yes I am patronising her, allow me. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 7:29am On Sep 14, 2019 |
healthserve:Is this CalgaryFriend? . Yes, I'm still upset with ur words, along with ur mentality . You and ur plethora of monikers, why? |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 7:31am On Sep 14, 2019 |
calgaryFriend:You've seen my pictures where? |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 7:34am On Sep 14, 2019 |
One of the negative effect of listening to the garbage the Lil boys at romance section usually spew by calling women who are in their 30s evening newspaper Now see the result, you have taken that kind of mentality into your marriage and you are paying dearly for it now 32 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by SendAbroad: 7:42am On Sep 14, 2019 |
Charles1888: Stop begging...it won't solve anything...your wife wouldn't beg you that way if she was the one that said same. Just give her more money higher than normal. All the laughter and gist will come back sharp sharp 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by healthserve(m): 7:55am On Sep 14, 2019 |
Zielle: Lol. I'm not him. I was a spectator on that thread. Don't take it out on me o. Lol. Ladies in the thirties. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by healthserve(m): 7:57am On Sep 14, 2019 |
calgaryFriend: Haven't seen her before. But from the way she speaks, her head is there. I took snippets of her psyche from her comments and I can say shell make a good catch, rather, an excellent one. Funny,you mentioned patronising her. I also had similar thoughts Somehow I lost fate. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Richy4(m): 8:06am On Sep 14, 2019 |
iPrevail: There are differences between a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship and a marriage.. A girlfriend can always leave u without bathing an eyelid..without a sideways glance.. but with marriage, it's a different kettle of fish.. before leaving there are things to put under consideration. What I'm trying to say is that a girlfriend might leave immediately she heard that she was a second best.. a gamble.. "not what I wanted kinda girl but what can I do".. But an already married wife can't... Because a lot of things are considered..She will be left destroyed emotionally.. it will be on her mind for the rest of her life.. but a girlfriend will leave to go and find who will put her first..I believe u are buying what i'm trying to sell to u. Even u my friend, how will you feel after getting married ur wife tells u he was in love with David.. That he was tall, handsome, loving and have a straight teeth.. that He was her first choice and she loved him..only that David was not ready for marriage .. That assuming he was, u wouldn't have seen her underwear.. Are u gonna sit and tell me that it won't affect u in any way? When u guys are typing to be macho, try your best to put others under consideration.. What the OP said was BAD. There wasno excuse about that. 25 Likes 2 Shares |
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