Well, if there is a Human Resources person in your company i think that will be the best person to speak with.
From your own end, i think you should confront this colleague and let him know that his advances are unwelcome.
Not just confront sef, warn him and let him know the next time such happens you would escalate it.
He might think the reason why you are letting him do his rubbish and not saying anything is because you like it.
Speak up and tell him to back off.

NwanyiOkpa:
Hello,

I am having a difficult time as a colleague of keeps harassing me sexually. He tries touching me and sometimes takes a picture of my ass without my consent and sends the picture to via whatsapp.

I am really pissed off and i feel like reporting. But my boss is also a womanizer and i am scared what the outcome might be. I live in the company's provided accommodation and as bad as it is, i am the only lady and female staff of the organization and hence, i am only female sharing accommodation with the rest of them. Although i have my own room but the rooms are kind of close to each other and this colleague keeps handing around my room.

I am getting really scared as i don't know what to do. I am new to the job and the youngest among them all.

Please advise me.

I don't know if it is only me but go back and check all the topic you started, it either rape or sexual harassment how do you handle it, how did the person that deflowered you end up? - it is as if, you are dreaming about being sexually violated some how, Abi Na only me dey read this kind meaning to your life ni?

ESSOHEngineers:
Work Place Sexual Harassment is common and both ways, however women are statistically more on the receiving end that the giving end. However as common as it is, it places a lot of emotional and psychological stress on the Victim. This is because it is just a step away from rape/assault.

Do not assume you are overreacting. Report him immediately to your boss. Escalate it. He is already stalking you by coming to your door. Perhaps creeping and peeping and listening.

Tell him you will report him to your boss. Tell your boss that you are doing so because it is the right thing to do in such a circumstance. The reason for reporting to your boss is not only because you want him cautioned. It is also because from an Occupational Health,Safety and Well-being perspective, it is simply the procedure to follow and the thing to do. Tell your boss to call a chat with you both and complain further. I am assuming it is a small company,hence no strong HR Team. Also, where possible report him to other male folk within the apartment. This is so that you have witnesses to show you have complained. If you want, also write a formal report of complaints to your boss and keep a copy.

And if he doesn't stop, tell him you will file a complaint to the police. Where possible avoid all manner of mundane and trivial gist with him. Keep your conversations and association formal.

Keep evidence of all his behaviors. You might need it. Where possible send him warnings via text messages and keep those too. Next time he does that put your phone camera on video record and make a video. Don't worry about if it is clear or if you got a perfect shot. Just make a video/videos of you warning him sternly about his harrasament and how you don't fancy it.

Harassers usually feel victims are playing hard to get. Generally for women they are usually harrassed by their Seniors. For men they are harassed both by their bosses and juniors as a matter of fact.

Where it is not conducive you might need to leave the job. It is better than living with the horrors and trauma of rape. The Nigerian hypocritical and patriarchal society is unforgiving to women assaulted. If you follow the trend, it is common for Nigerian men to lie and say the lady agreed to have sex for a specified amount and that when they didn't pay the woman decided to claim rape. He will even claim he has been dating you. Finally it moves to cognitive dissonance where they blame the Devil or blame the "thing that came over them" and how "they usually don't act like this" etc. At the end people will say why didn't you speak up. Why didn't you leave. Etc. So, be careful and speak out. Don't ever assume you are overreacting. Put a stop to it otherwise he will get bolder.

Eventually if it gets bad, you may have to decide if it is worth your continued stay of if you should leave. No one can make that decision for you.

One of Many Examples of Workplace Rape and Assault.

https://www.nairaland.com/5437096/man-rapes-co-worker-death-ogun

oil dey your head. You've said it all

NwanyiOkpa:



Thank you for taking out time to delineate everything for me. God bless you.

Let's see your pinsure

This is so not right. First tin first.tell him in clear terms you do not want those advances n will like to b very official with him as d word official n make him know you are serious.ensure to record all your conversations with him.if he is not bulging,report to your supervisor Officially n copy known women right organisation.you need not fear nothing,just b good on ur job.If you are threaten cos of your stand,get the women right organisation involved n things will work in your favour.you do not need to fear of sack n succumb cos as young n inexperience as you may be,if you hold yourself togeda n demand to be treated right,d high n mighty may be relieved of their job(s) if they cross their boundary.times have changed,the phones we have can get the world to hear us in seconds .goodluck

NwanyiOkpa:



Thank you for taking out time to delineate everything for me. God bless you.

This is a common trend in construction company especially, when working on site and you live in site camp. Follow the well outlined counsel .

You don't have a guy in your life that you can report to instead of coming to nairaland?

NwanyiOkpa:
Hello,

I am having a difficult time as a colleague of keeps harassing me sexually. He tries touching me and sometimes takes a picture of my ass without my consent and sends the picture to via whatsapp.

I am really pissed off and i feel like reporting. But my boss is also a womanizer and i am scared what the outcome might be. I live in the company's provided accommodation and as bad as it is, i am the only lady and female staff of the organization and hence, i am only female sharing accommodation with the rest of them. Although i have my own room but the rooms are kind of close to each other and this colleague keeps handing around my room.

I am getting really scared as i don't know what to do. I am new to the job and the youngest among them all.

Please advise me.

Get a guy you know, even if your brother or relative, to play your boyfriend for awhile. Tell the lecherous idiots you've a bf, and act like it. They'll leave you alone. Thank me later

Muyiwaipere:
The way you dress is the way you are addressed


You can not dress like an innocent and decent girl and a man would be doing that... Fear go catch am sef

So.... Change your mode of dressing and restrict your relationship with them
.gaskia?

What do you mean by that? How am i supposed to dress in a corporate environment? I even work in coveralls.

NwanyiOkpa:
Hello,

I am having a difficult time as a colleague of keeps harassing me sexually. He tries touching me and sometimes takes a picture of my ass without my consent and sends the picture to via whatsapp.

I am really pissed off and i feel like reporting. But my boss is also a womanizer and i am scared what the outcome might be. I live in the company's provided accommodation and as bad as it is, i am the only lady and female staff of the organization and hence, i am only female sharing accommodation with the rest of them. Although i have my own room but the rooms are kind of close to each other and this colleague keeps handing around my room.

I am getting really scared as i don't know what to do. I am new to the job and the youngest among them all.

Please advise me.

Give a child breast milk and he will stop crying. Let him have a little of your pussy and your worries will be over. That man will not rest until he had you...it seems you have charmed him with your beauty...

NwanyiOkpa:
Hello,

I am having a difficult time as a colleague of keeps harassing me sexually. He tries touching me and sometimes takes a picture of my ass without my consent and sends the picture to via whatsapp.

I am really pissed off and i feel like reporting. But my boss is also a womanizer and i am scared what the outcome might be. I live in the company's provided accommodation and as bad as it is, i am the only lady and female staff of the organization and hence, i am only female sharing accommodation with the rest of them. Although i have my own room but the rooms are kind of close to each other and this colleague keeps handing around my room.

I am getting really scared as i don't know what to do. I am new to the job and the youngest among them all.

Please advise me.

Poor girl! One thing is paramount, you cannot remain at the mercy of any sexual abuser! If you have made your boundaries clear enough, those boundaries must be respected! If however they are not respected, the onus is on you to enforce compliance through authorized action. Lodge a formal complaint against the abuser. Your reluctance to lodge a formal complaint after sufficient notice and warning is the reason why you remain a violated victim. Evil dreads exposure. The evil doer should be the one living in fear - not you!

Warn him sternly n report to your boss even though he is a womanizer n do so both orally n written for it to be official. If nothing is done then you would have to make a choice between keeping d job n its consequences n leaving it. God iis your help
. I wish u well. I know u have a hard choice to make

NwanyiOkpa:
Hello,

I am having a difficult time as a colleague of keeps harassing me sexually. He tries touching me and sometimes takes a picture of my ass without my consent and sends the picture to via whatsapp.

I am really pissed off and i feel like reporting. But my boss is also a womanizer and i am scared what the outcome might be. I live in the company's provided accommodation and as bad as it is, i am the only lady and female staff of the organization and hence, i am only female sharing accommodation with the rest of them. Although i have my own room but the rooms are kind of close to each other and this colleague keeps handing around my room.

I am getting really scared as i don't know what to do. I am new to the job and the youngest among them all.

Please advise me.

Rape victim in view and when it happens you will blame yourself for life. You do not need advice because you know what to do

Quietness over sexual harassment could come off as a subtle "yes" and thus embolden the harasser to try new things.

You must sternly warn him, if it requires shouting at him in the public to embarrass him, do that.

And if none of that works, make a formal documented report to your boss stating that you cannot tolerate such unprofessional conduct from colleagues and you have addressed the issue personally with the harasser but he would not change.

If it will cost you your job, it is better to have your integrity and lose your job than lose your integrity over a job that won't last forever.

NwanyiOkpa:



What do you mean by that? How am i supposed to dress in a corporate environment? I even work in coveralls.

Any clothes you wear that shoecase your curves, laps, Breasts, Armpit, etc means you are a Seducer thats why they are harrasing you!!!

Prayer is the key o

Weytin girls no go see for the hands of men

Na so some students & lecturers would just be harassing a lady (with heavy ass) in the school premises. The guys would snap her back & be posting on social medias.

@OP, may God save you from these men o.

greggng:


Give a child breast milk and he will stop crying. Let him have a little of your pussy and your worries will be over. That man will not rest until he had you...it seems you have charmed him with your beauty...

Your so-called advice is as nonsensical as your name spells.

Hmmm

Makuos19:


Any clothes you wear that shoecase your curves, laps, Breasts, Armpit, etc means you are a Seducer thats why they are harrasing you!!!

Well, i dress decently.

NwanyiOkpa:



Well, i dress decently.

Then mention the clothes you wear that are decent...or how do u know you dress decently

Makuos19:
Then mention the clothes you wear that are decent...or how do u know you dress decently

Long skirt and blouse. what more do you want to hear?

NwanyiOkpa:


Long skirt and blouse. what more do you want to hear?

And the long skirt and blouse is not showing your contour/hip shape, breasts/cleavages, armpit? Or better still post your picture in the long skirt and blouse lets see

shineeye1:


Your so-called advice is as nonsensical as your name spells.

This things are always difficult to get out of ...that is why i decided to introduce comic relief. Only those willing to quit there job find it easy to report this matters especially to a boss that is equally a womanizer. ...that boss might be coming after her shortly

Makuos19:
And the long skirt and blouse is not showing your contour/hip shape, breasts/cleavages, armpit? Or better still post your picture in the long skirt and blouse lets see

this is the end of my conversation with you. Goodluck with your life.

NwanyiOkpa:


this is the end of my conversation with you. Goodluck with your life.

Lol, i thought u claim u dress decently now u know the cause of your problem and u are looking for advice.

Tell him you want to report him to boss and he won't try it again

Makuos19:
And the long skirt and blouse is not showing your contour/hip shape, breasts/cleavages? Or better still post your picture in the long skirt and blouse lets see

Lol

Make she kukuma wear jalabial


What a question!


Men sef!


Anyways for him to always snap her bum bum means she has a protuding round intimidating assz Which is no fault of hers, na God give her like that.


Op, seriously just warn him off and threaten him your boss will hear of it. Also let him know u have recordings of how he behaves towards you.

Always record any conversation between u too.

Be firm about your threats.

If he doesn't stop?

Report to your boss. If boss no wan hear.
Let your boss knows you have a boyfriend in the army and you've told your bf about it. But your bf says you should table the matter to the head before he handles the Randy colleague by himself with his own army colleagues if there is no change. Army in Barracks will come in and set things straight.

Trust me, every man in that building will avoid u like plague, likewise the boss.


I used such technique in my office building and it worked like. Magic.

Lust clear for the guy eyes. Lol

victorian:








Lol

Make she kukuma wear jalabial


What a question!


Men sef!


Anyways for him to always snap her bum bum means she has a protuding round intimidating assz Which is no fault of hers, na God give her like that.


Op, seriously just warn him off and threaten him your boss will hear of it. Also let him know u have recordings of how he behaves towards you.

Always record any conversation between u too.

Be firm about your threats.

If he doesn't stop report to your boss. If boss no wan hear.
Let your boss knows you have a boyfriend in the army and you've told your bf about it. But your be says she should table the matter to the head before he handles the Colleague himself with his own army colleagues if there is no change.

Trust me, every man in that building will avoid u like plague, likewise the boss.


I used such technique in my office building and it worked like. Magic.

Lust clear for the guy eyes. Lol

Whatever the size, God gave it to her to cover it well for her intending husband not for punlic consumption. So get a dress/skirt that will cover it well. Clothes are meant to conceal not to reveal. Whats noe
W the difference between her and the Prostitutes we see on the street

greggng:


This things are always difficult to get out of ...that is why i decided to introduce comic relief. Only those willing to quit there job find it easy to report this matters especially to a boss that is equally a womanizer. ...that boss might be coming after her shortly

On the contrary, a formal report against the harasser would be serving warning notice to the womanizer boss! No person of substance and integrity shys away from making his or her reservations known to all in non ambiguous terms. A formal complaint against a recalcitrant abuser is the principled way to go!

Makuos19:


Whatever the size, God gave it to her to cover it well for her intending husband not for punlic consumption. So get a dress/skirt that will cover it well

There are some assz! Or even boob's that no matter what one wears, it's still so obvious to the eyes.

No matter what she wear.

Or u expect her to wear bubu to work?


Na WA o

Punch him and find a new job.

Begin dress like Deeper life people. Always with your bible.
Thank me later.