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| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by islandmoon: 10:07pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
kcee14 , I don't think there is anything wrong with mbaise people but there is a proverb that says, if you see a snake and mbaise man in your house you should first kill the mbaise man before killing the snake because the mbaise man is more dangerous . so for the above reason, I don't know if I should blame your parent or praise them. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by OlawaleBammie: 10:08pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
YorubaNinja: Waagbayi with ur coment. i love dis attachment tho.. 6 Likes |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by salt1: 10:08pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Pubichairs: Don't mind this one. Every tribe has the good, the bad and the ugly. Don't run on stereotypes 12 Likes |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Nobody: 10:09pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
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| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by midnighter(f): 10:09pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
fatymore: You dont know some parents will not give you any tangible answer, they will just be shouting and cursing Let her ask somebody, no knowledge is a waste |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by fatymore(f): 10:10pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
midnighter:Ok |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Dutyman(m): 10:10pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
My experience with them so far while i was in IMO state was not a pleasant one though some are good in behavior and they are very social but they have a cunny character.......that bind them together.......... But as a deltan guy i make them to know that we no dey take last. 10 Likes |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Michelle55: 10:11pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
They are nice people though, had same misconception about them until I met someone from there who changed and cleared every bit of doubts I had. Ask your parents their reasons for rejecting your suitor 4 Likes |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Nobody: 10:11pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
keepingmum:One of my neighbor is an mbaise lady. She's exactly what you just typed. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Davland(m): 10:11pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
hamid6249: why oo |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by grandstar(m): 10:11pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Kcee14: There's nothing with with Mbaise people. Only thing I don't like about them is their high bride price. The dislike for Mbaise people developed when someone made a song decades ago dissing them, saying first kill a Mbaise man before you kill a snake. I have friends and Christian brothers and sisters who are Mbaise and they are lovely people. I used think terribly about Tiv people based on whatthe Idomas said about them. However when I actually interacted with them, I discovered they were some of the nicest people around. Your parents are being very petty. They'll give in if he is persistent. He should be diplomatic about it and feel the atmosphere with laughter when meeting your folks and perhaps a things for them. Persistence is the key. Discrimination against them is simply a misconception and not based on hard evidence. I hope he is a good guy. Wish you the best 25 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Hamazz1: 10:12pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
They saw something you where too blind to notice. 1 Like |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Pubichairs(m): 10:12pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
salt1: and u think I gave her such advice..without facts or do u think I made that out of ignorance.wise up 1 Like |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by MondayOsunbor(m): 10:12pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
pharrell8: It is said if mbsise man and a viper enter your house at the same time you are safer killing the mbaise man first.! |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by abdullkabar(m): 10:13pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
My only encounter with an mbaise person is that of my boss that year and it wasn't something to acknowledge, the man was extremely cunning(one of the worst persons I have ever met in my life) But I don't think I will generalized them by his actions yet.... BUT!!! 5 Likes |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by QueenVaji: 10:14pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
They always want to bring wisness in everything they fo... meanwhile they are so foolish and wicked like akwa ibom people.. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Mike23r: 10:14pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
[quote author=Amuatulu post=82599375][/quote] u never know |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Mike23r: 10:14pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
hamid6249: nah the side u dey man |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Mariangeles(f): 10:15pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
donbachi:LIAR ! |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by mercyviv(f): 10:15pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
In Yoruba land, if you bring an Ijebu man home to be introduced to your parents, especially in parts of Ondo and Ekiti, I can assure you won't get your parents blessings. Meanwhile... Are you a teacher? Get FREE access to the best compilation of school lesson notes/plans, curriculum and exams. Visit my signature for details... 1 Like |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Trezagezz: 10:15pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Kcee14: I will just tell you a simple story that connotes the story.... A man from my kindred married an Mbaise is woman at early 80's and this woman made the husband not to look after her biological mum and siblings nor come home.. she successfully made the husband to avoid home,village meeting with our people in town nor associate with his kinsmen... This man built Manson for the wife's family and train up the wife's siblings.. he will cross my town and went to the wife's side to spend some popular festive season.. Lol and behold,he got sick (stroke) and this foolish woman abandoned him and move with the two girls she has with the man.. then wealthy man was brought home in shame and was burried in a compound without good building cause the family is doing in Poverty..... Till today that Mbaise woman has not crossef my village neither the family which the man race and made what they are.... Another one is when I was in 200L,I dated one girl from same Mbaise,she always threaten me with death and always deadly with evil violent whenever I had issue with her not untill o unleash my anger and made her go her separate way by force..... So your parents might have their own reason ... But that doesn't mean that all are bad... ***DON'T NEGLECT THE ADVISE OF REASONABLE ELDERS***"" 10 Likes |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Obason22(m): 10:16pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
At 26, is no longer a playful thing o. may be wen u turn 28/30 they will now ask u to bring anyone, but in other hand i think ur parent are relying on historical background of Mbaise people, I believe if its #Davido or #phyno that intended to come for introduction, such parent will not look were he came from. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Egbesu1(m): 10:16pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
YorubaNinja:, all those one at mile 2 or Oshodi, Yoruba Abi? 1 Like |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by millionboi2: 10:17pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
donbachi:hahahaha........u wicked oooo Sombdy like u no suppose give breakin news ooo |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by OnyeYahoo: 10:18pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
keepingmum:that's summary of it all my experience with them are not funny one of them leveled an allegation that is still hunting me till date an old woman for that matter ooo those people are something else even their fellow imolites avoid them like plague your parents are spot on even though i won't interfere on my children marital choices i can only advice against it 5 Likes |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by franchasng: 10:19pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Kcee14:Don't listen to your parents in this situation because they are old and out of touch with life, they are still holding on to some past traditional beliefs and myths that Mbaise people are cunning, that ancient Mbaise people do eat human being, that Mbaise people killed a white missionary and hung his bicycle on a tree to avoid the bicycle from running back to whiteman's land to inform the whitemen.... And there is a popular phrase that says: if you see an Mbaise man and a snake, that you should kill Mbaise man first before the snake, and that phrase was culled from a hate or let me say revenge song sang by an aggrieved member Dansach of Owerri based highlife music band: Oriental Brothers when the main singer and founder of the highlife band, Dr. Sir Warrior cheated him by sidelining him in money sharing which is common among musicians and their managers all over the world. You know songs travel farther than any other thing, so that song traveled so far and made people became so conscious of Mbaise people and whatever they do...such that any little crime or bad behavior an Mbaise person commits, people tend to overblow and magnify it because they are already on censor. Just like Ijebu, Ibadan, Ilesa, Ngwa, Fulani, etc people....these are all stereotypes based on past myths and believes of the past. Judge people individually based on their actions, their attitudes towards you, and how they treat you, not based on what people say or what you hear. Have your own experience....there are bad people in all communities, tribes and races.....don't let fallacies of hasty generalization based on mythological beliefs and unfounded scares to scare you away from people. That your parents had a bad encounter with an Mbaise person is not enough reason for them to refuse you marrying an Mbaise man that loves and treats you right, open your eyes, this is 21st century.....I am sure you are not financially independent, you still depend a lot on your parents to allow their unfounded reasons to deter you from being with someone who treats you right. Besides majority of people all over the world now no longer carry the traits of their tribe or community because most people now spend most of their lives in other cities and communities, hence, they will exhibit more of the traits of people around where they reside or live......so tell your parents you aren't marrying the man to go and live in the village with him to be farming and be dragging issues with the community people. Or are you telling me that an Mbaise man who has lived in Canada for 20 years and gave birth in Canada, that his children born and raised in Canada will be exhibiting the over-generalized Mbaise people character  Please enlighten your parents and make them understand why they should stop reasoning like people of 1935  Poor people and their irrational decisions and assumptions. Rich people and families don't have tribe or community when it comes to marriage, business or social issues, it can only exist during politics and its for their political gains. Rich families marry to grow their wealth & political dynasty without considering tribe, community, etc while the poor marry to please their ancestors & communities, and to remain in their clan & to retain their tribal heritage, which is why your parents are so fixated on past beliefs and false stereotypes about Mbaise people  If your parents were rich, I am sure what they will be asking u is who are his parents, what does the guy do for a living and not this; 'don't marry from Ibadan, don't marry from Ijebu'. Its only poor, unexposed families that live on these stupid assumptions/stereotypes that keep them poor and stagnant instead of thinking economically forward and capitalist, they will be focusing on stupid stereotypes that only keep them economically stagnant. Go and marry your village palm wine tapper na 34 Likes 9 Shares |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by midnighter(f): 10:19pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
carlleung: Lol. Dr Sir warrior and kabaka...the 2pac and biggie of their time see wetin dem don cause... 2 Likes |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by bleskid: 10:19pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Mtew go and marry your man jor go make him give you belle ...  1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by dododawa1: 10:21pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
YorubaNinja:_ondo girls 1 Like |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by franchasng: 10:21pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
OnyeYahoo:I can bet you are not an exposed person from the way you spoke. So because one old woman from Mbaise leveled an accusation against you, therefore all Mbaise people are bad....is the woman the only person that have wronged you since you were born Try and emancipate your reasoning....I just had to quote you because your comment showed your level of reasoning, exposure and status, what a shameful comment, pls purge your secluded mind so u can grow bigger  9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by spiritedtete: 10:22pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
If i hear mbaise... i go run too oo. It is not funny at all... i am sorry if anyone is offended by my "primitive statement" sha. I go still run .... 1 Like |
| Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Femich18(m): 10:23pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
What's really wrong with Mbaise people? Even their fellow Ibos for my hood dey fear them? Ate they that bad? just wanna know |
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