midnighter:


Lol but at the end of all this grammar, what he did was bloody disgusting, just admit it

I mean come on!

midnighter:


Lol but at the end of all this grammar, what he did was bloody disgusting, just admit it

I mean come on!

efeteb:
My candid advice to you is to consider this.
1. The worst thing that could happen from this is a broken home. My sister don't allow this issue to break your marriage. It is painful? Yes, but don't allow your children grow up in a broken home take it from those that have experience it.

2. Forgive your husband even before you confirm he did it. Don't allow this issue to break the relationship between you two. The mistake has been done. Allow him to let you know his plans for the child but try to make him take responsibility for the unborn child if he accept that he did it.

3. Raising dust and issues from this cannot undo what has been done. Your peace is what is important. Remember crying has never restored a spilled milk. Try to be brave that is where your peace can be found.

loveymom:


There are men who will never admit their fault until when caught in the act. That's why I asked she invite the families to discuss the matter.

She said she already asked the husband and he denied it

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

Coolgent:

Considering the fact that there are 4 Kids, i think you should solve this issue amicably to save your marriage for sake sake of thise innocent Kids, cos the deed has already been done.

fykes:

My dear u can't say that. We make mistakes and have crisis atimes. U have no idea if the wife has been a model wife herself, u don't know how long the man has held up his head and just one moment of indiscretion or bad decision can ruin it all. This may be just his one bad moment of weaknes

sexiestharam:
Almost every advice I have seen on this thread makes me puke. She is 19 and was a virgin before coming to your house. Isn't it obvious your husband seduced or raped that girl? He was also the one that volunteered to take her to the hospital. Doesn't it mean he knew what he did? Op said her husband is a respectable man. I laugh. What's respectable about a man who sleeps or rapes his wife's niece? Your husband is a goat. Ewure. If you still want to stay with a goat, that's your business. To all those advising her to have the niece commit an abortion, what if that's not what the niece wants? It is her body, it is her child she would kill and her life is at stake here. What about the. memories that would always be there. Aunty Op, do whatever you want. We all know in the end only you would advise yourself.

fykes:

I will never understand why a man with four kids will want to ridicule his family like this, I make no excuses for him. All I'm saying is that if a man's wife says he is honourable, she knows what she is saying cos she lives with him over the years. We have no reason to doubt her. Thats d point of my arguement

calgaryFriend:
This issue if not properly handled can scatter your family, I am sorry you are having to deal with such a terrible thing.
I'd suggest you try and establish the truth first.

I wouldn't conclude that your husband is guilty until I have established the truth cos if you wrongly assume he is guilty and he is not, you would be doing yourself another great damage by wrongly levelling such a terrible accusation against your husband.

I'd say you should be scheming on how to establish what the truth is.

I wish you Gods direction in this trying and challenging time.

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

midnighter:


Lol "looking after her" ke? So what were they supposed to be doing when she came to stay with them

Hm. The niece doesnt even sound too smart or she has an agenda, if shes going to fight them with fire then she shouldnt be so stupid as to go back there

Samstrong12:
If it's true, you will take part of the blame. Ladies never trust your hubby to the extent that you will bring a young girl of these days to leave with you and ur hubby. Such temptation is dangerous. Instead bring his own sister.

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old
............
My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

healthserve:





Any nation on earth, saying husband is a luxury is a total write off. Why not ask her why she's still in a marriage

SUPOL:
Madam take care of the girl and the child, children are blessing, and u must stand by ur husband. Don’t put him to shame but let him not repeat the error. May God help u with Wisdom, Amen

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

midnighter:
So what does your nieces mother have to say about it...

This story is really crazy..

Sorry ma

theButterfly:
OP, to find out the truth

use your own intuition
-Look back on their closeness and recall: anything you might've noticed but dismissed, anything you noticed after getting home from work or during times you were away from the house, changes in interaction w/ you, etc.

Ask him to take a lie detector test
-If he's innocent and has nothing to hide, he would accept this in order to clear himself. If he's guilty, he's going to refuse.

Get a DNA paternity test
-This is likely what you and the girl's family would have to wait for, so that would mean waiting until the baby is born. At least he cannot stop you people from doing a DNA test on the baby, so the truth will eventually come out then.