Yes if it true let him marry two of you nah because you have a randy man as a husband mbok because is a misgivings nah

Chiefochiefo:
Don't believe all these small small girls o, if not you'll have issues with ur marriage. Her mission maybe coming to eat that tin you're proud of or just to scatter ur home. Be wise woman! Believe ur husband, support ur husband even if it's true so far ur husband keeps denying it. Don't blame us. This d reason my wife don't accept long visit from a woman, even her sisters. Though sometimes am not too happy with that. It looks she don't trust me. But the mata be say anything can still happen. Handle this matter with wisdom woman.

Did you just say she should support her husband even if its true but provided he still denies it?

Chai. Chineke nna!!!!

Your type makes me sick to the stomach. This is foolish to say the least

healthserve:



Nothing wrong with a female leaving with a family. She's not the first and won't be the last. If after four kids, the man has the heart to do such evil,karma waits to serve him. I'm sure the man would have a daughter between 8-15. Why didn't he practice the act on his daughter or patronise a prostitute.


There's no excuse. There are prostitutes hesedays that collect as little as 500 naira. He can enjoy himself unlimited

Dont mind the useless man (if he actually did so).....playing HOME ADVANTAGE!

chronique:
What type of irresponsible husband without self respect, goes about sleeping with his wife's niece? And even had to sleep with her without condom? You married a foolish man and what you are dealing with now, is the consequence of being with a foolish person. If he must flirt, are there no ladies outside? Why go so low to sleep with your wife's niece?

Because she is very close to him. He lacks self control.

The best decision you already know so Go ahead with this.

uote author=Omojudy post=82602628]As painful as this will sound, I will ask the girl what she wants to do, clearly giving her the right over her own body. She is my relative not his and I will support her while watching my husband prayerfully without a quarrel.
If she does keep the pregnancy, I will request her to give us custody of the child and voila we have another child.
Whatever she decides, I will stand by it. Anything other than him and her continuing their affair.
Yes, I will also have the baby’s DNA tested when born if we have to accept the liability.
Life is not that hard, it’s betraying and hurtful but we will always take the right decisions putting emotions aside.[/quote]

jclassiq:


Did you just say she should support her husband even if its true but provided he still denies it?

Chai. Chineke nna!!!!

Your type makes me sick to the stomach. This is foolish to say the least

While not buy her a cutlass to behead her husband with?

This issue is too catastrophic!I just took few seconds to analyse a very possible scenario in future.
Where a wedding party is taking place and all the players are present.
Then a group of women starts gossiping.

"Do you know that the last child of eze was conceived by Ada,the wife's niece.See her over there with the child" at this point they all stare at her and the child and back at the couple on another angle.

"Nna Ife n'eme.Umu nwoke sef.nwa nwanne nwuye ya k'o ra.Ra gbuo ya,n'afo ime"

And then the child will innocently pass and they'd call him/her.

"Fine boy,whose child are you?"

Of course the guy would point his mother and stylishly ignore his father sitting at the far corner of the event centre.

Of course after dismissing him.All manner of vulgar words will be thrown at the abomination they just dismissed.

The fact is that there's no way your niece would finger your husband as the person who put her in the family way if they didn't have any sexual liaisons.. A 19year old virgin is probably naive & easily manipulated into thinking that she/your husband loves her and so could give into such advances.. Let the families and parties involved have a meeting the truth would come out eventually meanwhile you have to go over to your sister's place and have a face to face conversation with your niece to get more information.

This is exactly what happens when you bring your problems to Nairaland

Madam walk up to your Niece, tell her that you are ready to accept her as second wife; that in few weeks, you will come with your husband to pay her bride price..do so to your husband too; tell him that you are willing to accept your Niece as second wife and that you will escort him to pay her bride price.
Relax and see how this move will birth a natural solution to the problem on ground.

YOUR wisdom rings to high heavens

calgaryFriend:


This does not sound like a wise thing to do, how will she call the whole village on her husband based on an accusation that has not been verified.
And even if she eventually verifies it she does not have to expose her dirty laundry in the open, she has a marriage to keep nonetheless.

When tree falls on tree you remove the uppermost one first.

The first thing she needs to do is to use wisdom to establish if her husband is the one responsible or not.

Have you though about the damage your suggestion would make if her husband is been wrongly accused ?
Or do you think it is not possible that the husband may be wrongly accused ?

This is not the time to betray emotions , this is the time to use wisdom.

Omojudy:
As painful as this will sound, I will ask the girl what she wants to do, clearly giving her the right over her own body. She is my relative not his and I will support her while watching my husband prayerfully without a quarrel.
If she does keep the pregnancy, I will request her to give us custody of the child and voila we have another child.
Whatever she decides, I will stand by it. Anything other than him and her continuing their affair.
Yes, I will also have the baby’s DNA tested when born if we have to accept the liability.
Life is not that hard, it’s betraying and hurtful but we will always take the right decisions putting emotions aside.

This may be a very hard part to tow but I must commend your wisdom.

Ayotemide:



LMAO. I really want your opinion if the wife was the cheat in this case, had she slept with her husband's nephew; would you not be spewing bile and abominations all over this thread.

I have no respect for people who trivialize deep things like adultery with common arguments like gender biases.
y'all women are too often too personal in thinking about the hurts of a cheating partner whether male or female.
Forgetting that aside from the couple, this while thing affects and maybe even more so, the kids, the couples parents and siblings, and in this case extended in laws families.
So tell me of what good is ur supposed defence or excuse of d gender of the offender in any case?

virago:



She may not have been a virgin , that is what the mother believes. Whether you believe her or not the proper way is to get a confirmation and not to just judge because she has fingered him. It's either they get a DNA test done or use a lie detector. If you have ever been falsely accused you'll know it's not an easy thing , I'm not saying she's falsely accusing him but the man can't be judged just because she said it's him and a proper confirmation must be carried out to know the truth

*Modified* Exactly, what does being a virgin have to do with it when somebody is already pregnant. I dont agree with the girls mother, so if youre not a virgin you cant get pregnant?

Tobinrobin:
Unless it’s rape, there’s absolutely no mistake in having sex. Your husband might be innocent & it’s quite possible that he’s the one that impregnated her. It’s her word against his. But forget about how respectable your husband is, if he truly respected himself , he wouldn’t have done such & he really messed up. Seems she will have to give birth to the baby. How old is she? You failed to point that out.. This is quite a tackling issue. Abortion is very dangerous. What a mess smh

She said 19years

Lexusgs430:


Get him arrested....... If you have daughters, he might turn to them soonest........

The public defender would get the truth out.........

Arrested for what?

For Sleeping with an adult? (19yrs old girl)
For Incest? (She is not his blood sister)
Rape? (She never said she was forced and never madea report to the Police, of rape)
Raping his daughters "in the furure"? (Law does not punish for an offence that is yet to be committed)
Arrest for what exactly?

Some of you just want to waste the time of the court, without first thinking.
The man can even sue you for wrong arrest sef.

Engrgabi:
my dad is a reputable man, yet i caught him spying our house help bathing.

Lol.

Sparro:

Your suggestion to call for family meeting is foolish. You don't know who is your real enemy now a days. Childish suggestion if I must say o

It's not foolish my friend!Call a meeting of every parties involved.A teenager is pregnant and the culprit is within.If it was your daughter what would you do?Those who are meant to be responsible,on whose care you handed her over is telling you strange stories?

You're crazy for this comment and quite immature in your thinking

Sparro:

Your suggestion to call for family meeting is foolish. You don't know who is your real enemy now a days. Childish suggestion if I must say o

Lexusgs430:


You know the way we carry religion for head, like hot àkàrà.......

One pastor go reach out to the girl family now, begin preach forgiveness and plead with them to return the girl back to her abuser......

Do i continue?.....

Lol, dont continue, please..

So sad...

Do u know that YOUNG WOMEN are OGBANJE^2?
Wives u people are not trying in this perilous time.
Pray for ur husbands o.
These set of girls can devour even their fathers without minding the repercussions.
And some would say RESPECTABLE MAN! SPIRITUAL MAN! Those are cliche

Are wive is to PRAYYYYYYYYYYY and GUARD (Secure) the husband jealously.

God gave u that primary role. Genesis said a HELP MEET which means a HELPER THAT WILL MEET HIM. God knows that men aren't complete to stand everything and everywhere within 24hours. U are the HELP MEET what have u done.

Let's discuss, u instead pick ur phone to facebook and instagram urself
Let's pray, u instead fall asleep.

U didn't HELP UR HUSBAND from this endtime young girls possessed with LUCIFERIZE SPIRIT OF SEX.


To save ur marriage, ur head and also become a better wife I advise u take these steps
1: Listen to ur husband calmly not naggingly
2: Inquire he tells u the truth and if truly he is responsible, don't panick
3: Both of u should visit ur niece family and discuss and how u can take the child and mums responsibility till delivery (don't abort please. One single leads to another graver sin for cover uup
4: Send the niece to school to give her a purpose in life and take custody of the baby (or u send upkeep if ur sister requests she will take care of her grand child)
5: Pray more and be watchful more especially for ur husband because DEVIL no send u ooooo.
Thanks

I'm not in your house madam, but I can assure you your husband is guilty of at least sleeping with the girl, even if not responsible for impregnating her, since its possible the girl may have had sexual dalliances with other guys; though I doubt it. What I'll just advise you do is, carry your cross, do a DNA as soon as the child is born, if the child belongs to your husband, simply adopt him/her. Thats playing maturity. Thats the best I can say.
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fykes:

I have no respect for people who trivialize deep things like adultery with common arguments like gender biases.
y'all women are too often too personal in thinking about the hurts of a cheating partner whether male or female.
Forgetting that aside from the couple, this while thing affects and maybe even more so, the kids, the couples parents and siblings, and in this case extended in laws families.
So tell me of what good is ur supposed defence or excuse of d gender of the offender in any case?

No, men are the one with bias. You wouldn't have typed that crap if tables turn.

Muhylonaire:




She said 19years

She only modified it after I asked what the age was. The age wasn’t there before

Hash it out with your husband, Ma'am. He needs to know how you feel about this whole thing. There's a bit of truth to every rumour and your niece can't just up and lie against a man she's respected for so long, in my opinion
Your husband should come clean to you and you both should try keeping your family intact for the sake of your kids and the years spent together so far. He should also begin making amends to you and the kids for this atrocity against you guys; and I don't mean with physical gifts. It's a sad situation but best wishes to you

LadyJasper:

Na gist u just dey find.

Lol free me

midnighter:


Exactly, what does being a virgin have to do with it when somebody is already pregnant. The girls mother is just being silly, so if youre not a virgin you cant get pregnant?

You women are your own worst enemy.
If you are aware of your daughter's chastity before you handed her over to your sister and in-law,only for her to return back to you pregnant.And to make matter worst,she is accusing your in-law.HOW WOULD YOU FEEL??

You sleep with an outsider and create a child with her, that is still redeemable.

But you sleep with my own niece under my roof who is under 21. After confronting you, you are still denying it?
Are you sure somebody like this cannot kill you in your sleep for their own selfish desires?


Madam if you find out this child is his, you really have to examine your mental strength. Are you capable of putting this under the rug and taking the child in like your own? Will you be able to live in peace looking at your husband and this child knowing that he has possibly destroyed you mentally? Will you have the mental capacity to truly trust and love your husband wholeheartedly after this situation? Or will you be living in constant resentment, hatred and bitterness, which could create a very hostile and damaging environment for your children? This situation is very subjective and personal and you are the only one that can make that judgement for yourself.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best and I hope you can attain your sanity and peace throughout this tragic situation, because that comes first. Goodluck.

From what I deduce from this story, the husband is highly responsible for the pregnancy because how can he take a girl under his care to a hospital and after series of test found out she was pregnant and decide to keep it away from his wife. No sane man will accommodate that. Like the girl mentioned, he wanted to carryout his evil act (abortion) quietly so that his wife won't noticed. Perhaps he has planned a date already for the abortion. It's a good thing the young girl ran away for her dear life. Men like this don't care about what happens after the abortion, whether there is complications or not. All they want this to clear their names of the list.

Tobinrobin:


She only modified it after I asked what the age was. The age wasn’t there before

Ok sir

inspirator1:
Madam walk up to your Niece, tell her that you are ready to accept her as second wife; that in few weeks, you will come with your husband to pay her bride price..do so to your husband too; tell him that you are willing to accept your Niece as second wife and that you will escort him to pay her bride price.
Relax and see how this move will birth a natural solution to the problem on ground.

tufiakwa