Na Gay. Do something about it. Anyone active in anal sex is prone to have STDs. If he is the receiver, that puts you at way more risky. Do something now, no say nobody warn you.

justice12000:
Not every man that is no longer interested in sleeping with their wives or girlfriends are gay. Women make this stupid assumption all the time. Maybe he doesn't find you attractive anymore, maybe the way you smell down there irritates and makes him sick; happened to me with my ex, even if you give me 1 million, I won't sleep with her. Maybe he has health issue he doesn't want to tell you as a man, maybe it's stress or just lost interest in sex. Some men I know after they get married or even single can go years without sex; nothing wrong with
them, just lack of interest. Respect his decision or seek divorce.

It seems you didn't read the part where she said that most of his friends are small boys and she caught with him one that almost led to her leaving the marriage.

She also said that her brother inlaw seems to be aware of his brother's situation

Kai!

lagoskind:
You already know he is gay cos you've caught him red-handed... what more do you want us to add? He is gay!

This is what people get when they marry who they don't really know.

Oga,the deed has been done. Your advice,your suggestion on how to take control of the situation is what she is asking for. She is not herself right now,don’t add to it if you can’t proffer solution.




Op,you just have to confront your husband. Though for me I believe the issue of gay/lesbian is not ordinary. You need to keep praying for him because you are only one that can help him to get out of this.

You've got two kids,pls walk away from that marriage, You'll find a man deserving of your love. Do not live with a gay,let the gays have themselves please.

Richy4:
Based on what you have written here, your husband is not gay. He is bisexual.. if he is gay, U will be a total turnoff when he sees u... No matter how sexxy you dress, nothing will stimulate or move him to have sex with u. As it is, he is playing on both field.. that's why his stuff can raise to accept u when u initiate sex..

Sorry that's who he is, There's nothing you can do about it..
U can either divorce him on grounds of cheating (based on that chat without letting anyone know with whom because u might endanger his life ) or u accept him the way he is.. that's just the cold fact .. It's kinda normal in advanced Countries.. I can just imagine how shocking it was for u

It is not normal anywhere in the world to deceive people into marriage.
Sure, there is no legal punishment but if it were in an advanced country, she
would be in court for divorce already.

I suppose she is afraid to leave because of lack of safety nets for divorced wives over here.

From this story i can tell it's the lady that went after the man and forced him to marry her, probably age wasn't on her side anymore and she needed to settle down asap. You can't eat your cake and have it, look at all these bitter feminists trying to use under age boys and homosexuality laws to blackmail the man. You should be glad that the man at least bleeps you and impregnated you twice. If you can't tolerate his other side then simply divorce and move on!

Sis, I don't know how spiritual you are, but I believe in the potency of prayers. Take this issue to God in prayers and Fasting, battle with the word of God. Then keep confronting him, not violently.

God has got you, you just need to present your case to him

Ajaerof:
I accept all d blames, but am down psychologically plz I really help nw, no body to talk to

Calm down, confront him he will deny, persuade him, he may tell you the truth

Then be bold and tell him you want him out from that act

Give him time to come out of it

Does he enjoys sex with you or he just sex you for the fun of it

Anytime you see his juniors hanging around him, tell them politely that you don't want their friendship with him that they distract him from paying attention to you and the kids even the entire family

Then remind him he will go to jail of he is caught

That's the little I know, don't allow this to swallow your emotions, you may lose control of yourself

Lastly, involve him with your kids in family prayers and voice out any thing you don't want in your family, le him chorus amen to it

This is a big issue. Your husband is gay and you need extraordinary intervention to bail him out.
My dear, it will only take God to deliver him.

funmisticqueen:
Aunty you have to confront him head on. Since he is dead in bed, ask for an open marriage. Find your own happiness. At this point, no one will blame you if you cheat. He most likely wont want everyone to know he is gay, use that to let him settle you. There is no point forcing a gay man who'll never be attracted to you

Always keep evidence.

are you encouraging her to cheat where she is seeking solution for her husband. so it was you, you will rather go cheating than finding solutions

Oyindidi:
He is bisexual. Na wa o so na man(small boys) you go dey chase no be girls. I no envy you

girls!!!!
abi women!!!!
wetin una want
men chase girls nah wahala
now man don chase boys,u no envy am??
wetin una want anti?

U can actually be his gay partner, u need to engage him in sex conversations and let him tell u his fantasy, your husband is just a bisexual, understanding that will safe ur marriage

Ajaerof:
Plz I need help, Dont even mind my Grammar please I have to summarise this. My husband of 5yrs now behaves so strange in our home since we got Married. I didn't really date him, because it was a distant relationship before we finally says Yes"

He is a nice Man, I mean kind in nature, but I noticed he is not moved at all no matter how hot I am, this has been bordering me since. I have been the one initiating Sex since our marriage. God has been on my side we have two kids now, I have tried all I could, all abortive.

Most of his friends are just small boys, I have even caught him with one particular one, that nearly sent me home.... is all About this Guy then, he even spent months in same room with him, till i saw one hell chat from the small boy, that he should try and shave his Penis. That one really got me Mad, I have to pursue that one. I can say he is no longer in the picture again, but am still not convinced because he like keeping to himself.

I know he is an Introvert to the extreme, but he don't behave like a real Alpha Male, I have to force him in even sharing same Bed with me, am really disturbed now because am really tired of this.

There was a time I had to Involve his family I noticed that his immediate elder bro knew about it, that was when I sent that particular guy away, I have been hoping he will change am not sure of that..

Please help me.

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IceColdVeins:
He's gay. Gay men like pursuing yonger guys.
Ask about my story and I'll tell.

Call me, so that I'd Bleep you, since he no wan fvck.

And something is telling me that you're a beautiful woman

Report him to the police, gay is a criminal offense

Xisnin:

It is not normal anywhere in the world to deceive people into marriage.
Sure, there is no legal punishment but if it were in an advanced country, she
would be in court for divorce already.

I suppose she is afraid to leave because of lack of safety nets for divorced wives over here.

I think u misunderstood what I was implying. I was simply talking about being bisexual in most developed countries

Bisexuality is a psychological condition that can be cured

lagoskind:
You already know he is gay cos you've caught him red-handed... what more do you want us to add? He is gay!

This is what people get when they marry who they don't really know.

Sometimes even the people u think u know turns out to be stranger. Blissful marriage only comes from God.

May God help me one day so I don't kill somebody, cos the way a guy at work puts his hands on my shoulder, press my shoulder Nd grabs my hand, I know I will kill someone soon enough. I will sit and he will come sit closer then he will grab my thigh and press it, haaa! I see it now... This boy na gay, I will break his head the next tym he tries putting his filthy hands on me.

While your case is done and dusted there are lessons in here for females. Learn from her bad decisions.

I wonder what you're still doing in the marriage. at your early age you're savaging unfruitful marriage




that dude should not bring HIV to you with such act

Ajaerof:
I accept all d blames, but am down psychologically plz I really help nw, no body to talk to

First talk to your God except you dont have any, next talk frankly with your husband and lastly talk to your pastor. Your husband needs deliverance from the demon of sodomy. If you are chanced to witness the deliverance of your husband you will be shocked at the way demons will manifest through him. Hurry up else he will soon get caught and may land in prison or be killed. Gays dont live long.

God is your strength, aunty. My advise is get close to God the more, ask Him to help you out and remember to always put your husband in prayers always.
That said, put yourself to work too; dress sexily for him in the house, make his best meals and try edge him out of being a total introvert as you've claimed. You can both enjoy discussions together. In the "other" room, please get practical; try new things, new styles and new acts, think like a gay if need be! Let him have anals, help him shave up, tune him up for the real action, challenge him if need be...then, assess your progress in due course. Best of luck!

MedicH:
Situation is helpless. The thing don cross point of Rubicon. Ladies date whom they love and marry who's ready.

Modified:

Pls if you believe in prayers, now could be the time to do so earnestly. My friend has a brother like this and he's not yet married really and is well to do financially. Now he got a fiancé and the way I access that guy psychologically, only divine can straighten him. Divine

Beautiful quote

One advice if you are financially stable, i will advice you to leave the marriage with your two kids and start a new life.

Nzeh12:
Sis, I don't know how spiritual you are, but I believe in the potency of prayers. Take this issue to God in prayers and Fasting, battle with the word of God. Then keep confronting him, not violently.

God has got you, you just need to present your case to him

what is this? lol

More like Bisexual than gay...

Gays don't do opposites.

Live with it dear, good luck!

You could offer to buy a Strap on Love Machine, Who knows? He might agree to it

After reading this post I felt like crying...I am sorry to say but that man is a complete GAY. From what u said I believe u are so "hot" yet he is never moved....I can mention more than 10,000 signs of a gay....I hate them so much. .....pls dnt allow ur male child to stay with him even as he is the Father... I will pray for u...u have a beautiful heart.

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