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Madam gay is a very dangerous illness, ur husband's own has gone very far, all u need now is serious prayers, he is already a kingpin in gay kingdom. That's why it's adviceasable to court b4 marriage. A cheating husband is 1m times better than a guy.

MedicH:
Situation is helpless. The thing don cross point of Rubicon. Ladies date whom they love and marry who's ready.

Modified:

Pls if you believe in prayers, now could be the time to do so earnestly. My friend has a brother like this and he's not yet married really and is well to do financially. Now he got a fiancé and the way I access that guy psychologically, only divine can straighten him. Divine

Words of wisdom.

Gay test:

Try to play with his anus, if he likes it, he is gay.

haha

Oma307:
are you encouraging her to cheat where she is seeking solution for her husband. so it was you, you will rather go cheating than finding solutions

You cannot change a man's sexual orientation, she has to face reality and stop being in denial. This is a mental problem, not a spiritual one, so yes, i am encouraging her to be brave and find her happiness.

The husband has most likely been gay since their courtship and married her to silence tongues, or because she was available and desperate. Most likely his family members know too. That alone marriage under false pretenses.

The ball is in her court, she has to know when this thing started, and it isn't because of the devil. She also has to know what she wants, sexual intimacy(not with a gay man), a marriage in name only(where she has the benefits of a wife without being one), or divorce and freedom from that bondage of a situation. Also bisexual/gay men give their wives all sorts of diseases, so i think she should stop initiating bedroom activities for a while, lastly, she should gather evidence.

If you want to have any chance of happiness in your life,then you have to leave him.He is gay,he can never love you the way you deserve to be love.

mercyviv:
God is your strength, aunty. My advise is get close to God the more, ask Him to help you out and remember to always put your husband in prayers always.
That said, put yourself to work too; dress sexily for him in the house, make his best meals and try edge him out of being a total introvert as you've claimed. You can both enjoy discussions together. In the "other" room, please get practical; try new things, new styles and new acts, think like a gay if need be! Let him have anals, help him shave up, tune him up for the real action, challenge him if need be...then, assess your progress in due course. Best of luck!

Hanty he's gay!

emerged01:
Oga,the deed has been done. Your advice,your suggestion on how to take control of the situation is what she is asking for. She is not herself right now,don’t add to it if you can’t proffer solution.




Op,you just have to confront your husband. Though for me I believe the issue of gay/lesbian is not ordinary. You need to keep praying for him because you are only one that can help him to get out of this.

Stop there!!! She is not the only one that can help him, stop that emotional blackmail,she is not a superhero, or his mommy

Ajaerof:
I accept all d blames, but am down psychologically plz I really help nw, no body to talk to

Pm me, I will give an advice that may work or not work. I really don't like telling people online about spiritual solution but that is the only thing that can work at this juncture.

Ajaerof:
I accept all d blames, but am down psychologically plz I really help nw, no body to talk to

That's who he is, you either accept it or walk out the door.

What's the tendency that the kids will not turn out same too? yuck!!

emerged01:
Oga,the deed has been done. Your advice,your suggestion on how to take control of the situation is what she is asking for. She is not herself right now,don’t add to it if you can’t proffer solution.

You're right. I have modified it. Thanks.

Ajaerof:
Plz I need help, Dont even mind my Grammar please I have to summarise this. My husband of 5yrs now behaves so strange in our home since we got Married. I didn't really date him, because it was a distant relationship before we finally says Yes"

He is a nice Man, I mean kind in nature, but I noticed he is not moved at all no matter how hot I am, this has been bordering me since. I have been the one initiating Sex since our marriage. God has been on my side we have two kids now, I have tried all I could, all abortive.

Most of his friends are just small boys, I have even caught him with one particular one, that nearly sent me home.... is all About this Guy then, he even spent months in same room with him, till i saw one hell chat from the small boy, that he should try and shave his Penis. That one really got me Mad, I have to pursue that one. I can say he is no longer in the picture again, but am still not convinced because he like keeping to himself.

I know he is an Introvert to the extreme, but he don't behave like a real Alpha Male, I have to force him in even sharing same Bed with me, am really disturbed now because am really tired of this.

There was a time I had to Involve his family I noticed that his immediate elder bro knew about it, that was when I sent that particular guy away, I have been hoping he will change am not sure of that..

Please help me.

Seriously, you need to calm down, watch things with no bias in your mind. If your suspicions are still being reinforced. Then, call him quietly, to discuss this.

If you aren't explosive in your approach, he'll definitely open up to you, haven seen that you've known and bold enough to open it up.

Now, let's assume he's agreed to your discovery, what's the way out?

Don't be deceived, there are therapists that can assist him to overcome the complexity of his emotions.

What he needs is actually a therapy!

I'll suggest a therapist to you if you need one. Chat me up via my signature.

But how on Earth did all these started? I love pussy like I can't explain. How men get aroused with a fellow man still baffles me.

Rilwayne001:
What's the tendency that the kids will not turn out same too? yuck!!

It is not a disease nor is it hereditary

Ehya you just got married to a man who is gay but had to marry cos of the societal discrimination.. You got two options stay in the marriage or leave.. that's the only options you got.

madridguy:
Madam have you confronted your husband over this? I think its necessary you do so and if you do, remind him about Nigeria law on same gender s*x. You must also let him know about jungle justice in Nigeria.

I remember a big bros like that for my area, though he don peme now.

This won't solve anything; the Law cannot change people's sexuality. In fact, the Law is the cause of this. If the society was thoughtful and accepting, gay people wouldn't be forced to get married and this kinda thing wouldn't be happening.

[color=#990000]This kind of an issue is not something that can be handled physically seek spiritual help ask for Gods intervention in your marriadge and home! [/colaor]

Ajaerof:
Plz I need help, Dont even mind my Grammar please I have to summarise this. My husband of 5yrs now behaves so strange in our home since we got Married. I didn't really date him, because it was a distant relationship before we finally says Yes"

He is a nice Man, I mean kind in nature, but I noticed he is not moved at all no matter how hot I am, this has been bordering me since. I have been the one initiating Sex since our marriage. God has been on my side we have two kids now, I have tried all I could, all abortive.

Most of his friends are just small boys, I have even caught him with one particular one, that nearly sent me home.... is all About this Guy then, he even spent months in same room with him, till i saw one hell chat from the small boy, that he should try and shave his Penis. That one really got me Mad, I have to pursue that one. I can say he is no longer in the picture again, but am still not convinced because he like keeping to himself.

I know he is an Introvert to the extreme, but he don't behave like a real Alpha Male, I have to force him in even sharing same Bed with me, am really disturbed now because am really tired of this.

There was a time I had to Involve his family I noticed that his immediate elder bro knew about it, that was when I sent that particular guy away, I have been hoping he will change am not sure of that..

Please help me.

Is he a twin?

Duggedised12:
My former landlord and his younger brother were gay. He lives in lagos and got married at almost 50 years. Whenever he was around on visit then(cos the house was his late mum's house and their childhood properties and that of his mum were still in a flat) he will ask us not to lock the gate as nosy people we were we will put out the light like everyone has gone to bed at 11 pm we will just see a male figure creep in as early as 4am the gay partner will leave .He once offered my cousin bb bold 5 then to burst his yansh . He didnt invite us for the wedding cos he knows one of us might blow his cover. Even after his wedding ,he was still coming to hook up with his gay partners all the way from lagos.

As for his younger brother ,that one was always hanging out with young boys and never his age mate ,we once caught him ramming a guy while spying on him through the window lol. And these small boys eh, na so so pence well ironed trouser wearing church boys. I am sure their mothers will be saying "my son is very responsible ,he doesn't move with girls" not knowing say na yansh e dey collect rod.


So my sister ,there is nothing you can do o. My former landlord and his brother learnt theirs from boarding school and the habit stuck with them.You either stay or get out,sexual diviancy is not what prayer or drugs can cure.

It's not a course you learn lol. God help OP.. it's really heart breaking .

lagoskind:
Modified: Just pray about it and God will guide you.

Why do Nigerians think prayer is the solution to everything in life, even things that require common sense and simple human judgement? Religion has really twisted people's minds and brains to a fault!

BandAid:
Why do Nigerians think prayer is the solution to everything in life, even things that require common sense and simple human judgement? Religion has really twisted people's minds and brains to a fault!

I don't know but you can ask Buhari.

funmisticqueen:
You cannot change a man's sexual orientation, she has to face reality and stop being in denial. This is a mental problem, not a spiritual one, so yes, i am encouraging her to be brave and find her happiness.

The husband has most likely been gay since their courtship and married her to silence tongues, or because she was available and desperate. Most likely his family members know too. That alone marriage under false pretenses.

The ball is in her court, she has to know when this thing started, and it isn't because of the devil. She also has to know what she wants, sexual intimacy(not with a gay man), a marriage in name only(where she has the benefits of a wife without being one), or divorce and freedom from that bondage of a situation. Also bisexual/gay men give their wives all sorts of diseases, so i think she should stop initiating bedroom activities for a while, lastly, she should gather evidence.

A lot of diseases!.? Stop with the Crap

iPrevail:
Report him to the nearest police station. They'll just ask him some questions and find out if your suspicions are real.

Seriously? Senseless. Childish. Myopic.

deedondavi:
It's not a course you learn lol. God help OP.. it's really heart breaking .

Maybe you can suggest a better word to describe it then of all the things i wrote ,its that one you saw to pick out.And it was in secondary school so its not a course either .

IceColdVeins:
He's gay. Gay men like pursuing yonger guys.
Ask about my story and I'll tell.

Please tell..

Ajaerof:
I accept all d blames, but am down psychologically plz I really help nw, no body to talk to

sorry for your misfortune. So his elder brother knew, what did he do?

Ibrahimmrfish:
If you want to have any chance of happiness in your life,then you have to leave him.He is gay,he can never love you the way you deserve to be love.

Very True bro!. Op should go with this!.

CcAjaerof

You have too choices to make stay and pray for him or get the hell out of the marriage

Ajaerof:
Plz I need help, Dont even mind my Grammar please I have to summarise this. My husband of 5yrs now behaves so strange in our home since we got Married. I didn't really date him, because it was a distant relationship before we finally says Yes"

He is a nice Man, I mean kind in nature, but I noticed he is not moved at all no matter how hot I am, this has been bordering me since. I have been the one initiating Sex since our marriage. God has been on my side we have two kids now, I have tried all I could, all abortive.

Most of his friends are just small boys, I have even caught him with one particular one, that nearly sent me home.... is all About this Guy then, he even spent months in same room with him, till i saw one hell chat from the small boy, that he should try and shave his Penis. That one really got me Mad, I have to pursue that one. I can say he is no longer in the picture again, but am still not convinced because he like keeping to himself.

I know he is an Introvert to the extreme, but he don't behave like a real Alpha Male, I have to force him in even sharing same Bed with me, am really disturbed now because am really tired of this.

There was a time I had to Involve his family I noticed that his immediate elder bro knew about it, that was when I sent that particular guy away, I have been hoping he will change am not sure of that..

Please help me.

You just gave birth recently right?

Onyeedum:
U can actually be his gay partner, u need to engage him in sex conversations and let him tell u his fantasy, your husband is just a bisexual, understanding that will safe ur marriage

Do you know how the minds of f@ggots work?