chenzen:
It is not my intention to sound like a broken record... but the reality of that romance that u re putting your life into is that you re simply a pun in his game of chess in the end he s preserving his queen for his final conquest.



Ask me y and I ll tell u...

Martinez79:
Sweet talk? Why are you acting like ladies don't know what they are doing? It's common for guys to ask ladies out, so why call it sweet talk as though the guys were brainwashing and manipulating the ladies into a relationship? Do guys asks ladies out for the sake of love or to play "chess" with them? Face the facts, boys are the ones that are usually used, sucked dry, cheated on, and dumped cold despite the sacrifices and investment in the relationship. What was their undoing? Falling in love. If you can get all these for loving someone, what does that say about the person you love? Do you still think boys are the heartless manipulators?

It happens many times and we see that by the threads with stories and pleas by unfortunate boyfriends seeking the advice of nairalanders. Despite all these, you act like boys are the manipulators and girls are the victim? Are you serious? Mind you, I am not saying that there are no bad men in relationship.

It's not news anymore, except you want to pretend, that romantic relationship is called a scam for a reason. Do you know the gender of the usual victims of this scam? That's your assignment.

- Martinez39

Cc. CAPSLOCKED, astroG, healthserve, ubunja, lukui, JONNYSPUTE, emmaodet

Michellekabod2:

Facts?
The way you call things fact is alarming,you abuse the word fact.
Men get used financially,they give the attention,time,love,money etc....
True...

How about Bleep boys? Players?guys that date girls for a decade only for them not to show up for wedding?
A guy can date for a decade,call of the relationship off and after months is ready to marry someone else..can we say same for ladies based on stereotype?guys pregnant girls and flee and let her dropout of school while he continues his education. Not just does she bear the shame and risk damaging her womb or losing her life via abortion but also how many men will marry a single mom?but a single dad can be married!
Women suffer alot!
Community d1cks get married and see how non virgins are slut shamed... Ladies use toothpaste to tighten their vaginas and do unspeakable things to please you guys...

Am not down playing the hurt guys feel but I am making you see things from two lens here..

Playing the victim always can't bring changes...I hope you realize that soon

Jewessgratitude:


Before nkor? Is it not guys that cheat in every relationship.
The only reason it seems most romance are successful or lead to marriage is because the girl takes in and traps them down with pregnancy which even takes some years again to go and forcefully perform the marriage rites.

Please the OP has a point there. Just accept dont argue biko.

safarigirl:
Another thread of back and forth exchanges between two genders filled with people that refuse to commit and be accountable to anyone.

Everyone just wants to fvck and chop lofe without responsibilities, then come online to demonize each other after things go south, as they most often do.

Nonsense hedonistic generation

Jewessgratitude:


Before nkor? Is it not guys that cheat in every relationship.
The only reason it seems most romance are successful or lead to marriage is because the girl takes in and traps them down with pregnancy which even takes some years again to go and forcefully perform the marriage rites.

Please the OP has a point there. Just accept dont argue biko.

Psalm2423:


I still don’t understand this talk bout “real men.” A man is a man, there’s nothing like a fake man or a real man. That term is just a female agenda for dragging men down to their level and obeying their wishes. I can’t believe that even a matured man with many years of experience will be out screaming the term real men don’t cheat.

The term cheating is basically used loosely, and now it doesn’t hold water anymore.

Martinez79:
Way more often than not, women are not the losers in relationships. Do you ignore the fact that men are the ones that fall for love, spend heavily on their girlfriends and wives? What happens in most cases? These males are rewarded with being cheated on, being used and dumped, and entitlement from their girlfriends.

I could say the same for women given that most of them cheat over and over even after apologising when caught. What about the fact that men are nothing but utilities to women? What about men that train their girls in school or at least shoulder the financial responsibilities of their girlfriends and, sometimes, even her family? Doesn't this happen frequently? Yet in your bitterness, you act like the overwhelming majority of men are playing women like chess when it's the other way round.

Majority of men are not playing chess with their girlfriends instead they fall in love, desire that their girlfriends be their partners in their love dream, make sacrifices and spend heavily in the name of love, and then get reward with :
1) being cheated on,
2) being used and dumped cold after everything,
3) no gratitude, etc.

The frequent stories about heart broken men on nairaland show you how callous and cold women can be yet, in your bid to ass lick your fellow women, you act like men are the savages. These stories show how men have sacrificed so much for their girlfriends only to be treated treacherously. Think again.

emmaodet:

Because what you condemn a lady for is not what you will condemn a man for.
Men are been broke shamed also why ladies are let off the hook, you see?
Unless you want us to be bashing men for been dogs why we brokeshame ladies heavily too but believe me, you won't like that situation and then you will know that it is better to be slut shamed than be struggling with poverty.

MALE : Loves ideally and builds relationship based on love as conditioned from childhood. He goes out to do the chasing to ask her out. If the female says "yes," they start dating. Typically, as conditioned by society, he become financially responsible for her and, sometimes, even her siblings and parents. All these are done in love and they are willingly to make sacrifices.

When they start dating, he envisions a future with that woman and works towards it. He may later get dumped cold after everything on realising that the girl has gone to her best option financially. Sometimes, they don't know until they come across wedding pictures on social media.

FEMALE : loves opportunistically and finally ends up marrying her best option, at the time, among the pool of boys she had been keeping in touch with and playing. Usually she is playing all the men she claims to be dating and she receiving money from them. She is also having sex around. At the end of the day, when she wants to marry, she settles down with her best option. Boys, more often than not, usually realise, on checking the phones or laptops of their girlfriends, that their girlfriends are seeing someone else. When caught, she apologises, cries with crocodile tears, and promise that she won't cheat again.

She doesn't fulfil the promise because there is no way she is letting her options and the favours from other men go because of one. It just won't happen instead she tries to be more careful next time. She only apologised because she was caught. As a result, boys discover that, despite forgiving her over and over again, she keeps on cheating despite pleading with so much crocodile tears; apparent solemnity; and seemingly sincere promise to not cheat again. She has multiple men she is dating and boys she keeps on stand by in her friendzone. At the end of the day, she goes with her best option financially.

Aboguede:
You must be talking for. Experience

Michellekabod2:

This are all stereotypes that should be erased...
It has caused lots of misjudgements..to the best of my knowledge I have not in my entire life shamed a human for their gender, race,tribe, even LGBTQ...all Humans should be left alone.
Good men have been ignored or abandoned for fools who have money,and good ladies have been overlooked because of the outspoken sexuality..

It is wrong for a human to be judged for petty things like such. I condemn both Broke shaming and slut shaming

Bigseven:
REAL MEN are set of men who holds the virtue of ''FAITHFUL WITH ONE PARTNER'' with dignity and high esteem come rain come sunshine. But you sound PAINED by my comment bro! Lets called a spade, a spade! So just because women wants our obediece we should be hard on em? Ok o.

chenzen:
It is not my intention to sound like a broken record... but the reality of that romance that u re putting your life into is that you re simply a pun in his game of chess in the end he s preserving his queen for his final conquest.



Ask me y and I ll tell u...

chenzen:
It is not my intention to sound like a broken record... but the reality of that romance that u re putting your life into is that you re simply a pun in his game of chess in the end he s preserving his queen for his final conquest.



Ask me y and I ll tell u...

hotwax:
All the ladies I am fcking right now are in serious relationship...

Men can't compete with women when it comes to cheating.

It's resources intensive...women don't need any resources, all they need to do is go to the venue and open their legs.

Martinez79:
Funny enough, I have never had a girlfriend before. I observe my world around me, learn, and I try to be realistic.

tolumizzy:
Bad market

Aboguede:



How old 're u

Psalm2423:


What you give is what you get. At a point when I was loyal, I did expect loyalty from my partner. Currently, I don’t since I’m not loyal. I’m not a hypocrite.

What about you? Do you expect loyalty from your man?

Martinez79:
Sweet talk? Why are you acting like ladies don't know what they are doing? It's common for guys to ask ladies out, so why call it sweet talk as though the guys were brainwashing and manipulating the ladies into a relationship? Do guys asks ladies out for the sake of love or to play "chess" with them? Face the facts, boys are the ones that are usually used, sucked dry, cheated on, and dumped cold despite the sacrifices and investment in the relationship. What was their undoing? Falling in love. If you can get all these for loving someone, what does that say about the person you love? Do you still think boys are the heartless manipulators?

It happens many times and we see that by the threads with stories and pleas by unfortunate boyfriends seeking the advice of nairalanders. Despite all these, you act like boys are the manipulators and girls are the victim? Are you serious? Mind you, I am not saying that there are no bad men in relationship.

It's not news anymore, except you want to pretend, that romantic relationship is called a scam for a reason. Do you know the gender of the usual victims of this scam? That's your assignment.

- Martinez39

Cc. CAPSLOCKED, astroG, healthserve, ubunja, lukui, JONNYSPUTE, emmaodet