When will boys man up and learn to assess and handle simple relationship issues by themselves instead of coming to nairaland to ask for help? If this is how most boys are, then they can't be leaders and heads of their home.

Read my topic about setting standards in a relationship. As a man, you must not hesitate to call your girlfriend to order and give her stern warning about her foul attitude. If she refuses to listen and sit up, you can always show her the exit door. Remember that no girl is special, irreplaceable, indispensable, or the best thing to happen since slice bread. As far as relationship is concerned, all girls can be replaced and dumped.

It is sad that you are willing to swallow and put up with her bullshit. When she is behaving, you don't placate her instead you call her to order. Man up jare.



Omar09

Ardar:
Why didn't you sit at the back with her despite her asking you to do so?

You were busy chit chatting with the taxi man leaving your girl alone.

I don't support her acting out like you claimed but you fvck up abeg.

You see little things like this no matter how inconsequential or negligible you think they are, are very much important to some people.

Just allow her time to cool off am sure she'll come around.

sweetheart. She was petty and rude not only to the guy but the driver.
Little things matter, but a mature lady would have kept calm and talked with the guy. Thats wisdom.
She acted like a kid. Even i wouldnt do such. As a lady you learn to carry yourself with a good amount of pride. Not complain an entire day for such a trivial issue.

My bf once forgot our anniversary, rather than throw a tantrum, i took him aside and drew his attention to it. Simple!

Lol...crazy yarn..

Well personally I wouldnt find it offensive but if it bothered her she could have explained it to you later. That is not something worth spoiling an entire evening over

You are dating a baby my brother!

Ariza:
That babe no get any character! Be plain! Even if I'm wrong and she get any nah Bad Character!
If you want to know who a person is watch how he or she relates with strangers and the poor ( people they may likely get no benefit from.)
Op, that attitude displayed by that lady will be directed to you one day, nah then your eye go clear.

I wish I could share this comment on Channels TV

i absolutely despise people who talk down on low-income workers

Its the biggest sign of inferiority complex and bad character... so disgusting to me

Starz825:

Oga Many matured ladies would have acted differently....that lady lacks respect..she was the one who was disrespectful and lacked manners for her to have left the guy at the cinema after serious begging....which kind play be that...I really don't like girls that act childish jare....I like ladies that reason like man jare

Unfortunately, ladies are ladies and can’t act like a man that they are not.

Ardar:
I see nothing wrong in asking your guy to sit with you.

Infact when you enter a cab or a taxi, the Passengers sit at the back living the front sit empty. Besides the guy is not coming down to "perch" beside her, it's just the two of them in the taxi.

Maybe she was a little rude to the taxi driver but selfish and childish she was not.

She was selfish and childish in the way she handled it...she could have held her peace and explained her feelings to him when they arrived. Taking her feelings out on the taxi driver was so uncalled for

Just look at all those embarrassing comments she was barking out from the back...who the hell does she think she is?

Kai! Very stupid story!

chigoizie7:


You fucccked up nah, what do you expect her to do?

See all these people saying that she was rude. Yes, she was. But it would have been avoided too.

You made it clear that the date was for the both of you. You should have started her day great by joining her at the back seat.

See, me, when ever I am using a cab, I sit on the front , but this case is different, you should have sat with her, had some little chats with her while the driver minds his wheels. You even abandoned her to chat with the driver. Baba, you neglected her that little time she needed your attention.


Some will say that she is still a kid. But bros it takes a mature mind to date a mature lady.it is only mature people that see the needs to compromise at all times.


If you think she is a kid to act they way she did, it made the both of you kids, because you shouldn’t have acted the way you did. Relationships are not for kids bro.

Nonetheless, she does not have an atom of self restraint nor respect for the guy. I will feel embarrassed abd ashamed at such a conduct. This is the type that packs out of her matrimonial home over a slight musunderstanding and eagerly wait (usually forever) to be begged to come back home. Disaster waiting to happen.

Amumaigwe:



Nonetheless, she does not have an atom of self restraint nor respect for the guy. I will feel embarrassed abd ashamed at such a conduct. This is the type that packs out of her matrimonial home over a slight musunderstanding and eagerly wait (usually forever) to be begged to come back home. Disaster waiting to happen.

Shebi I still talk am say, she is rude and lacks manners.

Perhaps, na op I Dey try advice on his own part. Maybe when I have the chance to advice the girl, I would also tell her , her own flaws.

Martinez39:
When will boys man up and learn to assess and handle simple relationship issues by themselves instead of coming to nairaland to ask for help? If this is how most boys are, then they can't be leaders and heads of their home.

Read my topic about setting standards in a relationship. As a man, you must not hesitate to call your girlfriend to order and give her stern warning about her foul attitude. If she refuses to listen and sit up, you can always show her the exit door. Remember that no girl is special, irreplaceable, indispensable, or the best thing to happen since slice bread. As far as relationship is concerned, all girls can be replaced and dumped.

It is sad that you are willing to swallow and put up with her bullshit. When she is behaving, you don't placate her instead you call her to order. Man up jare.

Omar09

What's the worse that could happen? She leaving me and me starting all over. Mehn this bitches ain't worth my stress. Even me go tell the banny if you walk out on me then don't ever return. If she continues, it's good bye.

WowSweetGuy:
Excuse my grammatical blunders. I just feel like sharing this experience i had with my fiancee to be....

Yesterday being sunday, I decided to fix a movie and fun outing with my girl. I ordered a taxi from my base to her base to pick her up. She came looking fine and sweet to enjoy the sunday with...To cut the long story short to the main reason i'm posting this....

I came out of the taxi from the FRONT SEAT gave her a hug and opened the back door for her then closed the door to go back to my normal position, She gave me a bad look from nowhere, i asked her what's wrong, she told me to come to the back, the driver could hear us clearly, i playfully told her baby don't worry we have all day together u are even gonna spend the night at my crib, i sat at d front and told the taxi to go to the cinema. During the trip to the cinema i had a little conversation with the taxi guy, from nowhere again my lady told the taxi guy in a rude voice 'please oga face your driving and stop shaking me driving into potholes anyhow abeg'...later on again she told the taxi man to totally put off the low radio station that was playing in the car, the last time he had a call and received it on Bluetooth o,she shouted then very rude telling the man please just drop that call. That's when i cautioned her to take it easy na.
We arrived at the cinema, she told me i should give her transport to go back home that she doesn't feel like staying out again...I tried to pet her,she just abandoned me took a taxi and went home. She has refused picking my calls since yesterday. Im busy at work weekdays,i dont really have time to go to her house.

Ladies/Gentlemen please where did i really go wrong

Romantic scene has pre and post,you lack the former for not joining her at the back,me that will always want my babe to be alone with me at back seats...Just wait a little she will come around to either breakup officially or amend her own part.but keep sending her text sha

GUY YOU ARE ROMANTIC , SHE SEE CAR ENTER SEF DEY FORM ON TOP, WEY KEKE FULL GROUND, BESIDE SHE KNOW BEG YOU CARRY AM COMMOT, LOCAL TIN SELF. NA CANTIN DEM THEY CARRY THIS CAN ONE GO. SAVE YOUR MONEY NEXT TIME.

My two cents...

OP, as a fellow guy, I understand why you'd want to seat at the front of a cab. But this case is different. You're with a lady. Even more, she's your girlfriend. You should have sat at the back seat with her.

Now, some ladies would just let it go and not ask you to come seat beside her. But seeing that you guys are out on a date, she naturally felt you both should walk hand in hand on this special night. Hence, she felt the need to urge you to come to the back with her. She said it aloud and the driver heard too. You Should have joined her this time. I understand how it'd look but you can't allow issues play out in public like this. I'd expect you to just say "Okay" and join her. The driver is a stranger to you both I guess so no level there

I not too concerned about her leaving you at the cinema afterwards. Besides, I don't know if you enjoy tit-for-tat stuffs in your relationships.

However, However, I'd never overlook her behavior to the cab driver afterwards. Never! Personally, that's enough to end the relationship for me.

Last bullet.....

Bros, I hope you know you can't beg for love? Stop feeling like you need to appease her. Instead, let her know you'd like to discuss events that day and see if you guys could move forward.

Make it clear you err by not setting with her. Let her know leaving you at the cinema afterwards was a needless tit for tat and an overreaction.

Then, unmistakably, her behavior towards the driver is unacceptable under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. Let her know that and insist she admits her wrongdoing.

Good people abound every where in the world.

what a pussy nigga.. i dont care if its my grandma or the president, if you fvcking work out on me i am not calling you first

where is your fvcking self respect man.. no woman loves a pushover so people shouldnt blame her

RedCreme21:
op im a lady. Leave that girl as fast as you can. She's a spoilt brat. Whats an hours drive for christ sake. She wanted things done her way and was nasty when you didnt oblige.
If i were you, as i got home, i'll jejely send breakup text. You pray for a girl with good character. Never settle for less.

Redcreme21, are u a Nigerian girls? Because this is d first time I see where a Nigerian lady in ds forum not supporting a wrong attitude by a fellow. Nice one joor

Even if it's ur friend driving, this kinda lady wud av still wanted you to come share a sit with them at the back ...This are the little things that you need to start to notice not until it becomes a whole...well she's Ur girl and you know her well

But if you are considering her for marriage..My advice wud be RUN!!!

Your only fault is not sitting with her, but that doesn't validate her condescending attitude towards the driver, she is a very rude person, how can someone be rude and look down on a complete stranger, no matter who the person is? She has a bad character, let her be.

phintohlar:
The babe even try follow you reach there cos if na me ehn, as you go sit down for front so i go just go back inside. The driver na ur uncle wey u go sit down with, no be money hin go collect? All this yeye guys dey here they call the girl names, wey be say una own girls dey slap una mama eye for house. Let he who is without a sin be the first to cast the stone abeg.

Is this suppose to make sense?

Inthemoment:


She's just not that into him... He could've comforted his woman in the back seat instead of being a dick himself. If he was worth it, I think she would've been nice about it but she went on bitch mode and I don't blame her personally.

Is that why she included the innocent driver in her stupidity? Abeg

He offended her by being insensitive but she handled it in completely the wrong way. If she's tired of him she should just say so instead of making a spectacle of herself

Some people think that they are God's gift to the world

Pharaoh4rin:


Redcreme21, are u a Nigerian girls? Because this is d first time I see where a Nigerian lady in ds forum not supporting a wrong attitude by a fellow. Nice one joor

i grew up here in Nigeria. Im a female but i wont be a hypocrite. The lady in question reacted nastily regarding a matter she could have handled with a little more dignity.
The guy did wrong, but she messed up hands down.

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This babe overreacted. She had no right to be so disrespectful to the driver. She will embarrass you one day. Spectacular embarrassment. Continue condoning shît.

OladimejiRufai:



I'm sorry bro! I'm using, opera mini.

If I use only one space for paragraph, sometimes it will merge them together.

I'll try to edit it


Chrome requires more data so I stick with Opera mini Abeg, I cannot be spending money for food on data!

You don't need to apologize lol. I was just curious.

midnighter:


I wish I could share this comment on Channels TV

i absolutely despise people who talk down on low-income workers

Its the biggest sign of inferiority complex and bad character... so disgusting to me

I can't even imagine what made her think she could pass her aggression on the taxi driver, was he the cause of her boyfriend's "misconduct"? The man self try, he suppose park and drop the boyfriend and him lunatic girlfriend for roadside there make the two of them find them square root. Nonsense!

Ariza:
I can't even imagine what made her think she could pass her aggression on the taxi driver, was he the cause of her boyfriend's "misconduct"? The man self try, he suppose pack and drop the boyfriend and him lunatic girlfriend for roadside there make the two of them find them square root. Nonsense!

Lol exactly. So embarrassing. Everybody should bow down to her and her bad character, as her Royal Highness. Rubbish

What if the girl did the same to the guy, by sitting at the front gisting with the driver even when her guy says she should come join him at the back??

Both of you are wrong. You did wrong by staying at the front while she stayed at the back. You should’ve have joined her at the back seat.. Be a ( good- bad guy), women love them so much. She was also wrong by yelling and abandoning you at the cinema, shows that she isn’t emotionally mature. You too stop calling like a mumu, what am I even saying? You’re both emotionally not mature hence, kids. My verdict: Both of you should grow up.

Jokerman:
What if the girl did the same to the guy, by sitting at the front gisting with the driver even when her guy says she should come join him at the back??

If the guy did such, and he acted has she did. Sulking, shouting at the driver, be honest you too would feel disgusted. Place your self in his shoes.