midnighter:


So what do you suggest?? Why can't the guy do it! You people want to kill somebody's daughter

This is not what my dad told me..

My dad ain't that rich but still my mom respects and loves him.....she do provide for the family when my dad was down and no outsider got to hear about it till date.

My dad do help out in chores but he did all those chores wholeheartedly..

So the man should not to forced to do anything nii.

When he was well to do.. The lady was enjoying the money full-time shebi?

Now that he is down... She don start to dey complain.... Women matter dey somehow.

When the going is good and good.... Dem go dey loyal.

When the going gets tough... Dem go dey talk anyhow

Pussywar:

Look at this retarded bastard that came out of the anus. That my attention you wanted so badly, you got it. Still won't pick you, you're not my type.

Sorry you got it all wrong, women don't pick anything. You are not the prize. Men are.
Somehow you keep waving this rejection card around like u are the only bitch on the planet. He can always do better even if he is 50yrs old. Get over urself nobody wants ur attention.

CHoccolaTE:


I won't show grace and consideration to the group of people the are always seeking to subjugate women and inconvenience them with selfishness and over bloated ego.

Oga dont worry majority of nairaland women are nice as civil when writing about men, just skip my posts if you find them non edifying.

Thanks

Am not going to change though

Lol... Naive teenager.

Pussywar:

Look at this retarded bastard that came out of the anus. That my attention you wanted so badly, you got it. Still won't pick you, you're not my type.

I can't even dare come near u let alone of toasting u for play cos seeing u is not different from seeing devil. So, park well. I pity d man dat will marry u as a wife. Anyway, ur profile pix has said it all. Ooh sorry for some men

hope4nigeria:
sorry madam, your husband is not a serious man, my wife was a banker, when we got tired of house help, I do most of the house work to assist my wife because she leaves for work early and come late, we set up a business which my wife fund 70% with her salary. July this year, the bank lay them of, we expanded the business, she's stay in the shop while I do the supply, we are happy ever after, we don't even need house help anymore because of their attitudes, we gist together and do house chores like we are playing. Nothing is too difficult when we understand each other. I don't know why some men act authoritatively .

You're really your moniker... Hope for Nigerian men

Austineva:
jesoooo eee. I pity some men oo. Shebi na man go come marry a woman like u come keep for house as a wife. Hmm ur type fit de carry belle outside come born for ur husband for house. Jeso mere anyi ebele

Nwanne m... Ike gwuru ooo

Fear women of nowadays.... They are totally different from What our mothers are or were

DrNueLpureHoney:


This is not what my dad told me..

My dad ain't that rich but still my mom respects and loves him.....she do provide for the family when my dad was down and no outsider got to hear about it till date.

Okpu uzu, didn't you see where the woman said the man keeps chasing all the househelps away

The man wouldn't need to do any of the chores if he would stop venting his frustrations on the innocent maids. So all those things you have written are misdirected.

Unless you're trying to say that your father acted like that? I hope not oh

See ignorance at its peak !!
Love Machine freaked lezb despirado wants to giv advice to Straight People here::

Pussywar:
I'm not insinuating anything but if it was me, soon as he showed that stupid arrogance, that he can't do house chores and doesn't want you to get a house help, ogbeni I don waka. But we are not the same. Stand you ground and insist on getting a house help since he's a 'man' and they didn't teach him how to be a responsible human being. No offence . Y'all both have same rights in that house. If he won't help you, get house help. Wonder why y'all marry shit like that anyway. No offence . That is why they keep insisting women should be submissive, so shit like this can happen. I dey vex abeg

If you everly get married to Straight, you'd need an angel to retest, sorry reset your memory severally if there was a mistake in the original transmission, I mean, condition..

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biafranbaby:
So you sacked all the female maids and hired a male cleaner.

You never talk wetin dey your mind.

thorpido:
Please leave most of the housework undone.Just pick the ones you feel like doing and at the time you want to.What rubbish!

You have lost your job and you have a wife who is footing most of the bills and looking for alternatives to make the house run yet you're still being inconsiderate.

Love is good o but being considerate is one of the biggest things in good marriages.

I know your hubby's loss of job can get a man depressed but ego should not worsen it.
You've spoken to him,gotten the pastor to talk to him and he seems not to change.He's just too spiritually weak.
Keep praying for him(and together).I hope he still attends church.

Abeg,you cannot come and kill yourself.

She only foot the bills for 2 months . Just 2 months

Theboss100:
Those two would av made a wonderful couple u kw But i dnt like name calling. I enjoyed their entertainment though

Lol very funny people

Austineva:
hmm I tire for some women o but what surprise me d most is that, there are still very reasonable women. Women that reason like humans. That's y I can't totally give up on women cos a lot of them are very wise especially d Igbo women. That's y I can't marry outside Igbo land. Some women enh hmmmm

Lol yes oh, don't worry..this Christmas you will get home and pick your own lol

24kmagic:
I just feel he's kicking against strangers coming into your house because he doesn't want outsiders to find out that you're the one running the home. Because one way or the other, they will know and he'll lose his respect before the public, you know how 9ja people do reason.

As for not wanting to assist, he doesn't want to lose his dominance over you. Cos believe me once he starts helping, you'll unconsciously think that's his responsibility.

Honestly, all I see in this is a family man that is frustrated due to his inability to provide for his family. He will come around as soon as he gets a nice job.

But he's lucky to have you tho, 95 inside 100 women will not take that from their man.

They'll rub his joblessness on his face till he gets depressed, leading to suicide.

You're blessed!

Thats the route the OP might be going. She only foot the bill for 2months. And complain don plenty like this

jaxxy:


There are strangers that are sane and well behaved bt u have to be lucky to meet them. If u can identify a trust worthy staff keep and encouraged them. I have also had people and a foreign family trust me when I had to teach their kids just after my skol days. Little kids with their own big rooms each, a guy and 2 gals. These kids live like adults. After teaching them I have to also play games with them. It was a deal I struck with them so they pay more attention during the lesson, I taught them well, they had top grades all through and when I left the family kept calling me back to teach the kids bt I had gotten too busy then.

Exactly but how to tell if the person is normal is the problem.

They keep calling you because they know it would be difficult to find another person like that

midnighter:


Okpu uzu, didn't you see where the woman said the man keeps chasing all the househelps away

The man wouldn't need to do any of the chores if he would stop venting his frustrations on the innocent maids. So all those things you have written are misdirected.

Unless you're trying to say that your father acted like that? I hope not oh

Funny enOugh... I wonder why you ladies that have commented on this particular topic... Why una dey take dx matter to another angle..

I pray that woman in question seek(s) better advice and visitation by the Holy Spirit... If not eeeh... What I foresee via dx particular matter ain't going to be something one can write home about.

I pray God restores peace in her home not with all dx kinda advice you ladies have given to her here

truthsayer009:


It matters madame, there is no shame if you don't know something. Me too, i don't know every thing. I learn every day.

A 6 figure salary in Nigeria has no value, It is 100 thousand naira. It can do very little Bikonu

LMAO, Nigerians and the "bring down their country" syndrome, do you expect google to explain what six figures means in every country's currency? Google that is owned by an American, this is funny, Even your screenshots explained six figures as six digits, as in the numbers in it, and further explains five figures as five digits, something that is right in your face you can't even comprehend it, very shocking, you should hide your face in shame.

A six figure has nothing to do with the value, only the figures that are in it, and it is not only 100,000, it is between 100,000 to 999,999 in whatever currency, as the screenshot says.

Next time enquire properly before you display lack of knowledge here.

Pussywar:

See mumu. Nigerian men are such a disgrace. You? A price? A fucking price?? Shows that your father didn't raise you well. Its so pathetic how you beg on your knees for women to worship you. Lmao. We got real goals motherfucker. Dreams to chase. Not begging niggas. Bleep of now, the attention I gave should be enough to help you sleep. You're rejected too. Whoopi is 50+, you'd beg to lick her pussy, can't Say the same for you and your divk when you're 45 sef. Fucking price. Mumu

Like I said. Move along.

CHoccolaTE:
See another example of how women keep getting scammed with this marriage crap.

Men will never ever agree that they should be responsible for housework and childcare but ther selfish arrogant asses want women to be co-breadwinners and providers.


Op the lord is your strength. Ask yourself what he himself would do if you were the one sitting at home 24/7 not providing and not doing housework and then demanding that he should not employ house helps. Will he take it in patience and still show you love?
Or better still ask him.
Ask him if he enjoys seeing you get stressed and overworked because of his ego issues.

And the funny thing is that many men in marriages today are living like this because of the bad economy, they depend on their wives for financial support but will stubbornly refuse to help with house chores.

You're a bad woman I must tell you.
OP please don't listen to this woman and cronies like her, she wants to put sand sand I side your garri o.
How on earth would you advice her to ask a man who is looking out means to blow up in anger and quarrel all these stupid questions? Or don't you know these are questions of quarrels and arguments?
I believe this is how you fight your husband at home by challenging and talking rudely to him, same way your daughters will do.
Selfish woman.

OP you husband did the greatest mistake of his life resigning his position, the Oga that advices him to resign where is he now? Isn't he still with the company? Anyways, I've been there and still presently finding it hard to pin down a good offer but my ego is nothing compare to your husband. I know why. But listen, this is what I would suggest you do.
At this time you need wisdom.
At this time you need to be more caring and concern
Ask him during romance, where is passion his, what he wish to do. What kind of business bcoz people of calibre can hardly get a job/position that will be better than the former. Note my word in color, so the best thing they can do is engage in something that will give them fulfilment and once they start it trust me no matter how little the income is they'll be content.
If he says his current business or something else, then you two should work towards getting capital to start it.

It's so unfortunate he can't do chores, and its not your fault you didn't see that attribute before you decided to marry him. Human are so incomplete despite God creating us perfectly in His likeness and image. But believe this there are better part of everyone.
Do the chores you can do, let the present maid you have do the one h/s can do that's if you still any. Or better still, but hold on oh! Why do you have to even be the one employing house help when he's the one you're employing them for? Since all the maid you've employ he doesn't like them then let him get somebody by himself.sabi you guys had maid when he was working? If so, then tell him to get somebody him self by so he won't complain since he's the one that brought him/her.
Or better still get one/two of his relatives to come stay with you guys since he doesn't like strangers, don't bring your own people o else the house will go on fire.

Lastly, do the little you can do after returning from work and always present tired with time he'll learn to assist.

24kmagic:
I just feel he's kicking against strangers coming into your house because he doesn't want outsiders to find out that you're the one running the home. Because one way or the other, they will know and he'll lose his respect before the public, you know how 9ja people do reason.

As for not wanting to assist, he doesn't want to lose his dominance over you. Cos believe me once he starts helping, you'll unconsciously think that's his responsibility.

Honestly, all I see in this is a family man that is frustrated due to his inability to provide for his family. He will come around as soon as he gets a nice job.

But he's lucky to have you tho, 95 inside 100 women will not take that from their man.

They'll rub his joblessness on his face till he gets depressed, leading to suicide.

You're blessed!

Oil dey your head bro.... Nice tips... If only she will hear

Serious Issue

Hmm

Felicity001:


You're a bad woman I must tell you.
OP please don't listen to this woman and cronies like her, she wants to put sand sand I side your garri o.
How on earth would you advice her to ask a man who is looking out means to blow up in anger and quarrel all these stupid questions? Or don't you know these are questions of quarrels and arguments?
I believe this is how you fight your husband at home by challenging and talking rudely to him, same way your daughters will do.
Selfish woman.

OP you husband did the greatest mistake of his life resigning his position, the Oga that advices him to resign where is he now? Isn't he still with the company? Anyways, I've been there and still presently finding it hard to pin down a good offer but my ego is nothing compare to your husband. I know why. But listen, this is what I would suggest you do.
At this time you need wisdom.
At this time you need to be more caring and concern
Ask him during romance, where is passion his, what he wish to do. What kind of business bcoz people of calibre can hardly get a job/position that will be better than the former. Note my word in color, so the best thing they can do is engage in something that will give them fulfilment and once they start it trust me no matter how little the income is they'll be content.
If he says his current business or something else, then you two should work towards getting capital to start it.

It's so unfortunate he can't do chores, and its not your fault you didn't see that attribute before you decided to marry him. Human are so incomplete despite God creating us perfectly in His likeness and image. But believe this there are better part of everyone.
Do the chores you can do, let the present maid you have do the one h/s can do that's if you still any. Or better still, but hold on oh! Why do you have to even be the one employing house help when he's the one you're employing them for? Since all the maid you've employ he doesn't like them then let him get somebody by himself.sabi you guys had maid when he was working? If so, then tell him to get somebody him self by so he won't complain since he's the one that brought him/her.
Or better still get one/two of his relatives to come stay with you guys since he doesn't like strangers, don't bring your own people o else the house will go on fire.

Lastly, do the little you can do after returning from work and always present tired with time he'll learn to assist.

Am quite sure that lady you quoted up there is yet to be married... Cos the way she talks Eeeeh... Na the husband-to-be I dey pity

DrNueLpureHoney:


Nwanne m... Ike gwuru ooo

Fear women of nowadays.... They are totally different from What our mothers are or were

I swear! Ihe mmadu n'ahu dis time around enh. Hmm sometimes I begin to wonder how we can survive de ugly days. It is very rampant now. For me, I have vowed to always go for DNA test to every single child born for me by my wife. No amount of trust can stop me from that. Women of these days enh hmm

You husband is going through a lot in his head. He needs your support;

1. Your husband is an extreme introvert, try to keep family family. Telling mother-in-law about your husband may not help the situation.
2. Keep encouraging him cos he might be going through mild depression. Force him to go out with you once in a while. Transfer some cash to his account so that, he will always pay when you go out to enjoy yaself.
3. It is a phase and it will be over. Remember introverts keep a lot in their minds, it takes tricks and plays to force them out fo their shells.
4. Please, be very humble at this moment.
5. Try to do whatever house shores you can and leave the rest. Don't kill yourself.
6. God will provide a good job for him very soon.

DrNueLpureHoney:


Funny enOugh... I wonder why you ladies that have commented on this particular topic... Why una dey take dx matter to another angle..

I pray that woman in question seek(s) better advice and visitation by the Holy Spirit... If not eeeh... What I foresee via dx particular matter ain't going to be something one can write home about.

I pray God restores peace in her home not with all dx kinda advice you ladies have given to her here

Even me, with that title I called you I pity the person who will call you for any kind of serious meeting because anything they ask you you too go dey just reason one kind strange thing without even bothering to listen to the story .

The man chased the househelps away i na-ekwu okwu Holy Spirit. You are just rushing to side with the man even when the man is wrong and using your father as an example when your father didn't do what the man is doing

DrNueLpureHoney:


Nwanne m... Ike gwuru ooo

Fear women of nowadays.... They are totally different from What our mothers are or were

Y'all still chose to be like your fathers, now you're intimidated. Pathetic

Austineva:
I swear! Ihe mmadu n'ahu dis time around enh. Hmm sometimes I begin to wonder we can survive de ugly days. It is very rampant now. For me, I have vowed to always go for DNA test to every single child born for me by my wife. No amount of trust can stop me from that. Women of these days enh hmm

Nwanne m.... Even if money no dey at hand that time... Kindly borrow and do it.

Most women are just bearing men's name as their surname... But they are busy sleeping around with other men outside their marriage.

I will do same.... From my first born to my last born... If the DNA test shows negative... Trust me..... The marriage Don end be that.

Women of nowadays are smart so... The hospital and doctor we will go to for the DNA test will always differ... So she can't even try anything stupid

Pussywar:

Toxicity will be the end of men. Talmabout "what ever you husband says is final...". As in, e go Sidon for house dey useless and that's okay because what he said is final? You're really very stupid, typical Naija man. Toxicity will kill you. Looking for who to control. That's what happens when you settle for less.*spits*

This will never result to an insult. I will never reciprocate but the thing you have to know is this , the lady also mentioned that the hubby character has changed since things are not up and doing for him. Basically he should be help to do domestic things at home but if eventually he is not doing just like what the lady envisaged then this is not a pastor issues or calling family members. The husband is not insane and she has to respect her husbands decisions. No one is talking about control here, the lady should be thanking God that she still works and able to provide for the family. Now look at your attitude that the man is lazing at home just because he lost his job and you have automatically caped him as a lazy man. Most time is necessary you air your views without attacking or insulting anyone. I still wish you all the best. What the lady needs now is to create more time for the husband and shower him with greater love and pray also regularly, things will change for good with time.