| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by 9jamag(m): 10:06pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
We love to trust love, no other way |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by baby124: 10:07pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Just be yourself and be honest. If you act broke don’t be surprised when you are dumped. No one in this day and age especially when the woman is working wants to be with someone that is always broke. She wants to see that you are at least trying! 5 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Nobody: 10:08pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
TL= L - M(€+$+¥+ £)
Where TL = True love,L= Love and M= Money 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Nobody: 10:08pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
If you can't die for it, leave it. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Nobody: 10:08pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
there is no true love without sacrifice. you must be ready to give everything you have for the happiness of the other without expecting anything back in return from them. 5 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Nobody: 10:08pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
pansophist:
If a girl stays with you when you're broke and have nothing, and can see the potential in you, and water it into maturity with you, especially when she still have in abundance her youthfulness and not in lack of male suitors, then she is a keeper.
If an influential man with female abundance, didnt cheat on his woman despite numerous women out there that will out-compete his mistress, then he loves her. (Eg Davido and Chioma).
You made a mistake by using davido as an example because two women got pregnant for him despite the fact that he was in a relationship with chioma. I don’t know your own definition of cheating sha 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by austinfan4love(m): 10:10pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
My piece! God bless you,,, 1 Like |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by tete7000(m): 10:11pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Give and it shall be given to you, good measure, pressed down, flowing over. Love and thou shall find true love, for with the same measure a man gives that it shall be given back to him... 6 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by franchasng: 10:11pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
aishauju:
Must a lady suffer with a guy to prove she loves the guy?
Must a rich guy lie that he is poor to get a genuine girl?
How do we test true love? Is it in what ways.
Drop your contributions. There is nothing like true love, people form love or develop love when their selfish expectations in someone is fulfilled or met, remove those expectations and selfish interest, the so called love will die! When a girl see a guy that have all or most of the qualities she wants in a man, she will allow herself to form or develop love. That's selfishness. Same way, when a guy meets a girl that have all or most of the qualities he wants in a girl, he allows his mind to form or develop feeling he call love. Love does not exist. The only love that exist is the love between a mother and child. Guys go for sex appeal mostly while ladies go for provision most times. So it's all about selfish interest, love is a fallacy, don't be deceived!!! 23 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by webngnews: 10:12pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Oh |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by willexyaho(m): 10:14pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Ok |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Timileyin1234(m): 10:14pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Tell him/her to download 1gb file with glo 2g 1 Like 
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| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Nobody: 10:15pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
What is true love and why are you looking for it?
I ask this because what most people call love is what they have picked from movies and love songs
I don't know what they sing today, but the songs from my time sound like absolute bs. My life is meaningless without you . I will give up everything for you . you are my reason for living. I think about you all the time, I will die without you. Some songs sound like straight up stalker anthems when you listen to them today.
People ceding meaning in their life.
I am just saying that people have an unrealistic idea about what love is due to popular culture.
All the nonsense about Loving a poor guy is more of the same. Basically hang in with the frog and kiss him until he turns into a prince.
How many guys are willing to love an ugly girl if she has character? How many guys are willing to wait for an ugly duckling to become a Swan? 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Magnoliaa(f): 10:16pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
babyfaceafrica:
he is 99 percent right..people are parasitic in relationship,no true love among humans,only GOd loves unconditionally Your estimation is wayy too high ... but if he's not 100% right, then okay.
Glad you mentioned people, not the quality. And anyone can imbibe whatever characteristic they wish to.
What will you say about Mother Theresa? How would you describe her behavior? Or what would you classify it as?
And you can find many more cases of such. If you Google it. Selfless acts around the world. Soldiers sacrificing, kids giving up things, the poor being fed, etc 1 Like |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by ZooOga: 10:16pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
babe must have a minimum of mouth, and be able to do the necessary.  dats true love biko.  
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| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Slimmy0: 10:17pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
My piece! Nice Nice Nice... |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by deavicky(m): 10:17pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Use love ometer |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Nobody: 10:18pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
aishauju:
Must a lady suffer with a guy to prove she loves the guy?
Must a rich guy lie that he is poor to get a genuine girl?
How do we test true love? Is it in what ways.
Drop your contributions. No need to put one into test,, you might do that wrongly. Just believe the love will last and it will last.. If God put you to test, remember you will fail. You might act broke to test, and he or she might have been broke before you got broken.. Trust your partner always,, though relationship of nowadays is a TOTAL SCAM 1 Like |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by johnnyn1(m): 10:18pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Hmmmm..
This love thing tire me.
With all wetin ina ladies don do me ehn, e go hard to love again..
Na to use and move on..
This love thing issa Scam.
MODIFIED
Don’t love any girl. Rather love yourself.
Thank me later.. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by shomutuski(m): 10:18pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
My piece! Best comment 2019 9 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by hakunamatata00(m): 10:18pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Test tub na lobatan |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Munzy14(m): 10:19pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
My piece! Awesome thoughts you shared. kudos! Statics have it that men who are with a lady who understands life live happiest and longer.. 9 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by TOPCRUISE(m): 10:20pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
When it comes to true love, Nigerian girls are hypocrites 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by BabaIbo: 10:20pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Let me read comments and see if there's anything to learn |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Nature8(m): 10:21pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
aishauju:
Must a lady suffer with a guy to prove she loves the guy?
Must a rich guy lie that he is poor to get a genuine girl?
How do we test true love? Is it in what ways.
Drop your contributions. Act broke if you really want a true love |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by hakunamatata00(m): 10:21pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Timileyin1234:
Tell him/her to download 1gb file with glo 2g I swear |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Keenmind2019(m): 10:22pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Use litmus paper 1 Like |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Seun4blue(m): 10:22pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
You said true love... If it's a true love, the best way to test it is to use "No Testing Formula"
Leave it true |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Empower9ja(m): 10:23pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Quite an interesting mind bug. Each of us would define love primarily from our early views of it. To change this would take a conscious choice that most people would not willingly make. For anyone willing to aid Nigeria in solving any of her present challenges and earn whilst doing so, visit the thread link below to participate, invest or become a sponsor for the upcoming SMALL SISTER NAIJA REALITY TELEVISION SHOW. https://www.nairaland.com/5544018/screening-first-36-participants-small#84267466 aishauju:
Must a lady suffer with a guy to prove she loves the guy?
Must a rich guy lie that he is poor to get a genuine girl?
How do we test true love? Is it in what ways.
Drop your contributions. |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by yesloaded: 10:25pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
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| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Zombiekiller010: 10:26pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
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| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Angeldada55(m): 10:26pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Gather here if na just comment you come here come read �
I wan tell una something...
Cx Iffa talk now, e go be like pesin na "jigolo" |
