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My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

Your sister is a hero. She has my blessings too. You people should try and live in the 21st century. Kuddos to your dad as well.

Osu in 2019


Even the ancestors have moved on.


She'll be fine.

What is Osu?Are they some kind of aliens?
Why in the world would people still keep up with this backward idea?

how many times will they tell u that osu is no more real

'I am really worried and depressed '


Pele

But this is the 21st century

Take down this iniquitous post. You are boldly worried about an illegality. If the authorities see this your family can get into big trouble. Take it down before a criminal prosecution begin against your family

TheSkyIsBlue:
Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

Africans and their stupid primitive thinking.


Edit: Some people haff quoted me, giving reasons and some countries where caste system, racism is still in practice.

For me, I don't care bout others. We need to start changing the way we think. Some archaic traditions needs to be dropped and stopped.

Op u and ur fam shud wise up it 21st century

Igbos and discrimination in 21st century.



They shout marginalisation when it is from other people but do worse to themselves

I think I heard that this osu cast have been prohibited in Ibo land, my friend you're a Christian please don't discriminate against anyone

Rasmega:
Africans and their stupid primitive thinking.

i am sure you will also see someone that will always say africans are primitive

in asia, there is caste systems, i guess it is alright

many europeans and americans are racists, i guess they are not primitive in thinking stupidly

suddenly as an african does similar stuff, all africans are primitive and think stupidly.

have always heard 'osu' even in movies. But I have never come to understand it. Please what makes one an osu?

abeg who cares about tradition and stigma.

people should live their lives, the more we put limitations to the way people behave the more we make life more complex and depressing

love knows no boundary...Bleep tradition, people should be with whoever they want to be with

Man...u still believe in superstition?



u lack formal education..go fuçk ur self mate..

A wise man blesses his daughter and a befuddled son is lamenting unceasingly





Pukes

pls who can get me d details of ds op and his family, I wanna make some money and name as a new lawyer

OP, sorry but I support your father and sister 100%!

If you guys are Christians or enlightened/educated individuals, I am surprised that you still take the osu thing seriously.


What you do not believe has little power over you.
For instance, white men entered shrines and stole the gods and took them to Europe for museum display yet they did not die.

Really, this is laughable, i believe op is educated and exposed, why still believe in such barbaric traditions, osu or no osu, if i find my betterhalf, am going ahead. What you should be worried about is how he is gonna treat ur sis in matrimony...mind you i am igbo

When you say swear by Amadioha,they will say they are xtains.Oya love your neighboyr as yourself,you say ur fellow human being is an outcast.
Is it not the bible that said''thou shall not call anything unclean.''
I wish the guy don give your sis belle so you guys will do ur worst!
O ginidi?

tchidi066:
Really, this is laughable, i believe op is educated and exposed, why still believe in such barbaric traditions, osu or no osu, if i find my betterhalf, am going ahead. What you should be worried about is how he is gonna treat ur sis in matrimony...mind you i am igbo

Hi name sake,
Is that you on your dp?

This particular culture should be eradicated with all due respect. We are all human beings and we all deserve equal freedom. Your sister is a woman with a beautiful mind.

Whom God has blessed no man can curse...
God bless the union and God bless your father too
Our people must move out of darkness into light

Osu this, osu that...... stupid mindset in 21st century, so so stupid. Bullshiitt. Mind your business and leave your sister alone. Thank God she has a father who is not deep into tradition.

TheSkyIsBlue:
Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

Igbo Amaka!

chidiebereuzoma:
Hi name sake,
Is that you on your dp?

Who else

y'all are stupid, believing shït like this in this age .

Thunder scatter your yansh@Op

TheSkyIsBlue:
Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way ...tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

OP, I'm not sure your sister's decision to marry an Osu will rub off on you even if your father gave his blessing.

However, I think you do have a right to be concerned

Oga this is 2020... All those osu shit are so yesterday

This is my opinion though but Fück your stupid caste system, she should be free to marry anybody, if any problems arise then she'll face it afterall it was her choice, if I Was your sister I would cut ties with such backward family members. You shouldn't be bothered about such things. I don't know why people always see the need to classify people and then hate them for falling into that class. You're black, I hate blacks, You're white I hate whites, You're Igbo I hate Igbos, You're Hausa I hate Hausas, yada yada You're from Kaduna I hate Kaduna, You're Nigerian I hate Nigerians, Fücking stupid every individual is unique if you want to hate, hate that individual don't hate a whole group because of one individual. God I've said too much but it's so annoying seeing people spread hate everywhere. Thank God I grew up in a city where your village classification doesn't matter, be a Prince or be a Pauper nobody will be asking you where you belonged to in your village. If my village had such traditions then I would deliberately find a girl in this class, and give everyone who opposes the middle finger. Emancipate yourself from traditions that discriminate against other people
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