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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by DukeNija(m): 8:36am On Nov 24, 2019

mezarddinny:
Igbos and discrimination in 21st century.

They shout marginalisation when it is from other people but do worse to themselves

This is not marginalization but an age long ancestral tradition involving the gods.
It’s obsolete now anyways.

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by Nobody: 8:37am On Nov 24, 2019

I think you should live your sister alone. What's up with this old tradition shiit!! So because his osu he shouldn't have a life even if it wasn't his fault in anyway. Let your sister be, congratulations to her.

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by Germi9: 8:38am On Nov 24, 2019

Emancipate yourselves from Mental Slavery,non but ourselves can free our mind.

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by midnighter(f): 8:38am On Nov 24, 2019

Odingo1:
For those asking what is Osu cast system

Two things can make someone an Osu in Igbo land in the olden days.

1. If someone commit a crime that is regarded as an abomination and it is required that the person should be stoned to death and the person did not present himself to be killed but run inside the Oracle shrine to seek protection, the people that want to kill him will not enter the shrine to bring him out for killing because an Oracle shrine is a sacred place,but after that the person is own by that oracle and become an Osu.

2. If a person is a migrant that committed abomination in another place and run and seek refuse in another place, the community that granted him asylum and protection will regard him as Osu.

Please so whats now the difference between Osu and Ohu ? I never hear them talk about that one

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by Theboss100(m): 8:38am On Nov 24, 2019

tchidi066:
Really, this is laughable, i believe op is educated and exposed, why still believe in such barbaric traditions, osu or no osu, if i find my betterhalf, am going ahead. What you should be worried about is how he is gonna treat ur sis in matrimony...mind you i am igbo

Wow. Ure right. I have been waiting for someone like you. Although, i am ur brother from south of R/S. My dream of wifing an ibo lady is almost realistic.

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by Kennyswagzz: 8:39am On Nov 24, 2019

okuya:
FAKE STORY BY A STUPID AFONJA !!

https://www.nairaland.com/5431421/osu-caste-system-taking-love-life
Is this one afonja too? ..Bloody inyamiri people

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by robinicule(m): 8:39am On Nov 24, 2019

LadySarah:
When you say swear by Amadioha,they will say they are xtains.Oya love your neighboyr as yourself,you say ur fellow human being is an outcast.
Is it not the bible that said''thou shall not call anything unclean.''
I wish the guy don give your sis belle so you guys will do ur worst!
O ginidi?

I love you!!!!

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by odisman(m): 8:39am On Nov 24, 2019

Beverlyjean:

The truth here is that when it's starts to manifest ...all those commenting here will hide...OYO for u ...

You are what u believe. The problem is people don't believe in the efficacy of the word of God and who they are in Jesus. You need to be born again to experience this. The bible says He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most high shall abide under the shadow of the almighty. Take note he that dwelleth, and not everbody. It's your choice to make. Shalom.

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by Illuminados(m): 8:39am On Nov 24, 2019

This osu issue again?
nw we will make sure it get to the relevant authorities

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by runningriot: 8:40am On Nov 24, 2019

Tell me who can be a hero like this woman? he is an outcast but your sister see him as a husband, what is bad there? you want your sister to leave a man she knows close to a decade and marry a man she will know in the middle of the night? what a madness of sanity!. After all she will be the one to stay with him Not you, wait for your time when you are about t o marry your love one and your parents and family members will say she is to "ugly" and you will change to a beautiful one. But for her it is either him or nobody. Don't forget development prevail over culture and tradition. These are some of the dangerous and expensive mistakes we make in marriage that end up in cancerous and chronic catastrophic! #God bless your Dad!

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by boban007: 8:41am On Nov 24, 2019

NO BE ONLY OSU, NA OGUN STATE UNIVERSITY.(OSU). CAN U IMAGINE, IN THIS MODERN TIMES AND AGE, THIS OP MUST BE VERY RAZZ WITH LOCAL MENTALITY. WHY NOT ALSO KILL ALL THE TWINS IN UR NEIGHBOURHOOD? SINCE U'RE STILL LIVING IN THE PAST.

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by Lawbaron: 8:41am On Nov 24, 2019

My friend, this is not the platform for exhibiting extravagant stupidity. Who in the world except you is supporting racism and discrimination against their fellow human?

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by francis5051: 8:41am On Nov 24, 2019

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

bro am a confirm igbo man i know about that osu issue it occurred mainly in mbano imo state,there males hardly marry because of that osu problem that's why we have many rev.fathers from mbano, remember even Bible said we should not remove the landmark of the ancestors.your sister stupid love and ignorant is about putting your family and herself into trouble which which she may not come out easily..is beta she remain unmarried than to embark on that married..come to think of it is ur female sister now stronger than you or your father..why will your Dad bless the marriage initially...if your sister is too stubborn then use violence as a man and stop that marriage..I hate nonsense

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by izzou(m): 8:42am On Nov 24, 2019

pocohantas:
Igbos have some stone age mentality, stereotype and mindset that is very troubling to a new-generation person. They will be quick to put mouth in external matters, but the ones they do ehn.

Few months back one of our drivers died. I was very shocked to discover they still do some shii to widows. Gosh!

Osu in 2019?

Tufiakwa!!

If you ask the op now, he'll tell you he's a Christian

Sometimes, (I said sometimes oh), I wish I would marry outside the Igbo tribe. Some traditions are very terrible

I remember when my dad died. Luckily, he drafted how he was to be buried. He sent it to all the family tree years while he was still alive. If not, my mama for hear am

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by SpyAC(m): 8:42am On Nov 24, 2019

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!
My I appreciate your courage, but truth is, if ur sister can listen to yr family, she shouldn't continue on that marriage, anything concerning traditions, obey it, please let her come out of that relationship, I ve got a witness where it hppned, common is not funny.

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by Palehair: 8:42am On Nov 24, 2019

The fact that your dad who is supposed to be the one knee-deep in tradition but he's not says a lot.

Your sister is quite brave, I wish her happy married life

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by cococandy(f): 8:43am On Nov 24, 2019

Your sister is my sprit animal.
Get out of traditional and cultural captivity. Thank you

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by boban007: 8:43am On Nov 24, 2019

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by SpyAC(m): 8:43am On Nov 24, 2019

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!
My I appreciate your courage, but truth is, if ur sister can listen to yr family, she shouldn't continue on that marriage, anything concerning traditions, obey it, please let her come out of that relationship, I ve got a witness where it hppned, common is not funny.

pls

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by danot1030: 8:43am On Nov 24, 2019

So these people that always want to give impression of excellence and superiority are actually still living in the stone age.

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by creekman(m): 8:44am On Nov 24, 2019

Mindfulness:
Your sister is a hero. She has my blessings too. You people should try and live in the 21st century. Kuddos to your dad as well.

Ibos and their traditions. You hate Hausa's, you hate d Yoruba's. You even hate your fellow igbo person all in d name of Osu. What a tribe..

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by Thegamingorca(m): 8:45am On Nov 24, 2019

pocohantas:
Igbos have some stone age mentality, stereotype and mindset that is very troubling to a new-generation person. They will be quick to put mouth in external matters, but the ones they do ehn.

Few months back one of our drivers died. I was very shocked to discover they still do some shii to widows. Gosh!

Osu in 2019?

Tufiakwa!!

My secondary school agric teacher passed through that stuff when her husband died. She always wore black or white

The accept my simparty woman

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by deenee: 8:45am On Nov 24, 2019

Mindfulness:
Your sister is a hero. She has my blessings too. You people should try and live in the 21st century. Kuddos to your dad as well.

GOD will bless and favour you and your family in so many ways that you can't even comprehend.

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by Nobody: 8:45am On Nov 24, 2019

Imagine! In the 21st century.

OP I hope you'll sacrifice your your kids to the gods if you give birth to twins?

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by evy800(f): 8:45am On Nov 24, 2019

Lexusgs430:

It's either culture is holding us ransome or tradition holding us ransome or politicians holding us ransome or religion holding us ransome or we hold ourselves ransome. . ....

Who would free us?....

It's amazing how we enslave ourselves from different angles and still complain

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by ogbevireo(m): 8:45am On Nov 24, 2019

lilwetdick:

i am sure you will also see someone that will always say africans are primitive

in asia, there is caste systems, i guess it is alright

many europeans and americans are racists, i guess they are not primitive in thinking stupidly

suddenly as an african does similar stuff, all africans are primitive and think stupidly.

are these practices and attitudes not condemned the world over?

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by igboamakaaa: 8:46am On Nov 24, 2019

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

We have been authorised to report any family, community or village in Igbo land that still practices the osu caste system which has been abolished throughout the entire igboland since 2017.
You surely would have yourself to blame when we eventually find out your community

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by mikkycoins(m): 8:47am On Nov 24, 2019

pickatyou:
Truth be told your sister is a selfish bastard.

And all of you saying otherwise I believe you are not Igbo or ignorant, I guess if you family member brought an OSU u will welcome them along with all the curses they will bring.
Then you could all happily hug an Ebola victim instead of quarantining them.
That's what an OSU is in spiritual form, am Ebola victim.

Don't quote me if you are not Igbo.

Let's say the guy is a multi millionaire,would they reject him cos He's an Osu?
Spiritual curses My foot. Nature has a way of favouring rejected people in the society. Many things are going wrong in our igbo society. We only count tradition only when it suits us. Why do we segregate our kin but blame the Fulanis for political segregation.
The op and his family are ruled by myopic mindsets of what people will say about them.
It's wickedness to deprive a lady of over 30 years marriage because of Osu. The same society will also castigate and shame her for being single at her age.
If the girl I'll marry is an Osu, I'll marry her. Villagers and society castigation can go to to hell.

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by AndikanEssien(m): 8:47am On Nov 24, 2019

lilwetdick:

i am sure you will also see someone that will always say africans are primitive

in asia, there is caste systems, i guess it is alright

many europeans and americans are racists, i guess they are not primitive in thinking stupidly

suddenly as an african does similar stuff, all africans are primitive and think stupidly.

Your response is so wack and damn stupid. Are the Asians and Europeans praised for their caste system and racist attitudes. You may have temporarily lost a bit of sense but I'm sure you can recover

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Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by Nobody: 8:47am On Nov 24, 2019

Thegamingorca:

My secondary school agric teacher passed through that stuff when her husband died. She always wore black or white

The accept my simparty woman

My colleague had her head shaved.and she was lucky in her own, because she had a very good relationship with her mil who did her best to shield her

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by Tadeus(m): 8:48am On Nov 24, 2019

Osu in 2019, your family members must be living in 1914. What kinda nonsense is dis?

She should go ahead and settle down with the love of her life.

If na whiteman now, we go dey shout racist...lol

Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by cococandy(f): 8:48am On Nov 24, 2019

So you’re comparing a deadly virus to you fellow humans?

I’m Igbo and you need freedom

pickatyou:
Truth be told your sister is a selfish bastard.

And all of you saying otherwise I believe you are not Igbo or ignorant, I guess if you family member brought an OSU u will welcome them along with all the curses they will bring.
Then you could all happily hug an Ebola victim instead of quarantining them.
That's what an OSU is in spiritual form, am Ebola victim.

Don't quote me if you are not Igbo.

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