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Our ladies are generally stingy. But, a few may be good enough to know that life, love and family will always be sweeter when you share available resources.

Samyj247:
does she know ur salary and do u know her salary? I am a psychologist I know what she thinks about u, and I will tell u. That's why I said ask her, let's know why she has that strong mindset concerning giving to guys. There is something in her that she needs to bring out, and when she has brought it out, u can mould it and everything will b fine.

Yes she knows my earning power and she knows that I can pluck out my eyes for her to see except I don't have it

I believe it's her inborn traits and there's no way we can justify that level of stinginess. Imagine dating someone for two years and you haven't gotten something as little as a toothbrush or shaving stick as a gift.. I believe I have every reason to be worried and that was the reason why I had a rethink and put the introduction on hold

henzy4life:
Bro there are other MAJOR things to look out for in an intending marriage journey which I strongly believe that she met almost 80% of them and that was why u already had plans to go for introduction B4 this distraction of being stingy flashed in ur brain. overlook that stinginess and marry her,u will come back here to testify of how she was actually forming to be stingy. There's no female that is naturally Stingy to a guy,rather life experience has taught them something. Believe me that she's stingy to her brother cos she's saving up for her future hubby

Stingy ur family for future hubby... What kind of guys do we have these days.

Eyeness:
the reason you wrote this is because you don't have much. if she is a good person despite this, then marry her. Actually, you are the provider in the family. How come i never see rich men complain of stingy women?

your very stupid for this rubbish comment . will you advice your brother or someone you love to marry such woman ? foolish monkey .

user283:
I've done that before but it doesn't change anything bro

In that case you have a real issue on your hands.

By the way is she also stingy with her pùssy?

user283:
I've done that before but it doesn't change anything bro

Then use her for money rituals and extend the love to her brother.
What are friends for?

So what does she do with her money cos its obvious she has money more than u.

user283:
There's this lady I've been dating for two years now. We happen to be members of the same church and I ought to have taken the relationship to the next level by getting my parents to her place for our introduction last month but I had a rethink and postponed our introduction due to an issue that might cause problem in the future

I noticed my girlfriend is the stingy type. When I mean stingy, it's on the high side. Assuming she's just averagely stingy I wouldn't really be bothered but this is gross.

I work as a bank teller (contract staff) and my salary isn't really much while she works in Shoprite. Even from the little I earn, I'm always sensitive to her needs and I tip her whether she's stranded or not since I love her but how can I explain being with a lady for two solid years and I've never for once received any gift no matter how little it is? Not even something as little as toothbrush or hair cream

Initially, I didn't see this as a big deal probably because I grew up with the mentality that it's a taboo for a man to expect gifts or little support from his girlfriend when he's in dire need
but I've now grown to realize that "give and take" is one of the key elements of a good relationship

Even if I get stranded or go into debt, my girlfriend acts nonchalant and she'll be the
last person that will ever render a little financial assistance to help my situation. You might say I should sit her down and discuss about it. Yes I've already done that and I made her understand that I actually postponed our introduction for no other reason but because I'm still indecisive if I want to spend the rest of my life with a selfish woman but her response shows she takes pride in being stingy

I even used logic to whine her younger brother recently just to be sure if she's stingy to me alone but the boy confirmed it that her sister is very stingy. I decided to carry out my findings on her brother because I believe he should know her better.

You might want to talk about sex but my belief is that sex is just a mutual pleasure and does not define what a woman gives to you in a relationship especially a relationship that will lead to the altar

What's getting me worried is that we've come a long way but I don't want to end up with a selfish woman because it's written all over her that she cares so much only about her own well being

Please advice your fellow brother. Do I have a reason to be worried? I've been jumping a lagoon for a woman who can't jump a gutter for me especially when it comes to giving. Should I tolerate this level of stinginess from a woman simply because I'm a man?

P.S: I'm still with her because she has other good traits

Please pardon my typos. I wrote this in a hurry

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Even boxers after talking to her?Nawaoo. She may only support when kids starts coming.
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user283:
There's this lady I've been dating for two years now. We happen to be members of the same church and I ought to have taken the relationship to the next level by getting my parents to her place for our introduction last month but I had a rethink and postponed our introduction due to an issue that might cause problem in the future

I noticed my girlfriend is the stingy type. When I mean stingy, it's on the high side. Assuming she's just averagely stingy I wouldn't really be bothered but this is gross.

I work as a bank teller (contract staff) and my salary isn't really much while she works in Shoprite. Even from the little I earn, I'm always sensitive to her needs and I tip her whether she's stranded or not since I love her but how can I explain being with a lady for two solid years and I've never for once received any gift no matter how little it is? Not even something as little as toothbrush or hair cream

Initially, I didn't see this as a big deal probably because I grew up with the mentality that it's a taboo for a man to expect gifts or little support from his girlfriend when he's in dire need
but I've now grown to realize that "give and take" is one of the key elements of a good relationship

Even if I get stranded or go into debt, my girlfriend acts nonchalant and she'll be the
last person that will ever render a little financial assistance to help my situation. You might say I should sit her down and discuss about it. Yes I've already done that and I made her understand that I actually postponed our introduction for no other reason but because I'm still indecisive if I want to spend the rest of my life with a selfish woman but her response shows she takes pride in being stingy

I even used logic to whine her younger brother recently just to be sure if she's stingy to me alone but the boy confirmed it that her sister is very stingy. I decided to carry out my findings on her brother because I believe he should know her better.

You might want to talk about sex but my belief is that sex is just a mutual pleasure and does not define what a woman gives to you in a relationship especially a relationship that will lead to the altar

What's getting me worried is that we've come a long way but I don't want to end up with a selfish woman because it's written all over her that she cares so much only about her own well being

Please advice your fellow brother. Do I have a reason to be worried? I've been jumping a lagoon for a woman who can't jump a gutter for me especially when it comes to giving. Should I tolerate this level of stinginess from a woman simply because I'm a man?

P.S: I'm still with her because she has other good traits

Please pardon my typos. I wrote this in a hurry

you de see real wahala with your korokoro eyes instead of running now that your legs are fit you are asking questions,dey there till she paralyzed you ok.

It's better you end your relationship with her now,rather than end your marriage with her later,because after your wedding both of you must join hands together to make your family happy one,if at all you are collecting 1m as salary and your wife is not supportive it will affect your children,you will not always be around to care for everything always.

user283:
I've done that before but it doesn't change anything bro

gbam lobatan!!!

favoryte33:
May be she feels she owes no one any responsibility now because you aren't married yet. Do not be surprised if she turns a new leaf especially when you start bearing children.

But that is still under probability if she would still change.

Sam2310:
so whatelse are u waiting for?
My brother i know is not easy to walk away from2year relationship.
with the way things are now., no walk away, run for your life instead.

lmao

Trust me , she won't change after marriage

Happyguy201:
your very stupid for this rubbish comment . will you advice your brother or someone you love to marry such woman ? foolish monkey .

That guy is just a pin the ass.

lereinter:
When I saw the topic, I thought your gf were to be working with CBN or their likes

But how can you write that someone working in ShopRite is stingy

She has not got enough to spare with you

Well

If you don't give her does she complain heavily

Little things matters

A person who doesn't give, doesn't love.

You write so well...

user283:
Yes she knows my earning power and she knows that I can pluck out my eyes for her to see except I don't have it

I believe it's her inborn traits and there's no way we can justify that level of stinginess. Imagine dating someone for two years and you haven't gotten something as little as a toothbrush or shaving stick as a gift.. I believe I have every reason to be worried and that was the reason why I had a rethink and put the introduction on hold

user283:
There's a Yoruba adage that says you have to pretend as if you're dead just to know those that will cry

I've applied this method yet the situation is still the same. I've been sick for a few times we've been dating and she's never moved by my condition. There are times she has seen my account balance reading negative yet she will be the last person that will ever assist me in a little way

does she know ur salary and do u know her salary? I am a psychologist I know what she thinks about u, and I will tell u. That's why I said ask her, let's know why she has that strong mindset concerning giving to guys. There is something in her that she needs to bring out, and when she has brought it out, u can mould it and everything will b fine.

There is something she has experienced in the past that made her to act that way. u need to go deeper and investigate and let her tell u that thing.

If this is the only bad reason u have about her then relax she is not bad bro...Except: So ask her, if she has revealed that reason that made her have that mindset, then convince her to trust in u and u guys relationship, if she affirms to that then good. Don't tell her just give the relationship 6 more months and within those six months, bring up good news or whatever and ask her for a gift later on again, ask for 1-5k promise to pay back promptly. make sure u pay back o.

if after ur 6 months experiment and she still refused to borrow u 1k to 5k or give u a gift or something (remember u must ask for it) then run for your life and let her go.

user283

Guyman02:
Let me share a personal experience, when I was dating my wife, I didnt take time to observe that I was basically doing everything in the relationship and it was a one sided affair.
I was buying things for her because money was flowing and she was earning little from her work place. I deluded myself that she was stingy because she earned little and since I was making a lot of money outside my salary there was no issue, I was simply in love.
Then we got married and she got a better high paying job.
After sometime my company redeployed me to another unit where I was forced to depend solely on my salary, no more access to vendors and suppliers who tipped me regularly to facilitate procurement under my control.
We had our baby and the salary alone could no longer carry all our bills, the rent which I could afford to pay without touching my salary back in the day was now a burden.
I kept asking my wife for assistance and it was not forthcoming, it was then I started thinking backwards and realised that I didnt take note of her stinginess.
The pressure continued growing and frustration started setting in, I was calculating what her salary can do for us but she was not ready to assist, frustration due to mounting financial pressure started getting hold of me and in the process katakata burst.
She will even tell me that the bible says that any man who cannot feed his family is worse than an infidel.

We had fights and nothing has changed in her attitude, she spends her money however she likes including buying cars of her choice, trinkets, sending to her family etc while my own money in her eyes is for the Federal Republic. Whenever I send money to my own relations or people in need she gets angry and will remind me about outstanding school fees, gas, light etc so I have to resort to doing things for my own people without informing her.

I had to accept the situation and live grudgingly with it since I cannot divorce her but decided to hustle harder for the sake of the family including her.
At this point its no longer about love in marriage but survival, that her beauty and other 'traits' wey being dey shack me then is no longer the key element in the relationship after some years because there are several bills to settle.
Financial consideration is a very key point for any relationship to be successful and stinginess (which is tantamount to selfishness) causes crisis in marriages.
Guy I will not advise you but I am sharing my personal experience of several years in marriage to help you decide.

You've said a lot by saying less ,and you have just help others. For this, I just started following you

I once dated a beautiful babe... I put a scenario that what if l was broke one day and l asked her for financial help...she looked at straight in the eyes...told me she can never help a man.. Cos it's a man's responsibility to take care of a woman...Usain Bolt could not have run faster than me outta that relationship

I won't much.
But my candid advice to you is don't marry her unless you'll cope with it when you're married.

Even God gave his only son. Love is giving bro.
If she is not? Then you'll suffer afterwards.

If i am in your shoes, i will not reason any marriage with her. Build yourself bro. Grow beyond your limit. Limit what you do for her and keep communication alive.

Focus on your life. You'll achieve more. Look beyond that your bank teller job. You can do more.
I beg of you, drop anything marriage with that babe. God bless you

Edyice:
I really don't know what to say to you but As a guy man you don't beg / ask woman for money , because if you do , correct guys will be chopping her steady and she will be giving you the money .


Just saying sha....

Edyice:
Continue looking for lady to fend for you anytime you ask .

Men will continue to help her out , don't worry you will get your money



Good luck mate

Another mumu talk as usual.

Comprehension is a very big problem for some people.

So many women don't think the guys needs money. They often feel that we are self sufficient. Some women even think that giving guys money is another way of forcing oneself on guys ..so, maybe the gal doesn't want you to see her too cheap. So it's your responsibility to work on your relationship IF she has a lot of good qualities. But if not....(you know what to do)

jaxxy:
She might have unknown responsibilities like school fees or siblings. I’m just saying. He already asked her brother tho bt he can do sm more investigations. An unhelpful woman is a gross liability.

Responsibilities ? To even buy him even #250 boxers as gift? Chai.

Eyeness:
the reason you wrote this is because you don't have much. if she is a good person despite this, then marry her. Actually, you are the provider in the family. How come i never see rich men complain of stingy women?

exactly my thought.
My wife was extremely stingy when I was dating her. And she's still extremely stingy till today after marriage, but I dont bother. I earn enough to take care of myself and my family

Well I understand your situation, but you should know that's only an aspect of the relationship, what of other aspect of her life, her Christian life, prayer life, does she love the things of God, will she be faithful to her marital vows, if yes, then pray for her to change, if no, you know what to do, you will enjoy her if she's a Christian.

user283:
I've done that before but it doesn't change anything bro

Then give her a quit notice

Starlight10:
you guys want a perfect woman but you ain't perfect. She is not cheating, they have good sex life, she has her job so not a liability. You want him to go out and end up with a cheating girl. Anyway let me mind my Bussines.

We don't want cheating girls . We love sex but no be only Bleep we come this life come Bleep. Na 21st century be this.. And sadly we are living in a country whereby our leaders don use the pant of our nation buy benz. So any man wey carry him big head go marry woman wey dey stingy.... I pray God drops manna from heaven when things are no longer rosy for him

SillyeRabbit:
You are dating yourself.

you said it all.

Op, u have not stated any specific thing the girl did wrong.
Dont all those posters deceive u. I can see both of you are coming up at your different places of work, I advice you marry her and grow together.
All girls are stingy, my wife is their chairman, but she takes care of the house and the children so well.