nanauju:



Yeah same goes for men. You should know that financially independent women also look out for character in men.. The only thing that blinds a woman's eyes to his thrash character can be his money. But when she has hers, she looks beyond the money and searches for other behaviors she can be compatible with

bukatyne:


You clearly don't understand the OP

She is saying 'women have your own money' so you look beyond provision from a man.

When you are content with what you have, you are better positioned to review a prospective husband critically because you are not blinded by money.

A fantastic advice if you ask me.

nanauju:
Women, when you begin to buy things for yourself, take yourself out, and shower yourselves with gifts, you will see that most men have nothing more than material things and food. That's all. It's easier to know a man of value when you have some level of financial stability. When you are broke or hungry? A plate of food seems like love. 5k from him will even make you start thinking marriage sef.

Hustle o so that you will have your own money and men will have to prove why you need them beyond money

bukatyne:
From most of the posts on this thread, I think I must read the wrong OP.

AfroKnight:


Dem full family section.

pryme:


Your post is more refined,
I understand the Op,
But you only missed the part she said "money will GET you respect from men"
This is what I think is misleading, even women can't stand a man that is rich but is very disrespectful to women.
Same thing with men, just because a woman has money they think men will feast on their shiit.
If you want respect give respect, the world still have men that respect women because of who they are, not what they have.

samdavjustin:


Yes you are right to an extent but you are also very wrong. You see money is important but not everything men look at when married. If you don’t have sense or respect your man or let him be the head regardless of how much ur making there will be big problems in that relationship. So if you like make all the money you want the result will be the same.

nanauju:



Yeah same goes for men. You should know that financially independent women also look out for character in men.. The only thing that blinds a woman's eyes to his thrash character can be his money. But when she has hers, she looks beyond the money and searches for other behaviors she can be compatible with

nanauju:


Thanks for this wonderful contribution sis. The truth is that, ladies who have not experienced this financial independence (no matter the little she earns from her business or job), will not be able to relate with this post, but while the men here have turned it entirely around that it is respect they want. So why then do they keep singing in our ears that they cannot be with someone who is not earning, only begging. Is this some form of self bloated ego that they're trying to save from crashing, or they are just dealing with the inferiority complex and intimidation of being with a lady who works and spends on herself, rather than beg him for crumbs

bestdudes:
Men do not even care if you have money... I for one does not care if a woman is richer than me. If you run your mouth anyhow and think you can disrespect me, I will do that lady strong thing that will make remove and her shoes and run like a mad woman.

I motto is treat people the way you wish to be treated.

DMerciful:
You dont seem to realize men and women dont have same liberties! Who marries who?

Ryan03:
so because you are marrying her so she have no right to look for qualities she want in a man or demand respect from him? Do you even understand the word "respect"?

bukatyne:
From most of the posts on this thread, I think I must read the wrong OP.

Ryan03:
now you understand

pocohantas:


You didn't. This is romance section, they always deflect. You begin to wonder what exactly is their problem. They whine all day about broke women, you advise women to get up and work, they will say it is character. Talk about character, they will move on to spirituality... There is no satisfying them.

That said, money doesn't equal respect, but it sure makes like easier and refines your choices. If you have a good head on your shoulder.



Same way your choice as a man is limited to the women that want you. After all, it is not every woman that wants to marry you too, even when you come to them. Get over yourselves please.

DMerciful:
A man can increase his sample space to get more possible outcomes. Comparing the average man with the average woman with regards to marriage options is ludicrous!

pocohantas:


A woman has a wider sample space. Except she is locked up in solitude. She would be approached by way more men than a man can. I don't even know why you people claim to call all the shots, but everyday there is wailing thread from your younger brothers who just got dumped. So much for technically being unlimited.

DMerciful:
Check the age range of girls giving them wahala 19-22yrs. They have themselves to blame.
Leave matter for Mathias! How you dey my personal person?

pocohantas:


So, after all their talk online, they can't apply it offline ehn? I am fine, looking for husband.

pocohantas:


A woman has a wider sample space. Except she is locked up in solitude. She would be approached by way more men than a man can. I don't even know why you people claim to call all the shots, but everyday there is wailing thread from your younger brothers who just got dumped. So much for technically being unlimited.

LordKO:
You're entitled to your opinion. However, your opinion is only for you and people who are of the same ethical leanings like you, so you don't hold brief for people in general. Respect isn't something you can have instead it's something you can earn - you can only have dignity. Unfortunately, money can't buy dignity. Financial emancipation may cause small-minded people to tolerate or fear you, even when you've bad character, but that won't mean that you've dignity/earned their respect.

Personally, a woman, just like a man, only needs to be human being to receive my politeness, and she needs to be humane and principled to earn and retain my respect - in order words, she needs to be altruistic and conscientious to earn and retain my respect. The irresistible value of a woman lies in her character. Money can't buy ethical class. I'd rather fall in love/defer for an ethically sound woman, with or without money/any material possession, than to fall in love/defer for a woman who possesses all the wealth in this world, but with crass and expedient personality.

The good thing about character (good or bad) is that no amount of pretense or glossing can cover it, at least not for too long. It's like a goldfish that has no hiding place.

nanauju:


You're probably lacking in understanding, and don't go about saying someone else's post, which totally agrees with mine is more refining because we're saying the same thing. How u understand is utterly Ur problem to deal with

pryme:


No, I understand you.
When you are handed exactly what you mean, and you find that you goofed, you want to change the narrative.

Being independent is not the only way you can get respect from a man.
Obviously your experience about men is limited.

Ryan03:
even if a woman have respect and is as submissive as submissive can be, without a level of financial stability, she will be very prone to abuse in relationships and marriage. We are talking about financial stability here, what's all these respect and gbogboyen that I am seeing? We have been preaching how women should stop depending totally on us, now someone posted about it and what are the male folks doing? Its like most of us don't really want our women to be financially independent cause that is their only strength in marriage

nanauju:



Don't feel soo much of yourself as a man. As a matter of fact, this topic is still centered around woman that should strive to be more financially independent and successful, so that when they (women) the start thinking of how to settle down, they will look beyond money (which as much as is a necessity shouldn't be the only thing they look out for), and start looking at the behavior of the man, and how he shows leadership skills, reactions to issues, and overall manner of approach.
Or do you really think it's only men that look out for a woman that will respect them? I'm sorry if you are not respecting your woman too, especially one who is financially independent, you are not ready for something lasting yet. Let it be mutual.
If a man is always screaming about being the head, deserving respect, then there's a problem. He probably hasn't put himself up to the position to deserve such from his woman. A woman will always submit to a man, who has proved beyond doubt that he posses finesse leadership qualities, respect himself and his woman, and every other thing will fall into place. You cannot give what you don't have

nanauju:



When your esteem enables you to eventually meet a financially successful woman, (not the riff raff your 5k can afford) after she finishes picking u like beans and finds that you have nothing to offer her, she's gonna thrash you in the can.

pocohantas:


You didn't. This is romance section, they always deflect. You begin to wonder what exactly is their problem. They whine all day about broke women, you advise women to get up and work, they will say it is character. Talk about character, they will move on to spirituality... There is no satisfying them.

That said, money doesn't equal respect, but it sure makes life easier and refines your choices, If you have a good head on your shoulder.

AfroKnight:


Thank you bro. Tell them.

They think all we care about is them not fleecing us. This is what we are talking about. They should see beyond their immediate needs.



When men ask for what you’re bringing to the table, we are not talking about only your personal finance.

No, you must have sense. Don’t just have money of your own. Have a logical mind to go with it. Learn to have civil conversations. Don’t turn it into a question and answer segment. Contribute to the discussion like a fellow sensible adult. Don’t be insufferably salty with your signature nonsense monosyllabic response.

Be peaceable. A number of women derive fulfilment from frustrating men. Like, that’s how they know they are progressing in life - frustrating men who show them love. Hope you know you are practising witchcraft and thunder will faya you.

Respect yourself and respect your guy. Not every argument is an opportunity for you to be savage. Leave that for juvenile brawlers on twitter.

Being a strong young woman does not mean being rude and unreasonable.

Just be reasonable.

Jersuiyjoe:
Hhmmm.
Some people still don't know that women are going to take over the world. And one day it's just gorng to look like a normal thing.
but the few ones won't let their guards down.
And it may take some time before you can find to few ones, and you might suffer a bit before you cän find them.