Jasen1:
Nothing like a friend

It's you ooo

And yes it will affect you in future

Because of that
This is how all your kids will look like

You don enter ooo

Omihanifa:
In Galatians 6:7, His Word states, "Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap."


The principle applies to everyone, both Christians and non-Christians

groovie:


You are correct madam. I just meant to say that not all past can just be shoved aside.
And i also meant to say you didn't need to try to equal what she did to what men do. Just advice her. If women begin to do what they do based on what men they met did then they lose their essence as a person.

Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it...

She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it, although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they ended up having unprotected sex.

The man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues. She has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her.

She is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met. She doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value.

Jasen1:
Nothing like a friend

It's you ooo

And yes it will affect you in future

Because of that
This is how all your kids will look like

You don enter ooo

bukatyne:

You are the second person calling me brother, ki lo de?

Omihanifa:
In Galatians 6:7, His Word states, "Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap."


The principle applies to everyone, both Christians and non-Christians

IAmStrange:
She had sex with a married man... That was a sin between her and God.

if she repents, the sin is erased and that's where it ends.

That's the basic principle.

Although, some bad things may happen after someone has repented from sin and some people attribute that to be a consequence of the sin so they say, God may have forgiven someone but the person must still pay for the sin.

But that's not true.

Jasen1:
Nothing like a friend

It's you ooo

And yes it will affect you in future

Because of that
This is how all your kids will look like

You don enter ooo

Jasen1:
Nothing like a friend
It's you ooo
And yes it will affect you in future
Because of that This is how all your kids will look like
You don enter ooo

Jasen1:
Nothing like a friend

It's you ooo

And yes it will affect you in future

Because of that
This is how all your kids will look like

You don enter ooo

Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it...

She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it, although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they ended up having unprotected sex.

The man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues. She has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her.

She is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met. She doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value.

Igbodicool:

You no well.
Do you want somebody to develop high BP?

tot:


na so I dey see am too. Like they just don't see the (f) after one's moniker.

Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it...

She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it, although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they ended up having unprotected sex.

The man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues. She has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her.

She is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met. She doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value.

Beverlyjean:
Why is it difficult for people to believe what is not true... I said it's my friend and I promised to bring it up on nairaland... If it was me, I would have used another Moniker

Meti99:


I am very sure this is just one of your numerous monikers

Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it...

She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it, although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they ended up having unprotected sex.

The man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues. She has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her.

She is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met. She doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value.

midnighter:


It's a sin against herself, her parents, the man, the man's wife, the man's children and God.

You are removing her accountability to make her feel better. When you commit adultery and extra marital sex it affects several people whether you meant it to or not.



So who is going to pay for it?

Where does the penalty for the sin go after God supposedly forgets about it?

You are right that she should move on from her mistake but the angle you are coming from is unrealistic.

The question is about SPIRITUAL consequences but you have extended it to cover NATURAL consequences.

Didn't you see where she lost her relationship because somebody gossiped about her indiscretion to her partner? So how hasn't she paid for it

I don't really understand; does Islam preach that your actions are totally forgotten as long as you feel bad about them? Or that your actions don't have consequences in the natural world?

How does that fit in with what we observe and know to be true? When you drop your phone face-down on the ground, doesn't the screen shatter

The truth is that she should accept her mistake and its repercussions and move on knowing that she is a flawed and imperfect human who took a wrong turn somewhere. That doesn't mean that she won't be happy in the future or that nobody will ever marry her but certain doors may close as a consequence of her actions.

That's life and it happens to all of us.

If she is a Christian, As far as she is sorry, she will not face SPIRITUAL consequences because the punishment for her sin has been collected by Christ Jesus.

That doesn't mean that everybody has suddenly forgotten what happened or that some men won't be repulsed by the idea of her sleeping with some old dude. That is the INHERENT consequence of what she did, as surely as 1 is followed by 2. Actions have consequences!

For the fact that she has repented and is truly sorry God may even use this situation and turn it around to lead her to a husband who will overlook her shortcomings even more than the ones she lost. Such is the nature of the GRACE of God.

Mobileowowa:
My apologies for referring to you in my comment. However, let your friend stop getting worried and stop thinking negatively with fear. We are what we think or imagine.