ebyjoyken:
i am not i swear. I don't even have a say. I wish he is on this forum, so that you can ask him.

Keep him close to your heart and your children closer....Love conquers all.

Madam, talk ur own bad side,

U didn't say anything wrong about urself.

I am a married man, from experience.... I can tell u ain't telling d full story.

luminouz:



Lol.....nope @ your question.

I just needed to let her know due to her energized emotional state, she misunderstood a simple statement.

I never take things on NL that serious bro

Her reaction is really overboard and out of context.

Luckysbab:


Her reaction is really overboard and out of context.

You are right.

healthserve:
What is marriage becoming thesedays. Every day another sad marriage tale. We need to start looking at the bigger picture if a marriage doesn't work. It's how it is. What's the point staying under the same roof with someone we don't love. A marriage where all the loving and respect has flown out the window will also produce issues like this one. But then, there's always two sides to every tale and many times the tale bearer presents the side of the story that absolves them of any kind of wrong doing

Dont be deceived bro, there are sizeable number of good marriages in the world but the bad ones get the publicity. If the marriage is good, there wont be a reason to open a thread here. Only bad marriages are front page worthy on popular blogs and forums.

So wait, are you scared you can’t raise your kids the right way? There is no amount he can try which will make them insult you and provided he respects himself there is no amount you can try to ensure vice versa. Woman, this is another case of an overactive imagination. If you do not have a job find one immediately. Hey, that probably is the issue: being a housewife for too long don bring disrespect enter your matter.

ebyjoyken:
Hi! Good morning all.

I have been married for 10 years, and I have never had any serious issues with my husband, I have never treated his mother badly. I love his mum just like i love mine. I lost my dad last year and my husband never showed any concern towards my family, i didn't call any of my siblings or my mum till date.

But recently each time we are having a discussion he keeps saying that anytime I challenge him that he will ask my children to insult me. This breaks my heart because i was never rude to my parents as child even as an adult. I have never spoken ill of my husband before my kids, so i don't understand why he keeps saying that to me. My children mean alot to me, i have invested so much in my kids and they are lovely children. I am scared that he might start poisoning their minds towards me.

Matured advice needed please.

this sounds funny to me .
BETWEEN U and ur so called husband , WHO GAT TO SPEND MUCH TIME WITH THE KIDS ?

U married a kid sorry sis

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ebyjoyken:
Hi! Good morning all.

I have been married for 10 years, and I have never had any serious issues with my husband, I have never treated his mother badly. I love his mum just like i love mine. I lost my dad last year and my husband never showed any concern towards my family, i didn't call any of my siblings or my mum till date.

But recently each time we are having a discussion he keeps saying that anytime I challenge him that he will ask my children to insult me. This breaks my heart because i was never rude to my parents as child even as an adult. I have never spoken ill of my husband before my kids, so i don't understand why he keeps saying that to me. My children mean alot to me, i have invested so much in my kids and they are lovely children. I am scared that he might start poisoning their minds towards me.

Matured advice needed please.

it can only happen if you let it

Bia my friend will you sharraap there have you ever maintain 15days relationship?? How do you know she's rude? Ngbo ngbo ngbo piafukwa gi isi now repeat after me if I say u, u say I
You are nothing but murutun mpavu repeat that 3x per day!!

xoftcore:
Then start repecting him
Because you are rude

ebyjoyken:
i am not i swear. I don't even have a say. I wish he is on this forum, so that you can ask him.

Ur children aren't blind.
just teach them good morals, and live the rest .


Don't worry if aren't disrespectful to ur husband

ebyjoyken:
..my parents refused and asked him to get an apartment for me in the city.

You guys are married grown ups naaa..

Who should decide what gaan self for you again?
Why should dey decide for you?
When should dey decide for you?
What should dey decide for you?

You see, once anybody else tells you wot to do to your family n you've not discussed nor have a mutual agreement on the issue, its gonna end up where you are.

He doesn't hate your family. He respects them n want them to recognize the fact that this is his not theirs of which you're now part of.

That's God's arrangement - leave father n mother n stick to your husband.

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This is serious

God into prayers, I mean midnight prayers, speak out to God and tell God exactly what you want from him

Mention names of people you think are responsible for this traumatic situation and mention his name that God will bless him to the extent that he won't have time to be picking on you

Tell God to keep Mr (--) mention his name to his hearing, busy by making him to be successful that he will have enough to give his family and be focused on his business or work that whenever he sees you, he will be happy that you prayed him to success

Look be strong, if he is maltreating you, his source of income will shake and he wouldn't want that

Stop correcting him let him keep showing people his Wickedness

Very soon, he will fight himself [/a thousand hugs for this]

Getting married is even scaring me these days.
It's better I do contract
Can't come n kee myself

ebyjoyken:
how? You mean he can't do it?

If u remain good , then he can't

Just like that?
You didn't do anything?
And he is trying to turn ur children against u?
Like u said " I have never had any serious issues with my husband "
Only you knows ur own definition of serious issues.
As for me their can never be a smoke without fire

Fountainofyouth:



I have noticed one trend with so called males here, they usually type @emboldened when it is a female stating her issues, but when it's a male, their functioning brain goes on hibernation, SMH!!

If you want to hear the other side of the story, kindly get in touch with the horseband, and bring him here to say his version, in the meantime, this is all we have, if you are not satisfied with her version, don't even try to comment, and the next time you see a female thread stating her sad family issues, kindly jump and pass.

A question mark is needed in the "males" .
are u this blind to notice 80% of males on this thread are unbiased

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Thanks dear, these men can make one go astray

But God pass them

Fountainofyouth:
This is exactly what we are saying on a thread that got to front page today, imagine this mistake of a man and father, him and his wife have issues, instead of him to resolve it, he wants to involve the kids and make them antagonise the mum, what has the kids got to do with it? Instead of the ones above to comment fairly, they are looking for his version, no matter what the woman said, what type of man will tell his kids to do such? If reverse was the case and woman told their kids to insult their dad, the comments would have reached page ten by now with all manner of insults on the woman,

The husband doesn't obviously want to be challenged in the decisions that involves the family, he wants a 'yes sir' kind of woman, he wants to subdue her smh, does he expect his decisions to be right all the time? How will they be able to rub minds together on whats best for the family

Madam Op, anytime he says anything, don't challenge, react or talk back, just be looking at him and ignore, let him say his own and do whatever he thinks is right, you too, do whatever you think is right, when he sees the arrangement isn't palatable due to clashes, he will remorsefully call you for a heart to heart talk.

And u are judging base on whatever story that is written .

WHY NOT LAY UR OWN ADVICE,AND NOT FIRST JUDGE THE MAN .
YOU ARE BIASED BEING AND NOT THOSE U QUOTED

I'm becoming more afraid of marriage as each day passes.

ebyjoyken:
Thank you.

U gat exactly the reaction u awaits since

He has absolutely no regard or respect for you ! That’s what eventually happens when women stupidly decide to be “ submissive “ ! It’s not in men’s nature to say - she is submissive so let me be kind ! Never ! They will take full advantage if your submission and abuse u as much as they can ! How anyone can sit in a marriage with someone who has no regard for them as a person is something I would never understand .

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_j544ELauus

healthserve:
What is marriage becoming thesedays. Every day another sad marriage tale. We need to start looking at the bigger picture if a marriage doesn't work. It's how it is. What's the point staying under the same roof with someone we don't love. A marriage where all the loving and respect has flown out the window will also produce issues like this one. But then, there's always two sides to every tale and many times the tale bearer presents the side of the story that absolves them of any kind of wrong doing

Some of these so-called adults are emotionally constipated and dysfunctional. It's just too bad marriages are not working anymore as it should

Chapter1vs6:
We all know the mother has an overwhelming force over her kids...

It's the mother that raise kids. Your post is a joke

He can do it. I have seen it happen and before they will realise the truth it would have been too late. You need to go way back to the root of the matter, where things started and falling apart and it was seen as "it doesn't matter".
Prayerfully and patiently work things out or very soon you will come hear and write another post how your children's attitude have started changing. Do your best and act fast. I pray God will help you resolve this issue in good time before it gets out of hand.
Peace be unto you

Childish man

Fountainofyouth:



I have noticed one trend with so called males here, they usually type @emboldened when it is a female stating her issues, but when it's a male, their functioning brain goes on hibernation, SMH!!

If you want to hear the other side of the story, kindly get in touch with the horseband, and bring him here to say his version, in the meantime, this is all we have, if you are not satisfied with her version, don't even try to comment, and the next time you see a female thread stating her sad family issues, kindly jump and pass.

Has someone paid your bride price?? If not, you don't know what being a married woman is all about!!
Allow the married ladies to drop comments and learn from it!!

Did you read the where the wife said the husband was not around during the burial n asked the elder brother to possibly represent him or you just want to crucify the husband without a benefit of a doubt ?

iyatrustee:


There is no justifiable reason as to why he shouldn't. The wife didnt fall from space. Have you tried switching places and the wife is the one who didnt share in the condolence?

this story is just too clean for me to place a judgement hear..
cause if I where to go by what you said your husband is a nutcase...
madam you have a fault buh your not saying

Pataricatering:
He has absolutely no regard or respect for you ! That’s what eventually happens when women stupidly decide to be “ submissive “ ! It’s not in men’s nature to say - she is submissive so let me be kind ! Never ! They will take full advantage if your submission and abuse u as much as they can ! How anyone can sit in a marriage with someone who has no regard for them as a person is something I would never understand .

just shut up