Some men would prefer their wives not working under someone or in an office, but wifes need to be supportive. So how do we balance it?

What wife friendly occupation would you suggest for a married or intending married lady?

Supermarket
Freelancing
Manage osusu small scale
Blogging
Bitcoin etc

Any man who doesn't want his wife to work in a cooperate office is insecure

Getting a space somewhere around the house. Then she can:

sell puff puff and buns.. or akara
Or boli (roasted plantain) or agbado sisun (roasted maize)
or any other kind of food.
Or she can be polishing shoe and shoe cobbler things.. We hardly have any female around doing that so that make her outstanding which is a plus...
Or she can selling sweets and kuli kuli.. ehn ehn!!

so there you have it OP. which one do you like?

What do you mean by wife friendly? Is there a job they can't do because they are married? You are very sexist, rubbish.

vickydankal:
Supermarket
Freelancing
Manage osusu small scale
Blogging
Bitcoin etc

Any man who doesn't want his wife to work in a cooperate office is insecure

nice suggestions there..




You can keep saying insecure all you want, but Everyman to his own..


some men want women working in big organizations and offices, while some prefer them stay at home..



Stories flying up and down especially on Nairaland are enough to make such men not change their mind.



from colleague colleague,

they start something funny.

Before you know one thing has happened and the do done.



It's not insecurity on the part of such men,

they just don't want their wives to always be in an occasion of sin, where there would be much pressure..





no need trying to sound politically correct, we know what really happens inside life..



once again thanks for your suggestions.



MODIFIED !!!!!!



If you like quote me full textbook calling me insecure, I will never try to sound politically correct just to win cheap likes on nairaland.




You can give motivational quotes or try to win likes all you want, but we know that


theory is different from practical.




Inside life, we know how things operate.




I asked a simple question,

'' What Wife Friendly Occupation Would You Suggest? "


Can't you just pass if you don't have contributions?





marriage is for two who agree to get together.



If you are a career woman, marry a career man.


Simple!

Insecure man. While you're at it why don't you also put a body camera on her so that you can be monitoring her movement when she goes out? Nonsense.

IAmStrange:
Getting a space somewhere around the house. Then she can:

sell puff puff and buns.. or akara
Or boli (roasted plantain) or agbado sisun (roasted maize)
or any other kind of food.
Or she can be polishing shoe and shoe cobbler things.. We hardly have any female around doing that so that make her outstanding which is a plus...
Or she can selling sweets and kuli kuli.. ehn ehn!!

so there you have it OP. which one do you like?

wow....


she should be frying pap

Fountainofyouth:
What do you mean by wife friendly? Is there a job they can't do because they are married? You are very sexist, rubbish.

they get pained and reply with insults.




What your man prefers is different from another man.


also, you should flee when you come across a man that doesn't want corporate office work for you. simple as ABC


...

theButterfly:
Insecure man. While you're at it why don't you also put a body camera on her so that you can be monitoring her movement when she goes out? Nonsense.

don't stay with such man if you are not comfortable with his decisions.


Every malam to his own kettle

Casemiro:



nice suggestions there..




You can keep saying insecure all you want, but Everyman to his own..


some men want women working in big organizations and offices, while some prefer them stay at home..



Stories flying up and down especially on Nairaland are enough to make such men not change their mind.



from colleague colleague,

they start something funny.

Before you know one thing has happened and the do done.



It's not insecurity on the part of such men,

they just don't want their wives to always be in an occasion of sin, where there would be much pressure..





no need trying to sound politically correct, we know what really happens inside life..



once again thanks for your suggestions.

You have a good writeup, I must say.
I was a full house wife for close to 2 years. Working with as an indoor editor and earning small amount of money. Not until my husband has financial turbulence and I was forced to go out and get a job. Mind you, my 2 years at home was not my husband making but to have time to care for our baby before creche. I usually ask this question, men that do not want to expose their wives to cooperate office to avoid or minimise the chances of infidelity, how about them and their secretary, colleagues, friends etc that surround them in their office environment. Are you saying men can cheat while women care forbidden to cheat ? Or are you saying men have stronger will to overcome temptation of the opposite sex than women?

Teaching job is the best for a wife.
She leaves 7am and comes back by 2:30pm

She can use 1hr to rest or sleep, after which she enters the kitchen and prepare something for the family.

During holidays, she will be at home all through.
Wives/mothers should be home anything 4PM, not all these nonsense Carrer ladies that will be having board meetings even as late as 6PM.
Having a teacher as a wife and mother is bae.
All ye NCE and B.Edu girls, I'm coming for you..


NB: Im talking about reputable or public schools, not all these 15k private school ooo.

In this present Nigerian economy

24kmagic:
Teaching job is the best for a wife.
She leaves 7am and comes back by 2:30pm

She can use 1hr to rest or sleep, after which she enters the kitchen and prepare something for the family.

During holidays, she will be at home all through.
Wives/mothers should be home anything 4PM, not all these nonsense Carrer ladies that will be having board meetings even as late as 6PM.
Having a teacher as a wife and mother is bae.
All ye NCE and B.Edu girls, I'm coming for you..


NB: Im talking about reputable or public schools, not all these 15k private school ooo.

correct!

24kmagic:
Teaching job is the best for a wife.
She leaves 7am and comes back by 2:30pm

She can use 1hr to rest or sleep, after which she enters the kitchen and prepare something for the family.

During holidays, she will be at home all through.
Wives/mothers should be home anything 4PM, not all these nonsense Carrer ladies that will be having board meetings even as late as 6PM.
Having a teacher as a wife and mother is bae.
All ye NCE and B.Edu girls, I'm coming for you..


NB: Im talking about reputable or public schools, not all these 15k private school ooo.

your head get oil joor!


one carton of Cold origin for you!




teaching is so rampant, is there another you can suggest?


This is to help mothers make the best choice of contributing financially and also be able to look after kids and keep the home moving

Pavore9:
In this present Nigerian economy

what do you suggest

Keep her at home and pay her salary, that's the best

Casemiro:
what do you suggest

I suggest nothing, a woman should not be restricted from legally earning a living to be able to financially contribute to the upkeep of the family or do we have husband-friendly occupations?

Can a widow whose late husband left her and their children with nothing be assessing "wife-friendly" means of livelihood?

vickydankal:


You have a good writeup, I must say.
I was a full house wife for close to 2 years. Working with as an indoor editor and earning small amount of money. Not until my husband has financial turbulence and I was forced to go out and get a job. Mind you, my 2 years at home was not my husband making but to have time to care for our baby before creche. I usually ask this question, men that do not want to expose their wives to cooperate office to avoid or minimise the chances of infidelity, how about them and their secretary, colleagues, friends etc that surround them in their office environment. Are you saying men can cheat while women care forbidden to cheat ? Or are you saying men have stronger will to overcome temptation of the opposite sex than women?

I'm glad you understand where I'm coming from.




The nature of our jobs can sometimes make the family duties we are supposed to carryout suffer.


I don't support husbands cheating, but let's face reality.




Inside life, and in Africa, men are always the pacesetter and leader of the home.


women should support their husbands and live in harmony.



like I said, I don't support men cheating on their wives, but in reality some men do!


The society won't frown much at it, but reverse is the case for a woman.



A female created a thread asking why men never forgive a cheating partner, and if you have gone through that thread you will have a little understanding of how men are designed.



So wouldn't it be better for the man to reduce the heat and plan a better occupation for the wife? An occupation that would make her have time to build the family and reduces to the nearest minimum her chances of cheating?


Mind you, it's not insecurity like some think above. The truth is that these things do happen!

At first it starts as ordinary colleague, but we are humans and have feelings.


I've read countess threads here where women used anonymous monickers to seek for advice because they have been cheating on their husbands. 90 percent of such cases are career women working in coporate offices.



The truth is that they never ever wanted to cheat on their husbands, but when it lead to it, they didn't just do it once or twice, they kept on doing it codedly.






The fact is that we are humans and as mentioned before, these things happen everyday! Would you lock up a priest with a lady all because you trust him?



let me pause here.


All I'm saying is that a faithful wife will remain faithful no matter what, but a career oriented faithful wife will be exposed to more temptations to cheat on her husband compared to a faithful housewife or work at home mum..

Casemiro:





I'm glad you understand where I'm coming from.




The nature of our jobs can sometimes make the family duties we are supposed to carryout suffer.


I don't support husbands cheating, but let's face reality.




Inside life, and in Africa, men are always the pacesetter and leader of the home.


women should support their husbands and live in harmony.



like I said, I don't support men cheating on their wives, but in reality some men do!


The society won't frown much at it, but reverse is the case for a woman.



A female created a thread asking why men never forgive a cheating partner, and if you have gone through that thread you will have a little understanding of how men are designed.



So wouldn't it be better for the man to reduce the heat and plan a better occupation for the wife? An occupation that would make her have time to build the family and reduces to the nearest minimum her chances of cheating?


Mind you, it's not insecurity like some think above. The truth is that these things do happen!

At first it starts as ordinary colleague, but we are humans and have feelings.


I've read countess threads here where women used anonymous monickers to seek for advice because they have been cheating on their husbands. 90 percent of such cases are career women working in coporate offices.



The truth is that they never ever wanted to cheat on their husbands, but when it lead to it, they didn't just do it once or twice, they kept on doing it codedly.






The fact is that we are humans and as mentioned before, these things happen everyday! Would you lock up a priest with a lady all because you trust him?



let me pause here.


All I'm saying is that a faithful wife will remain faithful no matter what, but a career oriented faithful wife will be exposed to more temptations to cheat on her husband compared to a faithful housewife or work at home mum..

So the summary of the whole thing is "how to restrict the chances of a wife from cheating"! Reality is be it man or woman, anyone who has made up his/her mind to be promiscuous, there is always a way to actualize it.

Casemiro:





I'm glad you understand where I'm coming from.




The nature of our jobs can sometimes make the family duties we are supposed to carryout suffer.


I don't support husbands cheating, but let's face reality.




Inside life, and in Africa, men are always the pacesetter and leader of the home.


women should support their husbands and live in harmony.



like I said, I don't support men cheating on their wives, but in reality some men do!


The society won't frown much at it, but reverse is the case for a woman.



A female created a thread asking why men never forgive a cheating partner, and if you have gone through that thread you will have a little understanding of how men are designed.



So wouldn't it be better for the man to reduce the heat and plan a better occupation for the wife? An occupation that would make her have time to build the family and reduces to the nearest minimum her chances of cheating?


Mind you, it's not insecurity like some think above. The truth is that these things do happen!

At first it starts as ordinary colleague, but we are humans and have feelings.


I've read countess threads here where women used anonymous monickers to seek for advice because they have been cheating on their husbands. 90 percent of such cases are career women working in coporate offices.



The truth is that they never ever wanted to cheat on their husbands, but when it lead to it, they didn't just do it once or twice, they kept on doing it codedly.






The fact is that we are humans and as mentioned before, these things happen everyday! Would you lock up a priest with a lady all because you trust him?



let me pause here.


All I'm saying is that a faithful wife will remain faithful no matter what, but a career oriented faithful wife will be exposed to more temptations to cheat on her husband compared to a faithful housewife or work at home mum..

Ah fada lawd, most mothers of old did a very terrible job bringing up men of these era, look at this one giving excuses for promiscuous horseband, terrible creatures springing up everyday, especially here, SMH!!!

It depends on what she wants to do.
What exactly are the husband's concerns about his wife working under someone? Hasn't he ever worked under anyone before?
Not everyone is cut out for running their own business and if she's happy doing an office job, why prevent her from doing that?

Modified:
I've just read more posts from OP and realise the only reason he doesn't want the wife to work outside the home is because he is scared of infidelity from the wife. Perhaps you should not bother getting married as there are housewives who also cheat.
Cheating these days is initiated through social media. Perhaps you should also take away her phone from her when you do marry her?
While at it, you can also take over the shopping in the home, as she can meet a lover in the market?
Her friends can even get her lovers outside, so why not remove her from all her friends and even family

eyinjuege:
It depends on what she wants to do.
What exactly are the husband's concerns about his wife working under someone? Hasn't he ever worked under anyone before?
Not everyone is cut out for running their own business and if she's happy doing an office job, why prevent her from doing that?

Modified:
I've just read more posts from OP and realise the only reason she doesn't want the wife to work outside the home is because he is scared of infidelity from the wife. Perhaps you should not bother getting married as there are housewives who also cheat.
Cheating these days is initiated through social media. Perhaps you should also take away her phone from her when you do marry her?
While at it, you can also take over the shopping in the home, as she can meet a lover in the market?
Her friends can even get her lovers outside, so why not remove her from all her friends and even family

Thank you o, very insecure, immature manboy, pathetic.

Casemiro:





I'm glad you understand where I'm coming from.




The nature of our jobs can sometimes make the family duties we are supposed to carryout suffer.


I don't support husbands cheating, but let's face reality.




Inside life, and in Africa, men are always the pacesetter and leader of the home.


women should support their husbands and live in harmony.



like I said, I don't support men cheating on their wives, but in reality some men do!


The society won't frown much at it, but reverse is the case for a woman.



A female created a thread asking why men never forgive a cheating partner, and if you have gone through that thread you will have a little understanding of how men are designed.



So wouldn't it be better for the man to reduce the heat and plan a better occupation for the wife? An occupation that would make her have time to build the family and reduces to the nearest minimum her chances of cheating?


Mind you, it's not insecurity like some think above. The truth is that these things do happen!

At first it starts as ordinary colleague, but we are humans and have feelings.


I've read countess threads here where women used anonymous monickers to seek for advice because they have been cheating on their husbands. 90 percent of such cases are career women working in coporate offices.



The truth is that they never ever wanted to cheat on their husbands, but when it lead to it, they didn't just do it once or twice, they kept on doing it codedly.






The fact is that we are humans and as mentioned before, these things happen everyday! Would you lock up a priest with a lady all because you trust him?



let me pause here.


All I'm saying is that a faithful wife will remain faithful no matter what, but a career oriented faithful wife will be exposed to more temptations to cheat on her husband compared to a faithful housewife or work at home mum..

With this well explained points on yours. I don't know what else to write and not look stupid

Yes, I agree with you, not just in Africa, even in bible times, men hates sharing their women. That's why anyone they like their marry instead of sharing with another man.

It is almost impossible for a man to forget how his partner cheated on him, especially with one who is less than the husband, the pain no be here ooo .

Yes, most women are emotional in nature and are easily moved by small complement, appreciation etc that's why greater percentage of women who have cheated their husbands never planned it. It just happen.

But the naked truth is, women can codedly cheat from anywhere without the husband knowing.

House wife or career women. Any women who wants to cheat, will cheat.

Obviously not all men can marry a career woman. For any woman to spend 5 - 7 years in the university to study a professional course with the hope to practice and you insist she changes line or stay home against her will, it will not be taken by many women.

It all boils down to who you marry. marry your friend and someone who will accept your preposition of a house wife or work from home.


Much of the moral decadence in our society is as a result of some career women, baby mamas, and single parents who left the duty of up bringing of the children to the hands of maids .

There are enormous benefits and lots of sacrifices attached to full house wife and work from home mums.


My take:
In this 21th century, it will be waste of talents, gifts, resources and potentials for a woman to be full house wife.

It is better she works from home. If she's not to literate to work online like freelance, kitchen, fashion blogging, editorials etc she can have a little kiosk in front of the house. Even if the husband makes a billion in 30 minutes, there's nothing like making your own money and surprising your husband with gifts, bills, upkeep or weekend gateway. It gives a sense of belonging and accomplishment.

Casemiro:
Some men would prefer their wives not working under someone or in an office, but wifes need to be supportive. So how do we balance it?

What wife friendly occupation would you suggest for a married or intending married lady?

Open a catering or party organizing business for her. If she's a graduate, look into professional courses like ICAN etc where she can have her own firm. A computer literate wife can also go into freelancing or have a mini computer school.

But don't think that these totally eliminate her risk of cheating. Once a woman makes up her mind to cheat, she will climb the highest mountains, swim the fastest rivers and break out of the strongest vaults to meet her lover. Just try to marry someone who is as principled as a woman can be, then you can think of reducing her cheating opportunities with one of those businesses above.

But truly, you as the man should be completely financially responsible for the home.

If you like, keep a woman let her not work be paying her salary at home

The one that will mis behave will mis behave

Why wouldn't a man want his wife to work, is it because he does want her to be richer

Is it because he doesn't want other men to see her

Is it because he doesn't want her to get exposed

Is it because he doesn't want her to be westernised

You men should not allow insecurity affect your future establishment

Insecure OP, grow up! So the owner of a supermarket cannot decide to start sleeping with one of her customers? Or a full-time housewife cannot be sleeping with a neighbor. Again, grow up!

You have two options, don't marry at all or marry an Eleha. Nonsense! 'wife-friendly jobs' my foot!

Insecurity -----hypertension---- stroke ---/death.
The secluded wife will continue to fvck your brothers, cousins, colleagues and friends on top your grave...

When women kills, they dry even the bones.....

I don't support hundred percent that a woman should do corporate job, especially if she will be earning more than her husband. The consequences are multifaceted. It is either she loses respect for her husband or she blackmails him that he is irresponsible whenever he is broke and could not meet up with financial responsibility. She can also start cheating on the husband in that situation

If you like, lock up your wife in the house all day, make her use Nokia touch light and cut away friends and family, if she wants to cheat, she will still cheat.
Don't worry op, you will be fine.

This is bullshit.