cerpvad:
I don't support hundred percent that a woman should do corporate job, especially if she will be earning more than her husband. The consequences are multifaceted. It is either she loses respect for her husband or she blackmails him that he is irresponsible whenever he is broke and could not meet up with financial responsibility. She can also start cheating on the husband in that situation

Mister sexist, Alakija the billionaire is richer than your very existence, and she's still with her husband and very born again, speak only for the females y'all breed in your family.

How can you still be thinking like this when 2020 is just a few weeks away , no be only wife friendly na female friendly arindin

I swear na stupid boys full this platform. Need to stick to Reddit.

Honestly OP do whatever you feel is best for your own home. All these people calling you insecure and whatnot won't face the matter with you should your fears come true. It's not their homes that will break.

That said, remember your wife is an individual and not your property, don't go trying to cage her just because you're afraid. You lack trust in your wife. Sort out your trust issues.

theButterfly:
Insecure man. While you're at it why don't you also put a body camera on her so that you can be monitoring her movement when she goes out? Nonsense.

E PAIN AM OOOOOOOOO...




E PAIIN AMMMMMMMMMMMM!!!

Fountainofyouth:



Mister sexist, Alakija the billionaire is richer than your very existence, and she's still with her husband and very born again, speak only for the females y'all breed in your family.

I hope you won't raise your BP on these boys' issues....


They can so trigger you eh.

isthatso:


GBAM!! also the problem is most women are weak when it comes to financial inducements!!!

isthatso you are a wicked analysis

But all the same, no theory is enough and justifiable for men to cheat.

Teaching

XploreLife:
Vickydankal, Men are like marketers, they are persuasive in nature.

Women are buyers, they buy from the most convincing marketer.

Now when you are married. You have vowed loyalty to the marketer you got married to.

But the problem, other marketers will keep advertizing their products to you.

When you meet a better one, it will be hard to remain a loyal customer.

But for men, as long as you don't market your product, no one is buying except for the existing customer.

For men, the discipline is to stop marketing which is easier compared to women's which is to resist other badass marketers.

Oga marketer?

zeestone99:


No. I don't want you to cheat at all

I don't intend to.

Have you cheated before?
Do want to cheat?
If no one will find out, will you cheat?

vickydankal:
Supermarket
Freelancing
Manage osusu small scale
Blogging
Bitcoin etc

Any man who doesn't want his wife to work in a cooperate office is insecure

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Please define insecurity?

How can one's genuine concern about his relationship be buried on the altar of insecurity?

I never understand this "insecure" thing that people love to throw around casually.

/

isthatso:


there are some jobs that put women at risk of exploitation. Sales/marketing , any job that says business development or involves a woman chasing men for business or payment, account officer, bank workers with targets, contractors etc. If you have any of these jobs you will find it difficult to find a reasonable husband in Nigeria because we men know the kinds of hazards these women gets exposed to and no one wants that for his wife.

And yet we have women in those jobs who are happily married, pls buzz off.

vickydankal:


Oga marketer?

I'll be glad to answer that, provided you get the message passed across. Soft smile

isthatso:


GBAM!! also the problem is most women are weak when it comes to financial inducements!!!

You are very slow.....

eyinjuege:
It depends on what she wants to do.
What exactly are the husband's concerns about his wife working under someone? Hasn't he ever worked under anyone before?
Not everyone is cut out for running their own business and if she's happy doing an office job, why prevent her from doing that?

Modified:
I've just read more posts from OP and realise the only reason he doesn't want the wife to work outside the home is because he is scared of infidelity from the wife. Perhaps you should not bother getting married as there are housewives who also cheat.
Cheating these days is initiated through social media. Perhaps you should also take away her phone from her when you do marry her?
While at it, you can also take over the shopping in the home, as she can meet a lover in the market?
Her friends can even get her lovers outside, so why not remove her from all her friends and even family

tell him oooo

I see that feminists are already angry!

Truth is, men know what they want and to each his own.

Personally, I rather have a supermart for my wife or establish any business for her than have her work corporate job.

I don't want her harassed by any "boss" and at same time want her to have enough time for the kids at home.

Casemiro:



nice suggestions there..




You can keep saying insecure all you want, but Everyman to his own..


some men want women working in big organizations and offices, while some prefer them stay at home..



Stories flying up and down especially on Nairaland are enough to make such men not change their mind.



from colleague colleague,

they start something funny.

Before you know one thing has happened and the do done.



It's not insecurity on the part of such men,

they just don't want their wives to always be in an occasion of sin, where there would be much pressure..





no need trying to sound politically correct, we know what really happens inside life..



once again thanks for your suggestions.

that means you want to raise kids out of mediocrity.

InvertedHammer:

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Please define insecurity?

How can one's genuine concern about his relationship be buried on the altar of insecurity?

I never understand this "insecure" thing that people love to throw around casually.

/

Insecurity in men could clearly be seen but not limited to the following :
Consuming jealousy
Fear of losing your mate to another
Spying your wife
Excessive monitoring
Excessive control
Demanding explanation for every friendly greeting, sms, chat or call
Demanding access to your phone
Stop every outdoor activities especially with the opposite sex
Paranoia and disbelief as to your partner’s whereabouts
Constant reassurance
Fear of your wife's exposure
Fear of financial independence
Among others

Fountainofyouth:



And yet we have women in those jobs who are happily married, pls buzz off.

You can be only be happily married because 1) you are one of the very few women who are strong willed or 2) your husband is a fool who is none the wiser to what is really going on and the compromises you have had to make which you are not going to tell him about.

there is no need for a female married account officer to be visiting her male client in his house or hotel room and I have seen or heard of this happen many times.

Newsflash!!! many of these jobs I mentioned, the ladies are not hired because of their intellect but their ability to seduce men for business. it's a fact deal with it!!!

you want a respectable job as a wife, then your income or job security should not be dependent on bringing in business/clients.

best jobs for a wife, or to find a good husband are things like teaching, pharmacy, doctor, engineer, accountantacy or cash and carry businesses if she is self employed.

No sensible man will marry a woman in marketing FACT!!! And I am sure you want to marry a sensible man!!!

it is virtually impossible In Nigeria as a woman, to rise in those occupations without a solid backing without at some point (or regularly) having to compromise yourself. the kind of woman (maybe 5%) who can successfully navigate the male dominated world are usually the ones who are uncompromising/stressful at home. As a sensible man i dont need to put myself in that kind of wahala, women full ground without wahala.

Bosdem:
You can learn a trade I moved to Benin after marriage, couldn't get a good job, so I learnt catering after that I learnt a bit of printing. I work from home and go out from printing when my kids are in school. I have time for my family. Hope this helps.

Gbam! You will enjoy your marriage and kids... Plus less risk of conflicts in the home

XploreLife:


I'll be glad to answer that, provided you get the message passed across. Soft smile

The message is well taken and understood. If you are married, I hope you have closed down your marketing department. As all your products are on wholesale now exclusively to your one and only customer.

i am a man and i empowered my wife to grow her career. I dont get to see her, we take turns in looking after the kids. within few months my wife has made millions from working really hard and I am very proud. Sometimes it gets to her head but I use wisdom to reinforce my headship of the house. She has given me alot of money and I still carry out my responsibility.
What legacy would your wife pass to your children if she is at home all day?
You think you are smart but your kids will grow without sense of responsibility, always waiting on some miracle to bail them out, only book smart but not street smart.Even otedola's works 24hrs, do you think he is stupid?
What if you loose your job or biz?
if you like keep herin the house, she would cheat if she wants to.

Teaching

vickydankal:


Insecurity in men could clearly be seen but not limited to the following :
Consuming jealousy
Fear of losing your mate to another
Spying your wife
Excessive monitoring
Excessive control
Demanding explanation for every friendly greeting, sms, chat or call
Demanding access to your phone
Stop every outdoor activities especially with the opposite sex
Paranoia and disbelief as to your partner’s whereabouts
Constant reassurance
Fear of your wife's exposure
Fear of financial independence
Among others

I am not surprised about your mindset. Insecure ko, unsecure ni

TonyeBarcanista:

I am not surprised about your mindset. Insecure ko, unsecure ni

Mmmm I can imagine
With the selected and bolded from the list

It is BETTER to remain single as a lady than to marry a man who will LIMIT her. Even Teachers especially those doing home lessons close late, some even get home by 10pm+ due to traffic. Some Teachers do up to 4 home lessons after school to survive. I hope if your wife doesn't contribute much and ask you for everything including money to buy her pants and bras, you won't complain? If not for now, God forbid something happens to your enemy, how will she cope with work( being not used to it) this can force her into prostitution for quicker financial gain. Be sure your woman has FEAR OF GOD and TASTE so that she won't fall for any 'Dick and Harry'.

Day care center

vickydankal:


The message is well taken and understood. If you are married, I hope you have closed down your marketing department. As all your products are on wholesale now exclusively to your one and only customer.

I'm glad you get the point. Not married though but in a serious experiment. Wink

IAmStrange:
Getting a space somewhere around the house. Then she can:

sell puff puff and buns.. or akara
Or boli (roasted plantain) or agbado sisun (roasted maize)
or any other kind of food.
Or she can be polishing shoe and shoe cobbler things.. We hardly have any female around doing that so that make her outstanding which is a plus...
Or she can selling sweets and kuli kuli.. ehn ehn!!

so there you have it OP. which one do you like?

You yeye o... Chai

XploreLife:


I'm glad you get the point. Not married though but in a serious experiment. Wink

I pray the experiment works out good results

Casemiro:



nice suggestions there..




You can keep saying insecure all you want, but Everyman to his own..


some men want women working in big organizations and offices, while some prefer them stay at home..



Stories flying up and down especially on Nairaland are enough to make such men not change their mind.



from colleague colleague,

they start something funny.

Before you know one thing has happened and the do done.



It's not insecurity on the part of such men,

they just don't want their wives to always be in an occasion of sin, where there would be much pressure..





no need trying to sound politically correct, we know what really happens inside life..



once again thanks for your suggestions.

She can stay at home na so you can provide everything in the house , up to matches. Which support you de find?
Simple thing , if you want a stay at home wife please marry a woman without ambition. Don't marry a career lady and make her life miserable cos of your insecurities.

24kmagic:
Teaching job is the best for a wife.
She leaves 7am and comes back by 2:30pm

She can use 1hr to rest or sleep, after which she enters the kitchen and prepare something for the family.

During holidays, she will be at home all through.
Wives/mothers should be home anything 4PM, not all these nonsense Carrer ladies that will be having board meetings even as late as 6PM.
Having a teacher as a wife and mother is bae.
All ye NCE and B.Edu girls, I'm coming for you..


NB: Im talking about reputable or public schools, not all these 15k private school ooo.

Is it easy to get jobs in the public schools? You are in Nigeria o, my dear.