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homirefacuny:
Very well said my dear. Its a sad one really. Ideally at 35, some stuffs should be get done with, one of it is marriage. Enjoy the youth of your marriage, says the Holy book. Make God help us

Amen

eni4real:
Don't mind him jare..

I promise you.. I'll remain loyal even when I blow

Awwn! That's sweet
I love you

abdullkabar:
@Op try connecting more with people(start from there)
Firstly face your hustle
From your hustling while relating with people, you might just see your missing rib(lolz, I laughed after writing this)
Hopefully you still have a long way to go(don't deter)
Companionship comes with its own burden(but truly, sometimes its good to have someone to talk to)
Lastly, face reality
She might be playing you, so use brain when in one(not your heart)

The last sentence is not relevant for him..

He will surely use his heart in his first relationship.... It is a normal phenomenon!!!
It is the purest(most naive) experience ever!!!

Rukkydelta:
Awwn! That's sweet
I love you

You know that I love you always

SirLiquidGold:
I will go straight to the point. I'm 29years old and I have no girlfriend to call mine. Although when I was in school and during my NYSC some girls do give me attention but the moment we all did POP it was like the world changed for us all. I realized maybe I was too busy getting worried about the future than I should have had more time for women.

All along, my intention was to graduate, have a good job, then go into a serious relationship and get married but reality can be often disappointing.
It's rather unfortunate that no job is forthcoming since I finished service in December, 2017.

I'm very sure you would not believe it if tell you that I'm a virgin because I've never tasted sex all my live. Though i intend getting married at 30 and I've no job yet, I really feel like having a girl in my life now. I feel really lonely waking up alone everyday and hugging my pillow. It's as if nature is craving for what I ought to have had by now.

I need somebody that I can share my thought with, somebody I would be there for and also would be there for me. Guys I know you are wiser than I am, please advise me!!! Just yesterday night I came across a post on front page about "if money was delaying one from getting married and I am really worried

Bro, you don't need woman. Here's what I do:

Buy fleshlight: 6k
Mix nivea cream and pears baby oil for lube: 1k
Download porn: 6gb = 3k
Total 10k.

Thank me later

franchasng:
Lefu, you guys are getting the op all wrong honestly....this is a graduate who spent years in school studying hard to have a good life, now its been 2 years since he passed out from NYSC and no job, no foreseable one coming, future looks bleak while I am sure some of his mates are making it well and building their dream life, and you think such a man if sensible enough won't be depressed and worried of how to get out of his tight and sorry financial situation first to even think of getting a girlfriend

Those Okada, artisans, etc you mentioned have their life to live, some already concluded to live a financially miserable life, so to them, their current condition is their best, so they are living their best life financially and otherwise, so their confidence is in tact to woo any girl they fancy, but the op's confidence is dead due to his unexpected situation which life unexpectedly threw at him opposite to his wishes and dream while studying. so his case is far far different from those artisans you mentioned.

Every man need the confidence to attract or approach his desired woman, and most times, when your basic needs as a man is not met, your confidence will be zero, and that is the situation the op is in right now, and all he needs now is to focus on sorting himself out financially and not any girlfriend that will compound his life problems with unnecessary financial requests.

If he must date, let him go on foreign dating sites and look for foreign ladies who can help his financial situation while dating, that's my own opinion though.


The money a man needs is not to give to women but to solve his basic needs and make him develop confidence enough to attract or woo his desired women...

Though everybody differs, some men crave for alcohol, sex, and they chase women more when they are financially broke...that's when they become more sexually active, whereas some men dislike alcohol, women, and sex whenever they are financially down...I think the op belongs to that group of men, and it is very normal...it is the trait of most men who dream high and aim high in life.


All those broke, vision-less guys that consume alcohol and pursue women around have poor dream in life, they are happy and fulfilled with their sorry financial situation, and so they are very confident and happy in their sorry financial situation, and they may remain so forever or for long if help doesn't come their way from somewhere....but most reasonable men I know focus on improving their lives first before chasing women around or procreating children without plans but hoping for one rich relative or uncle or friend to help them train their kids

Tune-up the volume

your sperm go dey that 42.5 grade cement thickness. i wonder how u dey cope with conji or maybe u dey jo soapy.

Baba download Inmessage and at least get laid.

so you mean at 29 you never release sperm either into a condom or inside pusssy?that means If you release lasan he go full one drum o..

Bro,please kindly find a woman that can disvirgin you..It isnt a big deal you know..

Maldini205:
Hustle get money migrate abroad

Are you related to Paulo Maldini??
Why are you so intelligent??

Na true o.. . Hustle, save and Migrate!!! That's a nugget!!!

BabaRamota1980:
Hey dude, at 35, a man should already have two wives and with kids if everything went well. I understand things are not well in this Nigeria now, in fact things have never been well in Nigeria. Never! A man is blessed with certain elemental energies that is lacking in women. One of those is labour productivity and skill proficiency.

Unlike women, money is always within reach of a man but he has to employ his skill so the door can unlock for that money to drop into his hand.

Our psyche about social progress and our awareness of self has been greatly damaged by a society which places academic excellence next to God and positions self below book knowledge. Man must stand next to God. No other way. A man that puts book knowledge between himself and God will end becoming a great and knowledgeable person in the book but his self-knowledge is adversely diminished and utterly destroyed.

I will give you example. In USA, more than 80% of university graduates also have a handjob or artisan skill on the side. A barber, a mechanic, an electrician, construction worker, plumber, machinist, mason, painter, roofer, cook, baker, event planner....name it, they have it! The self is not ignored while learning book.

In our society we ignore everything and hug book. At the end of the day we forget to live. This is your case. While in camp girls were coming to you and showing interest, yet you remained a virgin. You neglected self.

When i did my NYSC girls ran away from me and the few ones I managed to bed came with great effort and convincing....but I left my mark!

My advice to you is rebirth yourself. Get a camera, learn photography and find a studio. Learn painting, plumbing, whatever you love to do...beside books. Leave books alone. Move yourself next to God immediately and books come after you. By this im not talking about prayer devotional worship or sleeping in Church, far from it. I meant be selfish with everything and everyone except God and yourself.

Get pussy. Good pussy! You are not too old for an 18yr old. Get good sweet pussy from an 18yr old. It will help reinvent your inner fire and pump up your manliness for self rediscovery. Dont get her pregnant, you dont need drama at moment.

Marriage will come later after your trade is well grounded and income is regular and steady.

When i was your age i was already 3yrs married and first baby on the way. I have added a second wife, and im not too far ahead from you in age. Matrimony is a school on its own, and women are the teachers. Any man that marries and hopes to teach his woman a lesson is kidding himself, after much confrontation he will end up dead or surrenders and become her student. God gave them that secret power, no man can take it from them.

I wish you luck bro....but please, break that virginity and start your journey to discovery. Live life, dont allow books to dim your divine power.

Whst kind of advice is this? Telling him to break his virginity He should break his virginity when he is married, abeg. He had waited since all these years. The years that remains to get married is far less than the years he has waited all these while being a virgin before marriage.

SirLiquidGold:
I will go straight to the point. I'm 29years old and I have no girlfriend to call mine. Although when I was in school and during my NYSC some girls do give me attention but the moment we all did POP it was like the world changed for us all. I realized maybe I was too busy getting worried about the future than I should have had more time for women.

All along, my intention was to graduate, have a good job, then go into a serious relationship and get married but reality can be often disappointing.
It's rather unfortunate that no job is forthcoming since I finished service in December, 2017.

I'm very sure you would not believe it if tell you that I'm a virgin because I've never tasted sex all my live. Though i intend getting married at 30 and I've no job yet, I really feel like having a girl in my life now. I feel really lonely waking up alone everyday and hugging my pillow. It's as if nature is craving for what I ought to have had by now.

I need somebody that I can share my thought with, somebody I would be there for and also would be there for me. Guys I know you are wiser than I am, please advise me!!! Just yesterday night I came across a post on front page about "if money was delaying one from getting married and I am really worried

You do not need a girl now, dear Sir.
I have come with my blunt yet sensible, practical advice.

You need to focus on getting on your feet— a job, a career, engaging the “works of your hands”. That responsibility is important.

I did mention here a while back that even Adam was working before God gave him Eve. He was a farmer, a horticulturist and was also engaged naming animals. That is why, I believe, the devil didn’t tempt him. He was very busy. He wasn’t idle.

If sex is your concern, then your argument of looking for a lady before a job is genuine. If being responsible is your primary concern, looking for a lady before getting a job/ career going is simply putting the cart before the horse.

Do not let anyone here deceive you on what should be your priorities at this moment. And it is not a lady.

I feel sorry for you.


@ 29 without a job and all you think of is putting your prick inside woman.. Men of nowadays ...

quickly:
man no dey tire for sex..one taste and u are hooked for life.

#fail. I have gone years repeatedly without laying a female. My last stint of involuntary celibacy lasted five full years. It is not a must to chase anything in a skirt. Having a taste will make him decide if he enjoys the activity or not.

Since you already identify your problem as "lack of good job"....then go look for a very good job.

I got disflower at 16yrs. 29yrs that's too long. na so you dey shy reach


as people have said, get job first so that you can have control in your relationship because the generation of our ladies obey to command when you've a stable income even if you've a lady that's working like you, some ladies won't tolerate an idle man



get job first while at that, put your eyes out but I begged you don't start with ajepako girl pls, make sure na someone that get financial background so that your first date won't be a weird experience

BabaRamota1980:
Hey dude, at 35, a man should already have two wives and with kids if everything went well. I understand things are not well in this Nigeria now, in fact things have never been well in Nigeria. Never! A man is blessed with certain elemental energies that is lacking in women. One of those is labour productivity and skill proficiency.

Unlike women, money is always within reach of a man but he has to employ his skill so the door can unlock for that money to drop into his hand.

Our psyche about social progress and our awareness of self has been greatly damaged by a society which places academic excellence next to God and positions self below book knowledge. Man must stand next to God. No other way. A man that puts book knowledge between himself and God will end becoming a great and knowledgeable person in the book but his self-knowledge is adversely diminished and utterly destroyed.

I will give you example. In USA, more than 80% of university graduates also have a handjob or artisan skill on the side. A barber, a mechanic, an electrician, construction worker, plumber, machinist, mason, painter, roofer, cook, baker, event planner....name it, they have it! The self is not ignored while learning book.

In our society we ignore everything and hug book. At the end of the day we forget to live. This is your case. While in camp girls were coming to you and showing interest, yet you remained a virgin. You neglected self.

When i did my NYSC girls ran away from me and the few ones I managed to bed came with great effort and convincing....but I left my mark!

My advice to you is rebirth yourself. Get a camera, learn photography and find a studio. Learn painting, plumbing, whatever you love to do...beside books. Leave books alone. Move yourself next to God immediately and books come after you. By this im not talking about prayer devotional worship or sleeping in Church, far from it. I meant be selfish with everything and everyone except God and yourself.

Get pussy. Good pussy! You are not too old for an 18yr old. Get good sweet pussy from an 18yr old. It will help reinvent your inner fire and pump up your manliness for self rediscovery. Dont get her pregnant, you dont need drama at moment.

Marriage will come later after your trade is well grounded and income is regular and steady.

When i was your age i was already 3yrs married and first baby on the way. I have added a second wife, and im not too far ahead from you in age. Matrimony is a school on its own, and women are the teachers. Any man that marries and hopes to teach his woman a lesson is kidding himself, after much confrontation he will end up dead or surrenders and become her student. God gave them that secret power, no man can take it from them.

I wish you luck bro....but please, break that virginity and start your journey to discovery. Live life, dont allow books to dim your divine power.

This guy is just enjoying his life as it please him... So you marry different different women I order to teach you different lessons about life?? 2 Wives= 2 Tutors

This one is strong!!!

SirLiquidGold:
I will go straight to the point. I'm 29years old and I have no girlfriend to call mine. Although when I was in school and during my NYSC some girls do give me attention but the moment we all did POP it was like the world changed for us all. I realized maybe I was too busy getting worried about the future than I should have had more time for women.

All along, my intention was to graduate, have a good job, then go into a serious relationship and get married but reality can be often disappointing.
It's rather unfortunate that no job is forthcoming since I finished service in December, 2017.

I'm very sure you would not believe it if tell you that I'm a virgin because I've never tasted sex all my live. Though i intend getting married at 30 and I've no job yet, I really feel like having a girl in my life now. I feel really lonely waking up alone everyday and hugging my pillow. It's as if nature is craving for what I ought to have had by now.

I need somebody that I can share my thought with, somebody I would be there for and also would be there for me. Guys I know you are wiser than I am, please advise me!!! Just yesterday night I came across a post on front page about "if money was delaying one from getting married and I am really worried

You are a very wicked broke guy. Why would you need a girlfriend when you've got no job?

Honestly, some comments are just annoying me here. So, because he doesn’t have a job or money, he cannot have a girlfriend. This really show the high sense of entitlement our ladies have. Must a guy give money to a girl in a relationship even when he truly doesn’t have? OP, yield to this advice: Look for a reasonable and a moral girl you truly have feelings for. Ask her out and let her know your financial status and leave the rest for her to decide to date you or not. If she doesn’t accept you and your financial state, look for another girl. Keep searching until you get a true soul mate. Don’t forget to hustle legitimately alongside. God will answer your prayers.

There's nothing to be ashamed of. Step up your efforts to get a good job. The sex that you crave for would soon become a tiring thing.

RexTramadol1:
Sex wey we don do com blame ourselves say Why I start this nonsense?

... because it is addictive!!!

franchasng:
You have a point but not entirely true.

Financial freedom gives a guy confidence, and it is your level of confidence as a man that increases your sex appeal to ladies.

He needs his confidence to attract or win his desired lady or ladies as the case may be.


When we talk about a guy focusing on making money and improving his financial life first before going after ladies, it is not for him to have money to be spending and squandering on ladies no, it is for his own good, to give him enough confidence and self esteem to attract or pursued his desired lady.

The op need to focus on improving his financial life so he can make good use of his little resources and abundant time to create wealth.

Bravo!

My brother life is a chance. Am 35years compl to ur age 29years.. No girlfriend no baby but i feel free in everything i do

franchasng:
Lefu, you guys are getting the op all wrong honestly....this is a graduate who spent years in school studying hard to have a good life, now its been 2 years since he passed out from NYSC and no job, no foreseable one coming, future looks bleak while I am sure some of his mates are making it well and building their dream life, and you think such a man if sensible enough won't be depressed and worried of how to get out of his tight and sorry financial situation first to even think of getting a girlfriend

Those Okada, artisans, etc you mentioned have their life to live, some already concluded to live a financially miserable life, so to them, their current condition is their best, so they are living their best life financially and otherwise, so their confidence is in tact to woo any girl they fancy, but the op's confidence is dead due to his unexpected situation which life unexpectedly threw at him opposite to his wishes and dream while studying. so his case is far far different from those artisans you mentioned.

Every man need confidence to attract or approach his desired woman, and most times, when your basic needs as a man is not met, your confidence will be zero, and that is the situation the op is in right now, and all he needs now is to focus on sorting himself out financially and not any girlfriend that will compound his life problems with unnecessary financial requests.

If he must date, let him go on foreign dating sites and look for foreign ladies who can help his financial situation while dating, that's my own opinion though.


The money a man needs is not to give to women but to solve his basic needs and make him develop confidence enough to attract or woo his desired women...

Though everybody differs, some men crave for alcohol, sex, and they chase women more when they are financially broke...that's when they become more sexually active, whereas some men dislike alcohol, women and sex whenever they are financially down....I think the op belongs to that group of men, and it is very normal...it is the trait of most men who dream high and aim high in life.


All those broke, vision-less guys that consume alcohol and pursue women around have poor dream in life, they are happy and fulfilled with their sorry financial situation, and so they are very confident and happy in their sorry financial situation, and they may remain so forever or for long if help doesn't come their way from somewhere....but most reasonable men I know focus on improving their lives first before chasing women around or procreating children without plans but hoping for one rich relative or uncle or friend to help them train their kids

some even borrow money to marry.

Op I don't know if this quote will be of help to you.unsuccessful men run after women,while women run after successful men,why can't men run after success so that women can run after them.

truthsayer009:
BRO I owe you a carton of Smirnoff ICE for this your comment, any time you see me, whether in Abuja or Lagos, just come & collect it.

I have tried to reply people on this thread about 3 times, I just cancelled out the whole comment, there is no point. A lot of people are living in a bubble

That is because they are ignorant and desire to continue being so. I have seen things and I keep emphasizing it, young men should focus on their business/career/education/craft or anything that provides a source of income instead of focusing on getting a girlfriend. If he does not get a girlfriend, will he die? Talking about finishing with top grades, I did finish with one and never had a GF in school because it was pointless as most of these girls wish to marry immediately after school. With women being hypergamous (something I have discovered that most young Nigerian males don't know and have not come to terms with), it makes no sense to follow woman upandown when the financial resources aren't available.

I recommend three ideas to SirLiquidGold:

- At your age, unfortunately, you are way above the age requirements for most good jobs regardless of your spectacular grades (assuming you had them). So, I implore you learn coding/programming for a year and use the experience to get something meaningful doing. Why the software industry? It is because it is egalitarian; no one cares about your age, your grade, what you and where you studied. What everyone cares about is: can you do the job?

- If you have the passion for further education, write the GRE. Unfortunately, you are broke but if that is your dream (to be a top academic player), then try applying for scholarships and hustle to raise funds for the GRE. Hopefully, you studied a STEM course.

- For your good, don't impregnate a girl. I reiterate, no give girl belly. If you do it at this stage of your life, you will regret it and the child will hate you. Even me sef will loathe you because the last thing I want for Nigeria is having foolish people procreate especially when they know their condition.

NuissancePolice:
Bro, you don't need woman. Here's what I do:

Buy fleshlight: 6k
Mix nivea cream and pears baby oil for lube: 1k
Download porn: 6gb = 3k
Total 10k.

Thank me later

Op don't listen to him..

This is advanced masturbation!!! Very addictive and destructive!!!

Vado:
Baba download Inmessage and at least get laid.

Inmessage ko, Codedruns ni.. .

OP don't listen to him...

Focus on your Hustle..

It is better to be in a stable relationship at the right time than carry girls that will give you addictive sex!!

Girl in life, see person priority.

Bro! U should count yourself lucky. No doubt!