crackhaus:
Ujujoan2 I see you, talk na.

What do you want me to say na? My girls already know that fashion is pain. They also know they can have their hair shaved anytime they like, it's up to them.

I was on low cut up untill my university days. Even now I still cut my hair from time to time. It's my choice and decision, so I let them decide too.

That being said, that snake-like weave they are putting on that little girl in the pix above is just pure torture. Eww!

1Sharon:



Styling hair should never hurt. You are wrong.

Styling hair can hurt children, unless you are not going to comb it. No matter how much you moisturise the hair to soften it, it will hurt unless it's chemically treated hair.
Don't forget children are not adults, and the pain you can bear combing your thick 4c hair will not be borne by the child.
Perhaps from the age of 13 years when they know about no pain, no gain and the struggles associated with beauty before the pain of braiding or combing hair will mean nothing.

eyinjuege:


Styling hair can hurt children, unless you are not going to comb it. No matter how much you moisturise the hair to soften it, it will hurt unless it's chemically treated hair.
Don't forget children are not adults, and the pain you can bear combing your thick 4c hair will not be borne by the child.
Perhaps from the age of 13 years when they know about no pain, no gain and the struggles associated with beauty before the pain of braiding or combing hair will men nothing.

They might feel some discomfort yes, but they should never feel pain.

Speak for yourself, I feel no pain when combing my hair. Pain shows you're doing something wrong.

fieryy:


The style in the second picture is very much realistic regardless of hair texture and pain is not sth. that should be felt at all, while braiding or even combing your hair. A lot of Nigerian hair dressers are too rough with hair.

In addition to what the op said, edges should be braided and cornrows etc shouldn't be too tight

Braided edges always end up falling off. Edges do not need to be braided, from the weight and pressure on it. They are usually fine baby hairs

OK o, we have heard

Wow

That is why I prefer natural hair for kids

They won't listen.

1Sharon:


They might feel some discomfort yes, but they should never feel pain.

Speak for yourself, I feel no pain when combing my hair. Pain shows you're doing something wrong.

Yes, I am speaking for myself, as you have spoken for yourself.
I don't have chemically treated 4C hair, and neither do my kids.
So combing it is always a challenge no matter the amount of conditioner you put before washing, after washing- during steaming (not heated steaming but just put shower cap with your treatment over 30minutes) and even during styling. Its always painful, perhaps a bit exaggerated in some children because just touching the hair with your fingers, without even trying to braid it will make them start shouting. This isn't just my experience, butvalso for many mothers with female children.
Comparing shaving a boy's hair to plaiting a girl's hair is a wrong comparison btw OP. You don't pull the scalp while shaving

I totally agree with the post. This should go to some schools in Lagos. I know of some schools in Lagos that actually dictates hairstyles for students every freaking week....kilode!!! Every week new style, na that go make them get distinction? Its too much, such practice that have been in place since the 80s should have been stopped, but governments are focused on more mundane things

computergeek:
She should never go throw any pain at all until she's old enough to decide that she wants to do it.

And by old enough, I mean 18.

even if you want to cut the hair she will still cry. sometimes both parents have to hold her before the Barber will be able to cut the hair

eyinjuege:


Yes, I am speaking for myself, as you have spoken for yourself.
I don't have chemically treated 4C hair, and neither do my kids.
So combing it is always a challenge no matter the amount of conditioner you put before washing, after washing- during steaming (not heated steaming but just put shower cap with your treatment over 30minutes) and even during styling. Its always painful, perhaps a bit exaggerated in some children because just touching the hair with your fingers, without even trying to braid it will make them start shouting. This isn't just my experience, butvalso for many mothers with female children.
Comparing shaving a boy's hair to plaiting a girl's hair is a wrong comparison btw OP. You don't pull the scalp while shaving

You're supposed to use hair moisturizer and leave in conditioner

Remember the first and last time I tried braiding my hair......when men were boys, had to "undo" the deed first thing in the morning. Night rest was horrible!

fieryy:


All textures can sustain a daily maintenance of a bun. I used mine as an example, but all you had to say was 'That's your hair'. Buns are one of the easiest low maintenance hair styles, especially for natural hair

i disagree. Not all textures are substianable for daily bun maintenance. The stress of having to style everyday and make it into a bun is more compared to just making it into braids once in a week.So why not braid it once a week insead of going through the trouble every single day to style it?

computergeek:
Why do we have to teach little girls to go through unbearable pain for so-called beauty even when they are only a few months old?


I get so upset each time I see a little girl crying for hours unending at the salon while they pull, poke and prod her hair. The moms would actually be the ones holding the girls down while the hairdressers harden their hearts to the children's tears. I always wonder, what exactly are you trying to achieve by putting your child through so much pain just to have her sporting a few awkward-looking weaves? Since she's not old enough to decide that this is what she wants, she shouldn't be stressed and hurt just to look pretty. Are they looking for suitors? Do they have to start so early to stress to impress?


With her natural hair, well-oiled, combed and packed nicely into buns or tails, she'll still be the beautiful princess you gave birth to. I really hate children being put through any sort of skin pain. When my son was a baby, he was fussy about getting his hair cut, so much that we used to wait till he was deeply asleep before clipping his hair. Sometimes we'd only manage to go halfway, but we'll leave it like that until he sleeps again.


How do fathers permit this? When we were growing up, my dad would personally insist on the hairdresser coming to our place to braid so he could sternly warn her to go easy on our heads. When he saw that we still cried regardless, he had them cut off all our hair . We hated it then, but at least the gut-wrenching crying stopped.

Some little girls would be sick for days from the tight, skin-breaking braids their mothers would allow someone to put on their heads.

I remember a day I was getting a manicure at the salon, a little girl whose mom had dropped her off was getting hair done at the corner. She cried so much that after a while, there were no tears left to shed. Her irresponsible mother came back after a while and said, "Obego nke izizi?" As in, "Has she cried the first round?"

Just imagine.

Mothers please, this festive period, if your daughter hasn't been tortured yet, kindly look for something that won't cause her any pain and have them style her hair with it (shown in the second photo). She's beautiful however she looks. You're not in a competition with anybody to have the finest child. That's how they'll grow up to believe that they can never be beautiful without weaves and braids.

I totally disagree with your u, plaiting of hair at tender age is good for a girl child, because it prepares the child for the challenges that is attached to the future especially pains during labour. In my culture it is assume that a female who cannot bear the pains of plaiting can't as well bear the pain of labour. Thanks

eyinjuege:


Braided edges always end up falling off. Edges do not need to be braided, from the weight and pressure on it. They are usually fine baby hairs

Sorry, that was a typo. Edges should of course not be braided

So I remember when i was quite young. Mum asked me to go make my hair with her friend because we had an occasion the next day. When I came back, she noticed my forehead was illuminating. I was obviously in pain. She asked me to sit and slowly loosened everything. The next morning, she used gel to style it her way and off we went. If I'm too busy to make my daughters hair, I give the hairdresser specific instructions. I don't want it to hurt her, even if it gets rough sooner than later, I actually wouldn't mind. Don't just hurt the little girl.!

My father made my mom loosen the entire braided hair many times .He didnt care about the time and cost.
If I had my neck like tolotolo and in tears he made them take it down immediately.
Thanks dad

No daughter of mine will go through such pain all in the name of hair making.. Will braid it myself since I'm a stylist myself
Honestly speaking, even as old as I am, I still feel pains when braiding my hair not to talk of little angels. Mothers should let the cute bunnies grow up and decide what they really want to do with their hair.

PeacenLove2:


Some hair textures na die o. No comb fit run through them. If you like put all the grease inside jar. Seriously speaking some people have very soft scalp that cannot be put to the torture of daily styling. The best option is weave or braid to last a week or two cos even with low cut, running combs through them every day is still a menace, unless you want to he visiting barber weekly to make it very low.

Just make sure you find a good hairdresser who is used to making children's hair. Some hands have that magical touch, just do well to remind them to be easy on your LO.

Grease is NOT a moisturiser. Besides, the mistake most of you make is you seal on dry hair and expect the non existent moisture to sink in.

UjuJoan2:


What do you want me to say na? My girls already know that fashion is pain. They also know they can have their hair shaved anytime they like, it's up to them.

I was on low cut up untill my university days. Even now I still cut my hair from time to time. It's my choice and decision, so I let them decide too.

That being said, that snake-like weave they are putting on that little girl in the pix above is just pure torture. Eww!

Lol, na you teach dem that one abi
Hope you don't wear body shapers in the name of torturous fashion?

Just do what works for you. What is torture for one person is simply an inconvenience for others. We all have different pain tolerance levels. It's up to the parent to make the judgment call.

EMMNIG:

I totally disagree with your u, plaiting of hair at tender age is good for a girl child, because it prepares the child for the challenges that is attached to the future especially pains during labour. In my culture it is assume that a female who cannot bear the pains of plaiting can't as well bear the pain of labour. Thanks

This is very wicked.
Why not whip her with koboko periodically to prepare her for pain of childbirth.
What a wicked culture that is
Ever heard of epidural. This is 21st century

eyinjuege:


Yes, I am speaking for myself, as you have spoken for yourself.
I don't have chemically treated 4C hair, and neither do my kids.
So combing it is always a challenge no matter the amount of conditioner you put before washing, after washing- during steaming (not heated steaming but just put shower cap with your treatment over 30minutes) and even during styling. Its always painful, perhaps a bit exaggerated in some children because just touching the hair with your fingers, without even trying to braid it will make them start shouting. This isn't just my experience, butvalso for many mothers with female children.
Comparing shaving a boy's hair to plaiting a girl's hair is a wrong comparison btw OP. You don't pull the scalp while shaving

You're supposed to add a leave in on damp hair before combing and comb from the ends to the roots to gently remove any knots in the way.

fieryy:


Water, leave in and oil is all what you need. I packed my hair in a bun/puff almost everyday last year. The daily styling itself took me ca. 5 mins. What had really been time consuming was the weekly washing and conditioning

Please speak for yourself. People use that and still have hard hair.

How do fathers permit this? When we were growing up, my dad would personally insist on the hairdresser coming to our place to braid so he could sternly warn her to go easy on our heads. When he saw that we still cried regardless, he had them cut off all our hair grin. We hated it then, but at least the gut-wrenching crying stopped.

What concerns fathers in this matter, were they females in their past lives?

Females are physically weak. When I grew hair I made sure to tell the hairdresser to tighten those braids so I could feel what women always complain about. Alas she did to the best of her ability and I never experienced headaches and pains of any sort. You want to experience pain? Let your mother comb your kinky hair as a six year old. That is one pain I’m surprised never happens as a grown man. Wait, it does sometimes but is bearable.

Another thing I’m sure men can do better is pregnancy. Females make a lot of noise about it. I’m sure if science finds a way for men to carry the child they’ll do it so good women will go green with envy as usual.

computergeek:
She should never go throw any pain at all until she's old enough to decide that she wants to do it.

And by old enough, I mean 18.

It's not for you to tell others what pain they should go through or what age that should be. That's a personal choice. It's the parents' judgment call.

Their excuse has always been the poor girl's appreciation for the beauty of the hair.

Depends on the style, any style that touches the edges is a NOO! Sadly, that is the type they always make these kids.

Very mature hair styles! Gosh! I hate it ehn.

Anyway, I get doitforyou's argument. A Nigerian mother has a very tight schedule, you don't wanna add daily styling from an uncooperative kid to it. When I have my baby girl (who would definitely look like me) - I will be making her that fulani hairstyle. The one that starts from the center and falls round the head. E no go pass 10, we would count it

fieryy:


You're supposed to add a leave in on damp hair before combing and comb from the ends to the roots to gently remove any knots in the way.

I do all that and my hair is still hard. So speak for only yourself.

fieryy:


Water, leave in and oil is all what you need. I packed my hair in a bun/puff almost everyday last year. The daily styling itself took me ca. 5 mins. What had really been time consuming was the weekly washing and conditioning

I’m not a 4a or 4c .
I do know quit a lot of 4s around me and I see the constant struggle they had to go through in other to put their maine together .
Just because you are able to “fix” yours in 5 min(you’re most likely an adult) doesn’t mean a working mother with kids will want to constantly manipulate her kiddos hair everyday .
She can decide to let her kids wear Cornrows just to save time .