Biglittlelois:



Not all, probably the ones around you.

Biglittlelois:



That picture you showed was pulled, can't you see the front of her hair is almost gone, due to pulling, whether tightly or not?

BlackPantherCri:


I started when she was 18 months. Now she's the real MVP

eyinjuege:


They're nice products, and they do help with shedding as they make your hair well conditioned. However, there is still some pain. The only one time my children didn't complain of pain while plaiting their hair was when I used a flat iron to straighten it. That was years ago. It was so easy plaiting it afterwards, but using the flat iron again was a problem as you have to comb it before straightening. You really can't win.

ireneidiva:

Use my common sense? The picture looks like an African baby's hair fluffed out with fingers? Okay

1Sharon:


You missed my point. A friend of mine in Nigeria gets asked if she is mixed race cos her hair is longer than Nigerian standards.

That's a stupid question cos blk ppl can grow long hair if only we'd love it. They don't need to be mixed.

Neither is it due to climate or whateve excuse you have

fieryy:


All textures can sustain a daily maintenance of a bun. I used mine as an example, but all you had to say was 'That's your hair'. Buns are one of the easiest low maintenance hair styles, especially for natural hair

midnighter:


If it won't affect her self-esteem. If that's what she would like you to do.

After all, the hair will still grow again in a few weeks and she might have changed her mind by then.

But telling everybody to do that just because you think everybody must be like your child is nonsensical.

sassysure:

The one around me?
U know Chris rock's hair documentary?
I listened to his interview on BBC radio.
He said
Nigerian women tops the scale of women around the wold who spend the highest on hairdo.
So don't tell me shit about the one around me.

The way our men uses money, cars or houses to pose and feel on top of the world is the way we use hair to determine class. When u see a fellow woman, the first thing u look at is her hair, so stop.
It's a cankerworm else why will we be subjecting small children to constant pain if not to show off?
What happened to shaving everything off until they reach the age, they can be able to endure the pain?

eyinjuege:


People grow hair. But don't forget the genetic part of hair growth. No matter how much you look after your hair, your genes also play a major role. The most major role tbh.
In hair loss/shedding, in hair growth don't ever forget the genetic component.
All the American youtube channels always conveniently
forget to mention this in their pro-black wokeness. Just saying...

eyinjuege:

I will post pictures of some of my normal orders online. This is different from the ones I go personally to buy in the shops o. I'm to lazy to go to where those ones are. These I screen shot from my Amazon orders

sassysure:

I was on natural hair for most of my life before I started locking it.
And my hair so stubborn and thick. I met a natural hair expert who guided me on how to handle my wild hair.

U see, we don't have beauty professionals who are experts on natural hair.
Also I noticed that the natural hair products in Nigerian markets are foreign. We assume it's not manageable but if we use the money we spend on artificial and hours of braiding to do the right thing for our natural.hair, we will find out that our hair is indeed beautiful.

DMerciful:
Are you in Surrey?

Biglittlelois:



So Chris Rock's hair documentary is the basis to use to generalise Nigerians right? A documentary showing how many Nigerian women, out of the remaining millions? Lol

As much as this is a thread on kids, you cannot force your idea of shaving every females kids hair on every mother, and the pain y'all are venting about isn't all through their lifetime, just a day or two, max, and it not only a Nigerian thing.

eyinjuege:


They're nice products, and they do help with shedding as they make your hair well conditioned. However, there is still some pain. The only one time my children didn't complain of pain while plaiting their hair was when I used a flat iron to straighten it. That was years ago. It was so easy plaiting it afterwards, but using the flat iron again was a problem as you have to comb it before straightening. You really can't win.

Surrey2Bimshire:


Yes I am .

Are you familiar with Surrey ?

sassysure:

What do these children know about self esteem.
We impose these things on them and it became the norm.

I didn't do my hair as a kid and that didn't stop me from playing and running around.
It's the new modern Nigerian woman standard.

Instead of not plaiting their girls hairs, they rather not plait theirs.

Has nothing to do with the child but her mother.

Allow a child to be a child. She will grow and do all he hair styles in this world. But the Nigerian materialistic factor and show off won't allow us.

Biglittlelois:



So Chris Rock's hair documentary is the basis to use to generalise Nigerians right? A documentary showing how many Nigerian women, out of the remaining millions? Lol

As much as this is a thread on kids, you cannot force your idea of shaving every females kids hair on every mother, and the pain y'all are venting about isn't all through their lifetime, just a day or two, max, and it not only a Nigerian thing.

1Sharon:


I know. But nigerian women don't even give their hair a chance to determine if its genetic or not?

Their self hate has been imbibed from a young age.

computergeek:
The write-up isn't about style or unstyled. Cornrows can be done without pain for school.

No one is judging anyone, the point is that no responsible mom should sit and watch her daughter endure pain for hours to look stylish with these over-do hairstyles.

It has no go-around. No justification for letting your daughter cry and fall sick because of hair.


Shave the darned thing off till she's grown up.

DMerciful:
I'm in Surrey. Greenway drive area

1Sharon:


I know. But nigerian women don't even give their hair a chance to determine if its genetic or not?

Their self hate has been imbibed from a young age.

eyinjuege:


Pls, I've posted some of the products we use. I always use live in conditioner and good products for African hair. I wash with shampoo and conditioner specifically for natural hair- jamaican castor oil (I've tried others, but they were not better than the jamaican castor oil products). After washing, i apply my masque and put shower cap for at least 30minutes to 1 hour before washing off the masque. Then , I apply leave in conditioner.
Afterwards, I use a detangling brush to comb out their hair. Before I start putting oils.
Yet, it's still shouts upon shout, just to wash hair lasan and we've not started plaiting o.

Pics of my disposable shower caps.
Btw, I'm also subscribed to several natural hair channels on instagram and YouTube, to show you that we mean business o.

Surrey2Bimshire:


Oh yeah , I’m from Redhill

You’re like 20 minutes away from redhill

Surrey2Bimshire:


It’s somewhat difficult posting pictures .

Try this blow dryer it’s works like Magic

DMerciful:
Seems we also have Surrey in UK. I'm actually in the one in British Columbia, Canada

Ryan03:
mehn! You just need to shut up now. I hate when people argue blindly

midnighter:


that's colonisation for you. There's also a "Lagos" in Portugal!

eyinjuege:


The purpose of this thread is about not plaiting/braiding children's hair because it's too painful
Not about self hate or wearing weaves and some obviously ridiculous hair pieces . That would be another long topic on it's own. I think the thread has being derailed
Many mothers plait their children's hair, not out of self hate. Our foremothers have been plaiting hair since time immemorial. That has always been our culture, and never about self hate. That is what makes us who we are. If we're not threading our hair, we're plaiting it or even using extensions and ornaments.. They used shea butter in those days, and still managed to have long hair, while some cannot just grow their hair.
I think Chad people use chebe powder which worked well for them too as many have very long hair. However, that's where your genetics also come into play again. Fulani people have always had fine long hair (fine in the sense that it's smooth and straight) probably types 2 hair type. It's still their genetics and they are Africans too.

DMerciful:
Seems we also have Surrey in UK. I'm actually in the one in British Columbia, Canada