Ladycewhy:
for me its every body o,no matter how gentle. This year i only did my hair twice and it was out of necessity.So i can understand some children are like that too. My only anger is when parents refuse to realize their child is very sensitive to making hair and still let it continue.

Lol your own must be bad at least you can empathise with all the little princesses out there.

Yes, I think that's more of a wider cultural point about the way we see things. Parents are sometimes unable to engage with a child's individual quirks because they think it means they must be "spoiling" them.

Its the same reason parents indiscriminately beat their children when some kids respond better to a stern warning or explanation than flogging.

fieryy:


I get this every single time after a 'Is this all your hair'. I'm not doing anything special, I just know what to do

how much ?

Ryan03:
speak for yourself abeg, if it works for you fine, leave others alone. Which kind busy body be this? Na by force?

Pepper body... Why you so upset, little boy?

midnighter:


This is a big problem in our community. Since the natural hair movement started there has been backlash because people can be very inconsiderate.

I'm natural too but I try not to preach to people because it's a complex issue and everybodys experience has been different.

I totally agree with you , everyone’s discovering themselves differently .

Virtue signaling... Police your own family and the ones that depend on you and afterwards mind your own freaking business. Who gave Op the right to be the judge of responsible parenting. Until someone craze for una finish with real physical repercussions before una stop to dey try to force una ideas onto people, before na so so a real man is not bla bla bla, come you be man ? How do you know what a man is let alone a real man.

That your papa wey dey seat down monitor hairdresser sef, he really get as e be.

pocohantas:
Depends on the style, any style that touches the edges is a NOO! Sadly, that is the type they always make these kids.

Very mature hair styles! Gosh! I hate it ehn.

Anyway, I get doitforyou's argument. A Nigerian mother has a very tight schedule, you don't wanna add daily styling from an uncooperative kid to it. When I have my baby girl (who would definitely look like me) - I will be making her that fulani hairstyle. The one that starts from the center and falls round the head. E no go pass 10, we would count it

poco, you think that one is "painless" abi? Obviously not

Na was.
My daughter just finish her now and the time is 7:40pm. I nor fix talk ooo,women and their wahala. Christmas na one day.

computergeek:
Pepper body... Why you so upset, little boy?

little girl that knows nothing about being a mother trying to force mothers to do things her way. Go born your own

computergeek:
With her natural hair, well-oiled, combed and packed nicely into buns or tails, she'll still be the beautiful princess you gave birth to

Fully agree with your post. However, even these buns will need daily combing... which isn't exactly pain-free. Better than the headache-inducing braids, etc. but ideally short cut would be best, then only daily ude and a small comb needed.

midnighter:


Lol your own must be bad at least you can empathise with all the little princesses out there.

Yes, I think that's more of a wider cultural point about the way we see things. Parents are sometimes unable to engage with a child's individual quirks because they think it means they must be "spoiling" them.

Its the same reason parents indiscriminately beat their children when some kids respond better to a stern warning or explanation than flogging.

Its that bad,lol ,me and my tender scalp.

The bottom line is mothers should know the temperament level of their kids. I have seen mothers say "that is how she always cries when making her hair" well may that child is probably like me with tender scalp. Cut it off simple.

computergeek:
People like you are the reason why this forum no dey sweet.

So you can't make your dumb comment without being rude or insulting anyone??

Na your type go gree make your daughter sidown for 7 hours in the same of braiding hair.

Don't bother quoting again cos I can't reply a kid.

this one is obviously an illiterate who don't know what an insult is. I will quote you and nairaland won't shut down so sit down and be humble

1Sharon:


Both should never hurt.

are you sure you are Nigerian?

1Sharon:


Is this hair hard enough for you?

I don't know about the braiding but Nigerians should stop putting attachments in their daughter hair before they even have a chance in life

Nigerian women will never stop that.
Over their dead body

1Sharon:


How about this?

And yes, your kids hair can be as long as theirs too if only you would love it.

d girls are beautiful but I think u are wrong. dose girls are not Africans I think dey are Americans. oyibo weather make thier hair to be very soft weda black or white cos of thier cold.most naija and African girl got short hairs

1Sharon:


So you don't have to do alot for these styles:

lemme ask you, did the mother of this child just comb and park this child's hair till it got to this length? And that hair base looks treated

Ladycewhy:
Its that bad,lol ,me and my tender scalp.

The bottom line is mothers should know the temperament level of their kids. I have seen mothers say "that is how she always cries when making her hair" well may that child is probably like me with tender scalp. Cut it off simple.

Yes o, if it would give them relief and not affect their self-esteem.

Ryan03:
little girl that knows nothing about being a mother trying to force mothers to do things her way. Go born your own

dis is woman topic so be guided.say ur mind and get lost instead of insulting pple

1Sharon:


Is this hair hard enough for you?

I don't know about the braiding but Nigerians should stop putting attachments in their daughter hair before they even have a chance in life

Who is talking about hard? We are talking about the process, making buns is stressful for natural kids hair, the process of combing tough hair, to tie the hair into two buns will also be a lot of pain for the kid, talk more of doing it everyday, so what is the difference with braids? Or dont you see how tight the edges is? Won't the child feel discomfort and pains at first? What has braiding got to do with having a chance in life

tot:


As long as you are not the parent, it's not your business. Sorry.

If you applied the sense you claim to have, you would know what is considered unnecessary pain is completely subjective.

How does the comment relate to killing a child? What does that have to do with the point made?

lwkmd

ykalhaji:
Virtue signaling... Police your own family and the ones that depend on you and afterwards mind your own freaking business. Who gave Op the right to be the judge of responsible parenting. Until someone craze for una finish with real physical repercussions before una stop to dey try to force una ideas onto people, before na so so a real man is not bla bla bla, come you be man ? How do you know what a man is let alone a real man.

That your papa wey dey seat down monitor hairdresser sef, he really get as e be.

Erm... I think it's everyone's business to decide whether it's OK to inflict pain on a child for some reason.
Permit me some examples:

Some individuals pointed out that painfully scarring a child's face with identification marks was not the best thing. Most people thought it was OK at some point in the past, but it's people like the OP who can cause change. Same with twins being left to die in the forest.

As society we still cause boys pain when we circumcise... but society feels the benefits (easier cleaning, apart from the religious reasons) still outweighs the temporary discomfort that most boys don't even remember. However, female genital mutilation is being seen as a bad thing (which I agree).

People used to think nothing of beating a child with plank because of "spare the rod, spoil the child...", yet we are gradually understanding that there are better ways to discipline a child, and the only thing you teach a child by beating is that violence is an OK way to solve problems.

I'm reaching, and going to extremes to prove a point, but please don't think I'm equating facial scarification with braiding hair in terms of permanence, damage, pain, etc, or equating death of twins with circumcision. Just don't lose my message that it's the voice of people like OP that can cause people to rethink why we do things, and change if we feel that the ends do not justify the means.

Ryan03:
little girl that knows nothing about being a mother trying to force mothers to do things her way. Go born your own

I didn't know you can't read. If you had read my post completely you wouldn't have made this comment. Na why your mates dey hustle you dey here dey talk about girls' hair on NL. Because you can't read a short post completely. Shame.

Taraj01:
Gone are the days of those Old women's.
Once she opens her laps and put your head within and pit it, mehn, your head will never be yours again till she finish the plating.
Even you that escort your sister to the place go dey one side dey pity and cry for her.

Hahahaha

jakandeola:
d girls are beautiful but I think u are wrong. dose girls are not Africans I think dey are Americans. oyibo weather make thier hair to be very soft weda black or white cos of thier cold.most naija and African girl got short hairs

Lol what? It's cold weather that damages hair the most.

People here have short hair because of styles and techniques that damage their hair and bad maintenance.

That's not to talk of nutrition. How will the hair grow on insufficient nutrients or bad diet?

Ladycewhy:
Its that bad,lol ,me and my tender scalp.

The bottom line is mothers should know the temperament level of their kids. I have seen mothers say "that is how she always cries when making her hair" well may that child is probably like me with tender scalp. Cut it off simple.

The pain is out of this world.
U need to see these children crying.
All in the name of beauty.
Kudos to them

jakandeola:
dis is woman topic so be guided.say ur mind and get lost instead of insulting pple

It's not a "woman's" topic. Anybody interested can have a say, don't talk out of ignorance.

It's good to see a man interested in the grooming habits of his daughter and plus that guy is a hairdresser

tot:


Logical thinking is clearly a struggle for you.
Cos I don't understand how choosing to plait a child's hair = hurting them for your satisfaction.

Find someone else to quote / engage with abeg, I can't be wasting my time.

that Lady is not normal

PeacenLove2:


Oops, didn't ask for the advice either. Save the pleasantries for those who need actually need your advice.

Very well then “

fieryy:


Kuku kill the child nau. Shebi it's yours

abeg shut up and find somewhere hide

computergeek:
She should never go throw any pain at all until she's old enough to decide that she wants to do it.

And by old enough, I mean 18.

Your comments all over the thread are about maintenance. While maintaining buns and tails can be hard sometimes, it's better to use all that money you'll spend on attachments and paying hairdressers to buy good conditioners and Shea butter that will soften the stubbornest hair types, so it can combed easily. I have a friend who styles her two daughters' buns in less than ten minutes.


Even cornrows and simple Bob Marley can be done without pulling the girl so much.

There's no excuse for causing a little girl any pain. No excuse at all.

Aunty. Schools in naija pick weaving hair styles for kids. Pack bun to school and they will speak grammar for you. We all went thru d pain, we survive am. It's generational abeg. They will get over it

jakandeola:
d girls are beautiful but I think u are wrong. dose girls are not Africans I think dey are Americans. oyibo weather make thier hair to be very soft weda black or white cos of thier cold.most naija and African girl got short hairs

Oyibo weather makes hair soft?
When I thought I have seen it all

midnighter:


Lol what? It's cold weather that damages hair the most.

People here have short hair because of styles and techniques that damage their hair and bad maintenance.

That's not to talk of nutrition. How will the hair grow on insufficient nutrients or bad diet?

hahaha I think u are wrong u cant compare our weather to oyibo own. did u know d sun most times melt our hair? cold weather can Neva damage d air thier weather is not even cold but fresh.so u are saying most Africans dont eat well or not.are all oyibo rich yet dey got long hair.both black and white.have u seen any black person abroad witout long hair.forget style.na only oyibo sabi maintain hair.?

It doesn't have to be those particular hairstyles. They can even cut the hair of it comes to that.

Cold does not make hair softer, if at all, it makes it drier.

jakandeola:
d girls are beautiful but I think u are wrong. dose girls are not Africans I think dey are Americans. oyibo weather make thier hair to be very soft weda black or white cos of thier cold.most naija and African girl got short hairs