Taraj01:
Gone are the days of those Old women's.
Once she opens her laps and put your head within and pit it, mehn, your head will never be yours again till she finish the plating.
Even you that escort your sister to the place go dey one side dey pity and cry for her.

fieryy:


I didn't what? I stated very clearly earlier that I do not care, if the child's hair is braided or in a bun. I'm very aware of the fact that natural hair is time consuming, since mine is as well. However, I do have a problem with the pain are lot of kids have to go through just in the name of 'fashion'. Let kids be kids and educate yourself on afros instead of just Brazilian wigs

Image123:
Hian. Is it not no pain no gain? Let everything be done moderately. You cannot or should not shield your children from all pain. No good parent does that, even God.

PeacenLove2:


So moms can do this every morning before taking their kids to school and then go to work. Okay, mommies. Well done.

Biglittlelois:



I have to ask, are you Nigerian? For you to think all kids hair will look like that, especially pure African, cos the picture used looks like a child of mixed parents

computergeek:
Why do we have to teach little girls to go through unbearable pain for so-called beauty even when they are only a few months old?


I get so upset each time I see a little girl crying for hours unending at the salon while they pull, poke and prod her hair. The moms would actually be the ones holding the girls down while the hairdressers harden their hearts to the children's tears. I always wonder, what exactly are you trying to achieve by putting your child through so much pain just to have her sporting a few awkward-looking weaves? Since she's not old enough to decide that this is what she wants, she shouldn't be stressed and hurt just to look pretty. Are they looking for suitors? Do they have to start so early to stress to impress?


With her natural hair, well-oiled, combed and packed nicely into buns or tails, she'll still be the beautiful princess you gave birth to. I really hate children being put through any sort of skin pain. When my son was a baby, he was fussy about getting his hair cut, so much that we used to wait till he was deeply asleep before clipping his hair. Sometimes we'd only manage to go halfway, but we'll leave it like that until he sleeps again.


How do fathers permit this? When we were growing up, my dad would personally insist on the hairdresser coming to our place to braid so he could sternly warn her to go easy on our heads. When he saw that we still cried regardless, he had them cut off all our hair . We hated it then, but at least the gut-wrenching crying stopped.

Some little girls would be sick for days from the tight, skin-breaking braids their mothers would allow someone to put on their heads.

I remember a day I was getting a manicure at the salon, a little girl whose mom had dropped her off was getting hair done at the corner. She cried so much that after a while, there were no tears left to shed. Her irresponsible mother came back after a while and said, "Obego nke izizi?" As in, "Has she cried the first round?"

Just imagine.

Mothers please, this festive period, if your daughter hasn't been tortured yet, kindly look for something that won't cause her any pain and have them style her hair with it (shown in the second photo). She's beautiful however she looks. You're not in a competition with anybody to have the finest child. That's how they'll grow up to believe that they can never be beautiful without weaves and braids.

computergeek:
She should never go throw any pain at all until she's old enough to decide that she wants to do it.

And by old enough, I mean 18.

Your comments all over the thread are about maintenance. While maintaining buns and tails can be hard sometimes, it's better to use all that money you'll spend on attachments and paying hairdressers to buy good conditioners and Shea butter that will soften the stubbornest hair types, so it can combed easily. I have a friend who styles her two daughters' buns in less than ten minutes.


Even cornrows and simple Bob Marley can be done without pulling the girl so much.

There's no excuse for causing a little girl any pain. No excuse at all.

midnighter:


Totally. Who has time in the morning to be manipulating all the curls and sprigs Just for it to get messed up after a couple of minutes or, even worse, the girl doesn't feel comfortable playing and goofing around with her friends because "I don't want to scatter this hair".

Very unpractical. This is why braids were developed in the first place!

Surrey2Bimshire:


You see, some of us I’ve been natural all our lives and we don’t go around acting like we know it all. it’s a way of life for and it’s ought to be normal .
So it’s safe to say you’re one of those natural hair fanatic that assume just because they’ve discovered a tiny little coiled popped up on their scalp they can easily tell other people off.

I’ve been natural all my life lol

You state it’s takes you 5 min to get your hair together etc and I basically told you I know a lot of 4s around me that struggle to get their hair out together daily

fieryy:


The style in the second picture is very much realistic regardless of hair texture and pain is not sth. that should be felt at all, while braiding or even combing your hair. A lot of Nigerian hair dressers are too rough with hair.

In addition to what the op said, edges not should be braided and cornrows etc shouldn't be too tight

Surrey2Bimshire:


Can’t remember starting moms should do this daily .

I basically gave you an advise on how to care for your “difficult to comb hair “

You are welcome .

computergeek:
The write-up isn't about style or unstyled. Cornrows can be done without pain for school.

No one is judging anyone, the point is that no responsible mom should sit and watch her daughter endure pain for hours to look stylish with these over-do hairstyles.

It has no go-around. No justification for letting your daughter cry and fall sick because of hair.


Shave the darned thing off till she's grown up.

fieryy:


And I quoted you to tell you that the most kinky hair texture 4c, and the straightest 1a, and everything in between ARE ALL capable of being styled as a bun.

You literally just pack your hair up

doitforyou:

That is YOUR hair! Are you going to tell me that ALL hair textures for a child is easy breezy to style every morning before school?

fieryy:


All textures can sustain a daily maintenance of a bun. I used mine as an example, but all you had to say was 'That's your hair'. Buns are one of the easiest low maintenance hair styles, especially for natural hair

crackhaus:

Lol, na you teach dem that one abi
Hope you don't wear body shapers in the name of torturous fashion?

Ladycewhy:
Exactly. Briads is more durable . plus lets not forget the discomfort the child has to go through every morning. For some children sitting still alone is enough punishment imagine they have to sit still every morning to get their hair done.

Personally i dont like someone making my hair,if i make my hair as old as i am i must take drugs. So i stopped ,i weave my hair myself and put on my wig. People are sensitive to making hair differently. So for children who are very sensitive when making their hair,its better to cut it and let then be.

PeacenLove2:


Some hair textures na die o. No comb fit run through them. If you like put all the grease inside jar. Seriously speaking some people have very soft scalp that cannot be put to the torture of daily styling. The best option is weave or braid to last a week or two cos even with low cut, running combs through them every day is still a menace, unless you want to he visiting barber weekly to make it very low.

Just make sure you find a good hairdresser who is used to making children's hair. Some hands have that magical touch, just do well to remind them to be easy on your LO.

1Sharon:


How about this?

And yes, your kids hair can be as long as theirs too if only you would love it.

1Sharon:


This is why you should never comb your hair when it's dry. Grease is not a moisturizer.

Learn how to care for afro hair pls.

1Sharon:
OP thank you! Braiding hair should NEVER hurt that why alot of Nigerian women have alopecia.

Getting your hair done should never hurt. Nigerians really don't understand.

1Sharon:



Styling hair should never hurt. You are wrong.

computergeek:
She should never go throw any pain at all until she's old enough to decide that she wants to do it.

And by old enough, I mean 18.

Your comments all over the thread are about maintenance. While maintaining buns and tails can be hard sometimes, it's better to use all that money you'll spend on attachments and paying hairdressers to buy good conditioners and Shea butter that will soften the stubbornest hair types, so it can combed easily. I have a friend who styles her two daughters' buns in less than ten minutes.

Even cornrows and simple Bob Marley can be done without pulling the girl so much.

There's no excuse for causing a little girl any pain. No excuse at all.

southsouthking:
They won't listen.

midnighter:


Yes, I think the child's individual temperament is important too. Some children are more sensitive than others and some children would rather bear the pain and hours of sitting still rather than shave their heads

My pain tolerance has always been okay but if I find somebody with a soft hand I will stick to them like glue some of them will be acting like its your scalps fault that nepa has gone on strike smh you will just be shouting at them like a madwoman

Biglittlelois:



First off, those kids hair looks soft, really soft, not all kids have that, hard stubborn hair needs to be braided cos it will be not be convenient to always do those styles everyday even for the child, and this is Nigeria, some schools won't allow such styles, either you cut it off or you braid it.

Ryan03:
there's difference between styling and braiding

fieryy:


You're supposed to add a leave in on damp hair before combing and comb from the ends to the roots to gently remove any knots in the way.

Ryan03:
babe, you dont know what you are saying, don't sweat it