I do tell my Fiancee that she would sign some rules and regulation form before we get married so that there won't be need for "Darling, i'm sorry... I just can't deal with unneccesary drama

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Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

leave the phone her and tell her to return it to your each time it rings. Do it for a week and she will let be of your phone

humblemikel:
Just one question Bro
Why do you still have your EX number on phone??
There's every propensity you will cheat on your wife with your EX
85% Sure
So stop claiming Mr.Faithful Man
You are a potential cheat

i memorized the number long time ago, I don't have it on my phone

The anger part (smashing of phone) is very dangerous. I hope she will not smash your life one day out of jealousy.

Women who end up killing their husbands also started like this.

You need to stop this trend now.

what are you still doing with your exes contacts, and you are been economical with the truth here,y'all will be surprised on hearing the wife's part of the story.Stop making marriages look like hell abeg

semi man. see her mouth if not for my son I will leave my house and run. your own house

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Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

leave the phone for her and tell her to return it to you each time it rings. Do it for a week and she will let be of your phone

bluefilm:


Not me bro.

I define the rules of engagement from ab initio.

If you ever make the mistake of letting your wife know that she can exercise certain controlling techniques on you, and you are okay with it, then be prepared for whatever you get.

I know I will never make that mistake.

God forbid.

Are you married If no, then wait till you are married oh hehe...some ladies can do and undo lol....if you apply force they turn your home to war front where all manner of weapon fly, if you mellow down, worst...only wisdom and God's grace can help you.


I was more than a commando when I was single...but things have changed....in as much as my wife is so understanding, adorable, easy going and friendly, I don't take her calmness for a ride....I make sure I keep her always happy and smiling...still studying her though cos you know they said women are like encyclopedia, you stumble on new words everyday lol

The woman see u finish..that's the plain truth

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

Do this:

Give her the best sex you've ever given with new styles. Tell her you both need to talk like when you first met. Take your time and pour your mind on issues you've bottled up and not shared with her. And give her time to process it. Do not forget to let her know it's affecting your mental health and productivity. Appeal to her need for security and watch her reactions to all of this over the next few days/weeks

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

U have been the girl in the relationship for long.

daddytime:
Lol

Una no date before marriage? You couldn't have missed some of these traits even though some people are good at hiding their true characters while dating.

Even if u notice a bad character in someone u are dating, there's a huge chance that u will still marry that person

frozen70:


Are you that weak or you are too soft to take a decision that will give you freedom and happiness

I laugh when men says women don't have brains

Am average woman knows how to handle her man

She choses not to drive so that you will always be there for her

Smart woman, that's what she is

If you can't take a bold decision now, once those kids gets to teenage age, it will be extremely difficult to pull out

You think you are doing favour to her, Mr man, you are creating burden for yourself not yer

She is on her game and she has mastered the act

Why are you afraid of her reporting you to your family

Is it that you want to remain with it or that your family will disown you

Use your brain that's why it's in your head

If you don't know, fear women, they must do things to their advantage

Chop watery lips kiss

Please I don't want to read how a wife murdered her husband cause she thought he was having an affair.

Its always cool at first but trust me it gets worse when she notices you are no longer sexually attracted to her.

My two cents is talk to her and I believe you should still deserve some privacy to some extent and not have a watch dog in the name of a wife

themaestro08:
Guy you wicked oo.

But op he is on point aha...

I love women so so much eh and I have grown to understand them very well , I don't see me and my wifey having any issue in this life at all...with God by our side though, but with the way we started and where we are now, we may win best couple in the world

olumide3367:
Why na ? Men giving power to women.

We won't see those shouting n crying Feminists now,but if to say na man dey act like this,he would be seen as a violent person

frozen70:


Why did you ask ❓

If the guy was harsh on the wife, girls would still be here complaining. So it is odd to see a female condeming the guy for doing the opposite.

superability:

Guy if u want to advice, advice... Don't spoil someone's home.... If u use man authority fully like a dictator in ur home... Walahi, even ur children will hate u for life...

So u can keep the man in control advice to urself...
Some marital issues deals with total compromise, if not... U are on a long thing

who is talking of a man being a dictator here...u must respect your wife,but as the man u must be in firm and absolute control,otherwise women go just turn u to mumu for house...

even if what you insunate is what I have in mind,must you abuse people online b4 you put your message across?

I created this account for no reason so you’re in luck.

Welcome to marriage. You decided to marry her regardless of seeing the signs during courtship. Now you have to live with her faults while she does the same for you. If you guys get divorced in future ensure to pick someone only after painstaking scrutiny of their character.

Good luck. Enjoy matrimonial bliss.

frozen70:


Thanks, it has to be bitter because he made himself a hired slave in his marriage

Am average woman is a manipulator

Nothing disgusts me about a lady like emotional manipulations.
You know yourselves very well and strangely you were honest enough with your comment. But my mind is telling me you're a guy .

imiski:
Sit her down and discuss. She may have been a victim of infidelity. Or she is naturally very jealous(this one is incureable)

Lol so this kind issue Na to sit woman down? Na every issue den dey sleep women down to discuss?; Sh can't change nada! Action. I mean a man action is lacking in the Op here.

Women treat men the way be appears. Sometimes Na some men be wives.

bluefilm:
But how do you guys end up giving these women so much liberty that they start feeling like it is their god given right to control you guys?

God knows no woman on earth in the name of a wofe can try that shît with me.

The kain beating she go receive the first time she tries it will be a constant reminder to her that there's always a bound that even the so called marriage of a thing cannot cross...

Nonsense.

i will never hit my wife

Women worldwide chose this December to frustrate men globally. Just imagine the men-cry threads that made front page in the past few days. Tueh. Do this with me and meet serious trouble. My tolerance lasts after just five counts and few months after that na to destroy everywhere. This is why men of old never settled on having just one wife. Single woman entitlement leads to all sorts of drama. Thank God divorce remains an option. The day any woman tries shit, that marriage ends. No time. Olosho full tinder, badoo, eskimi, coded

BOSS LADY.
she don use kpesu tie ur destiny down my brother..... thou marriage is a thing of ''Us'' but i think there should be some boundaries also...i love my wife doesn't mean she should use that opportunity against me...
and she Smashing phones..... e be like say una get phone factory sha.... demonic spirit of anger.

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nero2face:
she loves u so much mehn, I wish for such a loving jealous wife, she only want u for her self alone...endure it and try turning it into fun, laugh at her when she do those things and let her know u love her and won't chest on her...u can device a fun means of cajoling her whenever she act up

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olabrinks:
You missed the part where you cheated on her probably before marriage or after hence why she’s acting this way. No woman is going to behave like this out of nowhere.

God bless you! OP isn't truthful about this issue. I went through my girl's phone once, the type of conversation she was having with her ex were heartbreaking! A friend also told me about his sister that wanted to fly out to attend her ex's wedding.
How would a married man still stay in touch with his ex, in a world of over 5 billion people?

pickatyou:
Please I don't want to read how a wife murdered her husband cause she thought he was having an affair.

Its always cool at first but trust me it gets worse when she notices you are no longer sexually attracted to her.

My two cents is talk to her and I believe you should still deserve some privacy to some extent and not have a watch dog in the name of a wife

this has always been my greatest fear about wife wahala, nothing else.....I love my life, and your wife is like your life, so you must handle her case with utmost caution and diplomacy.


But to the single guys reading, study the lady you intend to marry or courting now....if she has the tendency of spoiling or destroying things when angry, its a red flag, call off the relationship asap no matter her other qualities cos such ladies can harm your life in future only to regret later as they always do.

A good, virtuous woman will never destroy your things because there is disagreement between you and her.....only a toxic, untamed and untrained lady with anger issues does that.....I never met such ladies all through my dating days till I got married and if I had ever met one, the very day she dare destroy my stuff marks the end of whatever I was doing with her, no amount of apology will convince me to stay.

Abusive or destructive partner is disgusting to have, I wonder how guys and ladies cope with abusive and destructive partners....its scary and dangerous, run from such person on time, don't even wait till it gets to marriage, don't worry you will always find a better partner if you stay true to yourself and remain realistic with your expectations too.

franchasng:
Are you married If no, then wait till you are married oh hehe...some ladies can do and undo lol....if you apply force they turn your home to war front where all manner of weapon fly, if you mellow down, worst...only wisdom and God's grace can help you.


I was more than a commando when I was single...but things have changed....in as much as my wife is so understanding, adorable, easy going and friendly, I don't take her calmness for a ride....I make sure I keep her always happy and smiling...still studying her though cos you know they said women are like encyclopedia, you stumble on new words everyday lol

married man and u always post immaturedly in the politics section..I pity the wife that married u oo

Biodun1929:


If the guy was harsh on the wife, girls would still be here complaining. So it is odd to see a female condeming the guy for doing the opposite.

You did not understand the tone of the message

I did not condemn him, he allowed himself to be manipulated

Have you ever seen a man that satisfies a woman ❓

If he can't use his head another person will use his head for her own usefulness

sisisioge:




But Jakande, why are you so daft bayi? Why not fvcking leave me alone! Screw you assssszhole!

Sisisi nor do again o

olril17:

who is talking of a man being a dictator here...u must respect your wife,but as the man u must be in firm and absolute control,otherwise women go just turn u to mumu for house...

even if what you insunate is what I have in mind,must you abuse people online b4 you put your message across?

Forgive my manners

olumide3367:
Why na ? Men giving power to women.

What power? Stfu